ttc after mc July/August 2007 - shiny new thread as the other was full

Wow so much to catch up on don't know where to start

lissie - welcome back hope the move went well

Emmsy - hi and welcome although sorry you had to find us but this thread is brilliant loads of support. I know what you mean about having previous DC and people thinking it doesn't matter as much that you have had a mc, it's not like that mine was 5 weeks ago and I'm still trying to get my head around it. I had a AF less than 4 weeks after my mc so I must have been ovulating whilst still bleeding, I didn't want to have sex until after I have completely finished bleeding so that kind of ruled out ttc. I don't know why they say wait until you have a AF before trying for dating because IME first day of last period isn't that exact and they change it at the scan anyway when they can tell you the exact age of the baby.

nh101 - sorry about your friend but glad she seems to be bearing up hopefully it won't have put her off more children would be a great shame to let the bastards win.

cricri - I hope you manage to have a nice time in Holland. I never want to tell people what to do but to be bluntly honest I would book myself in for the ERPC and get it over and done with. My hospital didn't offere medical management with the pill so it was 2 week wait for nature to take it's course or ERPC. As it happens I didn't get the chance to decide. The mc was horrible adn with 2 LOs to look after I wish I had opted for the op. At least then you are not waiting for it all to kick off thinking "is this it?" with every little bit of blood stained toilet roll.

goingfor3 - don't have anything else to say as I followed your story for the last mc but just wanted to give you some virtual hugs xxx

ILTS - read your story too sounds horrific I agree with others that if men suffered like we do there would be a less barbaric way to deal with mc, hopefully your over the worst of it now, onwards and upwards and remember where we are if you need some emotional support. I know that once the physical side was over with the sheer sense of loss kicked in.

gilly - so sorry about AF I know what you mean though I have 3 friends ttc right now as well and I know they either have BFPs and aren't telling me or they will get theres before me and I will be so crazy as thery are first timers and I already have 2 DC.

jules - glad you are getting some counselling and what an amazing idea to set up something to help other women in the same situation. Just remember to take care of you too. I think everyone on MN will have the biggest ever when you post your birth announcement and I am so positive you will one day x

ladylush - look at you with the posh uterus hope the tests all come back ok and it's onwards and upwards for that BFP in October.

TJuice - I suppose it's hard for your friend too to tell you she's pregnant when she knows you have just had a mc, hard for you too I know everywhere you look right now theres bumps and you want to scream "why haven't I got one too!

big hello to anyone I have missed off I know theres loads of you sorry but this has turned into a mammoth post I'm like it in RL too always chatting away

That's a great idea. I keep anxiously/enviously looking over at the other side of the board. It would be easier to go through the PG with you guys considering I don't know what happens after 8 weeks.

thats a lot shorter than you can take anything but my ttc after mc July/August 2007 - shiny new thread as the other was full thread

We'll call it "2007 TTC after miscarriage graduates".

i have an idea, hows about when we do all finally get our bfps we all go to our own thread rather than due XXX 2008 etc that way we can all stay together

i know there is already one going but i made friends with the march 2008 ladies and had to leave and then came here and dont want to leave you all

Emmsy - you only have one PC???

The OPK could have been positive because of HCG in your system so it was probably that. I don't know when you'd normally OV after MC but I know your cycles can get really messed up so don't expect it to be the normal 28 days for a good few months.

Some people don't wait for their period to start ttcing again but I found it very therapeutic to give myself a month off before ttc again. It was only when I started to ttc again that I began to feel terrible about not being PG (and not being able to get PG).

Just an anecdotal story, but when I had my MC in March there was another woman on the Miscarriage boards who got PG just three weeks after her MC. She lost that baby too which was awful to deal with. I am not saying everyone who gets PG straight after MC will have another but I do think your body may not quite be ready so soon after MC.

Good luck anyway!

I'm glad I was told about this thread!
There are some remarkable people here, I have only just read through alot of the stories and have found myself wanting to cry for the pain that some of you have been through! Your r all an inspiration to each other and I hope you all get BFP's as soon as possible, It would be nice for us all to "graduate" to the pregnancy thread together!
I was told that I could TTC as soon as I wanted to but they would prefer it for me to wait until I have had 1 normal period, they did not mention anything about infection? I took an ovulation test on Tuesday and it showed Positive could this be right as I only started to bleed on Sunday and had the complete M/C on Monday morning or could it be the small amounts of HCG affecting the ovulation test?? I thought that it was normal to "O" approx 14 days after M/C?
Anyway I must go for now as DH wants to use the PC and we only have 1, so CU soon xx

Hi Emmsy, so sorry for your loss - you have been through a horrid time.

My friend was really well when I spoke to her last night - she is taking great comfort from her 8month old DD. What she has been through has been so traumatic, though, that she now says she doesn't want to have any more kids. I hope she changes her mind but how bad is that that the NHS treat women so bad that they are put off ever having more children! When they scanned her there wasn't much there so I suppose the MC was already well under way which is why they have sent her away. But she is in a lot of pain. I still think they should offer everyone surgery. She just wants it to be over, of course.

I am still plodding along - CD18 now and my temp was high again this morning so I think I either OV'd on Sunday or Tuesday. Fingers crossed!

Hi everybody and welcome Emmsy - so sorry you had to join us here.
I wish I'd read all your posts before I booked an appointment at the private hospital for medical management next Monday... I'm now thinking I should cancel that and opt for the ERPC and just get it over with, even though I'm terrified of the operation.
The spotting I had yesterday hasn't got any worse and the cramps have stopped so I don't think anything is going to happen naturally.
DH and I are off to Holland tomorrow for a long weekend (booked before we knew about all this obviously) so I'm hoping nothing happens whilst I'm over there. We spent a year living in Holland and we were planning to tell all our friends there the good news this weekend . Oh well, perhaps the change of scene will take my mind off things a bit.
Hope you're all OK.

Hi Emmsy, of course you are more than welcome. I also had a mc after earlier children and you are right, people do seem to think that you should just shrug it off as you already have the others. I'm sorry you had to be here, but please make yourself at home.

of course not, the more the merrier we are like a little family here and im new!!!!

Hello girls,
Hope you don't mind me joining your thread, I was told about it by MrsMc on the pregnancy thread
I was 6 weeks pregnant, and started to spot on sunday evening, thought the bleeding had stopped on Monday, but when I went to the loo I passed the embriotic sac. The EPU confirmed on Tuesday that I had had a "complete miscarriage" The pregnancy test they took was still positive, I took another one this morning and it is now negative, so it looks like I can try again ASAP. I had also miscarried on 30th Apri at 5weeks and 2 days!
I do already have children but just have an overwhelming urge to have one more baby before I return back to work when my career break finishes(I am quite old!)I have found that people do not expect you to grieve if you already have children so talking about it to any one I know is a "no no" Hope you don't mind me joining your group??

drama queen??? moi??? Never!!! even if i do cry for an hour if i bang my toe and sulk if i cant get what i want

by the way jules, i think its an amazing idea . . . what a great attitude to have too - women will really appreciate having a sanctuary where others know what they have been through.

ladylush - fingers crossed for you friend. My first at 20 weeks was possibly due to an incomptent cervix and my second happened because I had measles so neither were connected I have just been very unlucky.

you ladies are so strong - some really intense stories here - when you have to go through experiences like that it must make you a different (stronger, more rounded) person. i suppose it must be kind of sad to let go of the old innocent you to become someone who has been through painful times,(without getting jaded too.) what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I guess. i am in awe.

i have been relatively upbeat recently and pretty much ok throughout since the m/c happened . . .
but my old friend just called to say she is 4 months p/g and engaged to her man and it was hard to muster up genuine happiness in my voice. i am pleased for her but gutted for myself. i guess it just wasn't my time . . .

but i did tell her about the m/c a few weeks ago, so it was really sensitive of her to wait before telling me her news.

i just feel . . .winded today and find it hard to blink back tears here at work. maybe my af is coming too, which always makes it a little bit more difficult to keep it together about anything upsetting.

Don't like to say told you so but I also warned of the need for strong painkillers - it's always worse than you imagine with sadly nothing to show for it at the end

wmmc - whilst in Dublin go to Avoca if you get the chance. Lovely shop (off Grafton St.)they sell some gorgeous things. Pmsl at the fake kafka debates. Our lecturers never bothered to look for us when we went missing. Mind you, they got strict with the attendance after the first semester and made us all sign a register. If attendance dropped to less than 80% the student was interviewed and if it continued they were dropped from the course.

yes you did (at not listening) ive learnt my lesson lol

goingfor3 - that is so awful. I think that would be terribly difficult for anyone to get over. Was there a reason for the mid trimester m/c? Must be terribly unlucky to have two. I have an ex-colleague who's wife had a stillborn baby as it died during the birth. It was terribly sad. She is now pregnant again and due in February (this happened 2 years ago)so we all have everything crossed for them.

lol katendmom ill get him back dont worry even yesterday he kept saying to his mate, i dont know what all the fuss is about it didnt hurt! i couldnt feel a thing but i know hes only doing it to make me laugh!!

The best of luck to you today and hope everything goes smoothly for you xx just glad you dont have to go through what i went through xx