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Anyone else going insane and just wanna rant?

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lilcl95 · 15/01/2020 17:54

Honestly just need someone to be in a similar situation to me to reassure me I'm not the only insane one.
Currently around 9DPO if I ovulated when I think I did (going by the sharp pain and CM). Issue is I came off the pill early December so I don't know if my cycle is as accurate as Flo and I have predicted.
I've had a dull ache, almost like AF is due with some kind of... electric shock mild stabby pains in my lower stomach? The worst part is I don't know if that implantation pain or if I'm actually going to be visited by AF or if my cycles just a complete mess.
Stupidly have done a few of those cheap dip HCG tests which have obviously been BFN but convinced myself one was positive, turns out it wasn't a faint line but fluff from my pjs 😂 Ordered 2 FRER tests, I know I should wait a while longer but I'm so impatient! I absolutely hate disappointment. This is only my first cycle too!
Anyone else in a similar position? Or even just anyone wanna rant about their frustrations?

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lilcl95 · 18/01/2020 17:27

@SanFrancisco49er for a while I'd convinced myself that it's all down to my hormones fluctuating cause of coming off the pill. Earlier I googled 12DPO brown spotting and it came up with a website that explains what most women feel around 12DPO and it was exactly what I'm going through. Now I'm thinking - I haven't bled since I had my withdrawal bleed on 7/12. I had ovulation pain on 6/1. It falls in place that now is the time I'd have implantation bleeding. I've had cramping and the blood that is textbook implantation. So my thoughts are: what's more likely? Randomly bleeding due to the pill that happens to be at the time I should have IB or that I'm actually having implantation spotting? I've not really actually thought about it until now but it just makes more sense. I don't really wanna get my hopes up but I also want to think rationally. Honestly, what do you think?

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SanFrancisco49er · 18/01/2020 17:20

@lilcl95 Its enough to make you go mad isnt it!! Your symptons do sound positive though...do you have a feeling at all? Amd youre still easily within the zone to get a BFP!

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lilcl95 · 18/01/2020 17:16

@SanFrancisco49er I don't even know if my symptoms are just in my head. I've been taking folic acid for a few weeks now just in case. I can't even wait til a missed period because I don't know if my period is even due when I think it is!

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SanFrancisco49er · 18/01/2020 17:10

@lilcl95 im 12/13 dpo too I think no. Absolutely no symptons bar a stuffy nose which I think is just a stuffy nose!
I'm not even going to test unless my period is late. I bought more pre conception vitamins today ready for next month too!
Let us know how you get on testing!
@Whyhaveidonethis I'm so sorry to hear you're so low, it must be so hard.

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lilcl95 · 18/01/2020 16:55

How is everyone getting on?
I'm currently 12DPO. Have had light brown spotting, slightly tender boobs and nausea for 3 days now. I'm not doing a test until Monday morning I've decided because I'm so sick of getting BFN! If it's still a BFN on Monday I've just gotta accept I'm out.

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Whyhaveidonethis · 16/01/2020 22:01

I get ovulation pain too, tbh I'd never recognised it as such until I started temping.

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lilcl95 · 16/01/2020 21:30

@whyhaveidonethis I started to check temps but it was inconsistent for me so I just go by instinct, ovulation pain and EWCM. Before the pill I used to get horrendous ovulation pain on one side and an increase in EWCM. Went on the pill and haven't had it for 7 years so when I felt that pain last Monday I was like yep! I remember this pain.

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Whyhaveidonethis · 16/01/2020 21:23

Thanks @lilcl95 I've tried to relax a bit this cycle, so I didn't temp just did opks so I may actually not even be 9dpo (there goes that hope again) if I go by previous cycles I've ovulated early this month but I can't be sure due to not temping. Normally I ovulate cd14-15 but according to poks (which are normally right for me) I ovulated on CD 12 this month. Honestly just feel so low which is unlike me. I'm normally pretty happy go lucky but today I'm swapping between crying and raging.

Appreciate the reply. X

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lilcl95 · 16/01/2020 21:13

@whyhaveidonethis wow! You have every right to feel low and have a cry. I can't even imagine how difficult it must be by now. Keep powering through! You've come this far, you can keep going. 9DPO is still really early, I'm still getting BFN at 10DPO but have every sign of implantation there is. Try not to give up hope yet, some don't even implant til 12DPO and even then your HCG levels will be too low for a few days x

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Whyhaveidonethis · 16/01/2020 21:08

I'm currently 9dpo and just got a bfn after a 4 hour hold on a FRER. I know its only early but I'm sure I'm not pregnant. Except I still have that glimmer of hope which makes it feel worse somehow. Feel totally lost to be honest. Can't believe how low I feel. I've had 3 cps last year and I'm 42 this year so time is almost out for me. Have just had a little cry. Next month will be cycle 20.

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lilcl95 · 16/01/2020 21:04

@xxlannixx yeah got a positive and then got pains 3 days later so thinking I ovulated on 6th

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xxlannixx · 16/01/2020 20:08

@Pixielou16 its exhausting isnt it. How long have you been TTC?

Pixielou16 · 16/01/2020 19:53

I'm in the same position, but according to Flo, 2DPO. I'm sick of symptom spotting!

xxlannixx · 16/01/2020 19:52

@lilcl95 its about the right time for implantation. Fingers crossed for you. Did you use ovulation test? I know exactly how you feek about getting hopes up, im exactly the same

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lilcl95 · 16/01/2020 19:47

Just went to pee and was light pink blood when I wiped... tiny amount! Again being optimistic and hoping it's implantation and not start of AF. The cramps are barely there today though, haven't had any bleeding yday when the cramps were a little worse.

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lilcl95 · 16/01/2020 19:10

According to Flo, AF is due on 21st but I've had no period after coming off the pill on 7/12 so no clue! It's driving me mad not having a normal cycle cause although I'm convinced I ovulated, I might not have? Ugh. Hate getting my hopes up as soon as I start to make sense of the timings and then realise I don't actually think my cycles back to normal. It's really getting to me now!

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xxlannixx · 16/01/2020 17:54

@SanFrancisco49er PMA is what my OH says... Positive Mental Attitude. Although I want to slap him with the 10 BFN sticks I have everytime he says that 😂 deffo keep me updated.. really want to hear how you get on.

SanFrancisco49er · 16/01/2020 17:15

@xxlannixx sorry to hear AF is here for you. A fresh month starts though, I have a good feeling about February! And thank you, Ill let you know how I get on. I am almost certain it will BFN this month though.

xxlannixx · 16/01/2020 17:11

@SanFrancisco49er not long for you to wait then.... finger and toes crossed for you. AF is in full force right now so i have another one month wait.

SanFrancisco49er · 16/01/2020 16:37

@lilcl95 I had mild cramps last 2 days too which I never get. Or maybe i do and ive never noticed it! HCG doubles every 48 so if you have just implanted, prob still too early to show!

Muda · 16/01/2020 16:36

@lilcl95 haha I think you are right!
I also took a Test this morning as I just couldn’t wait and it was bfn which I kind of expected it to be as Af isn’t
Meant to be coming until 22/23rd. I just seem to have no patience when it comes to
This, it seems to be all that’s on my mind.
When is Af meant to be visiting you?

SanFrancisco49er · 16/01/2020 16:36

@lilcl95 I know I've read similar but last time mine came in the days leading up to my period so just after implantation. But apparently every pregnancy is different so who knows! I didn't get nausea and sore boobs until a few weeks after BFP though.

I google EVERYTHING too - had a slight rash on my hand for about half an hour today, checked google and it is emphatically not a sign of pregnancy 😂

@xxlannixx due on Monday so a big weekend ahead! Ill test tmrw and then leave til sunday if nothing. How about you?

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lilcl95 · 16/01/2020 16:03

So I stupidly took a test this morning, obviously was a BFN. If my cramps are down to implantation then I don't think I'll get a BFP for a few more days? I'm trying to be optimistic here and not put my cramps down to impending AF. They feel different though and they're a lot milder than yesterday so I'm hoping that's a good sign.

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lilcl95 · 16/01/2020 16:02

@xxlannixx it's so annoying just not knowing where your cycle is at! Fingers crossed you get your BFP soon

@SanFrancisco49er I've been reading up on this a lot and you don't get symptoms until around a week post implantation so that's around 3 weeks post ovulation! I think the slight hormonal changes can make you feel dizzy and that can make you nauseous but I would worry too much if you haven't got any symptoms. Some women don't even get implantation pain or bleeding!

@muda yes! Me and my partner now have a running joke where whenever I say I have a headache or feel sick or any kind of illness he says "google it" because we know the first thing that comes up will be pregnancy 😂 I think you could google "my hand is falling off" and the first result would be "hand falling off - symptom of early pregnancy"

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Muda · 16/01/2020 12:34

Do you all find that you are looking for symptoms too and then google it to see if it might be pregnancy related! I just hope it isn’t setting me up with false hope.
It is a great relief to find so many ladies going through the same thing, I don’t think my partner gets the obsession with everything and just tells me to wait!

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