TTC after miscarriage - February 2020

Thank you for all your welcomes :) keeping for Fingers crossed for lots of positives for everyone xx

I think I’m now in 2WW but have missed ovulation, BBT has put me at 4DPO but had no signs it was happening and was still getting positive HPT so assumed I wouldn’t be ovulating, thought it would happen when HPT turned negative but obviously it must have gone low enough to stop surprising ovulation. We DTD day after predicted ovulation day so very minimal chance caught the egg..I’d imagine I’m gonna have to wait until next cycle now. So frustrating😩!! Oh well at least it’ll stop me driving myself insane with symptom spotting for the next week anyways😄!!

@Zoetuxx sorry you are here too. xx

@happythecrocodile I'm at the same stage right now. I'm CD25 so if I went by old cycles would be due on this week. But also first cycle since MC so who knows!! I feel like I have had a couple of symptoms but also well aware it may just be wishful thinking! I have just been into town to by FRER though... But scared to do one as don't want to face a negative.

Anyone else in the 2ww?
I am usually ok in this bit as I tend to just put it out of my head until period is due/late, but the last couple of days I’ve had bad heartburn, tingly boobs, feeling full/queasy... but period isn’t due til around 13th so feels early to be pregnancy symptoms? This is my first cycle since mc though and I haven’t been using OPK so that date is just based on previous cycles, so I’ve no idea really. I’m trying not to get my hopes up though.
Do I hold out until 13th or try an early test this week?!

Welcome @Zoetuxx sorry to see you here and good luck xx

Hello everyone, please can I join you :) we had a mc at the end of Jan, hoping to try again this month. Will be testing end of Feb.

he really doesn’t think comments through sometimes
A whole world of this. Its not their fault but I have the same. Last time when my boobs deflated he was saying how disappointing it was. My boobs. Not the MC.
Then this time he was happy because my big boobs were back.
He does care and is trying his best but hes absolutely failing to understand how this feels for me.

I feel exactly the same on the obsessed front.
Friday I got some dizzy spells in the evening and thought maybe it was a sign and felt happy. Then the next day I thought about how crazy I was being and was on a downer. Yesterday I was at a baby shower, felt a bit emotional being there at points. This morning my husband joked I can’t be pregnant as my boobs hadn’t grown (in the past that is what I notice first), and he joked it was a good thing as we get to have lots more nooky next month (he really doesn’t think comments through sometimes). Then I have had more dizzy spells. I probably have some sort of deficiency knowing my luck. Period not due for another week and a half and I am climbing the walls. I can’t cope with this on a monthly basis. If I am not pregnant this month I need to find a way to switch off the rollercoaster emotions!

@BS9790 No but my boobs are 2 sizes bigger (had to buy new bras), constant nausea and food aversion and metallic taste waking me up at night. OH left an apple on the table and I had to go and get fresh air because I felt so ill at the thought of eating it!!
I get slightly bigger boobs normally a day or 2before AF but this has been 2 weeks not being able to get comfy in bed because my arm grazes past a boob and its agony. I still feel sick now which is rubbish.
I sound like a total hypochondriac but I'm honestly a normal person usually

@SweetpeaOrMarigold, did you get a positive hpt before AF arrived?
I felt a bit sick, had cramps etc for a week or more then AF came. It was heavy and very painful, it was exactly like my MC... Just didn't last as long. But I know I wasn't pregnant as I'd had my hcg bloods done as part of some routine tests x

I am feeling so frustrated about it all today. I think it's probably because it should be scan day today, I don't feel sad about it though just so irritable (and maybe a little sad). I'm 24 days post MC now and I just want the next week to hurry up so I know where I am now. I find it so frustrating how much it's effected me and how obsessed I now feel. I'm sure most of the people on this thread feel the same, but in my everyday life it's feeling very lonely ☹️☹️

@Moominmiss thank you 😘 keep us updated on your journey too, keeping you in my thoughts (positive thoughts) xx

@LITTLEPICKLES88 I can totally understand you having put off phoning to make the appointment, having to phone and cancel my scan appointment last time was horrible.

But there’s nothing to suggest this time things won’t go perfectly. It’s so easy for me or anyone else to say not to panic but I know regardless you will anyway.

Everything sounds good though. In my previous (healthy) pregnancies my symptoms have come and gone throughout so I wouldn’t worry about boobs not being as sore.
The darker line progression sounds so promising though.
Good luck with it all! Keep us posted! Xx

@moominmiss yes get a gp appointment to you can find out what's going on 🤔 well today I called to book a midwife appointment I have been putting it off since the last time I did that I had to call and cancel the appointment a couple weeks later :( still a nervous wreck, I'm so worried as my boobs don't hurt... did more tests and they are strong lines now so should make me calm down a bit but can't help worry. I really hope it turns out positive for you! ❤️ xx

@LITTLEPICKLES88 well I’m doing ok, but I’m afraid I think these bfp’s are just down to leftover hcg from the miscarriage.

The lines aren’t getting any darker, I did another digi last night and still 1-2 weeks, but when I looked at it at eye level as it was developing I could see it flashing not pregnant. Obviously it then came up with the 1-2 weeks result, but I remember reading somewhere online that a lady had seen 2-3 flashing as it developed (only when you look at it at eye level, side on), but it gave her a 1-2 week result, and she actually phoned clear blue to ask why she’d seen it flashing 2-3 and they said it just meant that it must be on the cusp of having enough hormone to go up to 2-3 weeks but not quite there, so to me the fact I saw it flashing not pregnant must mean i only just had enough hormone to turn it to a 1-2 result.

Ugh, so yeah, physically I’m fine, no signs of af either though which is frustrating.

But yeah I’m now 99% certain it’s leftover hormones. I was going to phone my gp today to see if they’d possibly do hcg blood draws for me.

I think the bfn I got back on the 9th must have either been a dud test, or so faint I didn’t see it, or I just didn’t look at it as closely as I thought I did.

Tbh even if this was a new pregnancy the fact the lines are so faint and not getting darker would indicate to me it was going to end up as chemical or miscarriage anyway.

I hope you’re doing ok though?

And thank you to anyone else that has offered congratulations. I will keep everyone updated as to whether it does turn out to be leftover from previously or a new pregnancy!

Good luck to all of you xxx

@SweetpeaOrMarigold so sorry to hear about your rough period. Hope the GP helps. Stay strong.

Congrats @Moominmiss. Hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Welcome @salamander91, sorry you have to join this club but hope you are recovering well.

This month is flying by, think I'm so distracted and really don't have much hope of anything happening so soon, I'm managing to keep it off my mind. Ive got a little promotion at work too, I was thinking of not applying if I was pregnant, I would have been 13 weeks now but seeing as though I'm not, I thought I would go for it. Think I'm going to test next Mon as a first attempt, thats 29 days since mc .

Hi all :) I'm not sure if I'll get a chance to ttc this month but I thought I would pop in and say hello. I had an ERPC on the 30th Jan for a MMC. I don't really want to wait until after my first period before ttc again but I'll have to see when my body decides to ovulate. Typically we're staying with my parents between the 14th and 22nd so I wont get a chance if I ovulate then xx

Thanks ladies. It’s good to have people who understand. I feel like my friends would judge my neurotic behaviour. It’s just such a mind f*ck isn’t it. My OH is great but he has absolutely no clue what TTC does to a woman xxx

@Ldawg I'm sorry that sounds awful when you just want to move on and get ttc again. Hope it stops soon xx
@Skeena77 welcome, sounds like you've been through a tough time I presume your doctor is keeping an eye on your Hashimoto's? Xx
@ChelleF123 its such a let down when you feel so pregnant and then that cow turns up and ruins all your plans. FC this next one is us xx

@moominmiss how are you doing? Xx

Welcome @Ldawg and @ChelleF123 sorry you find yourselves here, I'm pretty new here too but it already feels like a very supportive thread. Fingers crossed for lots of positive news for all of us xx

Hi @Skeena77 I've just turned 44 and had my daughter in January 2017 so I think I know what you mean about being an older mum and wanting a sibling for our little ones. I finally got pregnant again in January 2019 but miscarriage in April and nothing since. I don't think I can give you any advice as there are days when you'll feel defeated but hopefully your little girl will help you through those and you'll get your rainbow baby. Don't lose hope, there's no reason why it won't happen for you xx