Anyone TTC second baby?

@Antihop sorry to hear this month wasn't successful, I bet October feels like ages ago.

@Ejb86 let's hope all the signs were right!

anyone else get age-gap anxiety? my small is 4 tomorrow and i'm panicking about a 5 year age gap!

Fingers crossed for you @ejb86

@antihop I get what you mean. I'm noticing pregnant women with toddlers on tow everywhere, and I'm definitely seeing them through rose coloured glasses and ignoring the stressed looking parents and tantrumming kids! Hope you're ok. Going back to regular cycles makes things so much easier to predict after the pill so defo a good thing.x

So today I've had loads of EWCM did an OPK and strongest I've had yet, persuaded hubby to dtd again tonight.

Just worked out, I'll probably either get AF or be testing on Valentines day. Fingers crossed!

This month is not my month. Af arrived yesterday. I only came off the pill in Oct so it's still early days. It's reassuring that AF has come back quickly and regularly after stopping the pill. When I ttc for dd, it happened on my second month so I was hoping I'd get lucky again quickly, but I'm 6 years older and 42.

Yesterday after AF arrived I was on the way home and I kept seeing families with 2 children and it made me feel sad. I had this feeling like my arms were lacking a baby if you know what I mean. Dd would make such a great older sister.

@inahaze the fitbit thing is quite basic, I've basically been logging AF start and end dates for the last year and it gathers the information and uses the averages to predict your next AF and when your fertile days are. You can add extra info like how heavy the flow is, CM type etc. I've just logged AF and I've started to log DTD days as I have a terrible memory. It's been pretty accurate at guessing AF due date (I'm not very regular so the algorithm on averages seems to get it quite close to the mark).

5 nights - good luck! I think you're right about the more you do it the more you want to, I can easily go a month without any but 2 days on the trot now and it doesn't seem as daunting trying again tonight....!
@Lnix the do it when you feel like it mantra doesn't work here either as both me and DH can go a while without DTD and not be bothered!

hope everyone managed to rest over the weekend and get some shagging in! i'm cycle day 6 (second month of trying) and I've challenged my other half to 5 consecutive nights of bonking, which he is more than happy to hahahaha.

I find the more sex we have, the more I want...... if we have a break of a few days I find it difficult to restart again..... anyone else like this?

@SomethingAboutYou how does the fitbit fertility thing work?

i find every app tells me a different ovulation window which is very frustrating, just going to have sex every day instead hahahahaha

@Ellsbells112 similar to you, I have a 4 year old, my new partner doesn't have any kids, he is freaking out about his fertility, i'm tempted just to send him off to the GP for peace of mind

anyone used this home sperm count kits?

@Ejb86 fingers crossed you got the timing right and twice was the magic number 🤞 it is mad how much I worried about falling pregnant if I forgot to take the pill on time, if only I knew how much effort this conception malarkey takes!

@SomethingAboutYou I think I'm in my 2ww, but cant be certain as haven't had a positive OPK. I'm hoping it will all be ok and we've dropped lucky but we only dtd twice this month as we've both been feeling ill. As you said, it's exhausting and almost impossible to find the time with a 2yo and hubby going on long evening runs in training for an endurance event in the summer.

How's everyone doing? I'm in my fertile window according to fitbit and after DTD yesterday I'm not really in the mood to go again but ovulation day is Wednesday so will have to muster up some strength to fit in another one over the next couple of days!
Anyone else find it hard to find the energy to DTD?! 3 yr old DS is exhausting and work busy so 😴😴

Hi ladies, could I join please? I'm 4dpo atm and obsessing already, cycle 6. I know they say it takes 6months to a year but I get depleted every single month. I have a son who is 8 and I conceived him in 2 months but my partner now has no children. I'd like him to get a test done to make sure everything is okay, obviously he is putting it off. Lol I'm probably just being impatient🙄

Anyone else close in time to me?

@Mrssendy @3isthemagic sorry you guys that af came

well well The Witch has finally arrived this morning after 3 days late - blooming thing what a cruel B! Oh well here to the next cycle. I will try to not not trying though next month just relax and not doing OPK or anything. This is cycle 11 of BFN after BFN after BFN and I really am fed up now so a little break would be nice I think. How's everyone doing?

@Antihop Hope you will get BFP this month! You know what pms and early pregnancy symptoms are very similar so you might catch it this cycle! Do you have any other symptoms? Fingers crossed for you! How long have you been trying? x

That's me out, on we go again...

How's everyone doing? AF is due next week but (Tmi alert) I've got a big chin spot which I've been getting in the run up to my period since I've been off the pill. So I don't think this is my month.

@Lnix I’m so sorry that The Witch has showed up :( When will it be our turn right? And you are right that everyone around me is pregnant now! And in my case they either have “whoops” pregnancy or fell pregnant first cycle. Yep some people are just darn lucky! Anyway. Sorry for the negativity it just TTC is hard! I hope you’re doing well OP! My period suppose to arrive today, we’ll see I guess. Although I already feeling it’s happening - I’m having cramps and hot flash currently. Do you think you will try SMEP next cycle? SMEP is very tiring for me to the point I hate DTD! haha! When will you try accupuncture? If I’m still not pregnant by Spring I think I’m going to try it. Next cycle I will not do OPK or SMEP though I think I will just take the relax (well try to) approach and DTD when we want and we shall see - after 11 cycle I’m a bit fed up. x

@Merrz That is exactly the type of period I had! Have you tried doing OPK? Re people around us are now pregnant, oh my goodness that is exactly what happened to me too! SIL announced their unplanned 2nd pregnancy few months ago and hate it that she fell pregnant when their DD is only 9mo (I just really hope she won’t say that how nice it is to only have one baby!). And then 3 of my close friends have also just announced theirs. Two are unplanned, and the other one fall on the first cycle. Why people are so lucky? What did DH and I do wrong that even if we DTD at the right time we still haven’t fallen pregnant?? Why it seems so easy for other couples?! (sigh) anyway! I wish you luck and hope we will have our BFP soon!!!! x

hi everyone, it's been yonks since I've been on mumsnet so sorry if I'm not up to speed with the lingo/etiquette!

TTC number 2, just got my period today, so first month unsuccessful. Spoiled first time as conceived first time (with a different father). Daughter is going to be 4 in February and I have age-gap anxiety! I'm 37, partner is 30.

we had sex every day / every other day last cycle from day 8 until post-ovulation so not sure where it went wrong?! partner is already freaking out he is infertile because he has never had an accidental pregnancy.

my cycle is 26 days roughly, want to do BBT charting but scared I'll get obsessed!

@Lnix sorry af has showed up

@Mrssendy now you say that i wonder if i'm not ovulating then. I've only had 2 periods since they returned and i did think they seemed different. Just 1/2 days of really heavy rather then 5/6 days of fairly heavy and very bright/fresh blood rather than clots (sorry if tmi) also haven't had any cramps or anything

My sis-in-law has just announced she's pregnant, very happy for them but feels like here we f***g go again, as soon as i started ttc 1st time it felt like every other day someone was announcing they were pregnant which just makes you feel even more rubbish about it taking a while

Hi, can I join you please? I am 34, have a 3yr old DS and started ttc #2 this month. I am definitely more highly strung this time round. Conceived DS on cycle 4 and although I did use cheap ovulation sticks on cycle 4 first time (and never got a positive one yet still ended up pregnant 🤷) I am trying not to go down that route yet and just see how things go. Fitbit tells me when it thinks I'm ovulating but cycles are long and a bit random. Had what I thought was IB this month but looks like it was an early AF but annoyingly my head still keeps hoping it was more, especially as I didn't have a BFP with DS until I was 9 days late so I'm clutching at straws. Can't believe how obsessed with it all I've become this time. I think it's the pressure of wanting to get the second baby in an age gap of my choice, which is a very bad idea as it will happen when it happens.

Sorry to hear that @Lnix
I'm 4dpo today, no symptoms to speak of but not expecting anything until at least 10dpo. When I was pregnant with DD I got a negative test at 10dpo but then my boobs were still really sore so did another at 12dpo which was positive. Thinking of testing around 11dpo this time!

@Lnix Ah we’re the same I’m in the TWW as well - AF is due next Tue and we will see. I don’t know why but I can just tell AF is coming. Why are we always act like crazy during TWW?! I have weaned my baby now, so hopefully TTC will be ‘easier’ - who knows. We tried SMEP this cycle and I wonder if we would be lucky. Oh I couldn’t agree more that it is almost impossible to stay and be rational. You know what I’ve been trying to think “it will happen eventually”, but I think it's the uncertainty that makes me nervous. But you are right if GP says so we have to believe it! At least keep it positive right? ;) I’m just really glad in this era we can find people in similar situation online because it really helps me! Are you still doing OPK now? I wonder what other tricks I can do or do I just relax about it? ha!

@Emelene I know right most nights it feel like oh can we just go to sleep. But we would feel horrible the next day and thinking “did we miss our chance this month?” I hope you will get your BFP soon!

@Merrz Hello! First of all well done for carrying breastfeeding above 6 months! I stopped BF last November. When I was still BF my period returned few weeks after my DS started solid and I find the period was different to before pregnancy it was so much lighter and I didn’t have any sore breasts or the usual cramp before period or during. And the CB Digi OPK always showed blank circle for the whole month! It was only the cycle after I completely stopped BF that the CB Digi OPK showed static smile and then I got sore breasts after what I assumed the ovulation day. So in my case I think my period return to normal as in I was actually ovulating after I completely stopped BF. Also I read on Kellymom that it is possible for some mums to have annovulatory cycle during BF. How do you find your period after birth? Any changes?