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That's annoying. Keep an eye maybe someone's going to cancel. If it makes you feel better, I just got soaked on my lunch break and now it's sunny. Happy Friday to us!

@BunnytheBlueWhale Ring them up and tell them there's been a glitch and to add you in. I would!

I'm starving today. Woke up at 6, smashed my workout, did my hair (it takes a while!), sh*t hit the fan in work starting from 9:01 am (nightmare) and I need some food! I gotta keep going though... walk this lunch break and Zumba later 💪💪💪 xxx

Ooooh, we'd have such a good one, girls! It's got me in a party mood 🎉😁

@LASandOtto That's so thoughtful of you. I do all this all the time, mortgage, builders, booking everything, planning, organising, you name it. My DH isn't great at this sort of stuff, but he'd never think to do something as nice as you do for DH, for me. 🙄 You're a good egg. Xxx

@MrsMGE I am SO up for your club night starting at 7pm! I am nostalgic about my uni days but even at the time wasn't keen on a 4am finish 😂😂

@Avocuddles what lovely news! Keeping fingers crossed for you

Hi All, sorry I have been v quiet for the last few days. It has been manic at work and I have been very, very stressed. I am trying to focus on what is really important in life - including making time for things so I can stay happy and healthy, I haven't eaten much sugar at all - but it's tough at the moment, and I am tired and grumpy.

@BunnytheBlueWhale I really feel for you. It's my time this week but DH has a bad cold / man flu and so it's not happening (plus I am stressed out, so it's hard to feel amorous anyway!) We've scrapped about DTD before as well-he is confident that my getting pregnant again will just happen, he is not the one who is absolutely devastated each month when AF arrives. If you're off today might a nap help? (I love a good nap on the weekend!!) be good to yourself today, try and do something you enjoy and have a treat x

I feel really shattered today but gladly today is my work from home day. I've had a really hectic week at work. It's good as it keeps my mind busy but bad as I am really tired too!

Otherwise I feel fine, thank you. Time goes very slowly once you have had a positive pregnancy result I find, whereas beforehand time just sort of flies by!

I'm going to go for a walk later and want to get something nice for my DH as a small surprise this evening. He's been really great - our flat sale is now near completion and there's loads of back and forth on emails. I cannot even fathom to read all the emails and work out all our questions and he's just dealing with all and keeping me in the loop. He's been really supportive as I've been quite anxious / hormonal and at times lose my rag which isn't very like me. So just wanted to thank him and will get something small gesture - wise, probably a nice slice of cake as he loves his sweets and he's been on a healthy diet with me 😂

@BunnytheBlueWhale you're allowed to rant - this is what we are here for.

I get your frustration, when it's fertile time you want to maximise every opportunity. I know it can be portrayed as if we (women) are the ones asking for schedule sex during this period and that it can appear no issue for us to DTD, but even for us, there is pressure to perform. Pressure to have to DTD at the right time or risk missing that elusive window. I recall being at school where they made it out that as much as getting within 10cm proximity of a male reproductive organ would get you pregnant, and now here we are carefully measuring temperature, peeing on sticks and having to have timed fun!

I hope it all blows over with DH. Maybe if you're feeling up for it, surprise him with a nice dinner or so, I know he was an a** this morning but he's probably feeling the pressure as much as you are. My OH is a serial phone 'news' reader in bed in the mornings and then never has time for anything else either.

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@BunnytheBlueWhale you're entitled to rant away! Your DHs comment was uncalled for and insensitive - if he had concerns about your mental health then the way he has acted is really the opposite of how he should behave. It's understandable that you are frustrated about not DTD at what may be the key time for you. I do get how hard it must be for men to feel like they are expecting to perform on demand, but you're in this together and it takes two to get the result you dream of. Hopefully the dust will have settled when he gets home later and you can have some quality time together this weekend?

Really happy again to read your positive news @Avocuddles and I've responded on the other thread!

Ladies, sorry for the silence - been reading on the thread here and there but work has been one of those several hours of overtime daily and it means in the evening I've lethargically sat on the sofa unable to do much at all!

Well done to all doing so well on the healthy food front - I've been mostly good too! Feel bloated atm and not hungry whatsoever so that's a welcome change (the bloating less so obviously 😷), I usually have a very healthy appetite!

@MrsMGE I'm with you on no fizzy drinks and also decaf, what even is that stuff made of? The way it's processed to decaf is actually a rather questionable process. I've been on decaf for a few months as wanted to do 'all the right things' to help us along but oh my, I basically only drink coffee now if it's from a good coffee shop who have decent decaf. Tea is a bit easier of course but coffee is really what I love!

@BunnytheBlueWhale the advice from @MrsMGE for getting better sleep is spot on. Trying to find ways to empty the mind and calm the body is important for restful sleep. I also have a lovely pillow spray from Bamford and a few spritzes are just perfect to create a comfy environment in bed for a good night's sleep.

Cannot believe another week is over!

@Seahawk80 I was very sorry to hear about your news and I wanted to send you a big hug. How are you feeling? I can relate with your comment mentioning that once you know, you can deal with your feelings and be sad and feel what you need to feel. Being in limbo is just the worst. How are you doing?

Have a good Friday everyone!

@SunStruck @MrsMGE I've found Yorkshire Tea Decaf is pretty good. The others all taste awful though! My other decaf favourite is rooibos / redbush tea which is naturally decaffeinated. I used to be a caffeine junkie but have cut it back to 2 or 3 drinks a day over the past year.

I went to uni in London and as a result was too impoverished to do anything other than hang out in friends houses with Glens, Corner ship wine or White Lightning. Ahhhhh, those were the days! I lived with goths so that's the soundtrack to my uni years, along with Oasis and hey ya by OutKast

@MrsMGE I hope you went with the VS ones 😝 I caved and went to bed at 9 last night. Was exhausted after an emotional day in work.

@MrsMGE I hate decaf too but what to do 🥺 it's really good you don't drink fizzy drinks at all, I do love a Diet Coke but just one on the weekends as a treat! Definitely not an every day job. Well let's make a pact, if this baby thing isn't flying when we're 40, let's quit our jobs and go back to studying (any course will do) at uni and go clubbing every week! 🙌🙌🤣🤣 we can pre-drink in our halls with Pony blaring in the background... how do that sound 🤪 I do refuse to go back to drinking Glen's vodka though....

Great start of the weekend, me and DH went to the gym this morning (just did 45min cardio), and I'm currently having a nice brekkie with fried eggs, mushrooms and Linda McCartney veggie sausages! They are soooo good for those of you who haven't tried, made of tofu protein but actually taste of meat. The Quorn sausages are good too!

@BunnytheBlueWhale You've been saying about lack of sleep for a while, do you often get trouble sleeping? Are you feeling you have too much on your mind? For me the only thing that works is to completely wind down before bed, leave work on time, as SunStruck said, a bath, a book, dark room, no TV, no phone and get into bed before 9pm. You might feel bored, but you'll fall asleep and likely have a much better sleep. Also sleep mask, lavender oil and meditating in bed. It does sound like you're feeling a bit emotional and tired because you've got something playing on your mind that is causing it, it might be the date. Be extra kind to yourself, I don't think anyone on here can say that they weren't affected by it, so that's completely understandable. Xxx

@SunStruck I sometimes think I'm a prime candidate for a midlife crisis, I suspect I'll be feeling nostalgic in my 40s, quit my job, become super fit and go out clubbing again 😂🙌 Ooh, I bet Manchester was a good party! Also, forgot to say earlier, happy pay rise January! I've had one too, not as good as I hoped for, but by definition it's good news, so no complaints. With you on the decaff front... I bloody hate decaff, it tastes of socks. I love my proper Italian coffee, the darkest of dark espressos, mmmm. Miss it soooo much! Admittedly I sometimes treat myself on Saturday morning. Personally, I'd choose a good coffee over coke, I don't do fizzy drinks at all. I remember from childhood how my trainer yelled at us for drinking fizz and she was right, caffeine and sugar (or aspartam, even worse) are probably the worst for your overall health and wellbeing. Obvs your treat can is totally fine because it's a treat! My best friend drinks a can every day and she's around 5 months pg, it mortifies me every time I see it 👀. Happy weekend to you and all of us, we've made it, girls - another week of 2020 and we're doing well! Xxx

@MrsMGE haha oh me too! I really miss those young and carefree uni days 😄 I lived in Manchester then so have frequented X amount of Warehouse Projects, Sankey's, and obviously Ministry of Sound in London.... I would love a club night if it starts at 7, I can't stay awake to go to a club that opens at 11 anymore 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

@bunnythebluewhale I'm sorry you're feeling low, take it easy this weekend and have a nice bath with some nice oils, a good book and just look after yourself ❤️

@avocuddles already replied to the other thread in regards to BFP :) in regards to wine, I'm also doing well at Dry Jan, not touched a drop! Especially since I really wanted to give it my all now on this medicated cycle. Was difficult yesterday when DH opened a really nice bottle of Malbec, my favorite 🙁

In other news, I had the most amazing pizza yesterday as a treat to start the weekend, felt I deserved it after the whole week of eating well 😄 it's a sourdough pizza so healthier base, and I only had half and froze half 👌 Washed down with a Diet Coke, the strongest beverage I'll drink nowadays 🤣 I'm not even drinking coffee or tea (just decaf tea) this cycle...