TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 34 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

Thank you @BunnytheBlueWhale

I have an ovulation question actually... for those that temp and do opks so might know... I was reading that as you get older the time between the LH surge & ovulation can shorten, and both even be on the same day. I have always assumed ovulation is the day after my lh surge. Anyone have good info on this?

@MissSparkles81 thank you, that’s very kind. I do have a few unused calpol ones though that I think would work? I don’t think it’s mean at all to feel sad about the WhatsApp group. I’ve muted a very good friend on social media as she is pregnant, due when I would be. They were trying for over a year, she’s waited ages to be in a position to try, she deserves it so much and I’m so happy for her... but I don’t want to see photos of her bump! I think you can be happy for others but need to protect yourself.

So, I’m only 9dpo but was feeling really weird. Strange cramping and quite a lot of cm... so bought a frer and I think I see a very very faint wisp of a line. It’s so early I don’t really feel anything about it (apart from anxiety!) and I haven’t even mentioned it to DH... but am hoping hoping hoping that our single success at dtd 5 days before ovulation has worked 🤞

Hello. I'm hoping someone could offer some advice please. We are going to ttc as soon as able to when miscarriage finishes. Is there anything that we could take or do to have a higher chance of conceiving? and staying pregnant? To help make sure I have quality eggs and DH have healthy sperm? Thank you ladies. x

We managed another insemination last night. Bf is actually quite open to it all now so hopefully now that my fertile window is over we can try and resume some sort of normal sex life which will take the pressure off him a wee bit.

@Mumlili9 Im so sorry lovely. Hope the hospital can give you more answers on Monday. ❤

Oh @mumlili8 I'm so sorry. I hope you get final answers soon and can begin the process of moving on. Life can be so cruel.

@Mumlili8 I'm so, so sorry. 😢 when I had this last time, it was just an empty sac growing very slowly so I'm hoping for this option for you (the lesser of the evils)... it was an easy and natural miscarriage in the end (as "easy" a miscarriage can get..). I'm thinking of you ❤️

@JuniperAndRose @bunnythebluewhale im thinking of you and your little ones 💐 ❤️ it must be really difficult. Rooting for rainbow babies soon 🌈

Well ladies according to my dates in 5 weeks. But the docs and hospital are saying ectopic pregnancy due to my hcg numbers. Thursday it was 38 and Friday 73 so I've got to go again Monday and see what that blood test brings. So I update when I know more. If its an ectopic I'm either going to loose a tube or get the medical alternative, either way I'm out of the game for at least 4 months now. They said its to early to scan to see which tube or where it is. The other alternative is its a blighted ovum which I'd rather have because it means I'm not losing a baby just an empty sac. It never rains but it pours

Just noticed a typo - I meant water can damage sperm.

Thanks @BunnytheBlueWhale ❤

@Morganmom how did you find doing the insemination? Any tips? X

@JuniperAndRose sending you (and hubby) the biggest hug lovely 🥰

I feel like such a mean person tonight. I am in a WhatsApp group with some ladies I got chatting to on another forum and one the ladies has just got a faint positive and another is about to give birth.

I am genuinely happy for them both but at the same time I just can't bear it 😔

@tmc14 I got some oral syringes from work and little pots. I would be more than happy to post some out to you if you pm me your address.

Ive been doing a bit of reading and most forums say that you can wash the supplies out and reuse them but I have also read that apparently sperm can damage the sperm so I will be throwing them away after use. Today is my ovulation day so I am going to try again tonight with this method x

@BunnytheBlueWhale
@juniperandrose I just want to say to both of you how sorry I am for everything you have gone thru. I am so grateful for this forum because it’s really brought me so much relief. I wish I could take away the pain that we’ve had to feel! I kept saying to myself last night if only I were pregnant it would make my grief easier, maybe I wouldn’t have to feel so much. I know it not true. I was reading in my bible last night and it said if you have hope then you have to have patience and wait for the unseen. and I thought wow this is for me to hear right now. I’m just going to have to wait to my next cycle and have hope it’s BFP!

thankyou @BunnytheBlueWhale. I'll be thinking of you for your DD's birthday and sending you good thoughts. I think there is some pressure to do something, but really just having a quiet day can be a good option too.

@Mumlili9 I'm keeping all fingers and toes crossed for you. I hope the doctor was helpful - is there an early pregnancy unit near you that you can self-refer to?

I'm out this month as AF arrived on Wednesday. That was also the day that would have been DD1's first birthday. DH and I both had the day off work and just spent a quiet day together. Some friends went to a pub nearby to drink a toast to DD1 but in the end DH and I were not up to going, but the thought that they were celebrating her and her name was out there was really comforting.

I am trying not to be too upset about AF arriving this month. I am telling myself that if (by some miracle) we conceive next cycle then I would be recording 29th Jan as the date of last menstrual period and so I would get to have DD1's birthday as part of a new pregnancy. I know it probably sounds a bit mad, but I think that sometimes my grief makes me a bit mad anyway.

@Shefliesonherownwings @BunnytheBlueWhale @MissSparkles81 I have done the insemination with a syringe I bought on amazon. I never thought I would ever have a place to talk about it!!

Ah, I do also have some of those! I’d totally forgotten, as I’m with you, never really got the point. Thank you x