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Anyone TTC second baby?

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Lnix · 04/01/2020 22:07

Hey! Just looking for some folks in a similar position to start a chat with.

I'm 34 and have been trying for a second child for 6 months. With my first, I didn't realise how lucky we were when we got pregnant in the first cycle with no real trying. I was 30 at the time. Our daughter has just turned 4.

This time, I tried the relaxed approach for a couple of months to start with and then resorted to opks and an app to give some guidance as to when would be a good time to try.

Anyway, after trying for 6 months with no joy, I'm beginning to feel a bit anxious. I can't stop wondering if there's a problem and can't stop googling!!

Please join if you're in a similar position and wanting to chat! X

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MrsHP2018 · 04/01/2020 23:17

Lnix... Thanks, dh is okay and has done an amazing job at decreasing his diabetic number in such a short space of time but his diabetes is in his genes so isn't necessarily refusbale and we're not sure what damage it's done (if any!) to his fertility as he had no idea he had it until June this year! We've got test (well my dh has) at the end of this month so that will be helpful for us and I will book an appointment with the doctor if we're not successful this time around. We tried the ovulation sticks this cycle so fingers are 🤞

MrsHP2018 · 04/01/2020 23:13

Hi, I was worried about the depo injection but my cycles came back within a couple of months and have been very regular since... Far quicker than the year they say it could take. Sounds stupid but I'm not sure if this means my fertility is back to normal or not Confused. Hoping it does!

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Lnix · 04/01/2020 23:11

Fingers crossed for you! It can be hard when you feel the odds are stacked against you! Hope your husband is ok. I'll be 35 in October - apparently they say to consult your GP after 6 months of trying after 35 🤔 which when you're 34 makes you hear the tick of the biological clock pretty loudly! But then again I find it hard to believe that it all unravels at the strike of midnight in your 35th birthday...surely it's just a guide! 😆

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bookishtartlet · 04/01/2020 23:03

Hey! I'm TTC #2. I'm also 34 and have a 4 year old who was conceived first cycle. I'm in my third month of trying, stopped taking the pill in October and my cycles have been difference lengths but I am now back at 28 days so hopefully this will be my month. I'm not doing anything other than tracking on the Ovia app, maybe I should invest more effort.

SNKB14 · 04/01/2020 23:02

I had my last depo injection in September. DS will be 3 in March. I have just finished university and qualified as a nurse so we are ready for number 2 whenever they decide to appear but I am very concerned about fertility issues following the depo, but what’s done is done now and hopefully AF will return sooner rather than later Confused

MrsHP2018 · 04/01/2020 23:01

Hi all,
We're TTC baby number 2 having had my first (with an ex partner) 10years ago 😮. My darling husband (dh) and I have been trying for 7 months having come of the depo injection in Feb and cycles returning to normal quite quickly! We're facing the hurdles of being slightly older- dh is 40 this year and I'm 35 in July- and my dh has been diagnosed with diabetes type 2 Shock so we feel like the cards are slightly against us but hoping 2020 is our year! Fingers crossed for everyone Smile

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Lnix · 04/01/2020 22:59

Ah, hope so! Makes it difficult as you can just not do these things. I'm away slightly later in my cycle, day 16/17/18 so hoping the stars align and I ovulate before that! Do you use opks or anything? I have cheapie ones off Amazon but they seem to do what it says in the tin. I think!

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Skybooks · 04/01/2020 22:51

Let's just talk crazy baby making plans. I'm away for 3 days with work this month on CDs 12/13/14 so really hoping to still be in with a chance.

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Lnix · 04/01/2020 22:46

Sounds like a good idea! I take just a standard conception/pregnancy vitamin but tbh getting fed up with it as it's the size of a horse pill and feel like I've been taking it for years! Sorry I misread the date of your MMC. Poor you, I just can't even imagine how awful that must have been for you.

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Skybooks · 04/01/2020 22:40

MMC was over a year ago now (a shocking fact that keeps hitting me in the face) this time last year I was very not ok.

DH and I just today started to take co enzyme q10 which apparently helps fertility health and sperm strength and motility in men. If nothing else I'm hoping for a placebo effect.

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Lnix · 04/01/2020 22:35

Cycle day 2 for me too...I like your new year attitude! 2020 will be the year! So sorry to hear of your MMC last month. Hope you're doing ok xx

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Skybooks · 04/01/2020 22:31

Hi, I'm TTC #2.
DS is 4 and was conceived within 6 months.

We've been TTC #2 for quite a while now, we had a MMC in Dec 18 so TTC again for about 10 months take away the time I was still recovering.

I'm cycle day 1 today and new year, new baby hopefully!

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Lnix · 04/01/2020 22:29

Aw I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Such a difficult time emotionally and physically. Fingers crossed things settle for you soon and you feel ready to try again.

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FriedasCarLoad · 04/01/2020 22:24

We also got complacent after conceiving in the first cycle with our first baby. We started trying for a second child in March. I conceived in November but had an early miscarriage. Want to start trying again once the bleeding stops. Late 30s

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