TTC after miscarriage - February 2020

@Cometa08 I'm sorry for you too - that sounds like it just have been very confusing. I'm currently in a battle between what I think my body is saying and what the tests are saying... Feel very pregnant and 6 days late but BFN 2 days ago... Taking another tomorrow morning so we'll see whether valentine's day starts with a high or a low!! Anyone else going to test tomorrow?

@Hannah234 I'm truly sorry for your loss.

My miscarriage was not completely unexpected as I started spotting the day of my expected period and then the spotting became some light red bleeding. I went to the hospital, at the early pregnancy unit, and the blood tests came out alright so I kept on hoping. Then an 8 weeks scan revealed that it stopped growing; the day after the bleeding started.

I understand what you mean when you say that you feel like you can't trust your body. It's like the battle never ends and you can't feel safe at any stage of the pregnancy.

My af is due in 2 days time but I have already noticed a decrease in my bbt this morning so I'm not very positive.

@Cometa08 I'm also TTC after a MMC (found out at the 12 week scan the baby had stopped growing a week before), and waiting to see about this month... When is/was your af due? FXed for you... I'm finding it really hard to trust my body or my feelings about what's going on with it after not realising about the MC last time. Anyone else feel like that?

Hi all, just found this chat from the pregnancy forum. I've just started my first period following MC at 7 weeks a month ago. I was really hoping I'd get pregnant again straight away so a bit disappointed! I have a Clearblue fertility monitor arriving today though which is making me feel more in control of the process.

Sorry there are so many others in the same situation but it is really helpful as I don't know anyone in real life who's had difficulty having a baby (probably loads have but just don't talk about it).

I'm 35, that was my first pregnancy and I'm worried I've left it too late even though I know the stats and actually got pregnant fairly quickly after years on the pill!

My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage as well at 8 weeks in December after almost 1 year of trying. It was what they call a missed miscarriage, the embryo stopped growing at 5 weeks but I only started to miscarriage at 8.
After a very long cycle I tried to conceive again but nothing. Now, second cycle after the miscarriage, I'm waiting to see if I might be pregnant again.

@Anny27 I was just about to drop a message. This is from today afternoon, so will be ovulating very soon. Are you doing opk? May be you missed the surge? Or just having a long cycle... it’s really frustrating isn’t it not knowing how our bodies will behave every month! I never ever thought TTC will be so complicated
We have kind of decided not to ttc this month as we have a holiday and few long haul flights coming up next month and I want to enjoy it and not be stressed in case I get pg. But seeing the positive opk I don’t feel like letting go of this month..so confused!! 🤷‍♀️ Good luck! Hopefully you’ll catch the surge soon x

@Annie0425 have you ovulated yet? Mines delayed this month! Not sure why, unusually have pretty regular cycles but have the odd shorter or longer one every once in a while!

Hope my other OG girls are getting on well @MilsCookie @AlviesMam @StephyRose 🤞🤞🤞

@ChampooPapi definitley I dont think there is a boost in fertility post mc! After the erpc thinking it is taking a while for my hormones to settle. I would LOVE a bfp asap but feeling more calm now.

Thrush is slowly going thankfully! And havent ovulated yet (cd20!!!) But that's kinda a blessing because by time thrush is gone, will still have time to DTD before ovulation 🤞 although not as much as normal.

@mlax yeah I would say those photos are EWCM. Depends on how it feels vs how it looks though! Ewcm stretches more than an inch in your fingers without breaking. I have EWCM about 4 days ish before ovulation sometimes more.

@Michette ooh 4dpo thata good! Stay sane with the symptom spotting haha!

@ChampooPapi wave back :)
Good to hear you are feeling better and calmer. ❤️
And yes sometimes staying away from the mumsnet craze is good for our mental health.
I also have much less MN time and I find that i don’t find it as hard to not have a BFP anymore.
I am not symptom spotting so far (ok only 4 dpo but still) and I feel so chilled out like you I guess i am over the MC, feeling free...
I guess the myth of more fertile after MC made me completely crazy with super high hopes and i felt so shit after the BFN last month.
I am not even doing opk after positive at CD18. I trust nature now! Done my part!

@mlax that looks good!! I mean fertility wise. Damn. Never seen anything even close to this in my CM since ttc.
Really good sign I’d say!

@Happythecrocodile I tried every day first time I used them but after getting 7 days of flashing we were a bit over it by the time got the solid smiley😄
So now just settle for every other day for flashing and the day of solid smiley. That’s a lot better and more relaxed as between us were def not a daily DTD couple and def felt too much pressure trying every day!

Thank you @Leok83 honestly people on MN teach me so much one more personal question if that’s ok- do you DTD every day once you start getting the smileys or do you wait for a peak?
I’m tempted to give them a try but DH prefers to be a bit more spontaneous! Like you say I’d just like to know if I do ovulate according to the trackers or not, and also my first cycle was shorter after mc so keen not to miss the key days!

Hey @ChampooPapi hope you're doing well and glad you're feeling much better. I took myself off this for a while too dipping in and out of it. I'm in a bit of a pickle myself as I honestly do not know when I'm ovulating. I'm in a WhatsApp group with a few lovely ladies from here too but all just so unsure of what is!

I feel like I have been ovulating and last week I wiped what we think is EWCM but there was an awful lot. Then I've been wiping small clearer amounts since I've attached some gruesome photos so I do apologise. My AF according to FLO isn't due until the 28th 😅 xx

Hey @biscuit13, how are doing lovely? I just saw your attempts to 'log off' have failed somewhat but for I definitely think it really helps to get through things being connected here so keep doing it if it makes you feel good. I had just been glued to mum'snet for like three months post miscarriage and it was just absolutely keeping me in the past eventually, I was getting stuck with moving my grief on and above all, the obsession with conception was taking over too much.

Big virtual hug to you ♥️

Waves @StephyRose . Just read back a bit to catch up with people's journeys. We both did the same thing of checking out and taking a break from it all. I just popped on as have been off for over two weeks now and wanted to send a hello to you all. I'll probably dissapear for the next week again so I don't start obsessing about it all, it very important to know what focuses ourselves on ourselves, and what focuses ourselves on everything else isn't it!

Love and hugs @StephyRose, please let us know how you get on though this month, I will also update but I too have gone from sex nearly every day to like twice a week so 🤷‍♀️

I meant

*A lot more positives on other threads that arnt trying after miscarriage

But also i don’t believe that we are more fertile after a MC !

@Michette lol, neither do I anymore. I got pregnant the first or second cycle the last three pregnancies (resulting in two children)

And looking at our personal thread stats from this one and the last few we've been on there is a lot more positives each month for certain.

I think it actually takes a few months for periods to sort themselves out again unless it's a chemical pregnancy or very early. There were a fair few of us who lost our babies a fair bit later or had to have surgical or medical management. That has definitely not been a boost for any ones fertility.

How's the other ladies getting on like @AlviesMam and @Anny27 , you ladies ok ?

Waves @TerribleImagination and @Michette @mlax, hey ladies. I'm back after a few weeks break, really done me some good. A few days into the two week wait this end, due on next Monday.

Ad finally seems to have sorted itself out post miscarriage in October. Only cycle 4 and feeling calm, obviously would love a positive this month, but I'm fine with a March one and a Christmas babe in arms.

I think I'm actually over the worst as far as grieving for the baby now. I feel so much better about it now but it has been such an intense 4 months. The surgery seems a long time ago though and I can't wait to see some more bfp on this thread!

We are due some that's for sure

Love and virtual hugs to you all 💞✨👣🌈

Hi everyone - really sorry you've all been through the same, but nice to have company... TTC for the first time this month after MMC. (No heartbeat at 12 week scan in October, but baby grew to 11 weeks... ) Decided to do the two cycles wait thing, since I had a long bleed post D&C. Finally trying again now, and so impatient and anxious!! Currently AF is 5 days late and feeling symptoms, but BFN this morning... Very confusing. Really hope we all get pregnant again quickly!

@Ibaadsmummy you do what you feel is right!
I don’t think anyone can tell you :)

But also i don’t believe that we are more fertile after a MC !

Hey guys so finally pregnancy test fully negetive n ovulation test positive should I try or still wait for period I am tempted to try is a miscarriage more likely if I get pregnant before a period xx thanks in advance

Hey guys so finally pregnancy test fully negetive n ovulation test positive should I try or still wait for period I am tempted to try is a miscarriage more likely if I get pregnant before a period xx thanks in advance

@Happythecrocodile ask away!! I originally started using OPK on 2nd cycle TTC (after being shocked I didn’t get preggo straight away😄) and found that I ovulated few days later than apps predicted, I’ve regular 28 day cycle but thought if I had about 3 months confirmed consistently ovulating around same time I’d stop and just go with it, then I conceived 3rd cycle so never got to see a def pattern. Obviously after MC now it’s way off as normally ov CD 16/17 but now it’s CD35. If it takes another few cycles to conceive I’ll prob stop once I get a pattern. I just feel like everything is so out of your control TTC so at least this is one thing I can control and it keeps me sane! I don’t tend to hold my urine tho as I’ve a small bladder but just try and time it for before and after work. The Clearblue need 1st morning urine anyways so it’s pretty easy but I always pee middle of night so even for cheapy too I just tested when I got up..not sure if that’s still 1st morning urine but it works so didn’t stress bout it.