TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 34 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

@Mumlili8 I'll be honest with you and my blighted ovum started by me testing positive quite late, and even then the line was really faint up until 19 DPO. I've only had one pregnancy before this one (the one that ended in MMC), but this time I had a strong line at 9 DPO already so I knew something was off.

I went for hcg tests, and my first test was low, like 67. It didn't double in 48 hours, it rose slowly, but by the third time I was back for hcg test, it had risen to 700 something so very quick (after initially being slow). I kept getting scans to make sure the pregnancy was in the right place (it was), but the sac was measuring behind. At 6.5 weeks I had another scan and they saw a yolk sac but no fetal pole (and they should have seen everything by then). I started to naturally miscarry after this.

In my mind this was much easier than a mmc, it's very frustrating because it sets you back when TTC but it's nothing like hearing a heartbeat and making it to 10 weeks to discover the baby has died a week prior. There was never any baby there in the first place.

I think it sounds good your hcg doubled in such short period of time! I do think you should get early scans just to rule out ectopic x

@SunStruck did you say you had a blighted ovum, if so what did your hcg numbers do. I spoke to another doctor today who says she's hopefully because although my numbers are very low they did double in less than 24hours.

Am I grasping at straws and holding out for false hope ladies. Should I just book a private scan for next week. Oh god I don't know where I am I'm so lost. I so want this to be our rainbow but I don't want to drag this out if its not going to happen. Any advice is more than welcome

Yes new partner, our first together. Carefully planned and now 2 MC.
That pain is awful isnt it? I have bad periods and coped fine with labour but that was really not nice last night

@SweetpeaOrMarigold I'm sorry to hear, was it a planned pregnancy this 2nd time around? I'm in the process of miscarrying, one week ago when I had the intense pain, I'm just light bleeding now. That was my first pregnancy. I'm 40 now I'm quite scared.

Thanks so much Bunny. It was so easy with my son, barely thought about it! Working where I do in NICU, I see what can go wrong all the time, so I'm always wary anyway. Equally I see perfectly well babies born every day, get to share in their happy moments. This next week will be hard.

Thanks so much for talking me down, am currently not speaking to OH because I'm so snappy. I don't mean to be but I'm so on the edge today. Had been looking at prams online yesterday, even though I had told myself I wouldn't this time.

Thanks I know I'm grateful we can at least get pregnant.
I'm so sorry for your loss, can't imagine how that must have been for you all.
My son is 10 and I'm taking high dose folic for coeliac disease. I have a couple of autoimmune disorders so I think its worth speaking to a GP. There are a few good ones in our practice, just pot luck though on the day.

Yes 2nd time. Once 3rd Jan and now 2nd Feb. Really sad. OH is trying to be supportive but he doesn't get it.
Thought last time was a one off. Now I'm wondering if I can still make babies at 38.

@SweetpeaOrMarigold I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. You think you're miscarrying again? Wish and pray you get through this. x

@BunnytheBlueWhale thanks for replying. Was in agony last night so knew it wasn't 'right'. Am bleeding properly now so will go to the GP tomorrow and get my thyroid levels checked as they are always a bit off. See if they will refer me for anything else as I'm old.

Morning ladies. I just came on to say @bunnythebluewhale you're in my thoughts this month. I can't believe how quickly time comes round, hope you get your Rainbow soon, but also hope this month is kind to you xxx

Good morning ladies, I'm sorry you are all here huddling but this seems such a lovely supportive group so I'm joining if thats ok?

I'm 38 had natural MC at 5wks in Dec, our first pregnancy together (1DS and 1 DSS). We were on holiday with the boys and I just had to hide it. The pain, the emergency toilet trips and the tears.
Bled for 10 days and didnt wait for AF.

Have huge sore boobs, nausea, cramps, metallic taste for 2 weeks and waiting for BFP but it didnt arrive.

Now spotting last 2 days and cramps like MC last night, one sided at one point and nearly went to epau with ?ectopic.
Overnight it settled with brufen and hot water bottle and now I'm just deflated and waiting for the blood. Not even had a bfp but I know I am/was growing someone.

On 4 nightshifts from tomorrow looking after sick babies. Not a place you can run to the loo easily, and constant reminder of what could be.
Just sad. Really sad. What if I can't do this? My body is letting me down.

Thanks @BunnytheBlueWhale & @rr369 tested those morning and a slightly darker line, realised I’d bought rapid response tests not early response 🤦🏻‍♀️ I usually just use internet cheapies. Such early days as I’m only 9/10dpo. Told DH. We’re just going to cautiously wait and see what happens.
I find the science fascinating. So many variables & yes, I think it comes down to everyone being different, so you can’t tell! I don’t temp as I have a toddler who still often wakes for a cuddle in the night so I don’t think it would be accurate, and I’d drive myself even more crazy!!

Hope everyone has some nice Sunday plans xx

@Mumlili8 I’m hoping the very best for you now!
@MissSparkles81 I have found the insemination works the best because DH does not feel pressure! I am gonna take a pic and put it on here of the syringe I got from amazon. I didn’t know that water hurt sperm so I’ve been washing it! Oops!

Hi @tmc14 I've posted on here before but name changed recently. I didn't know about ovulating sooner after surge as you get older. I use temping and OPKs. This cycle I had static smiley peak on a Friday evening and ovulation pains the following day. Fertility Friend confirmed ov for the Sat. I've just turned 44. Do you temp? Really hoping your line gets stronger 🤞 when will you test again? Sending lots of baby dust xxx

I think for future planning if this doesn’t turn out ok, I’ll maybe assume there’s a chance I ovulate really close to my lh surge.

Yes @bunnythebluewhale I really thought I was out this month as I thought the 5 days survival for sperm was very optimistic for a couple in their 40s who try to be healthy but could do a lot better! So I guess I was just wondering if I might have ovulated the day of my positive opk and not the day after. Maybe I’m being a bit too obsessive!