ttc after mc July/August 2007 - shiny new thread as the other was full

Dubaidiva-
oh how awful for you to have had to undergo all that worry and another operation. You must be so relieved that your period has returned - a sign your body is healing and getting back to normal. I remember reading a post on here about a woman who has something similar to you and she went on to have 2 healthy DCs. As you say, we all deserve a great 2008. I agree about September's arrival bringing on the wobbles. In a way I want the date to arrive and pass as i think I am getting more in a state about it now than I will on the day iyswim?

Zammummy- congrats! that's fab news! i can understand you still having the wobbles about your due date next week. A new baby doesnt replace the one we lost. Hang around as long as you like!

Ellie- good to hear from you hun! and sorryto hear you have a double whammy with your due date. I think your idea is great- chocloate is a great healer- I plan to have lots!

Zammummy- yippee- what fab news!!!! We'll have to rub your tummy when you come over for the cake-fest....and stick around for as long as you need.

Torres and Dubaidiva- thinking of you both Sending hugs and positive vibes, esp. for torres- hope you will be joining zammummy soon!

WMMC- Ikea is an evil place made to make you spend money on things you didn't really need. Have a glass of wine, it'll make you feel better.

Hello all.

Congrats zamMummy! Lovely news x

Torres and Dubaidiva - keep your chin up ladies - the due date will pass. Mine was supposed to be next week and my SIL was/is due same day. Am going to eat LOADS of chocolate and try to ignore it.

Hello ladies sorry not to have been on for a while - been feeling seriously rough because..... BFP!!!
Very very excited but also wobbly, my due date from the mmc was next week.
Can I stick around? xxx

Hello Torres
My due date would also have been next weekend - you're doing the best thing by getting away. I heard after my miscarriage that the due date would be hard and it is, as soon as Sept started, found myself thinking why, why why.
I had a miascarriage at 10 weeks back in Feb and its taken till last week for a period so feel have lost time. Long story but they ended up having to put a camera inside and having to have a bridge/wall cut out my uterus. Oh well time to be positive and move forward.
Good luck to everyone - hers looking forward to summer 08 babies

Good luck on the bd-ing flossy- hope the endorphins get you through the weddings

Jo- thanks for posting- it's great to hear success stories. We all need that hope to get us through

wmmc- I am glad you are a bit brighter. I think looking after yourself is essential to lift dark moods even though it can feel pointless at the time. I hope Italy will be a real breather for you and Dp to take time and treasure your relationship. Plus lots of fab food, wine and ice cream!

Flossie- so sorry to see you here and to hear your sad news. I'm cross you had an unsympathetic doctor too- it really seems as compassion passes some people by. Sending you a big hug.

I've been feeling a bit wobbly this week. My due date would have been next weekend and am expecting a birth announcement in the office any second. We've booked a cottage in the lake district over the due date so hope to do some cathartic walking in the rain. Other than that its CD28, my cycle is usually 27 days so fingers crossed AF stays away though I imagine the stressing ove the due date has messed up my cycle. I don't really have any symptoms one way or the other.

Thanks for the hope Jo71. You can never hear too much of it

Welcome other flossie- so very sorry you are here, but I assure you you could not be in a better place ...listen to Winemakesmummyclever- wine has indeed made her clever!

Morning all....busy week- two weddings, trying to sell house, getting moving quotes AND anticipate needing to bd in slightly desperate frantic fashion!!!!Wish me luck

I'm so sorry for your loss it is a horrible horrible thing to go through we take having babies so much for granted

I lost baby no 4 on the 7th June 2006 and was told to wait a full cycle before trying to concieve again. However, nature had another idea I was expecting again on the 12th June '06 and this one was fine with a little help with hormones and asprin and keeping my feet up and no sex for the first 3 months and she arrived March '07.

keep strong and I agree shopping, chocolate and wine!!!!

Flossief, you poor love, it is terrible isnt it.
As you have probably read on these threads that all of us are both angry and sad. It takes a long time to get through these emotions. Roll with it and dont fight it. Every day it gets ever so slightly easier. Although you will end up as crazy as the rest of us!
Talk to your DH/P he will be feeling sad to, but dont be surprised if he doesnt understand the depths of your grief. Few non mothers do Im afraid. Even other women dont understand.
Use us here on this thread to help you get through this tramatic time. You can say anything you like someone will be feeling the same dont worry.

Hi FlossieF sorry to hear about what you went through.

I'm on cd10 today and last night thought I had a bit of ewcm, though it was a bit blood stained, but none this morning but I am going to start using my opk's and I also started teming this cycle though I'm not sure what I'm really looking for!

Hi FlossieF - sorry about your mc i think we were on the same March antenatal thread. Anger works for me .... and doesnt result in swollen eyelids.

Hello again to those from the March 2008 thread! I finally found you all....

By way of introduction, I discovered last Wednesday at my routine 11 week ante-natal scan my bean hadn't developed past 6 weeks, but my body hadn't bothered to let me know. Decided on the "medical management" way of sorting it out, and spent an exceedingly unpleasant weekend in hospital bleeding a lot. Doctors were threatening surgery, but I managed to avoid it in the end.

Nurses were lovely and sympathetic, doctors less so. The best was one v young doctor who clearly hadn't read his notes properly, kicking off his chat with "So, we're carrying out medical management following termination of a pregnancy...". The nice nurse quickly corrected him before it got messy.

The whole thing is being made ten times worse by the fact that my younger sister is expecting her first baby in February. That and the fact that the country is infested with pregnant women. They've even infiltrated The Archers AND Corrie ffs.

I'm fed up of crying, so I'm trying angry for a while.....grrrrr

tjuice. I have just had alook and if you go to ivillage.co it has got all kinds of goodies. Ovulation timetables which tell you when you are ov and when baby would be due. How exciting.

Finally we get the information we all wanted. Cake details.
I am most definetly going to make the next one. I shall make DH take day off work so I can go. Mind you if I tell him it is my MN friends he will piss himself laughing, he is convinced that I am crazy spending so much time on here.
I am trying hard not to convince myself that I am pregnant again. I have no real symptoms AF not late or due until Saturday maybe. My last cycle went down to 24 days???? I keep looking at my breasts wondering if they have grown!
Mad again. I thought I had stopped all that noncense?
Nh good news about the Clomid, I have got positive vibes on repeat in your direction.
I think there is a website called fertility calender or something similar. You put your last cycle dates in and it gives you a timetable of action. Not 100% sure but worth a look.

flossy- you'll make me cry! Your poor thing - a migraine, a fertile father and a heavily pg friend to see at a wedding. You need more than a cake!! The spa sounds lovely- and just what you need. At least you will look beautiful and sparkly at the wedding. These things are really sent to try us. I have a wedding in 2 weeks with a heavily pg friend, who has been a bit odd with me recently (though probably due to me spending so much time avoiding her). Not sure I have any helpful words of advice, but I am sure you will enjoy the wedding itself and hopefully she will be diluted by the goings on and will shuffle off early to her room.

we're talking off more cake in oct when ellie is over so we'll get to meet you then xx

Hello all (flosspot waves frantically, whilst looking a little sheepish....) so so soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo sorry I didn't make the cakefest. I am gutted not to have met you all and enjoyed too much cake. But am feeling less icky now, so that's good.

Instead i had to deal with my father, who came to visit with his 9 month old son (...my new brother) Aside from the fact that he is hard work anyway, it's so crushing to realise that your geriatric father is more fertile than you are. In addition to which I have to go to a wedding this weekend where I will see the girl I moaned about last week (up the duff and due when I would have been, had I not miscarried.) I cry every time I think about it.

On the plus side I spent today at a spa with my friend who is getting married on Thursday and has never had a massage or a manicure before. The look on her face when we said goodbye made me feel better about everything. And I can't wait until she gets married....she keeps joking that the reason I haven't managed to get pregnant yet is because fate wants us to have our babies together! Nice thought, but I'd rather not wait until she's finished her degree next May to finally get pregnant!!!

I haven't caught up with all the reading yet, but hope you are all well. And want to thank you all for being so supportive....I feel I'm moaning a lot at the moment, yet you guys never get sick of it. You are all so wonderfully encouraging and I couldn't get through this without you. (flosspot leaves the room blubbing lke a girl, but with very soft polished feet!!!)

(I tried adding this earlier, but something went awry)

What's the problem with AC, gilly? I was taking it the last two times I got up the duff. Though miscarried both times, of course.

Sweetkitty, this might not be a useful suggestion at all but could you think about getting a babysitting circle going with the other mums from the toddler group? That way you know you'd be leaving DDs with people they know, people who understand children of their age and if you're all helping each other out, you wouldn't need to pay each other. And there might be some mums who couldn't babysit in the evening but could do an afternoon if you just need some time alone for yourself.

Hey nh - glad to hear you've got your clomid sorted, am crossing everything for you this month (with the exception of legs as ave just read something scarey about varicose veins).
Hey torres nice to hear you're not including me in the smug-PG catagory - I don't feel smug, just very scared and a bit fat! Keep squeezing my boobs to make sure they still hurt too
Yes will defo be over either late Oct or early nov so anyone who is around for cake would be great to meet! Beanie might have fallen out by then so may well be snivelling wreck though (is always good to look on the bright side I think)

hi nh101 - I do think a lot of it has to do with the mc as well it only happened 3 weeks ago. When you have 2 healthy pregnancies previously you think the 3rd will be straight forward. Having the 2 DDs is harder because I know what I have lost.

Best of luck for you I will be seriously routing for you (and everyone else on here)

Hi nh- cross posts there- Good to hear from you-how is the clomid? are you having any crazy symptoms yet?