TTC after miscarriage - February 2020

@TerribleImaginationfertility friends app which is really good. It’s just good to have ovulation confirmed as the opks can give a high reading but doesn’t mean you definitely have ovulated. I’m a total control freak so I feel it helps me knowing what my body’s doing even if I can’t control it!

For me doing things differently I’ve started accupuncture but that’s it really so far.

I’m still getting strong positive PT today 10 days after ERPC. Did it take anyone else a long time for hcg to go back to 0? I know it can take a few weeks but was expecting line to be getting a bit fainter by now.

@Sparkl I know my mum and MIL would be upset and I would have felt obliged to make them feel better about it.

@CurbsideProphet meant to say, I had the same reaction, at the time I didn’t have the emotional resilience to deal with people saying the wrong thing. So have told hardly anyone. Sometimes I feel like I should have so that it’s easier for others but I just couldn’t do it at the time.

*on doing things differently

@Leok83 that’s interesting that the bbt showed when you’re ovulating. I had been doing opks to avoid the waking early! How consistent are you with the time every morning? So far mine has been really inaccurate because I’ve woken during the night or moved around or something. I suppose it just takes time to get into it.

On the doing this differently, I’m doing some supplements, also getting selenium through Brazil nuts and generally trying to improve diet as well. It’s not terrible but I was lighter and healthier when I had a successful pregnancy so there’s no harm trying to get back to that.
Really need to work on stress levels too, the combination of work and ttc is really hard at the moment.

@annie0425. I take a range of supplements and will continue to do so (pregnaplan foodsourced multivit, extra folic acid as folate, C0Q10, Omega3, vitamin d, vitamin e and iron tablets as I've lost quite a bit of blood with this miscarriage). I'm probably going to book in for Arvigo abdominal massage pre- ovulation (although no idea when that will be), I'll do some caster oil packs once the bleeding has stopped. I may also go to see my regular accupuncturist but that is because I'm very tired talking to people who know me and what happened and feel sorry for me. Ive also given up caffeine, mostly given up dairy and really cleaned up my diet. I've been on a longer fertility journey with endometriosis and have struggled to conceive (over a year with nothing, surgery for endo, conceive and miscarried two cycles in a row so this whole experience has been extra 'shocking.') I have to maintain faith and hope I can get 'third time lucky' (not necessarily next cycle but when it does happen.)

@Annie0425 👋 how are you doing? Work has been so stressful at the moment with prep for a really important visitor and it’s so frustrating because I just think ‘my baby died I don’t care about your visit’ but obviously that’s not how my colleagues are feeling which is difficult. We’re also talking about projects for when I should have been off and that’s really hard because it’s just another reminder that I should be getting ready for maternity soon. Anyway, onwards and upwards.

I’m just continuing with the left over folic acid and when that runs out I will probably invest in some conception vitamins x

@Annie0425 I'm just taking multi vitamins and my consultant prescribed a higher dose of folic acid to take before ttc so I'm taking that too.

I have also heard that waiting for 1 period recommendation is mainly for dating purposes, so if you feel emotionally and physically ready, can definitely try immediately...
@HenrysHome...I remember you from another thread...how are you? Settling back at work okay?
@Ejb86 sorry to hear that af got you and you had a difficult day...just stay strong and positive..I know easier said than done! But we are here to support you..fingers crossed feb is your month!!
Fingers crossed for everyone here...
Is anyone here doing anything different Specifically for conception or to try and prevent an MC? I know there’s probably nothing we can do to prevent it from happening, but just curious if anyone of you have tried or are planning to try anything different...have heard people going for acupuncture, higher doses of multivitamins etc...but not sure if there’s anything that really helps..

@shhhs I saw my consultant today for my d and c, he is a very good gynae surgeon and Fertility doctor who has previously treated me for endo. He said I needed to take two weeks to recover/avoid infection but after that it was up to when I (and DH) are emotionally ready. I ovulate pretty early in my cycle so I may have ovulated before two weeks are up anyway so we're just going to take it one day at a time.

Sorry to those others who have joined us here x

Hello everyone, do you mind if I join in? So sorry to hear of everyone’s losses

I had a mmc 7 weeks ago, we found out at 20 weeks that baby had stopped growing at 13 weeks.

We started trying again very early and as I caught first time last time I had really high hopes, but af has appeared today with a vengeance (first time since the loss).

I took 4 pregnancy tests before af came, I think I’m getting a little obsessed!

Evening all. Gutted to be moving over here. Today I'm on cd1 of my 2nd cycle of trying.

Back in September I had a missed miscarriage of twin girls at 16 weeks. I've returned to work last week hoping to be pregnant again very quickly but it doesn't look as though that was meant to be.

I have a 2 year old little boy who has kept me going since we lost our daughters.

I've found today difficult, AF arriving at work, to the see my headmistress's sister, who I went to school with, bring her 5 week old daughter in. I just ran into the staff room and cried.

Hi Ladies,
I am going to jump on this one too. I am on the Jan thread, but we are planning to start TTC only after my 1st period after MC and I haven’t got it yet. Hopefully will get it by end of Jan and will be joining the Feb TTC club soon.
Sorry for all your losses ladies. It’s heartbreaking and don’t think we’ll ever fully get over it...but hearing all the stories and many positive outcomes is helping me stay hopeful and positive.
I am 38, TTC # 2. Had a MMC in December & ERPC on 18th Dec. Got BFN within 2 weeks. We decided to wait 1 cycle...so waiting for AF now 🤞
Thanks @TerribleImagination for creating this thread and good luck to everyone with your TTCs xx

@shhhhs I got conflicting advice at hospital, the midwife told me could try again as soon as ready, surgical SHO then said after the ERPC to wait for 2 cycles, when I said that conflicted with earlier advice she said at least wait 1, then the gynae consultant spoke with me and said only reason to wait was for dates and was ok to ttc straight away!! So I’ve decided what’ll be will be this month and if nothing happens will try again properly after af with opks etc (Still BBT more out of interst at mo). I’m guessing if you didn’t have surgical management should be fine to ttc straight away but obviously there’s a lot of differing opinions on it!!

I’ll jump on here too, hopefully I’ll be either testing or at least ovulating by Feb after ERPC last week.

So sorry for all of your losses, so sad to see how many people this has happened to. I’ve been shocked since it happened how many friends have also gone through it and I never knew😢

@Sparkl I started BBT after 3rd month TTC and found it really good as I ovulate after the apps say I should so BBT confirmed I likely missed fertile period the 1st 2 cycles and on 3rd I conceived (and unfortunately MC).
Since last week started again, temps so far seem a good bit higher than preovulation temps on that cycle so will see how all over the place the MC puts the BBT this cycle.

@shhhhs I am so sorry to hear I can really relate as I just turned my 30 as well. I have a friend (a couple) insisted on visiting me at my home tonight. They bought gift and want to pass it to me. I really don't know how to handle neither.

I have tried the OPK after miscarriage it is all over the place. I think I have high fertility just days after miscarriage yesterday peaked and today not fertile. I think it is the hormone change. How is your pregnancy test going? Has it turned negative yet xx

@rebeccacntu the wait is killer 😭 so much waiting involved at every stage, it's just so frustrating. I know some people aren't ready to start trying again straight away but I feel like it would be easier to face the world again knowing we were at least trying to make it happen. Everyone is different I suppose.

I've not seen or spoken to anyone really since it all started on Friday but this weekend have to face all my friends in one hit as we're all out for my 30th, 3 of the friends are pregnant and thought is already freaking me out 😣

@shhhhs it also depends on the weeks that ppl miscarried and whether it is natural or medically managed. The second day after my MC I went for a scan and was told I have thick ovary lining. Just want to make sure I have good thickness for new pregnancy I suppose. I am very reluctant to wait 🥺

Are people waiting until after AF at advice from midwife? My midwife told me to just crack on, she said the only benefit of waiting is more accurate prediction of dating, no issues with the actual pregnancy and no need to wait. In turns of miscarriage, I had a pretty simple one (if that's a thing?!) with very little follow up required. Maybe this is why she had no concerns about me not waiting.

Count me in. Miscarried at 10 weeks 6 days on 5th Jan, I have an appointment with scan next Monday. My HCG is almost 0 it is very very faint on the stripe. I planned to start trying after first AF, presumably happing around 2-5th Feb. but the wait is loooongg and I am so tempting if I ovulate now

Hello all (bit nervous 🙂) I had a v early miscarriage a fortnight ago. My body has felt so knocked about. Took a week for the nausea to wear off. I'm doing better in myself now. AF is due in 10 days or so, then back to ttc.

I haven't really told anyone. I don't want anyone else to tell me it's for the best / wasn't meant to be. I don't know why people say that.

for all those recently joining, still can’t believe how many people are going through this