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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Anyone looking for a friend

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Sammiantha2020 · 04/01/2020 22:18

Hi Ladies, any of you out there around cd 8 looking for someone to chat with during the rollercoaster ride that is ttc? A lot of my friends already have kids and I’m feeling a bit left behind. xo

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Wintergal · 05/01/2020 23:01

@mumworkstudywine welcome to the crazy gang! Think we are feeling the same way and would be great to have folk to vent to! Baby dust to you x

mumworkstudywine · 05/01/2020 22:52

Can I jump in :) I'm 27, married to my husband who is 33, we have a 7y/o DS and trying for #2. Had the coil removed two weeks ago, followed by a bitch of a period and now I'm on CD 12. Had some clear but not strong OPKs which seem to be fading but we did the dance three times this week so who knows if it was an early ovulation? Told myself I wouldn't become obsessed with POAS but bulk order more OPKs and internet cheapies today. I'm having twinges in my left side so if I haven't already OV'd I'm hoping it happens this week! I'm so impatient and everyone around me is announcing their 2020 pregnancies (four so far!) Would be great to have some friends to go through this with as my husband would think I'm mad if he knew how much I'm obsessing.

mumworkstudywine · 05/01/2020 22:51

Can I jump in :) I'm 27, married to my husband who is 33, we have a 7y/o DS and trying for #2. Had the coil removed two weeks ago, followed by a bitch of a period and now I'm on CD 12. Had some clear but not strong OPKs which seem to be fading but we did the dance three times this week so who knows if it was an early ovulation? Told myself I wouldn't become obsessed with POAS but bulk order more OPKs and internet cheapies today. I'm having twinges in my left side so if I haven't already OV'd I'm hoping it happens this week! I'm so impatient and everyone around me is announcing their 2020 pregnancies (four so far!) Would be great to have some friends to go through this with as my husband would think I'm mad if he knew how much I'm obsessing.

Wintergal · 05/01/2020 22:38

Yeah am with you let's get these BFP this year

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Sammiantha2020 · 05/01/2020 22:37

Maybe another wk would just make it harder 😔.
Let’s get some major bd’ing done this wk ladies...we need to get our BFP’s this year!

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Wintergal · 05/01/2020 22:30

What a small world we are so close! I know that feeling of dread! Wish we had another week!

NicoleR14 · 05/01/2020 22:16

@wintergal I'm in Falkirk lol!

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Sammiantha2020 · 05/01/2020 22:14

I’m from Glasgow, however we are currently living in Newcastle for work.
I’m dreading it ...it’s like going bk to school after the summer hols 😆.

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Wintergal · 05/01/2020 22:11

@Sammiantha2020 am in Glasgow what about you? Yeah maybe hoping the workload will distract me lol

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Sammiantha2020 · 05/01/2020 21:41

Fx the workload isn’t too intense as I’m too busy thinking about getting pg 🤣.
Where are you from @Wintergal?

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Wintergal · 05/01/2020 21:26

Yeah am back to work too after 17 days off and dreading it! Deal let's keep each other positive. This will be our month! Xx

Anniepole · 05/01/2020 21:25

I think if I get a BFN this time I'm going full on with the apps and temp too. Thank you for that advice. I hope this month is good for us all

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Sammiantha2020 · 05/01/2020 21:17

It’s ok...I feel like I’m losing it a bit tonight!
Bk to work tomorrow after 17 days off 😢 I could scream!
Maybe this will be our month 💪 we have too keep eachother positive!

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Wintergal · 05/01/2020 20:50

Nothing in particular, think it's just the not known, the waiting and everyone around me having kids

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Sammiantha2020 · 05/01/2020 20:40

@Wintergal what upset you?

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Wintergal · 05/01/2020 20:37

@Sammiantha2020 I hear you I'll silly being upset this evening but I just want to be a mum!

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Sammiantha2020 · 05/01/2020 20:33

I currently use the FF app for recording my bbt & The premom App to upload pics of my cheapie OPKs as it reads them & advises when you are low, high & peak fertility. Bbt on the other hand...won’t help you on the lead up to ovulation, however just after ovulation you have a significant temp drop which proves you actually ovulated (this is my first month).
I just wish it would happen already 😔 I really want to be a mum!

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Anniepole · 05/01/2020 20:24

Hey thanks for replying. So the first 3 months I did nothing at all. Then the next 2 I downloaded the apps and tested on the days they said I’d ovulate and couldn’t get a positive at all. The next month however crazy this might be I just started testing twice a day from cycle day 1 and got my first smiley face on clear blue. But didn’t get a flashing one before. I was just relived because I was starting to worry if I just wasn’t ovulating. What have you been doing? X

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Sammiantha2020 · 05/01/2020 20:04

Hey @Anniepole. I wouldn’t worry too much about not feeling anything...I’ve read many on other threads saying it was the month they least expected it!

How have you changed your approach this month? x

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Anniepole · 05/01/2020 20:01

Hello! I'd love to chat too. We've been trying for the last 6 months and tried the "relaxed approach" until the last month and I thought I'd better get on this properly and track things much more properly. Currently on my TWW But pretty dam sure I'm not pregnant because I feel nothing.

All my friends have kids too. Xx

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Sammiantha2020 · 05/01/2020 19:43

@ceebee21 It feels like we spend so much of our lives trying to prevent it, then when you want it more than anything it’s so out of reach 😢. Do you DTD every other day?

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ceebee21 · 05/01/2020 19:37

I can't say I am very good at staying calm, well not on the inside. I am generally quite laid back... But not about this. I hate the fact that I can't control it xx

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Sammiantha2020 · 05/01/2020 19:24

@ceebee21 I was 6wks after erpc, then 33 days - I was 31 so slowly getting back to normal (whatever that is?).
What do you ladies do to stay calm?

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NicoleR14 · 05/01/2020 18:38

@wintergal Its so hard not to go crazy with them!

ceebee21 · 05/01/2020 17:55

@Sammiantha2020 yes we did, AF arrived about 30 days after my ERPC, since then had one 25 day cycle, then the chemical, so who knows what my actual cycle is ! Xx

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