Self insemination - Any success stories?!

Line eyes please!

I don’t want to jinx it, but I think I have a line!
Will write more later ladies.

@Carol1980 I try not to test until after AF is due. I try not to keep any tests in the house. I've had wobbles on a couple of cycles and tested 10dpo onwards but mostly I'm quite strict. My OH wants to be involved in testing and that keeps me off the crazy testing train (and firmly on the obsessively googling symptoms train instead 😂).
@LuckyFlash being on holiday when AF is due will hopefully be a good distraction? Hopefully you have O'd and see a temp rise soon. Are you going to continue inseminating until you see a temp rise?

@Lori23TTC happy tww! Fingers firmly crossed for you.
I usually ovulate by CD20, 22 at the very latest, but here I am CD26 no O. Lots of cramps the last three days and lots of watery/EWCM and an increase in libido so hopefully I do O. I wasn't sure if all the stress would have made it not happen this cycle but I do feel very ov-ish. I'm trying to look positively and think my body held off releasing an egg to give me a chance to catch this cycle (and not that all the feelings have completely ruined my hormones even more!). We'll hopefully inseminate today and hope for a big fat temp rise tomorrow or the next day!! My temps were jumping between 36.2 and 35.9 but have now levelled out at around 36 for the last three days as well so, here's hoping!

@MrsKin90 I agree someone should get a positive soon on averages!

We tend to Inseminate when we go to bed but I do find I then feel uncomfortable during the night as I can feel it!

I’m not doing any temps this month and I’m CD18 now, I on average ovulate on CD17, last night I felt so tired and stressed (work is hard atm) that we didn’t do it, I just wanted a early night and to catch up with sleep as I to have not been sleeping well. We did it the night before so hopefully that will be ok. You sometimes just feel like you can’t do anymore mentally and physically and that’s how I felt last night. I think that’s it for us in the Fw so the tww begins! Think I might go back to bbt next month if it’s not a positive as I like to know when i ovulate!

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Sorry to hear of your losses recently.

@MrsKin90 we’re the same, we always inseminate before dinner and DH cooks while I lie legs in the air watching tv haha

@Carol1980 last month I tested at 10dpo and the bfn made me sad all day. I was kicking myself for testing early because it’s not a definitive answer. So I’m going to hold off until after AF this month.

This month I’ll be on holiday when AF is due so either it will be a lovely thing to celebrate or I’ll be able to have a good time and drink all I like so hopefully I’ll feel ok either way.

That said I’m not sure if I’ve ovulated this month. I had all the signs 3 days ago (ovulation cramps, EWCM, positive OPK) but my temps haven’t really risen since. However I’ve been sleeping appallingly (basically not at all) as work has been stressful so I’m hoping temps are off because of that. Won’t be getting my hopes too high though.

Surely one of us has to get their bfp this month!

@MrsKin90
Excellent idea !!

Quick question, what DPO do you guys generally test ? I'm such a testing slut, I end up buying the cheap internet ones and despite the fact that I know I'm going to be dissapointed, I end up tearing and feeling down that it's negative.....I clearly have zero will power 🤣

@Carol1980 I'm hoping to see some BFPs on this thread soon! The law of averages says this thread is due some! 🤞🤞

I've decided as I want to stick legs in the air for a bit after inseminating, that's a good opportunity for hubby to learn some extra cooking skills and get lunch/dinner ready whilst I perculate! Extra positives 😊

Thank you for the well wishes but yeah I'm also conscious of not making the chat sad x

My hope is that we are successful this month as it would be such good news for my mum x

Thanks ladies. Definitely a difficult time but my mum was a strong lady and didn't believe in moping so I'm doing my best to take baby steps forward and trying for a baby is a good way to get back into the real world and remember life isn't all bad!

Oh Carol I'm sorry about your dad. My mum's passing wasn't unexpected as she had a terminal diagnosis, but it came much earlier than expected (she'd been given until Xmas) and was due to complications from a different condition. It doesn't make it any easier knowing it's a when and not if. Your poor mum. Sending you lots of strength and hugs x

I didn't want to sadden the thread or anything, so I hope people don't feel awkward about carrying on talking about TTC ❤️

@Carol1980 sorry to hear about your dad ❤️ Sending you lots of love too xx

@MrsKin90 I am so sorry to hear about your mum, I can’t imagine how you feel. Sending you lots of love in this sad time ❤️ Xxxxxx

@MrsKin90 really sorry to hear about your mum x
I lost my dad on Friday night there and I've just been back and forth from my mums house trying to sort things our x
I'm doing ok though, my dad was an alcoholic, heavy smoker, had a heart attack nearly 8 years ago and a stroke 2 years ago, but never ever took any of his medication so it's always been a case of when and not if 😬

It's such a weird time though x

Hi everyone, I've been very much MIA recently.
Welcome @Carol1980 and @Oilyoilyoilgob! Glad you've found this thread and hopefully this method works for us all soon!

@Carol1980C - I think it's normal to have a bit of leakage. The theory is sperm get where they're going quite quickly and an orgasm just helps. I wouldn't worry about the leakage, it can't stay in there forever! That being said I do take the syringe out most of the time beforehand, just because it's even messier to remove if I leave it in until after!!

I'm CD24 and still no ovulation according to bbt which is fine as haven't tried much at all.
I very sadly lost my mum in the time I've been gone after a very stressful four weeks of all around agony. I am completely devastated and not surprised my egg is evading me. We still inseminated today as I had EWCM and thought we should try if we can. The positive of this method I guess being my hubby still managed to DTD even if I am not in the mood. I feel a bit lost. I wouldn't be surprised if I don't ovulate at all this cycle to be honest. I would just like a baby now please.

I haven't come to depress everyone, but just wanted to try and get back into trying and having something positive to think about!

Where is everyone else in their cycle? Good luck to anyone on the tww!

@primrosechill thank you, and I’m really sorry about your miscarriage-I hope you’re ok as that sounds like a tough six months for you 💚

It really has opened my eyes, I never quite imagined I’d be ttc this way!

Having this group of us really does make a difference, yesterday was the first time I felt at peace with this as the realisation dawned that this is the story for other people too 😊

Seeing @Carol1980 post about orgasms while the syringe is in is giving food for thought, I guess you could maybe take the syringe out just before? During our therapy we went through the very inner workings of Male and female anatomy before/during and after sex and arousal and I found out things I never knew 😄 incl about the cervix lowering and ‘dipping’ for sperm. I haven’t got to that stage yet but maybe taking the syringe out just before orgasm would be ok?

Thanks for the welcome ladies x

Like others have posted it's actually a relief to find couples who have this issue as well !!

I'm currently 7 dpo....second cycle of self insemination.

Thought I would tell you what I use and see if it's either a good idea or a bad one.
I use the fertility friend conceive gel although I have used preseed in the past.
I'm using a calpol mediction plunger, you know the one which doesn't have the syringe tip on it, I had read that this is a good one to use ? But only cause I had read it online.
Other than that it's just like you have all mentioned, legs up, try to orgasm etc etc

My question is.....do you not find that if you orgasm while the syringe is in that it ends up getting pushed back and you have....leakage 🙊 from the vajayjay area I mean ?

I meant to say “I have always* found” - fat fingers/tired eyes haha - night night all

@Oilyoilyoilgob awww I’m glad you found us! Honestly, I have found MumsNet to be a godsend - in the last six months, I have been stressed by vaginismus and conceiving, decided to start inseminating, been ttc, conceived, miscarried, had questions around post-MC, started ttc again... through all of this I have also found someone in a situation similar to mine on these forums - it really does make you realise that there’s no one way to make a baby and that so many people go through the ups and downs! Keep us updated on how you’re getting on and glad to hear you anf your husband already managed to find the positives of this setup!

@Lori23TTC thanks for the tips re primrose oil!

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Everyone, thank you so, so much for such a lovely welcome. Not lying, I’m in tears. I’ve felt a bit alone the last couple of weeks trying to get my head around this.
We have sessions with a psychosexual therapist which has helped enormously-both sex and relationship wise. The therapist is the only one apart from me and husband who knows about this so finding this group today just made a weight lift off me. Like ‘I’m not alone in this’.

Thanks for all the encouragement on it not being the typical way to conceive-I’m a control freak and had pictured fairytale sex, regularly and hey ho, I’d be pregnant and all would be well! Today something switched for me and @LuckyFlash thank you for letting me know you’re finding it fun!

Chatting to husband tonight and we’re both hoping as it takes a pressure off that we can enjoy sex/foreplay for what it is and if sex happens that’s a good bonus! I’ve already told him I get an orgasm just before or after the syringe 😄

Really, thank you all so much for being kind and understanding and sharing your stories on here. I’m looking forward to sharing the journey with you all xx

@primrosechill evening primrose oil helps improve the quality of cervical mucus, I take it after my period finishes and then once I e ovulated I stop... they say you must not take it past ovulation though as it’s dangerous in early pregnancy, I haven’t taken it this month tho and I’ve still had loads of ewcm... 5 days of it so far! I agree I think a lot of people think everyone else is having loads of sex when in reality it’s probably not like that. X

It’s so interesting that most of you are inseminating because of your partner’s issues. Am I the only one on here because of “my” part? (Vaginismus makes penetrative sex uncomfortable most of the time, hence the insemination!) Regardless, I can completely relate to wishing we could just conceive “normally” - although the more I talk to people the more I realise how many different sex problems there are out there so I wonder what even is “normal” anyway! Plus I guess for same-sex couples, that way isn’t even an option.

@Lori23TTC @LuckyFlash primrose oil? I dont think I’ve heard of it for TTC, just in pregnancy - how/why do you use it?

@LuckyFlash yay to getting fertile CM! The evening P does help so that’s good! That’s what I’m doing, everyday for the 3 days and ovulation day can’t do anymore than that. We are both coming up to the dreaded tww!! Hopefully it will go quickly!

@Oilyoilyoilgob welcome! Similar situation to me, the pressure of ttc has meant performance issues for my husband but this takes the pressure off, I want a family so badly I will do anything and this seems like a pretty easy thing to do in the grand scheme of things so try to relax, i also would have liked to conceive with being a romantic setting but life just isn’t like it is in the movies and nothing is perfect.
Try not to let it cause arguments, I get it though I’ve had a few with my partner too when you feel so frustrated and annoyed but it’s not something they can control, i have to try and remember that as my husband would love nothing more than to be a father.
Plus when I’m on my period I cry at everything, I think it makes us all a bit off in one way or another so don’t be so hard on yourself Xx

Welcome @Carol1980 and @Oilyoilyoilgob!

@Oilyoilyoilgob my DH has the same thought as you at first and really wanted conception to be a loving experience but actually we have both really enjoyed insemination once we’ve got down to it. It’s feels quite fun and proactive and more like we’re ‘trying for a baby’ than just having sex does. And we still get to enjoy a fun sex life without the pressure outside the FW. So you may come round to the idea! I track my bbt - I almost always remember although it took a little while to get into a routine. Now it’s second nature. If you miss the odd one though it’s fine you’ll still get an overall picture at the end of the month. I also find opks very helpful. I’ve been tracking for 4 months now and probably could stop given I know when I’m going to ovulate but now I’m on a roll I find it all quite easy to keep up with and it makes me more relaxed rather than stressed as it seems to with other people. Personal choice I suppose - I like to be in control of as much as possible when there are so many variables outside of your control

@carol1980 I don’t wait 10 mins but DH’s is always pretty liquid and easy to use. Definitely have an orgasm yourself - there’s got to be something in it for us girls if nothing else lol!

@MrsCSmith how are you getting on? Did AF come yet?

@Lori23TTC we are almost cycle buddies. I’m CD19 and Think I ovulated today. I got my peak opk so if my cycle is as normal then tomorrow my temp will rise. We inseminated today and every day for three days before so feeling positive.

This was the first month I had any fertile CM! A fair bit of wet and even a little EWCM a couple of days ago so I’m delighted! I’m putting it down to the evening primrose oil I’ve been taking. Hoping it’s a good sign

Hello everyone, can I join in? My husband recommended a look after him researching the idea of self inseminating🙈 so here I am!

He has performance issues with ED and although getting a bit better, the pressure to conceive due to our ages (I’m late 30s and he’s early 40s) was getting too much for us both. We’d decided in January this year to try properly but the ED for penetrative sex has made this difficult. He is ok with foreplay and touching so I know we’ll be able to collect sperm. Plus I’m hoping doing this means any type of sex will be fun and relaxing and sexy, not just a focus on getting pregnant!

I have to hold my hands up and say this last week of me on my period has given us huge rows over this, which I feel awful for. I had in my head conceiving while having loving, penetrative sex so when he suggested this it just felt so opposite to how I imagined, that I was horrible about it 😔
Coupled with pmt, a good friend having her baby two weeks ago and another friend due a baby anytime now I just went a bit mad. Literally the last few months I feel like I’m going a bit crazy 😞

Reading up on this and this thread has honestly made me feel so much better about this. So thank you all so much. I’m going to buy the syringes and start this month. I’ve been tracking my period and I have normally around a 32 days cycle.

Bought ovulation strips and a thermometer but I haven’t used either as talking about trying to get pregnant was getting us both upset and wound up. Does everyone remember to take their temperature on waking up? I just feel a bit clueless about it all 😄 mixed in with the fact the thought of labour absolutely terrifies me, part of me is like wtf am I doing with my life 🙈

Sorry for such a long essay xx

@primrosechill I’m doing ok, I’m CD15 and getting all the symptoms of ovulation, I tend to ovulate on CD17 so assuming it will be around Thursday! We dtd normally on Saturday and insemenated last night, will do it for the next 3 days too until Thursday and hopefully thar will do it!
Glad your work isn’t as stressful... my work is very stressful atm and had a bit of a melt down at the weekend but I think I’m going to start looking for a new job...

@Carol1980 welcome! I just inseminate once he has done it in the cup... do make sure I have orgasm once I’ve put it in though!

@AquarianSquirrel congrats I’m so glad to hear from someone where this has worked!

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Another thing to assist fertilisation is ensuring you have the right amount of vitamins/minerals. I used pregnacare on someone's recommendation and caught the next month! Liver is also very nutrient dense, if you can stomach the taste! And other meats/fish etc