TTC after miscarriage - end of January 2020 testing

Im still here!
I'm now 10dpo, bfn this morning on ic, I've ordered some frer & will test again 12dpo.
I have no idea when AF is due, should have been 24th but this is my 1st since MC, no idea if I'm late or if my cycles have changed.

Hi everyone, and so sorry to all of you that have experienced or currently going through a loss.
Little bit of my story...I’m 37 and have 3 children (9, 7, 5).
No longer with their dad but have been with my current partner for 2 years. I came off the pill at the start of September 2019 and we started TTC (trying to conceive).
I don’t chart or temp etc. We just DTD (doing the deed) when we want (which is a lot anyway).
I got my BFP (big fat positive) on 25th November 2019 and we were over the moon.
Unfortunately on 18th December I started lightly bleeding. Had multiple scans where there was a visible pregnancy and over the course of the following 2 weeks it even had significant growth. But no heartbeat ever became visible. Finally on 1st January I miscarried naturally at home suffering the most horrendous contraction like pains for 3 hours before passing the pregnancy.
My bleeding had stopped completely by the very next day.
My doctor had said we could begin TTC (trying to conceive) as soon as I felt ready.
So we did. We’ve been DTD (doing the deed) as normal ever since. But in all honesty probably not enough this month.
I’ve no idea when af is due, I’ve no idea if or when I ovulated (the only thing I noticed was some EWCM (egg-white cervical mucus) on 13th).
I’ve tested the last 2 days, and today and all bfn so confident I’m out this time.
Just need af to show so I can start my next cycle and TTC (trying to conceive) properly. I feel slightly nauseous but think I may be coming down with something.
Sending hugs and lots of luck to all of you xx

Sorry to hear that, Anny

Take care of yourself

Is anyone else not due to test until the end of the week? I might need to move to the February thread if I'm all by myself on here..

To say how many of us started on the thread, there's really not many who've had a BFP!

Oh no @Anny27! Sorry she came. Can’t believe the low numbers we have had. FC for next month! Xx

Sorry @Anny27 hope you are feeling ok.

Let’s hope Feb is our month! x

AF arrived just now so I am out! Onto the next month :(

Ahh no @Anny27 and @MilsCookie sorry not the positives you were hoping for but no AF yet so FC it’s just late ovulation so longer for BFP to show!

@MilsCookie would love to join you on a WhatsApp chat please.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3796903-TTC-after-miscarriage-February-2020

There we go @lavenderlove I will probs be joining that thread tomorrow when Af arrives....

So a BFN for me today at 14dpo. Guess that's my out :/ I saw a faint line in past few so dont know if faulty tests or chemical but I WILL NOT test early next time. Its not worth the stress and squinting:(

@champooPapi sorry AF arrived lovely! I am with you, had so much bloody sex this month and not even worth it haha

@MilsCookie whens your AF due lovely? You are almost our last hope for a bfp

@StephyRose good look with your ttc journey beautiful! I am with you, no temping or OPKs or obsessing tracking for me next month!!!!

@lavenderlove welcome lovely. It might be better to join the February thread we have set up as only a few of us are left kn here waiting for our AF too arrive in the next few days. When AF arrives we move to the Feb thread with the other ladies still trying. I will link the thread in my next message :)

How is everyone else getting on?

Could I please join you all? I'm 26 TTC dc2. I've been TTC for 20 months now.. had a mc at 5 weeks in September. Af due 5th feb!

I'm feeling pretty rubbish today as my friend told me she is starting to TTC dc2 today and I just know she will probably get pregnant and have her baby whilst I am still waiting

@StephyRose @ChampooPapi @ELM7 wishing you all the luck in the world. Thank you all for your support on these threads. I wish you all the best and hope your BFP's come soon. Sending lots of love xxx

Only just checked in on this. @MilsCookie where in Oxfordshire are you? We’ve just moved to Buckinghamshire, just along the M40 so not too far x

Hey lovely ladies. Have to agree that I think I have become obsessed with checking MN to see if there are new posts. But the support we all give each other is amazing and so lovely to know when you are having a crap day you can just come on here and vent without judgement so thank you all.

I’m also going to keep checking in on this thread to hopefully see the final few BFP but also think that I might need to take a step
back from it all and try not to obsess over everything.

Feb is going to be the start of me looking after me and trying to get healthier to make sure My body is in the best place for looking after a sticky bean when one does come. And I really hope each and everyone of us gets to be the amazing Mummy’s to a new addition that I’m sure we will all be.

@BS9790 and @sweatpeaormarigold all the love ladies 💜

@Zoey36 all the best to you and good luck lovely 🤗

@toomanyleggings @GemLou88 @mlax @FireflyGirl @ELM7 @Littlegoth catch you all in a few weeks, I know I've missed so many people out but just had to do a quickie to send the love and let you know I'll be back too , I'll find you and hoping there will be some more bfp by then 🙏

You guys are the best xx

@Anny27 waves weakly from the sofa, was about to test this morning then just when I went to the toilet af got me. I bloody knew I had to caught this month, and after so much sex I mean really! 🙄😅

Onto the next month, will stay dry until February for the body, mind and soul. See you lovely gorgeous lot on the February thread who are in the same boat as me. And all the best to all the beautiful newly pregnant woman who have been lucky to catch and will have their October babies 🌈👣

@StephyRose good idea , I think it's good to get a good week at least for me mumsnet free while I get through this part of my cycle so see you on the other side lovely

@MilsCookie thank you for being there for all of us this month, you have been amazing! Your an inspiration woman! I'll check back in to see if you get your bfp of course, and everyone else who is left hanging still, but will take a couple of weeks break to just live life now I think.

💜✨🌈👣

No spotting yet but the day isn't over. Sometimes it starts in the evening. I think I will test tomorrow though if I don't start today.

@stephyrose all the best 💛 I hope the time away helps you.

Just remember guys that no amount of worrying or fretting is going to change the future for us so we might as well try and not worry and stay positive (easier said than done I know I know). I've accepted I will probably always feel a bit anxious about the future but I'm going to try and not worry as it's totally out of my control and what will be will be etc etc 😊 (clearly feeling very zen today)

Hi lovelies,

Just wanted to say good luck with your testing. Genuinely wishing you all the best, we are all going to make mega Mummy's when our time comes. 💪🌈💗

I have felt utterly shite this week and an anxious mess - just convinced myself I will never be a Mum, there is something seriously wrong with me, DP and I have mismatching chromosomes etc etc etc blah blah blah ...but I really told myself off last night and I feel much better today.

@Anny27 Saw your message on the other thread lovely, thanks so much for keeping me in your thoughts. Wishing you all the best ... we have come such a long way since November 💗👭 which leads me on to totally agree with ... I am going to take a break from checking MN and posting. It too is making me more anxious than I need to be.

Breaking up is hard to do but really, it's not you guys, it's me! 🤣 No more early testing, no more OPKs, just more obsessing about fertility and reproductive health, just going to go with the flow ......

Wishing you lovelies all the best. You deserve it so much. ❤❤