TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 34 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

@bunnythebluewhale ... I just hope that he can perform when it does matter 🤦‍♀️

Ive just sat and read through the thread. I am so sorry to everyone who is experiencing losses at the moment. Sending you all the biggest of hugs.

Thanks for the good luck vibes @BunnytheBlueWhale ... we managed a successful babydance at the weekend but sadly its too far away from ovulation to count. Im due to ovulate on Saturday I think going by last months opk's. Hoping our good luck continues and we manage another successful one in the next few days xx

Hello,
Can I join this group? I had my 3 rd miscarriage on new years eve 2019, found out I was pregnant on boxing day. So now Im waiting for AF to show up, I would assume in the next week. Drs are now taking me seriously as I have had no live children and have given me progesterone perscription to take as soon as I find out im pregnant next, as I may have a hormone inbalance. Im due to get bloods done on the 13th to see if I have any other issues, but Im worried I could be pregnant again. This morning I only had tender breasts and now my whole breast and nipples are killing me. Also took an ovulation test and the line is pretty dark considering I should be getting my period in the next few days. And last week a line was barely there. Im not sure what to think.

Im so sorry to hear of everyone elses losses and struggle concieving. Was never taught any of this in school and was always raised with the thought "you have sex, you get pregnant and have a baby"...wow that couldnt be further from the truth
Xxx

Thank you for your support ladies.

Well I spent the morning on the phone with gynaecology trying to figure out why I still have not received an appointment for the hysteroscopy yet. No joy.
So to cheer myself up I went and got my ears pierced. Didn't hurt as much as I expected.
Still waiting for the bleeding to start now I'm currently 17dpo and boobs are still so so sore but tests negative. Why is the waiting forever.

@Mumlili9 I'm so sorry. It's completely understandable to feel uncertain about what to do. I know none of us can help you decide but it might help to take a break for a little while and see how you feel. @MrsMGEs suggestion about Tommys is a good one, I've heard nothing but good things about them from people on the Sands forum.

@Ejb86 I use Flo and Premom plus OPKs. I used Flo when trying to conceive DD and it was pretty accurate. My CM has tied in with Flos predictions this month as did my OPKs where as Premom predicted I'd ovulate today but I'm pretty sure I ovulated on Thursday or Friday. I'm trying to go more with my CM and the OPKs as a marker. Looks like I'm now in the 2WW so we'll see how things go this week. Love to everyone.

Woke up and temp dropped to 97.99 so I’m out! I was so devastated and my husband too but then we talked and went to church and I realized I have a great life with many blessings ! Just gonna look forward to next month!!

@Mumlili9 is accessing any counselling an option for you? Whatever you decide to do it sounds like some support in accepting that decision would be useful (I know if we do get to the point of calling it a day I will.need help to accept, probably more than I do right now to cope with the miscarriages, if that makes sense). Would also echo pp that if you have not gone to Tommy's or a RMC you should consider it, it may be that you have nothing to lose at this point? Apologies if you have though and I am so so sorry for what you are going through.

I meanwhile am still spotting red after the d&c. Am so fed up with this.

Ladies tracking ovulation....what systems are you using? I currently have Ovia and Premom. This is my first cycle using OPKs. Premom has suggested I would ovulate today but the OPKs are suggesting otherwise, if anything the line is fainter today than it has been for the past 5 days.

In contrast, Ovia suggests that today is just the start of my fertile window. My cycles are not regular since losing my girls in September, the longest I've had is a 28, but average around 26.

TTC is so confusing!

@Mumlili9 Very sorry to hear this.

Completely understand you're taking a break, sorry for calling you out by tagging you. I don't know if you already are under their care/thought about this, but under the circumstances Tommy's specialist RMCs might be able to help. I cannot see how you wouldn't get a referral asap. Perhaps worth giving it a thought whenever you feel ready. Sending you a huge hug xxx

Also thank you Bunny for inviting me to the new thread ❤️ I'll be back on the TTC bandwagon from next month, however without making my life revolve around TTC as this approach is doing me good both physically and mentally. I'll be popping in here occasionally. Lots of love and good luck to you all xxx

Name change again.

Thanks ladies for asking after me, I'm not in a good place right now. I'm trying to decide if we should carry on trying or call it a day. DH says whatever I want but I'm still in the angry stage and hopeless (feeling rather useless and inadequate). So I will linger here for the time being but I probably won't post anything useful for a bit.

Baby dust to you all x

Hi all

Just dropping in to say hi, thanks for the thread @BunnytheBlueWhale. I’ve not posted for a couple of weeks - thought I was coping pretty well with the losses over the past year but have been thrown by having a heavy bleed mid-cycle this month (or a 2 week cycle??) and either way, the mcs coupled with my body not playing ball to even let us TTC has sent me into a bit of a downwards spiral. So I’m lurking but not really posting at the moment.

Wanted to say a tentative congrats to @Avocuddles and others who got their bfps at the back end of the last thread and I’m hopeful for all of you that this is your time.

Welcome to the newer names and sorry that you’re here. It’s a lovely thread though.

@FloDaffodil I’m so sorry you have been through so much. I can’t offer anything except to say use this platform. It feels so much better to just talk about it! Women here are so kind and generous just as listeners!!

Hi everyone,

@BunnytheBlueWhale and @Morganmom I really sympathise with you re other people’s pregnancies at work. My colleague is due a few weeks before I would have been and I find it hard to even look at her!

My husband and I have been trying for just over 3 years. First miscarriage in Dec 2017 at 9 weeks after trying for nearly a year. No joy with natural conception in 2018 so started IVF in 2019. Missed miscarriage in May 2019 with medical management at 11 weeks. Early miscarriage at 5 weeks in Sept 2019. Got tested for everything including NK cells and tried the full works (fragmin, aspirin, progesterone, intralipids, steroids, vitamin D etc.) for baby no. 4. Saw heartbeat but missed miscarriage (8wks 3days) so had an MVA three weeks ago. Now waiting for results of genetic testing.

Finding it difficult to know what to do next having exhausted all the possible tests and treatments to prevent miscarriage.

Trying not to symptom spotting...but this morning I was convinced my period is coming as I had cramps all over the place but they r a little bit lighter than usual so now I’m thinking maybe implantation cramp? Dunno 8 DPO so it could be one or the other ! I kinda wish if it’s AF to just come cuz my DH wants to take me to brunch tomorrow ! Would luv to drink lots of champagne !!

@BunnytheBlueWhale YANBU I have to endure constant conversations as 4 maybe more women at work are pregnant and expecting. They’ve all had perfect pregnancies. It’s so hard and yes people want to call and ask if I’m okay or ask me at work. And I wish they would not. I know it’s selfish because it’s prob well meaning gesture but I wish no body would bring it up and let me be! No have to endure the conversation and I hate it.

@Mumlili8 I'm sorry. I really hope it isn't a CP but we are all here for you if it is.

@BunnytheBlueWhale you are definitely not being unreasonable. It's insensitive and also disruptive to behave like that. I'd have felt the same. In glad you told them to take it elsewhere. I can't believe that secretary just out right asked you your DDs cause of death too, talk about a lack of tact and understanding. Could you have a word with the secretary about being a bit more aware?

I've no idea about my ovulation this week. Been using OPKs and saw they were getting stronger but this morning they aren't as strong so I'm wondering if I missed the peak on CD 14 or 15 if it happened in the agternoon or evening. We managed to DTD on CD14 and may do again this weekend so we'll see I guess.

Wishing everyone a good weekend.

Thanks for tagging me in the thread. I have been a bit more active on the healthy penguins thread as finding the whole ttc situation so tough since our mc in November. Like @tmc14 we are also struggling with performance issues and its getting to me. I am entering my fw from today so will be trying but I am not feeling confident at all.

@Timeforanamechangeagain1 What daft questions! I would say 'at least she is being supportive' but I won't, in times like this all you hear is 'at least' or 'but' and you just want someone to be supportive and not say silly things. I hope occupational health are helpful (I don't know what they do?) and that there are less stressful - and more joyful - times ahead for you this year. I hope that you have some time to yourself this weekend.

@BunnytheBlueWhale YANBU! They sound worse than thoughtless - it's bad enough being that self-absorbed that you loudly have an extended baby conversation around a lady who has lost a DD full-term, but I am angry on your behalf that when called out on it they didn't apologise?! I'm so sorry. Is there a supportive colleague / boss who might be able to listen to you and have a quiet word, or failing that do you have a decent HR team?

@Mumlili8 - echoing what @JuniperAndRose said xx

@JuniperAndRose your first post on here made me well up - I am so very sorry, what an absolutely hideous year 2019 was for you. I will be thinking of you next week on DD1's birthday (Gabrielle is a beautiful name for DD2, by the way). Sending you all my best x

I'm struggling to keep up with this thread as well as the 'Fit and Healthy Penguins' thread so will read this one but post on the other one in future :)

@Mumlili8 I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m hoping that it isn’t what you expect but please do post here for support as and when you are ready x