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TTC baby no.1- totally have this sussed right?.. wrong!

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Lellis92 · 09/01/2020 22:53

Hi everyone, totally new to this but feeling a bit confused and hoping to find some people in the same boat!
Aged 28, current mama to only fur babies 🐶🐶TTC baby no.1

So we are due to get married in May and have been holding out for a year til an acceptable time to start trying for a baby as we are both desperate, held off til now as we thought on off chance it happened first time I wouldn’t be too far gone by the wedding... have been using OPK for the last 6 months and an app to try and get an idea of my cycle, average 30 days with positive ovulation tests so far always on days 14 or 15 .. totally Sussed my cycle right?? WRONG!
First month of trying currently on day 16 and no positive ovulation tests .... whats going on?!
Worried I’m not ovulating or something’s gone wrong somewhere - anyone had similar experiences or in the same boat starting the journey?
Get involved please 😘

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Wearyandfeelingold · 21/01/2020 13:27

Hi...do you mind if I join in as well?

Hubby and I are TTC our first baby for the past couple of months. I was just trying naturally so didn't use OPK's, just an app where I had been logging dates and then they tell you expected ovulation dates. I am all new to this...so any advice you can give would be really helpful...do you think I should use an OPK and if so what do you recommend? I am beginning to panic that I have left this all a bit late....both late 30s.

Any advice is welcome.

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Lellis92 · 21/01/2020 11:21

@RestingPlaces hi! Oh really how exciting- yeah we were the same tbh I wasn’t sure what to do but I thought it may take a few months and by that point I wouldn’t be too massively pregnant at the wedding if we did conceive before it! Good luck in whatever you decide- Thankyou!

@Balbaby I really hope so - just been to the toilet again and nothing now - this is messing with me too much lol!

@Nmew thanks! Ah I can’t imagine how you feel right now it’s so scary isn’t it - I think when I do a test I’m not going to look for a while 🙈😂
Definitely try another test either later or tomorrow morning and let us know!!

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Balbaby · 21/01/2020 11:16

@Nmew how exciting! Good luck to you, I really hope it shows something. But remember if it doesn't, it's not a definite bfn and you've can try and again in a few days!

Will look forward to hearing more later on Grin

Nmew · 21/01/2020 11:12

I have a first response in my drawer @Balbaby but I’ll have to hold and not drink anything and test in a few hours. If I see something on that test I’ll believe it more!

Nmew · 21/01/2020 11:10

I have my fingers crossed for you! Really hope it’s just a symptom for you xx

I still don’t trust it, I really hope it is a bfp, will test again on a better test later I think

Balbaby · 21/01/2020 11:09

@Nmew I can definitely see a line too! Its much more obvious in the light photo but I can still see it in the dark one! Are you close to any supermarkets today to get a first response early test or clearblue early? would be good to see if you can see something faint there too... if you can, i would defo rule out an evap line and say its something positive!

@Lellis92 Keep thinking positive, it has every chance of being spotting during pregnancy!

RestingPlaces · 21/01/2020 11:09

I get married in May too! We're currently debating whether I should come off the pill now, or whether we wait until after the wedding so that I don't have a period over our honeymoon... but I cannot wait to get started!

Fingers crossed that this isn't AF 🤞

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Lellis92 · 21/01/2020 10:33

@Nmew I really hope mine isn’t AF - I’ve read that you can have spotting through the first trimester and it’s fine so I’m hoping I’m still in with a chance!

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Lellis92 · 21/01/2020 10:32

@Nmew omg I can totally see a line!!!!!
Ahhhhh I’m 10dpo today too but I’m too scared lol!
There is definitely something there though- ahhhh congratulations May be in order I think! 🎉🎉

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Nmew · 21/01/2020 10:27

@Lellis92 I hope it’s not af, maybe implantation or something

Nmew · 21/01/2020 10:26

I have a confession ladies, I caved and tested and now I’m afraid I’m seeing an evap! Lol this is why I shouldnt test early 😅

Dark photo was taken in time frame and light photo was after time frame. I’m 10dpo today. What do you think? I’ve been so convinced this morning even as testing that it would be stark white!

TTC baby no.1- totally have this sussed right?.. wrong!
TTC baby no.1- totally have this sussed right?.. wrong!
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Lellis92 · 21/01/2020 10:25

I can imagine - yeah I bet it’s so annoying when people ask like just let it happen and we will tell you when we’re ready! Haha.

Yeah my AF is only ever 2 days long- I have a little bit of brown at the beginning and then two days (one where it’s quite heavy and the second is light)
But I’m not usually early espescially not 5 days early, I’m so confused!
I had my some spotting on Friday and again yesterday but it’s only when I wipe and very small amounts - what on earth is going on lol?!
I find myself going to the toilet all the time just to check 🙈

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Nmew · 21/01/2020 10:23

I know that feeling @Balbaby me and DH got married last year and have had lots of questions and “hurry ups” from family. I found a decent non alcoholic red wine in Tesco that I just poured into an empty old wine bottle that people know I drink so it was easy enough to trick if I was “drinking” at a gathering. Though I’m not sure how to do the tricking if it’s at a bar or something.

Balbaby · 21/01/2020 10:03

@Lellis92 I know, it gets worse once your married trust me! And it's awkward when you are actually trying as well! We've kept it to ourselves too, but people can't resist asking!

That's odd, it's brown though so isn't new blood, which you might expect with af... although sometimes the first day of my af can be darker, is yours?

How long has it been since you had your last lot of spotting after ovulation?

When I had my two days of spotting in between my long gap, I still used a tampon because I found it easier to check if there was any new blood coming out.

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Lellis92 · 21/01/2020 09:46

@Balbaby it’s always the same you have nothing going on for ages and then lots of things happening when you could do without them! Why do people assume that a baby is next I mean we’re not even married yet and people are asking so are you going to start trying after the wedding- I mean one thing at a time haha! Which is why we are keeping it to ourselves until it happens.

Sorry for tmi but Iv just gone to the toilet and wiped and quite a bit of brown blood- I’m worried now that AF is coming but I’m not due for 5 days yet
X

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Balbaby · 21/01/2020 09:39

Yeah it's a difficult one, because if anything did go wrong I feel I'd always blame myself for that glass of wine. I would be more than happy to go without in the tww but it's typical we have some milestone family birthdays coming up that are unavoidable. I feel like everyone is always expecting us to announce that we are pregnant anyway (recently married) so I don't want to give anyone any excuses to pile more pressure on asking questions :)

Think I'll see what my symptoms are like in the next week or so and make a decision from there

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Lellis92 · 21/01/2020 09:30

@Hol54321 omg I’m so sorry I didn’t even see your comment for some reason- welcome! We are all in similar situations with being in the early months of TTC so nice to share our experiences.
I’m glad you finally picked up your ovulation and fingers crossed for you now- Iv had cramps to literally since 3dpo though which is really early but I’ve had them almost every day for a week now along with back ache/ constipation/ and brown spotting on 5/6/7 dpo so let’s hope we get our BFP this time... I’m so scared of seeing a negative though because I feel Iv had so many symptoms!

@Balbaby at least you DTD around the time of a strong positive opk so fingers crossed now the wait is so annoying I can’t wait tbh to just see if it’s a positive or AF so I know where I am - the not knowing kills me! I’ve been more patient than I expected I’d be lol.
Thanks I’l have a look at that now 😊

I’m not a big drinker tbh anyway so I only tend to drink on occasions so the no alcohol I end up doing without even trying but food wise I mean Iv not stopped myself from eating anything I’m just trying to keep balanced until I know for sure - yeah it’s awkward when you have events to go to knowing what the best thing to do is - just go with what you think is best! X

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Balbaby · 21/01/2020 09:18

Also question for you ladies... what are your views on drinking alcohol or eating foods not usually recommended during pregnancy during the TWW? I read that until the about week 4/5 of pregnancy that the cells develop enough to start sharing blood, so the TWW should be fine?

I have a couple of parties coming up where it may look suspicious if I dont have one or two wines?

Balbaby · 21/01/2020 09:15

So my clearblue is now stuck on the static for the second day, so I wont be able to reuse that this cycle anyway, but thought I would try a cheaper OPK too just to see if still in my surge. The cheapy stick from yesterday was dark, so was in line with the CBD, today its faded again so I definitely feel as though I ovulated yesterday or through the night. Now in the TWW - although behind you ladies so looking forward to hearing your updates as motivation during the wait :)

@Lellis92 You have done so much better than me when I first started testing in November before my long wait for the AF - I think I was testing from 10 days DPO, because I was so inpatient. On the plus I didnt feel as though a bfn was too disheartening because I then told myself I was testing too early and to wait another day may make all the difference :) Now looking back it was too early and a definite waste of money! You may have used it already but on the ClearBlue website they have a pregnancy test date calculator which tells you the earliest day you could start testing (although all the usual caveats of testing early still apply). @Nmew might be worth you having a look on their too, although it will probably encourage early testing :) Good luck to both of you anyway, not long to go!

@Hol54321 fingers crossed your symptoms sound promising! When are you going to test?

@Foreverblowingbubbles18... great username :) sorry to hear about your mmc, fingers crossed for you this month. what cycle day are you?

okiedokieme · 21/01/2020 08:50

You are 28, just have plenty of sex and don't overthink it, you are likely to conceive easily. All this testing is completely unnecessary! Have funGrin

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Lellis92 · 21/01/2020 08:44

@Nmew ooh we are so close, do you have a feeling that this might be the month for you? I’ve had cramps And back pain since like 3dpo which is stupidly early and I also had brown spotting 5/6/7 dpo so I’m really hopeful but exactly the same as you I’m scared incase it’s a bfn because I know how rare it is to catch first time. I think I’m going to test first thing on Thursday tbh I can’t wait much longer haha!

@Foreverblowingbubbles18 welcome! So sorry about your MC, that must have been hard for you but on the positive side at least you’ve had positive opks now so that’s some reassurance for you to know your trying at the right time and your body is doing what it’s meant to.
Are you in the TWW now? X

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Foreverblowingbubbles18 · 20/01/2020 23:13

I was on pill for 18yrs solid, came off and it took me 10 months to begin ovulating, fell pregnant that first month then had mmc at 9 wks. Since then my cycle has got longer but am in my 2nd month TTC and have had positive OPKs both months so fingers crossed it doesnt take too long x

Nmew · 20/01/2020 22:48

Af is due Saturday for me, so we are very close in this cycle! I was so adamant I would wait till Saturday but my patience is fading now, though I’m still scared of taking one because of the disappointment of a bfn. Do you think you will be able to wait to test?

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Lellis92 · 20/01/2020 22:22

@Balbaby yeah I agree so much better to take the guess work out of it and that smiley face is so reassuring haha! I know their a little more expensive but totally worth it I think - thank god you figured that out so you know for future now and didn’t miss your chance this month! Yeah dtd is vital now for sure to give you the best chances- then the waiting game starts which is literally the worst this is only our first month trying but we tried about a year and a half ago for 4 months too but then got engaged so put it off for a little bit!

Af is due for me on Sunday but I think I may test on Thursday which will be 12dpo for me- it’s taken all my willpower just to get me here I don’t think I could wait til AF! Had so many symptoms though so fingers crossed but don’t want to build it up as I know it’s slim chances really ..x

@Nmew the wait is painful isn’t it - Iv got a couple of cheap tests too- I’m too scared to test at the same time though lol!
It really is I’m the worst I think I’ve read every single thread possible and the ins and outs of pregnancy symptoms 😂
Oh I’ve never heard of that before but can understand why it would be a bit confusing it sounds complicated, when us AF due for you? I’m curious as we are both 9dpo as to when you’ll test too!
Good luck both!!!
X

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Hol54321 · 20/01/2020 22:18

Hi ladies! Its my first proper month planning/tracking and TTC. Im currently cycle day 28. My app is saying a 34 day cycle this month with AF due on Mon (27th) and that sounds right because i had a positive OPK on CD20.
I haven't relied on OPKs because the first month using them i never got a positive. Because of this i used my left over tests this month which ironically worked but we've regularly done the deed all month, especially around the positive test. A few days before that i also had very evident EWCM.
Yesterday I had lower back cramps (exactly like i get before AF) but that went away and tonight I've had twinges in my lower belly. My breasts feel slightly like before AF but they're sensitive anyway so not reading into that too much. No other symptoms yet. X