TTC after miscarriage - February 2020

Hi we have bee try for some time now, took clomid for 2 cycles then skipped my last cycle - now I have had an incredibly odd last few weeks
slept together day before and 2 days before ovulation, had more painful breasts than usual for longer than a week - I am normally not that sore and normally only for a few days . I monitor CM so noticed brown show for 3 days , then got my light dark brown “period” which only lasted 24 hours - and now back to show. Boobs stopped being sore after I started bleeding. Had a migraine day before my 1 day “flow”

this is all very odd and abnormal. Did a test on the day before “flow - BFN.
I don’t know what to make of this - I had no symptoms at all with my son until 7 weeks but had a BFP at 4.5

anyone have anything similar?

I’m in my 2ww now as my OPKs are fading after my peak.
Due to the miscarriage my OVia app is still predicting period tomorrow but I know it won’t be the case.
I’m not certain we did enough to conceive this month but then keep reminding myself that we only had sex once in December 4 days before ovulation and we got pregnant so maybe we will be lucky again.
We last DTD 3 days before peak. We couldn’t make it happen on the peak day as my partner isn’t very well at the moment.

@moominmiss I think you have ovulated! This is my progression and my ovulation was confirmed by my temps

@TerribleImagination I know that feeling, when I told my mum I had miscarried my 17 year old sister decided it was the best time to tell me she was pregnant. I felt bad for crying about it.

This mornings test is the light one, compared to one of yesterday’s darker tests

Took another ovulation test this morning. It’s way lighter than yesterday’s tests.
So I’m thinking either my body is still all over the place and they may get darker again at some point, or I started testing later than I should and didn’t catch my peak on a test. But I’ll never know. Thankfully we’ve dtd pretty much every other day, if not every day since af finished so hopefully if ovulation was earlier we still had a chance.
But I’ve seen all sorts happen with people’s tears so I’m not going to assume and will carry on testing and see if I get another high or peak at some point 🤷🏼‍♀️

@TerribleImagination I’m sorry. I know only too well what you’re feeling. My SIL announced she was pregnant too. She’s due 3 days before I would have been due 😔

@TerribleImagination that sucks.
I think that would also be my initial reaction... i was also due 12th august so i get it even more.
It is still fresh so as Whiffle said don’t beat yourself up.

@BS9790 sorry to hear your cramps have been bad, i still think it doesnt mean it’s going to end bad.
Good idea about digital test weekly.
Fingers crossed for you xx

@TerribleImagination awwwh :( my SIL was pregnant when I miscarried but she was already 6 months so felt easier as I already knew she was pregnant if that makes sense. That's hard for you!

@MrsLBear I am 4dpo today! Will test if AF fodsnt arrive on 3rd march. Wbu?

@Leok83 oh and enjoying acupuncture so far, not sure my anxiety has improved much but we talk a lot as well which is therapeutic! Just expensive...

Ah @terribleimagination I think we all understand your feelings there! It's natural, dont beat yourself up...it is hard to see someone go through the same journey you should have been on though.

@anny27 no I didn't get back into temping again but I think after this month I will. Cos it's getting so boring now. Just need to get back into remembering to do it really but I agree it's good know when you've exactly ovulated. It's a guessing game even with opks.
What cd are you?

Thanks @Leok83 that's what I'm hoping! I dont temp as I get up a lot in the night which I heard affects the result - plus I dont need another thing to obsess over!!!

@bs9790 cramps can be normal as well as a bad sign, but it is hard to remember that! Keeping my fingers crossed.

Sorry to hear you're having bad cramps, @BS9790

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Congratulations on passing your test @Michette

I'm 9dpo, CD22, and having lots of period-style cramps. Could be implantation but I think more likely to be early AF

Not due until Tuesday, so it's potentially going to be a long weekend!

@Leok83 yes I have a digital one, saving it for Saturday as that's when AF would be due. Then I've said I'll do them weekly on a Saturday to check the dates are progressing!

Today's cramps have been awful to be honest so haven't got much hope right now.

@Moominmiss thank you!! That would be some surprise 😁! Hopefully you catch ov soon!

@Whiffle77 if they came up and went down hopefully you did ov..that’s why I find BBT good cause it’s obvious from that I did after..otherwise would have been stressed i hadn’t based on low scores alone. I started accupuncture too after MC..how are you finding it? I’ve had 5 sessions so far, find it relaxing but hard to gauge if it’s working!!

I'm having similar on opks and premom, it got a lot darker but still classed as low, and now is going lighter again! so I dont know if I've had my peak or whether it's still to come...not had my first period since MC though so was always going to be a bit of an odd one. Just feeling a bit sad and desperate!
Congrats on the driving test pass, and on the positive test!! I can understand you would feel anxious, that's very normal! I keep telling myself that I cant change the outcome either way...
Good luck to all those in 2ww, I'm trying acupuncture to try and help my anxiety

@Leok83 thank you for your advice. I'll just DTD and testing. 🤞🤞

Thank you @Leok83! I hate how stressful this all is.

I feel like before the mc I was happy enough just letting things happen as and when, and sort of went with the flow.

Now I second guess everything my body does or doesn’t do, I’m constantly looking for symptoms of this, that or the other!

And as you said if we are lucky enough to see another bfp we aren’t going to feel the excitement we did pre mc because anxiety and fear just totally takes over.

9dpo is really early. Keeping everything crossed that when you test at the weekend you get a lovely surprise!

@Moominmiss I’d def call those a positive! I found that when mine looked positive premom only scored me highest 0.79 last cycle and 0.63 this cycle. With BBT I know I def ovulated (plus I conceived last cycle so very obviously did!) so I think if they start going down don’t worry if it doesn’t give you a peak..everyone has different levels at the LH surge and obviously I don’t produce a massive amount but enough to trigger ovulation.

@Michette congratulations on passing driving test..sorry ur getting BFN and you had an evap..they’re cruel.

@BS9790 I can imagine the stress ur feeling. We really are all going to be robbed of the enjoyment with BFPs. Hopefully you can start to relax and enjoy it soon..the IC tests don’t show dark for ages either cause I thought I nearly had a BFN after MC on one but levels were still 200 that time!! Have you got the digital weeks ones? I think seeing that go form 1-2-3 weeks can be a lot clearer!!

@CAM285 sorry about ur MC. Cycles do tend to be off post MC, seems to be worse the later It is from what I’ve figured but not always the way. My cycle length has doubled (ov at CD35 rather than 16)..I had MMC at 9 weeks.

9DPO now, feeling nothing at all..have a family gathering this weekend so will test Sat to confirm what I’m pretty sure is a BFN so can have a few drinks with the family.

Hi it's been 2 weeks since my miscarriage. I've been using an ovulation kit and according to that I haven't ovulated yet when normally I would have. Is that normal from others experience? X

@ChampooPapi thanks xx
Yes another month of TTC 🙄
DP was down after i told him for the BFN today so the joy of passing the test was short lived.
Also feeling down but it must be PMS!
This weekend would have loved some pampering but we have the mover coming so not gonna be that much rest 😄
Will try to relax though... much needed after this emotional week

How are you getting on?

I'm back in my tww. 3rd time lucky? Last 2 were MC at 5.5 and 4.5 weeks.
This time I'm trying not to think about it and relying on my femometer app to tell me when to test. Had a really good peak ov so everything was timed right. I'm d5po.