ttc after mc July/August 2007 - shiny new thread as the other was full

well bleeding came back this morning so im glad i was expecting it or i'd have been pissed

I've spent all day cleaning downstairs and will spend all day tomorrow cleaning upstairs then on monday ill have alllllll day doing nothing

Can i ask what all this with taking folic acid is for? I intend to start taking it once i actively ttc and just wondered if theres a reason for taking such a high dosage? Sorry if ive got it all wrong i can be quite dumb sometimes

Lcy, your weekend sounds wonderful! Sounds like your DH and you are a couple meant to be together forever! Enjoy and congratulations~

So... about a thread...it sounds like most liked "It's about us." But some felt part and partial to experiences that brought us together, like MC or TTC or TTC after MC. So how about something like "It's about ut ~ MC'ed, TTC or not, and whatever!"

I know it sounds silly but I can't think of anything better and this thread is getting SOOOO long (and a bit outdated given it's title

PS Doing MUCH better this weekend. Bleeding stopped, at least for now so just feels like I am back in my normal life... I caught myself thinking a couple of times "...did it even happen..." How pathetic is that?!

Off to enjoy a beautiful weather while DS is catching a nap. Chat with you later!

Toodles!

ladylush A Doctor Ellard from Arrowe Park Hospital in the wirral prescribes his "recurrent Miscarriage ladies" with 5MG of Folic Acid (you can only get that dosage on prescription!)apparently he has done a lot of research on it. The Folic Acid that you buy from the super market or chemist are only 400 micro grams, you would need to take about 12 of those aday to get to 5MG's!
As for the zinc, I have read on different miscarriage sites (on the internet) that zinc is "ONEOF" the minerals that can help prevent miscarriage. The leaflet I got from the Health shop says "Zinc plays a role in more systems in the body than any other nutrient and is particularly important in the immune system,sense of taste and in REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH Your best to research it on the internet yourself before taking it, because we are all different and we may have other problems that we do not share with each other! Good luck xx
Lcy thanks for looking for my friend, sorry about the moan this morning, I am feeling a little better now, I am just starting my gin & tonicxx
ILTS I think my bleeding has stopped now (I hope?)Just want a pos "O" now so I can get back to basics!!xx

hi all, sorry to see some new faces, just a quickie really have decided not to ttc for a while. i just dont think it will ever happen for us now and feel that i need to come to terms with that iykwim

Hi to everyone else by the way...

We met a group of friends for breakfast in a beautiful cafe in a forest today to celebrate our anniversary. It was lovely. Just been for a walk in the hills and having a rest before dinner.

Lucy x

Hello

I like "its all about us" too! Means we can stay on it if we do or dont get pregnant

Just Jules - i think the TTC after mc thread will always survive because unfortunately people are always having mc - and i would continue to post on it. I think some of us would like an extra thread where we can stick together through whatever happens rather than graduate through the boards.

Ladylush - i was told to take atleast 400mcg of folic acid.

ILTS - i am glad the bleeding seems to be stopping. You are over the worst x

Tjuice - glad you are getting some mummy love - i always revert when i go home

Sweetkitty - i am also going to feel v.sad if i am not pregnant even though i know its not likely.

Emmsy - oh i feel for you - i have been there. Looked through my old postnatal thread and one poster had put how they hadnt posted for a while because she felt all our mc might of jinxed her pregnancy . I will do a quick search for your friend x

Goingfor3 - mine seems to of cleared up with just a bit of teatree oil and eating lots of natural yougart- but i hope it isnt going to happen every month. Did you know that you also need to get cream for DH so he doesnt keep reinfecting you (they dont get symptoms but can still carry it).

ILTS - as you had a big bleed before, it's possible the bleeding might end soon. Hope so anyway.

Emmsy - interested in the 5mg folic acid thing. Scrolled down but couldn't find why you were taking the increased dose. I have been wondering whether I should take a higher dose. Is it possible to take too much? The pronatal have folic acid in too (about 300mcg). Do you know what the advice is on zinc - is it safe to use in pregnancy?

good morning everyone

well ive only bled a spot about the size of a 10p since around 8 last night so thats good although due to what you have all told me i will expect it to come back! so thanks for letting me know

emmsy i know how you feel its not fair how quick it all changes is it

I can't believe this time last week I was "happily pregnant" I wish I could turn back time (and then change it!) I even posted last Saturday on the ante-natal thread, I was abit hormonal but pregnant!
I feel really down today, can't be bothered doing anything!
I have been looking through the threads that I had been on prior to this one, and its horrible to see your EDD removed from the stats list I have been looking out for a friend of mine, to see how she is getting on (she was due the same day that I was) Goodcatholicgirl is her name if anyone spots her, I'm starting to think that she may have had some bad luck?? I hope not, she was a lovely happy girl, that cheered me up everytime she came on.Sorry to be so bloody depressing but just can't lift myself up today! have a nice weekend

Sweetkitty Whats the hut??

We will be happy again after mc nah too yuck

Life after mc????

Onwards and upwards - true mc and ttc support thread

oh I don't know I'm rubbish at these things

Started the rollercoaster ttc business again, got my opks for CD11 to see if I will ovulate this month, I know because I have got pregnant first month with the last 2 I will be expecting it again, if I get a BFN I will be so down, if I get a BFP I will be happy for about a day then mega worried for 12 weeks, then a little better until the baby is born, argh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lcy - It's getting worse so I have started to treat it. I'm taking dd for a photo shoot today so it will stop me scratching all day!!!!

congratulations lcy! it sounds like it will be a lovely day . . .enjoy

i am now in london and for some reason, had a massive talk and cry with my mum about everything. it weird how i can feel v. strong, like i am getting on with things, but when i get home,i can just let it all go and wallow in it. i guess its somehow reverting back to an earlier you . . . i wasn't ctually shouting "its so unfair" but i felt like it!

my cheesy $0.02 re. thread titles:

Future Positive after MC or just Future Positive

i like its all about us

It is our 1st wedding anniversary tommorow. I went out with some girls from work tonight and when i got home DH was waiting with a massive beautiful bunch of the flowers we had at our wedding. The smell of the flowers bought back the whole day. We are meeting up with a group of our friends for an anniversary celebration breakfast - just like we did on our wedding day. Then DH and i are going walking in the hills and then staying in the hotel where we spent our wedding night.

I hoped to be pregnant on our 1st anniversary - but I am so lucky to have DH i cant even be sad. Ok enough of the soppy stuff - but just wanted to share a happy story after my miserable mood last night x

Hi everyone

Kateandmom - my DP never stopped wanting to TTC but i did! It was our first baby and i went through definate periods of thinking i wouldnt be able to cope if could happen again.

Goingfor3 - i think its starting to clear up - its def hormonal because it started day after ovulation. How are you

Ok - big wave to everyone else.

Triggles, I think it's a sweet thought ... but is it? All we do is talk about babies

So... is it "It's all about babies"

OR

"BabiesRUs"

... keep 'em coming! Let's find a really good one!

It's tough to think up a group name, isn't it? It was SO much easier when we were 7 or 8 years old and came up with sophisticated things like "The We Hate Boys Club"

What about taking a leaf from katendmom's friend's message and use "It's all about US". Just a thought.

wtf??? i meant "we're here

"where here"

katendmom- what your friend wrote was absolutely lovely!

sweetkitty - I know what you mean about feeling like having another is pushing luck. Especially at my age. But still we try, can't help it.

nh101 - you're right about compromise and communication. DH initially began mentioning stopping ttc after m/c, and I was so upset as we had both agreed we wanted another baby. When we finally discussed it at length, I found out it wasn't because he didn't want to ttc, but he was worried about me and the possibility of me having another m/c and having to deal with it physically and emotionally again. I promised him that if I reached a point where I simply couldn't do it, I'd tell him. But we both very much would like another child, so we're on the ttc trail again.

emmsy - i'd ask my Dr about the folic acid and upping the amount I take, but he's not exactly proactive. He's very "hmm.. well, um..." I'm seriously considering switching GPs to another in the surgery.

wmmc - definitely he shouts loudest gets what they want with the NHS. I've learned that the hard way. I've found I get best results by saying "This is what I'm requesting...." as opposed to "Would it be possible for...?" As I said above, my GP is very hesitant to do much, and I get the impression that he thinks I'm a bit nuts to be ttc, although he'd never out and out say it. I will admit I've had to be quite verbally pushy or demanding a few times with him to get him to listen to my concerns.

Alright, we keep talking about it but let's do it. Let's start a new and cool and a VERY LUCKY thread!

We'll start it off the "Conception" topic, agree?

What shall we call it? It'll be hard but let's try to stay away from "MC" or "TTC" or anything like that so that regardless of what's happening to us or with us we can stay on the thread, just because we like each other, find each other supportive and care to learn what the future holds for us, fellow MNers

Soooo... suggestions for the new name?

I think the most frustrating thing about the bleeding starting and stopping was how it affected my mood for the day. If it slowed down or temporarily stopped, then I was more relaxed and happy, thinking "ok maybe it's finally done". Then the next day it would get really heavy again and I was just so depressed and down because it felt like it was such a setback. I did notice that when I was doing more walking about, it got heavier. So I tried to stay somewhat active, thinking it would encourage things to pass quicker.

I agree that it would be nice for the group to continue together and support each other as we move on.