TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 34 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

Gentle congratulations @footprintsintheslow

Sorry to hear about the pregnancy baby bomb @BeetheQueenBee

Thanks @Mumlili9

Hope you’re ok x

@peperethecat what does this mutation do?

@BeetheQueenBee sorry your having a bad day. Pregnancy bombs really are a shock to the system. Hope your able to do something nice for your self today ☓

@footprintsintheslow congratulations hun xx

Just had a baby announcement 😩

Messaged someone at work about work, asked how she is and got “a little bit of news...” There is always someone pregnant in our team. 3 on mat leave at the moment. Now this is the latest I’m aware of 🙈

I’m having a bad day so just about managed to muster a congratulations...

Oh fingers crossed, @BeetheQueenBee. That would be lovely.

I have a good feeling about this cycle. My new doctor has made me feel really hopeful.

I just found out that I have one of the MTHFR mutations. The one blood test that was missed out when I had all my testing done, and when I finally do the test it comes back positive. What are the chances? I'm not sure it makes any difference since I supplement with methylfolate anyway and my homocysteine levels are normal, but still, it's annoying.

@FloDaffodil Congratulations to you. In the best way, I hope you do not find yourself back here.

I’m also hoping for another round of positives for us all is to come as it’s tended to happen that way.

Cautious congratulations, @footprintsintheslow. I hope this is it for you.

@FloDaffodil no smears available anywhere I'm afraid. Not nhs or private hospitals. I spoke to my go who said not to worry. She looked at all my smear histories which are up and down and she didn't think there would be an issue to even try for a baby now anyway given my age of 40.

So we tried and now I've had a positive test. I'll move over to the sister thread again and see how we get on. This is bittersweet for all of us I know. See you all again though either on the other thread or back here. X

Hi, sorry just catching up after a few days.

@VenusStarr no I'm not in any pain with the bleeding luckily, and it's not overly heavy otherwise I would be checking with the midwife. i'm on day 9 or 10 of bleeding now which is beginning to make me think its possibly more likely to be more lochia rather than a first period. But 8 days of no bleeding at all does seem strange so I'm not too sure what's going on really...

Sorry to all those who are struggling. @clitterratti that sounds tough. The current circumstances just make everything feel impossibly hard. I am really struggling with processing what has happened, it almost feels like the whole grieving process is on hold until lockdown eases/there is some childcare for my DD.

@turquoisebaby Hope you get to visit your little girl's grave soon.

@Mumlili9 Sounds like you have been productive. I’ve been working and trying to get some exercise in. I spent the weekend organising my study and furniture so felt good for being productive.

@clitterratti I’m sorry it’s so tough and that you can’t visit your son’s grave. People are driving to places now for walks etc so I wonder whether you could visit or is the cemetery closed?

I visited my DD grave a couple of weeks ago and pleased that I did but it’s n out something I do very frequently even though she is not far away. I have put a photo up of her in our house and I feel a bit closer to her.

Hope this cycle brings good things 💓

Thank you @turquoisebaby

Where is @bunnythebee?

@footprintsintheslow - have you had any more luck with your GP about getting a smear test? I’m overdue a test too.

And has anyone heard anything about their clinics reopening? I emailed the recurrent miscarriage clinic where I’m waiting to have some surgery and they just said they have to apply to re-open and must first demonstrate that they can safely do so following safe-distancing and other measures. But they didn’t give any indication on timing.

I don't know what anyone else thinks but I think in your case @turquoisebaby I would be tempted to just tell your GP you had a chemical pregnancy last month and so that makes three and now you want all the tests.

@clitterratti big hugs for you, It's hard enough as it is without being and exacerbated by lockdown and being able to keep busy. I hope you can go and visit really soon. We have a few ornaments to put on our little girls grave and haven't been since Christmas now :( We also had a plaque on a bench done and havn't been able to see it.

@peperethecat Thats so good to hear, I thought only having two miscarriages they would just write me off. We did have our little girl tested, and they couldn't find a reason why she passed.

@VenusStarr That's really helpful thank you, I've noted it all down ready.

Feeling slightly less anxious, I'm going to ride out this cycle and grow some balls and call GP after.

Hello Ladies!

I'm sorry I am so sporadic with writing. The grief is so very raw still and I hate being this delicate.

It will be 12 full weeks this week, and in my culture we have to put a headstone on the grave; but we can't and it hurts me. The cemetery we buried our son in is so very very far away and I am so desperate to visit him.

On the plus side, AF is here and I am so relieved!

@VenusStarr thanks for asking after me hun. I'm OK cd4 now and oddly still bleeding very lightly. It's strange because it's been my shortest cycle yet at 23 days and early ovulation too. My periods normally only last 36 hours of very light bleeding. I've added red raspberry leaf tea to my enormous cocktail of supplements, hope it does something fingers crossed 🤞

I have spent my lock down getting my garden into better shape, painted my doors and fences. We had a tea party in the front garden for VE day too. I praying that this cycle will be longer to give my eggy chance to mature. But I am glad my luteal phase is 14 days spot on every cycle with out fail, but my temps don't get very high. I've swapped to vaginal temps this cycle to see if maybe I'm snoring and it's bringing me temps down.
What are you lovely ladies doing today?
@turquoisebaby I understand how you feel I've been at this since August 2017 but I've got no where with NHS, no nearer an answer or to getting test done. NHS are just so slow to get you booked in which tells me there's a lot of couples going through the same process, it's really so sad 😔.

Baby dust to every one

@VenusStarr Are you waiting to do IVF? Am I right in thinking you've already had at least one cycle?

I'm on CD10 today and seeing the gynaecologist tomorrow for an ultrasound. I usually ovulate around CD18 or later. Until Wednesday I'd resigned myself to not being able to try until the end of the summer while I have my endometrial biopsy and wait for the results, but now my doctors have said the lab is going to be closed for a while the plan is to keep trying, with some new medication this time. Eek. I wasn't planning to be POAS again so soon.

Hi @turquoisebaby nice to hear from you. I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time. I remember feeling really anxious going to the GP but it's quite straightforward. If you have a bit of your history that will help.

Fertility tests I had were cd1-5 blood test and cd21 blood test - this one is for ovulation, but you need to go 7 days before your period is due, which might not be cd21 for you. I was also sent for a pelvic scan and had to have triple swabs and make sure my smear was up to date. He also sent my dh for a sperm analysis. Once all the results were back my GP referred us to the fertility clinic at the hospital.

Like @peperethecat said, you should be eligible for recurrent miscarriage testing too, so might be worth asking the GP about that. My surgery are able to book appointments with the clinic directly. Hooe that helps xx

Thank you @BeetheQueenBee good to hear from you. Still got the painful rash, finish my antibiotics on Monday but think I might need more.

I hope you're OK @marmitecheesetoast, are you in pain with the bleeding?

How are you @peperethecat @footprintsintheslow @Mumlili9 hope you're all well.

Waiting for af to arrive, I was hopeful earlier in my tww but I'm less so now. Still no news from my clinic about reopening so likely we'll just ttc again next month.

Have a good day xx

So sorry for your losses. Normally after a late miscarriage they would approve you for testing rather than making you wait until you've had three. I think it would definitely be worth getting in to see your GP as soon as you can. Did you have any testing done on your baby's remains?

I've been following this thread since my late miscarriage in August at 16 weeks, I'm a lurker and rarely post. Went on the conceive in November and miscarried in December. We have been trying since May 2018 and so far my ovulation tests show I ovulate around day 21-23 of a 28/9 day cycle. Its a miracle I ever conceived before. I'm 27 so age hopefully isn't a factor.

Hello @turquoisebaby. Sorry you find yourself in this position. Have you had a loss or just been trying without any luck?

Can I ask for a bit of advice, I'm planning on visiting my GP about my fertility issues and short luteal phase. Are their any questions I need to ask? What sort of things can I expect them to ask me? Should I go fully equiped with a history of dates etc? I get so anxious about these things, But its time I manned up and just did it. Its been 2 years this month.