ttc after mc July/August 2007 - shiny new thread as the other was full

morning everyone sorry didn't get to post much yesterday manic day

cricri - you poor thing I was also on the Due in March thread I had a slight bleed at 8 weeks though nothing of it and had a scan and was told baby was 6 weeks and to come back in a week, then as told baby hadn't grown so was dead I was still deciding what to do whn nature decided for me. TBH looking back I think I would have gone for the ERPC to get it over and done with the mc was pretty rough complicated by having 2 LOs to look after too, I don't think theres a right decision I'm afraid you just have to do whats right for you. This is a brilliant thread for support.

ILTS - I hope your hanging on in there today, loads of towels, painkillers and TLC. Look after yourself and remember it will all soon be over x

Flossie - thats rubbish about the ERPC hope your doing OK today x

Jules - was thinking of you yesterday, take it easy today x

Tjuice - enjoy your spa day sounds lovely

WMMC - have a restful time in Dublin you know your DS will be fine and you will come back all refreshed and desperate to see him

Good luck to all those ov-ing around now may your eggs hatch and be fertilised!

CD5 here the evil old hag is packing her bags hopefully she will be gone for about 18 months at least!

Morning everyone, hope you are all okay.

Still no ov for me despite the opk+ last week, though I felt my cerix last night and it was low but open and today it has disapered so I hope to ov soon. I'm glad I'm temping otherwise I would have trusted the opk''s and would have stopped bd'ing a while ago and then I would have gone through countless tests when I know now that I will be having a long cycle. Fingers crossed I see the temp rise tommorow or very soon anyway.

Flossie - sorry to hear about the erpc. Hope your DH picked up your licorice supplies and that you're feeling better this evening.

ILTS - sounds like you are moving forward. Hope you are doing okay.

Cricri - so sorry to hear of your loss. We had a mmc as well, and it's such a shock when you think things are going well and life hits the brakes, slamming you into a wall. I couldn't understand why my body just held onto the pregnancy and kept going without me knowing it. Thinking of you as you are going over options and making those difficult choices. We waited for natural miscarriage, which started the evening after our second scan. It was uncomfortable and I ended up in A&E with heavy bleeding (sorry, TMI) but I managed to avoid any procedures, which was my main goal. (I've had surgery two autumns in a row - appendix and gallbladder- and I was determined not to make this autumn year 3 in a row!)

Jules - glad to hear your day went well

Lcy - oh, blackberry pie sounds good! There's a place nearby that has "pick your own" berries and such - maybe DH & I will have to pop in there and pick some and try a berry pie. Yumm! We made a pumpkin pie the other day, but I got halfway through when I realised the pie pan was nowhere to be found (I'm still trying to figure out where it went) and had to use a round cake pan. So the sides collapsed initially when I was pre-baking the crust. Heavens, what a lopsided sad looking little pie that was! (although it did taste good!)

I'm a little puzzled as I think I've O'd today. Positive opk yesterday, negative today. And had those little pinching twinges in lower right abdomen that I always get right around O time this evening. Isn't it a bit soon to be O'ing after m/c?

its so very strange that my half a pot belly has turned into a wobbling mass Well i have evidence that it has started as i was still bleeding in the bath and i NEVER bleed in the bath even on my heaviest AFs.......

Im so very proud of how jules has coped with today, xxxxx

and thankyou lcy i am fine thanks xx

Thinking of you ILTS - hope you are ok xx

thanks wmmc

hi people, just letting you all know that (fingers crossed) things are moving! i really hope so

cricri - so sorry to hear of you mmc, you must be shocked. i hope you have the support and care you need right now. thinking of you and good luck with the next few days.

wmmc - have a fab time in dublin. i reckon you will come back refreshed and happy or maybe partied out . . ? either which way, its always good to get out of your normal environment.

nh101 - quality bd-ing! that cracked me up. i had some quality bd-ing over the weekend and then i wondered if quality is better than quantity. let's hope so.

sleepy - hope it all works out smoothly for you - really a

flossie - a pain in the arse, for sure but at least you know this is the end of it know. good luck, hope it went well and that you are scoffing allsorts right now.

duvetwoman - doesn't it take a while for the hormone to show you are p/g depending on which kind of test you take (six days to two weeks or something)so i guess its time for the dr.

flosspot - you are a soldier! that just sounded like a 'mare but you coped. good for you

sybil - sorry about AF

wheelie - good to have you back and i like your attitude. i actually booked a trip to Paris in October for me and my bloke, using the £250 made from selling my crap at the flea market. right now, he is on his laptop, planning what we are going to do there, so its just really nice to have something else to focus on for a minute. we are moving too, so this month will be intense packing, moving, repainting and all that which devours my mopiness quite well.

justjules - am so intrigued by the going ape thing. can't wait to hear about it.

sweet kitty - also had a quick whip around the shops today - old habits die hard i guess, and i live within five minutes of copenhagen's walking st with all the shops. can't wait to move so i can just get home from work without being tempted to buy more cheap shite.

can't wait til friday, when i am coming back for a long weekend and going to a spa in bath with my mum! will stock up on proper tea, marmite and other necessities too and maybe eat some fish and chips. the things i miss about the uk . . .
there is also a school reunion on sat which i am tempted to go to, but at the same time, the whole facebook thing makes that sort of thing a bit redundant (more about me wanting to be half a stone lighter with fresh highlights than anything else!)

yum - blackberry pie!!

Hi everyone else - i hope you are all ok xx

I have been blackberry picking and i am now going to make a pie - just call me Nigella

Cricri - how are you doing? I also had a missed miscarriage but i was 10 and a half weeks. I couldnt believe it was possible at the time - it is a terrible shock. I opted for an ERPC so if you have any questions please ask. Let your DH look after you and take some time off work (if you work) if you can - i spent the first week crying but 3 weeks on feel much better if that is any comfort. Your not alone x

How was the tree-climbing jules?

cricri, sorry to hear what happened it must have been a great shock.

alittlebitshy - every other day is better than every day. The swimmers live for at least a couple of days and hey also need time to regroup!

Hi everybody,
Just found some of you from the March 2008 thread so hope it's OK to post on here.
I had my first scan this pm and found out the baby died at 6 weeks. I'm still in shock as I thought I was 13 weeks and was fully expecting to see a baby on the screen. Knew all wasn't well when I was asked to get ready for an internal scan. I just can't believe my body carried on regardless with the ms and tiredness etc.
DH is very upset too but is being wonderful.
We're going back to the hospital tomorrow morning where they'll take us through the options. Reading through your posts and the leaflet I've been given I'm thinking of opting for an ERPC, unless something happens naturally in the meantime.
I'm comforted by your positive attitudes though and by knowing that I'm not alone in this.

flossie - sorry to hear you have to have an erpc. I had one and it was ok - better than waiting for it to happen but I realise you had tried the other one first so it is just delaying matters further. Frustrating isn't it.

ILTS - Did you get some good painkillers? They might be useful. I used diclofenac and codeine and they worked a darn sight better than paracetamol or ibuprofen.

Can't remember who asked about cycles post m/c. Sometimes they fall back into sync immediately and sometimes they take longer. Mine was about 5 days later this month and I had spotting for 4 days before it started.

Wheely - really good to hear from you. Glad you had a relaxing holiday. I think I need to take a leaf from your book also and stop putting my life on hold. My friend is getting married in Belize in January but I won't commit incase I fall pg. I've decided that if I'm not by November, I will delay ttc for a couple of months. Sorry to hear it's been a year You have a good memory - my hospital appt is on Wednesday morning. I wasn't disappointed not to get a bfp this month as I thought it would be best not to be pg when going for the appt so that they can get baseline tests done. Hope you will come back to the thread or at least pop in now and then, now that you are refreshed from your holiday.

alittlebitshy - i would say your chances are good. If you can see the CM it has probably been around your cervix for a while. Im sure missing out one day wont matter - make sure you have sex again when possible.

I haven't been able to read everyone's posts but hope everyone is feeling OK today. Just an update - I am on my first month of Clomid after MC in March and I am also temping this month. I am on CD15 today and had a spike in temp this morning so I think I may have Ov'd yesterday (two more raised temps will confirm this). Have been getting lots of quality BDing in over the weekend so I am hopeful!

Trying to remember that there is more to it than having sex at the right time but at least I know I have got that bit right.

Am trying to stay away from MN a bit cos it is getting me well stressed out so will check in when I get AF or BFP (but probably earlier as I can't stay away!)

i know i'm a fairly seasoned ttc-er (10 in total months including 2 m/cs and some waiting afterwards in there too)
but.... if i'm looking like i'm ov-ing soon (cm)and we bd'd last night and no chance again til tomorrow what are my chances??????

ilts - sounding like it's going in the right direction. look after yourself!!!

thankyou

iliketosleep, good luck I hope it goes as smoothly as these things can.