ttc after mc July/August 2007 - shiny new thread as the other was full

SW I think only in the case of chromosomal problems eg some women will only successfully carry one sex as the other will have a chromosome problem and the pregnancy will not survive. Have I spelt chromosome right - it looks strange.

Even though I only have one ds I've also had the "maybe you can't carry girls" comment. WTF indeed If it's not helpful don't say it I think to myself. I often wonder what sex the babies were.

Jules you are right, we all deal with it differently. Lissie's had 6, we've had 3, some have had 1 but the number of m/c does not = the degree of emotional upset. I've seen threads started by women who have had 1 and very early (5 weeks) who have been absolutely inconsolable. I think this one has been hardest for me because now I cannot kid myself so much that it is bad luck.

On the plus side I have my first appt for the recurrent miscarriage clinic on wednesday so at least I am being investigated.

goingfor3 - so sorry to hear of the loss of your boys, why do people not think before they engage their mouths sometimes?

I don't think theres a can't carry one sex or the other theory, I don't think sex really makes a difference so early on does it? I do believe that some women and men have a predisposition to conceiving one sex or the other hence families of boys or girls but I don't think if you have girls and have a mc it must have been a boy.

Thanks Jules for your comment, really helped me.

Sweetkitty like you I have 2 dd's. I knew my last baby was a boy while carry him and it was confirmed when he was born, The first baby I m/c'd was also a boy and even though the m/c's are unrelated I was just very unlucky I've also had the maybe you can't carry boys comment!

Just had a quick log on to see how everyone was doing and I'm in floods of tears.

Jules - you poor thing your posts are lovely sums up how we all feel about losing our babies so well unfortunately. I am sending you some virtual hugs and a little pinch of strength.

lissie - one is bad enough cannnot even begin to imagine 6, the way you keep going and smiling is amazing, you WILL get those 4 babies.

Before I had this mc I never believed how hard it hits you I always thought I would have been like oh well something was wrong it's natures way but it's like me like nothing on earth. I feel so empty inside my body is yearning for a baby. All I get told is "well you have two DC already you are lucky" yes but one of my DC isn't going to be with me, it should be here with it's sisters in a few months.

Does anyone else "know" the sex of their lost baby, I've always known this one was a boy I always refer to it as he writing it doesn't feel right. To cap it all off a few people have said "maybe you can't carry boys some women can't you know" wtf

Anyway too much sadness am off to get the DDs ready will be back later x

My first was the most painful physically but the third was the one that hurt most emotionally.

my first mc was vv hard. i didnt think that anything could go wrong. when i was 7w pg with ds i had some bleeding and went for a scan, the nurse told me that she was seeing a 5w pg, not 7w. my first thought was "ive got my dates wrong" now it would be vv different. when my ep was found i was sure that either i would mc or everything would be fine. an ep didnt even cross my mind, all these things wouldnt happen to me.

even now, i cant believe that i have lost so many babies in such a short time.

Not too bad but waiting for period to arrive so I can get on with the next cycle. The Evil Witch is being stubborn this month but bfns so far so she's just having fun at my expense. My brother and his girlfriend sent me flowers after my recent m/c and I was pleased to receive them. It's difficult for people to know what's the right thing to do.

i have only stored a few of my due dates. it sounds harsh, but if i remembered the edd's of all 6 of my beans i think i'd go loopy.

Kensgirl - so sorry to learn that it's the anniversary of when your dad died Thinking of you and hope you get lots of TLC at this time xx

A strange thing is I seem to wipe out due dates once I miscarry. I had to mentally add up how many weeks I would've been now (18). It must be a protective thing. I remember exactly what month/year I miscarried each time but not what date the baby was due.

Hi Lissie, it is a horrible thing to have in common. The worse thing I find is that everyone else around me has forgotten. I actually had to remind dh last weekend when the 1st of september came around and I mentioned how much I was dreading this month. He was really perplexed as to why. And he's not totally insensitive, he's just moved on. My parents have not mentioned it since the day after it happened. My mil mentioned it, but only to ask if I knew the sex of the baby and if I'd 'be able' to have more children. To be honest I'd rather she had forgotten.

Jules - sorry you are feeling so down at the moment. The flowers was a nice gesture from your work colleagues.

Flosspot - sorry about your house sale going belly up. Bet you feel like murdering the bs.

Torres - CONGRATULATIONS Brilliant news. So pleased for you. I am wishing away the next few weeks so that you can breeze through the worrying first stage

Mrs McJ - So happy all was well in the scan. Beautiful pics of your beautiful baby

im doing a holistic therapies course. if i get accepted that is.

hi sybil, ikhyf. my ep was due 1st oct, im finding this month v tough!

Oh Jules, I am so sorry, and your message really made me cry. My mc baby would have been due at the end of this month and I find myself dreading the day more with every hour. To feel this way threefold is impossible to imagine and I send you all my sympathy and best wishes.

I have nothing to say that can make it better or not seem to trivialise your pain, except to say that I wish all the best for you and am thinking of you.

i always wanted 4. and i will have them.

i start my course on mon so will get my timetable then. can i CAT you so you have my email? then we can organise something properly!