TTC after miscarriage - February 2020

Hi everyone, it's been a few weeks since I posted. Have not been checking this thread manically everyday and it has done me the world of good. It's not you guys, I just found it heightened my obsession with TTC.

I'm DC18/4DPO and we only managed to BD twice this month. 🙈 My obsession affected DPs performance last month so I didn't want to put too much pressure on it. I know its early on but I dont think I'm pregnant. I've usually had a tingly nipple by now (Haha a lonesome tingly nipple!) and can usually tell. But this month isn't it.

It is probably a good thing as after a MMC and then a CP on the second cycle of TTC, maybe my body just isn't ready yet. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'd love to be pregnant by Summer. 🤞🌈👶🏼

Congratulations to all the BFPs on here, you are giving us all hope!! 💗

@AlviesMam ❤❤

Hi ladies.
Just a little thank you to you all. This journey is hard and I don't think I'd have gotten through each day if I didn't have the support from these groups. X

@LITTLEPICKLES88 exactly, and tbh right now I think I’d be most relieved to get af. If the blood test was to confirm a new pregnancy, will levels so low I’d only worry non stop that it was heading to another miscarriage anyway! So in all honesty right now I’d just like confirmation on Friday that the hcg is dropping, then hopefully how quickly (or slowly) it’s dropping will be an indication of how much longer it might take to get to zero, then I can start to roughly know when to expect af, and then finally begin my first proper cycle since the mc.
I will keep you updated though.
So so happy for you though!!! Keeping everything crossed for you for a nice smooth sailing next 9 months!!! X

Hey @moominmiss ah how frustrating! Well I'm still keeping my fingers crossed for you, this bit is horrible being stuck in limbo isn't it, I can remember that clearly and sometimes feeling relieved when my AF finally shown up as at least then I knew what was going on , I'm really hoping there's good news up the road for you though xxx

Hey @LITTLEPICKLES88, I’m so so pleased you got the 2-3!!! That’s amazing. You must feel slight relief now.

I’m doing ok, still in somewhat of a limbo tbh lol.
I had bloods drawn at the doctors yesterday after speaking with my gp.
I had a call back from a doctor today saying that my results were 22, so to me that’s extremely low for a new pregnancy, so I’m definitely more inclined to think it’s leftover from the miscarriage. I go back on Friday fir a repeat blood draw so will have answers then. Well Monday I suppose as I doubt I’ll hear anything over the weekend 🙄
She did say she was going to phone the EPU and speak to then to see if they wanted to see me to check for retained products or anything and then get back to me. But I haven’t heard back from her as of yet.
She asked me the whole timeline of the entire pregnancy and miscarriage from start to finish as she wanted a clear idea of what happened and when with regards to scans and what they showed, what my bleeding was like, how I’ve been since the miscarriage etc. She was very thorough.
I just want an answer now though, and to know if I need to do anything in order to get my levels back to zero or if I just need to carry on waiting a bit longer. I don’t know how quickly they should be dropping but either way unless they’re 44 or higher after the next blood test I’ll have my answer! X

@pancakes26 congratulations on your BFP, great news 😁

@moominmiss any updates? Hope your doing well.

So it's been 2 years since my miscarriage and BFN after BFN now I got my positive last week I've been nothing but a nervous wreck! Testing even more like an absolute crazy lady! Did another clear blue digital today because I'm so paranoid my boobs don't feel sore anymore, was worried it would still say 1-2 but it says 2-3 one step closer! How is everyone doing? Xx

Hey everyone,

I was on the TTC- miscarriage Jan thread but I wanted to share with you this.

I just wanted to let you know I got my BFP this week but I wanted to tell you what I did differently this month. I don’t know if it’s a coincidence or if it worked but I hope it gives people some hope that these things can work.

• This month I have actually been more stressed then I have ever before for lots of reasons that weren’t conceiving related so... don’t worry about being stressed!
• I did 2 sessions of acupuncture ( 1 time a week before when I think i was ovulating and 1 time just after)

• I DTD ever other day from the day after my period and then everyday on the day before and after i ovulated
• I used OPK (clearblue digital) but i didn’t follow it completely. I think i either ovulated twice or ovulated late. I followed my CM when it was wet and clear I made sure I DTD.

Do some research, it might not work for everyone and also it’s not over until the baby is past the safe period! But I know how you’re all feeling and Some may have called me obsessive but I wanted to make sure I gave myself the best chance. Anyway good luck everyone!

I don't think I'm going to be trying this month after all. I got an infection after my erpc so I think I'll wait until after my first AF. I dont want to risk getting another infection. Keeping my fingers crossed for all of you and hopefully I wont see any of you ttc next month 😊 xx

I think (may be wrong) that the first month you use clearblue digital ovulation tests you can get flashy smiles for quite a while. It's the test getting used to what are normal levels for you. If you keep using the same monitor every month you should get less flashy smiles as it knows what is normal for you.

@toomanyleggings, before MC they were 31-33 days, last cycle after MC was 24 days. So tbh I have no idea what this cycle will be. Started testing based on a 26 day cycle... Went for somewhere in the middle lol

@BS9790 I think maybe you started testing too early. How long are your cycles? I have tested early this cycle in case I ovulated early and got a flashing smiley on cd6 but I can see me getting a good few days of them now. The flashing smiley indicates your oestrogen surging not the LG surge so keep testing and hopefully you'll get it in the next few days

@Anny27 yes similar, I'm on CD14 today.

Can anyone advise...
I started with the Cb digital ovulation tests this cycle, currently on day 6 of flashing smiley. Is this normal? I did start the tests a day or 2 later than I should have I think! X

@TerribleImagination we're pretty closely synced. If my cycle is 28 days (only had 1 28 diayer since MMC) I'd be due AF on 14th. TWW officially sucks!

@TerribleImagination we're pretty closely synced. If my cycle is 28 days (only had 1 28 dayer since MMC) I'd be due AF on 14th. TWW officially sucks!

Hi everyone,
I was wondering if I could join. We are TTC after a miscarriage at 7 weeks mid January. I've got no idea when I ovulated if my cycle went back to normal it should have been this weekend just gone I think. I haven't used OPK's before but I track using an app and it's always worked for me. X

I’m in TWW and it feels like it is going on for ever. I ordered some pregnancy tests through Amazon and got them on a five day delivery instead of next day to stop me from being tempted to test too early. Period isn’t due until Thursday week if I stay true to my pre MC cycle.

Have had some spotting and temp has dropped so I think I’m out already for Feb 😞

Had only just started supplements and I know they wouldn’t work straight away but I would even want the chance to take a test at this point, feel like I’m getting nowhere with ttc.

Never heard of TWW yoga @TerribleImagination ! Might give it a try, definitely need to de stress somehow but finding it so hard not to constantly think about this

Using the clear blue digital ovulation kits again this month. I had an erpc on the 2nd January and couldn't detect ovulation through January because I was still getting positive pregnancy tests. I don't think I actually ovulated that month. Then got af last Thursday. Started using the ovulation tests yesterday because I didn't want to miss ovulation and thought perhaps i might ovulate early given that I dont think I ovulated last month. Got a blank circle yesterday then today flashing today cd6. This seems way early to be gearing up to ovulation? Any thoughts ladies?

@Happythecrocodile thank you! I'm going to try and wait until the weekend!! I'll let you know what happens 🤞

Ah I’m glad there are others going through the 2ww frustration as well! I have had a word with myself about not taking every twinge as a ‘symptom’ and am going to hold out testing for another week or so. @shhhhs good luck if you decide to do yours though 🤞

Hey all, I am cd15...not tracking ovulation but know the fertile window dates so BD every day. I am trying after a miscarriage last October...I am still very nervous and self-doubting a lot. You ladies are my strength, please keep us all updated.

Another thing is I don't know how you all manage...but managing to BD every day is very taxing for us...by the time we finish dinner and put my toddler to sleep I am almost in a tiring state :(

@Anny27 🥳🥳🥳
Doing anything differently this month in terms of BDing?

I am on CD15 and just getting a darker opk but not positive. No ovulation pain yet.
Decided to DTD twice a day from CD12 up until after ovulation... which we have been doing.
No pre seed this month though.

I also got myself super stressed last month but found reading less mumsnet helps currently

Good luck!!! And enjoy :)

Also need some ladies who been ttc opinion...
I will be going on holiday mid March and can swim with Dolphins.
If lucky i will be 8 weeks by then. If less lucky 1 week and if not lucky at all not pregnant.

But would you book it? I mean would you do that swimming with dolphins thing in early pregnancy?

I am entering fertile week! Cycle day 10 so a week or so off from the dreaded TWW

@bs9790 you are similar cycle day to me arent you?

I am not doing OPKs this month,just DTD every other day and confirming ovulation with temping. Fingers crossed the more relaxed approach works! As I got myself really worked up and stressed last month