TTC after loss penguins get fit & healthy in 2020

@footprintsintheslow thank you and sorry for your loss. I'm sorry you're having a hard day. Visiting my daughters grave often makes me really angry too. Have you found this last week particularly difficult? I'm finding it hard to pull myself out of the bouts of sadness without any distractions. x

Is anybody finding it hard to stay healthy now we're on lockdown? So hard to find the motivation now that it's only my husband that sees me 😂

@BunnytheBee these work outs are great it's 30 seconds of an exercise like stretching or jogging or the plank then 30 seconds rest. I feel like I can manage any thing for 30 seconds. It's live at 9am weekdays and he has about 750,000 people tuning in at the same time so it feels like you are part of something bigger. Plus he's hot. Not my cup of tea but I can appreciate that he's hot.

As for working out in your garden, I like to hula hoop in the garden. My neighbours laugh but in a nice way.

@1stbabs I'm so sorry you are here but welcome anyway. We all understand each other well here. You can share as much or as little as you want. X

I've not had a great day today. I'm so tired of feeling so sad. We went to visit the grave (on my once a day allowed walk) and I just felt so angry at everything. I think I'm going to take it on the posters 'who's pregnancy is ruined' 🙄😉

@BunnytheBee thanks so much for the warm welcome. I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter ❤️ ...It's so hard to be motivated to stay on track with losing weight isn't it! Slow and steady wins the race .. we will get there eventually ☺️

Hi @1stbabs Im so sorry for the loss of your baby girl. I lost my daughter in February last year at 40 weeks and a year on it’s still tough but I suppose early days! Well done on losing a stone - thats fantastic! I’m losing weight but slowly.

A few of us have found the ruined pregnancy posts upsetting. This is absolutely a better place for you. The women on this thread are so wonderful, strong and supportive 💕

Hello, I hope you don't mind me joining. I had a tfmr at 19 weeks in December after finding out that my baby girl was very unwell. I've been trying to get fit and healthy in the three months we were told to wait before ttc again. I have lost a stone and only have 5lb to make it to my pre baby weight, so I'm getting there!

I've seen a lot of negativity on the conception boards re ttc at the moment, but I imagine a lot of those women don't really know how deeply losing a baby hurts. I've found this and all the "ruined pregnancy" posts really upsetting too. Anyway you ladies seem so supportive so this is a better place to be.

Wishing us all the best luck 🌈

I’m going to give it a go today!

I feel like, watching a video (rather than being in a class), I might get bored half way through and turn it off but we’ll see!

I’ll keep you posted...

@BunnytheBee no not weird at all! If I saw a neighbour doing it I'd think good for them! Even not in lockdown I'd just think oh that's a good idea and better than sclepping to the gym.

So I was just having a look on YouTube for workouts. My favourite gym class is body combat and there are some full workouts on Les Mills and other channels like Pop Sugar Fitness (new to me). I’m quite excited at the prospect of being able to do these workouts at home and have some variety so I don’t feel like I have to run several times a week.

Would it be weird for me to do this in the garden if neighbours can see me? It’s not incredibly densely populated here but the next door neighbours would probably be able to see me depending how on whereabouts I am and our garden backs onto a park where people walk their dogs.

But I’d just be exercising, like I would in a gym, so it’s not that weird is it?? I feel like DH will think it’s weird.

Replied before I saw the last page!

@footprintsintheslow What sort of workouts are they? Half an hour sounds good.

I might try doing different things. I used to love body attach and body combat so I wonder if I could find those online and then find somewhere to do them. I’d do them in the garden but wonder if the neighbours would see. And then some bits to tone me up too.

I don’t want to make myself run or walk and then come to hate it. Night isn’t a bad idea but it depends where I go as it’s quite rural out here and I don’t know all the areas. A sheet local run might be ok at night and it seems like more people tend to be out walking in the evening here.

@Seahawk80 I know. I’ve read threads like that and I find them tough to deal with too.

@Seahawk80 I hate those ruined pregnancy threads. I once got caught up in one where someone was losing it over the sonography accidentally revealing the sex of the baby and how it had ruined the scan for her..... uh NO I'll tell you how a scan gets ruined! To be truthful I would have felt like her in times gone by but now I have a different perspective.

@BunnytheBee that joe wicks workout on at 9am mon-fri on YouTube generally counts as 2,500 steps so it's a good start to the day. And I think it's only about half an hour long.

As for finding the same routes boring how about going at night. It makes things a little different and also I start circular routes from the opposite direction to shake it up a bit. Hahaha what has life come to?!?!

@BunnytheBee it seems to be stopping.
Our builder is great but a bit vague! A lot of people like the plasterer have said
They will come if no one at home. Main problem is suppliers being shut. We were about to order the kitchen from Ikea when they closed but I'm waiting for a virtual appointment and hopefully we can still order it. Main problem was that it was ok to live there with DS in childcare / us at work and lots of options for going out etc all of which have now gone. I hope that yours gets sorted.

Just saw a thread about pregnancies "ruined" by corona. I totally get that it must be shit for people and my heart really does go out to anyone who is pregnant and having to go to scans alone and I can imagine the extra anxiety. But it took everything I had not to comment and say it's not ruined - ruined is the sonographer saying there's something I'm not happy with and I'm sorry but it's the heart and everything that unfolded after that. I'd give anything to be going to my 20 week scan in April, even if it was alone.

@Seahawk80 Have your renovation works stopped? We were decorating upstairs and they would have been finished this week as we had carpets coming, doors fo be fitted, furniture coming and it all came fo a stop. It’s not the end of the world but more annoying as we are stuck at home and working from home full time. I hope you’re couch 2 5 k goes well. Will this be your first one today?

I was planning to go for a run today but I’m not sure I fancy it and I’m getting a bit bored of going to the same places too. I’m actually very lucky to have some really beautiful places to walk to on my doorstep but it’s hard to find new places.

I might try to do some different exercises other than walking and running. DH found a skipping rope in the garage this week so I could give skipping a go and I want to try some online workouts.

I feel like I might have lost a little bit of weight but I haven’t weighed myself so might be wishful thinking!

@footprintsintheslow I’m trying to make sure I do 10,000 steps too. When I’m going out to work I do it easily but at home I don’t unless I’m out for a few mile walk or run. I’m going to try harder to do my steps as it should make a difference and mean I’m being active.

Try not to worry about your individual weight readings as it will fluctuate / stay the same sometimes even if you have lost eight in the bigger picture.

Hello everyone, I've name changed recently as all my posting added together would be a big flashing sign with my name on it. But I've been here since early in the year after losing my daughter at 20 weeks in October and another miscarriage at 7 weeks back in February

@Seahawk80 That must be tough if only you know the sex. I'd be slipping up especially if I was particularly emotional. But I understand that everyone handles things differently. Sounds like your husband is trying to protect himself.

I've been doing Joe Wicks workout this week. I've got all sorts of random bits aching.

I'm obsessed with hitting my 10,000 steps but still I put on a pound and a half last week which was gutting. So I'm making sure I'm extra good this week (hard when we are all in doors).

But on top of my 10,000 steps I'm aiming for 9km as I'm hoping that will ensure I lose this week.

I hope we don't go for full lockdown as I'll struggle being in. But I understand it's for the greater good.

@84TinsOfBeans forgot to reply. Thank you, I don't think we will chose a name as DH didn't want to know the sex so it's a bit weird only me knowing. I haven't had the headspace to think about counselling. I've sent a complaint to the hospital to say it's awful that it wasn't offered and that I don't expect a response now but I will be taking it up with them in the future. I feel like that way it will definitely be there if I need it and they need to know how bad my experience was. I haven't listed the whole saga here but it was pretty poor at every stage.

Sorry I've not been on, things have been crazy, was still working and getting over night shifts and now everything has stalled with our extension/ kitchen renovation and we were stuck with a flat with no kitchen / washing machine and no proper floor in extension, garden a death trap for a toddler, no childcare and lockdown! Decided to go to my mums (not ideal I know but they were keen to have us and we were very careful before going) so had to pack up and am now trying to stop DS from trashing their house while DH is WFH upstairs and I try to organise some way of making our flat vaguely habitable from afar! We have 10 days until I have to start WFH. We both work in travel and my job pretty safe. Looks like DH will be furloughed which is actually ok as it will sort childcare! Not getting very fit but going to start couch 2 5k again tomorrow with my 1 a day outing as DS already bored of all the local walks here. I said today shall we walk to see the horses and he said not again - it's only day 4 😂. Hope you are all well and coping ok x

Hi, how are you all doing?

I feel like this is all very strange. I expect I’ll be working from home for a bit now.

I went for another run today. Well a run and a walk as I was in some places where that I couldn’t run but I was out over an hour and did about 5 miles. I’m really picking up my love of running again but wonder if we’ll end up not being able to go out.

I’m going to try to do some exercise at home. I used to like Blogilates on YouTube and I can maybe do some exercise in the garden if it gets to a point where we can’t leave. I feel it’s more tough to stay fit and healthy in the house but I don’t have the excuse of eating unhealthy snacks because I’m “on the go”!

Pleased I amended my online shop to remove all the crisps (they were 3 multipacks for £3 so of course I picked 3 but then removed them), amongst other things...

Plan to make some soup again on Monday when food delivery hopefully arrives

I hope you’re all ok - at this point the most important thing is us all staying safe and well of course 💕

I’m in bed now

An advantage (or disadvantage, depending on how you look at it) is being far from snacks

And also once I’ve brushed my teeth I don’t snack so that can help

Oh well done you. I'm trying to fight the urge to snack this evening. I might just go to bed to stop myself

I went for my run / walk. I was out for a while did nearly 3 miles and it was quite nice. Think it did me good!

We were just going for a walk but it's bucketing down here so have given up on that for the day

Thanks @84TinsOfBeans I hope you’re doing ok too. I’m sure we’ll be fine too but I just feel a bit meh. Well done on the Hoola hooping!

Will go for that run soon...

@BunnytheBee I think going out even for a short time would do you good mentally and you'd feel a great achievement.

It's hard not getting on with your partner. We've had a really rocky few weeks and it makes me tearful but we've chatted and things are better now.

I'm still hula hooping everyday! Keep up the good work everyone. X

Hello everyone, thank you for asking after me. I’m still feeling down. I feel a bit depressed and hopeless. DH and I are not getting on great because we are both stressed and he doesn’t really know how to handle me if I’m feeling down so tends to keep a distance or stay away so I end up feeling more alone. I tend to do better when I’m out at work or busy so being at home probably won’t be great for my mental health.

I had a great run on Saturday and haven’t been out since so I’m going to try to go out today. I have the afternoon off so there is no reason whatsoever why I shouldn’t go other than laziness!!

How are you @lunamoon1? @Shefliesonherownwings @tortiecat

Also need to resist urge not to just eat, which is what I feel like doing it when I’m in front of the tv feeling rubbish