TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 34 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

@MissSparkles81 my body and periods have been different since the miscarriage - with me it's a lighter flow, lighter colour, and I have had cramping mid month and during my luteal phase which is unusual for me - i don't usually cramp ever. this month (month 5) was the first month without the random cramping. my gynocologist said its very normal for cycles to be odd for 6 months after MC and that it's hormone related.

@Mumlili9 I'm so so so so so so sorry :'( thinking of you.. words can't make it better, we are all here for you xxx

Oh @Mumlili9 I am so so sorry ❤❤

I’m sorry to read your update @Mumlili9 I wish there was something we could do to make things better 💐

@Mumlili9 I'm so sorry to hear your update. Wish I could give you a big hug right now. Hope you're in good hands right now and have all support you need in such difficult time! 😔

@Mumlili9 I'm so sorry, sending you hugs 😔 thinking of you ❤️

@Mumlili9 so so sorry to hear your bad news. I hope you have some support around you and take all the time you need to recover physically, as well as looking after yourself emotionally xx

@Mumlili8 I'm so sorry
Nothing will make you feel better but I'm thinking of you xxx

Thanks ladies I'm losing my left tube. I knew all along it was but I was praying it wasn't. I even developed a sudo sac in my uterus so I have to have a d&c as well.

Hope you ladies are well

@Mumlili9 I praying hard for you! God has got you! Hang in there!

I'm sorry to hear you're having a painful af @MissSparkles81, I've had a few since my first miscarriage that I've needed to take time off work for. I find using a heat wrap helps. Hope the pain eases soon x

Oh @Mumlili9 I am so sorry to hear this, absolutely heartbreaking news. I hope the operation goes well for you. We're here for you xxx

OK ladies it ectopic and I'm now waiting for surgery I'm so scared and utterly gutted.

Good luck for today @Mumlili9 ❤

Ive had to call in sick today ... this period is so painful this month and its radiating around my lower back which has kicked off my back pain from when I had my car accident back in August.

Im not used to periods like this ... has anyone elses been like this since their mc?

@Mumlili9 good luck! Hope it goes well 🙏🏻

@Mumlili9 ❤️ I would be too. You're in my thoughts today xx

Good luck @Mumlili9 , thinking of you today ❤️

@VenusStarr thanks I'm actually really scared. I'll update when we get back. Scan is at 11.30am.

Thinking of you today @Mumlili9 💜

@VenusStarr I think you’re right. DH didn’t used to like to know when I was ovulating either but he knows roughly when it’s “fertile week” and looks forward to it now 😂 We dtd last night (wasn’t really feeling up to it before then with it being the anniversaries for DD) and will try to dtd at least every other day until about CD20

Morning everyone

@MOGMOGMOG85 is that the right link?
What kind of podcasts are you looking for? I don't listen to fertility ones anymore but like the grief cast one and Sara Pascoe's one - completely different topic areas! @avocadoincident

@BunnytheBee we decided to dtd every other day from cd 5 to cd 18 (my cycles are 25 days). This helped dh, even though I'm tracking, he doesn't want to know ov date so that was the compromise we made. I think even though the app is predicting a longer cycle, I'd still cover the next few days, just in case.

Positive opk last night. Temp rise today. Totally wishing time away to get to the next cycle to book the biopsy... Going to confirm ovulation then stop temping.

Hope everyone is OK xx

Fertile week question - I’m on CD12 and have had an average of about 29 day cycles for the last year. I usually ov around day 14-15 I believe but this cycle Ovia has predicted a 31 day cycle and my fertile week as day 15-20. I had a long cycle before Christmas so that will be why my cycle is longer but then I’d expect my fertile days to end around day 16. I’m not tracking with OPKs or temping, just going roughly by Ovia and when I think I’d usually ov.

How is everyone else? I had a bit of better day yesterday and feel a bit more positive

@MOGMOGMOG85 I think it might just be good to have options. I’m not 100% sure I’d do it but I’m going to speak to a clinic about it. The thing is I could get pregnant this year and have a healthy baby but I would be 37 / not far off 37 by the time my first living child is born and then maybe want another one (or more than one?) but not want to feel under pressure to have try straight away. I honestly don’t know what the best thing is and I don’t take for granted that I will have another child so I just want the best chance. Everything has changed since I had my daughter. I always wanted two children but now I’d be happy just to have her obviously and even if I have another, I’ll have had two. I might be happy with one more. I might want 3 or 4. I don’t assume I could have that at this stage. Other days I feel settled back at work and don’t feel like I want to rush to go on mat leave but my age (and the fact I don’t take anything for granted) means I can’t just relax for a year or two. I’ll report back if I find out more

@MOGMOGMOG85
I seem to fall asleep within 5 minute of every podcast I try. At least they are good got something.

@VenusStarr I sent the wrong link! Sorry don't think it was very relevant to you - it was this one I meant to send www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4859843/ sorry it's the same site and I got confused!