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TTC after loss penguins get fit & healthy in 2020

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BunnytheBlueWhale · 30/12/2019 20:29

This is the thread for those of us in the TTC after loss penguin huddle who want to try to eat a more healthy diet, exercise more, lose weight or just feel better physically this year
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@MrsMGE @Avocuddles @MissSparkles81 @SunshineCrocodile @Mumlili8 @VenusStarr @SunStruck

If I’ve missed anyone please tag them

How about we start by saying what our goals are whether that he the number on the scale, doing more exercise or just feeling better about ourselves?

I’m BunnytheBlueWhale (NC recently - see TTC thread). I’m 35 and probably weigh about a stone more than I’d like since I had my stillborn daughter in February. I don’t need to lose weight massively but having post-baby weight and no baby is a bit rubbish!

I’d like to lose a bit of a weight all over and also target my belly with brushing, moisturising and maybe microneedling at home...

I eat a lot of sugary snacks so want to massively reduce those and also try to take a healthy lunch to work to stop me spending so much money on food!

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MrsMGE · 20/01/2020 09:37

Also, ladies... the time has come, I've ordered myself a Fitbit 🙌🙌🙌 Arriving this Friday! 😀

MrsMGE · 20/01/2020 09:35

Aww @BunnytheBlueWhale we're all irtitated with things sometimes, my DH was going to sort out my mp3 player (I'm a bit old school 😂) on Saturday, been asking him all week to look at it as there's something wrong with it. When did he come to do it? 7.45 am TODAY. I was raging! I was in the middle of doing my hair and EVERY reasonable partner knows you do not interrupt a woman doing her hair in the morning! So I had a go at him too 😂 Men sometimes don't think, they really don't.

Anyway. You've mentioned PMT (is it the same as PMS?) many times before. Obviously, if you know it's coming you can try and plan that week gently to avoid any unnecessary triggers. But if you're in the middle of your cycle then I really don't know what to advise, it's unexpected. Maybe it's not PMT and you just have something else bubbling away that sets you off. Could it be the due date? It sounds like there's another reason that you may not have identified yet, so it's hard to prevent it. The only thing I'd do is burning your energy. Any kind of weight exercises, boxercise or in fact even some cardio, like cross-trainer or running, might just take the edge off. You'll probably still be annoyed but it might help you cope a bit better? Xxx

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BunnytheBlueWhale · 20/01/2020 08:25

Thanks @MrsMGE The movie sounds good!

I honestly don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’ve mentioned I get PMT quite badly and it’s a very specific feeling usually (although can be compared to be VERY tired or hungry but that doesn’t usually last as long!). I’m on about CD14 and in my fertile period so it can’t be PMT!

I had a bit of a go at DH last night. I am like a different person when I have PMT and that’s how I feel. He knew that though and was winding me up (eg no one did the washing up on Saturday night so when I got home from my parents at about 9:15 last night I did it. I didn’t really want to but DH clearly didn’t plan to do it. I did and said something about how I was washing up again and he was saying things like “there’s nothing there” and “it’ll only take 2 mins” and so I was like well you do it then if it’s so easy! I told him I’m feeling b sensitive for some reason and just need him not to make comments like that but he carried on. That’s kind of his sense of humour too but he knew I wasn’t find it funny.) Anyway I know I was being sensitive and it escalated a bit and I told DH I didn’t want him in our bed (I didn’t even mean it) but then shortly after I did apologise properly... but then this morning he came in the bedroom and started arguing again. He could have just said he’s still upset and we’d discuss it but, oh no, he doesn’t want to “discuss” he said which meant he kept telling me how out of order I was and how horrible it was of me to make him sleep on the sofa (even though I’d apologised and said he could come upstairs) but wouldn’t listen to anything I said. I’m really upset.

I know I probably upset him last night but he can be a proper arse and never apologised but the one time I go off and he doesn’t let me forget it. I feel really crap anyway so I don’t need it. Also he often falls asleep on the sofa (because he falls asleep watching tv) so it’s not that big a deal that he sleeps there.

It is FW and I don’t want to fall out on FW (or at all) but I couldn’t help the rage last night 😬😂🙈 I probably wouldn’t mind as much if it wasn’t FW 🙈🙈🙈

Sorry for the rant. I do feel a bit better now 😬

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MissSparkles81 · 20/01/2020 08:07

Thanks @mrsmge it was very much needed. Can't believe it's Monday already ... hope everyone has a great week ❤

MrsMGE · 19/01/2020 19:40

Well done @MissSparkles81, your "me time" sounds blissful 😊 Good luck with the gym this week!

And what a productive day @BunnytheBlueWhale, sounds brilliant! I've just come out of my fertile period I believe and I felt a bit off during it tbh. In my case it might be because we've actively avoided dtd during the fertile period this month, it feels like we haven't done it for so long. I think I need sex tbh 😂

I managed to do two HIIT sessions this weekend and two long-ish walks. Dancehall class tomorrow evening, wooo! Hopefully no more taking work home next weekend so I can fully focus on the good stuff and have more me time 😊

PS Little Women was lovely, very feel good 😊 I really like Saoirse Ronan and Meryl Streep, it ticked my boxes 😊 xxx

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BunnytheBlueWhale · 19/01/2020 15:49

DH and I have been on a walk. We did about 7 miles and then I came home and did day 1 of 30 days of yoga with Adrienne. I found it a bit long and slow tbh (the yoga) but I think it will pick up pace and also the first video was longer than the others. I feel good for having done some exercise and motivated for the week ahead. I still feel like I have PMT though (I’m on CD 13 in my fertile period, I believe)

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MissSparkles81 · 19/01/2020 15:48

Afternoon all ... its been a quiet weekend for me. I maintained this week which I am ok with given it is totm so I am hoping to see a loss next weekend.

My bf is away to see his wee one today and I just wanted to chill in the house. I do feel guilty but I just needed the time to myself. Currently chilling in the bath 😆

I went to Yoga yesterday which was good and booked in for my gym classes this week and huge pot of soup made so im all set for the week.

MrsMGE · 19/01/2020 14:27

Seville orange marmalade 😍😍😍 absolutely dreamy @JuniperandRose!

JuniperAndRose · 19/01/2020 12:59

@Shefliesonherownwings I’m sorry this week has been even more tough than it needs to be. Sadly I think it’s not unusual for the appointments to be in maternity wards etc- our first bereavement counselling session was next to the ultrasound room and when we checked in at reception for the appointment we were asked if we were here for a scan. I’m sending you a gentle hug x

Well done to everyone who is doing nice healthy and relaxing things! I went to a beginners yoga class yesterday. It’s at a new studio which is near my house and the walk there is through two parks. It was a nice sunny walk through the parks, a gentle yoga class and then DH met me for brunch. Today we have been to the allotment to dig up the last of the potatoes. This afternoon I’m heading to a friend’s house to make marmalade as it’s Seville orange season Smile

SunStruck · 19/01/2020 11:43

@MrsMGE thanks for your lovely words ❤️ And it's great your focusing on healthy and happy! That's what I did when we had this mini break to KL last year (you know what we said about holding things like traveling off "just in case"... and you have your lovely Greek holiday coming up don't you?!

You know that this cycle for me was medicated (and last time I got pregnant too), so I know there's great hope for all of us if it's difficult au naturale! I had 2 follicles this time due to meds, so double the chance.

Yeah I'm also trying to not eat so much bread but I don't feel that a soup fills me up (if no beans etc in it - this soup is smooth). I've had an egg with it most evenings but am just thinking of other things to combine it with 😂

MrsMGE · 19/01/2020 11:20

@LASandOtto Don't worry about keeping up with the thread now, you're very busy! Make sure you get some rest every now and then, if you can. It sounds like you're on it, girl!

@SunStruck I'd normally have it with a slice of wholemeal bread and sweet chilli soft cheese, however I've cut out bread nearly entirely (only had two slices last week), so these days I'm just enjoying the soup. I add some coriander or chilli flakes, too.

I know what you mean re anxiety. It might not be much of a consolation but you're obviously very fertile and that's a good thing - we've been through everything together and it's your third pg in the same time when I haven't even managed to get pg for the second time! Obviously we know we're waiting for a positive final outcome, but look how good your chances are, it will happen. Now you've got extra support and monitoring too, so the chances are even better. Keep as calm as you possibly can, I know you can do this!

I have a feeling nothing is going to happen for me without some kind of medical support/intervention tbh, bracing myself to visit my GP in the end of March. I don't even know if it makes sense to have any tests on the NHS or go private straight away, but I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.

For now I'm keeping myself healthy and happy. Xxx

SunStruck · 19/01/2020 11:02

@avocuddles that sounds like a great Sunday!

@MrsMGE yeah I just found out yesterday morning! Sorry didn't announce it here as this thread is more for keeping fit and healthy, and I know it can be triggering. Thanks though, here we go again... I think my 2 mc:s ruined it for me, I don't feel that excited and just waiting for something to go wrong basically! Just trying to keep as fit and healthy as I can with lots of rest in between, and on top of my vitamins x that soup you mentioned sound lovely by the way, I'm also into soups at the moment... I've made butternut squash soup for dinner this week! Do you have it with something else or just on its own?

@lasandotto wow sounds hectic, but well done for eating healthy and working out although you got lots to pack!

LASandOtto · 19/01/2020 10:36

Morning ladies!

@Mumlili8 @MrsMGE I've got the Fitbit since a couple of years and I couldn't imagine life without it. My DH has one too, and we even got them for his parents for their birthdays and my sister too (my mum would never wear one) and they all love it too. I do find it pushes me to do my minimum 10k steps a day if not more. I also like to see the stats on my workouts and the sleep tracking is also interesting. Their customer support has also always been excellent.

We've been packing all weekend - flat starting to look empty already. It always makes me feel unsettled seeing all the boxes and nothing being in it's place but it's just 2 weeks before we move and that week before we do I'm away on a work trip. Yesterday we did a lovely park jog / walk and then were active all day with the packing.

Made a healthy lentil stew in the evening which is a Spanish recipe with carrots, potato and some chorizo for DH.

Sorry I haven't kept track of all the chats. It's been a bit hectic trying to organise myself at the moment!

What's everyone doing this Sunday? @Avocuddles your plan sounds lovely. I have a great vegan cafe close to my house called Wild Food Cafe. Excellent dishes! I was really wowed when they opened as we tried it and it far surpassed my expectations.

@MrsMGE when I've abstained from sweets and snacks I've had the same 'oh' moments, when you then do have something sweet you find it almost sickly! Funny how we can adapt our taste buds!

MrsMGE · 19/01/2020 10:22

@SunStruck I didn't realise you're pg! Congratulations 💐💐 Wow, we're entering week 3 with a third BFP, what a run! Xxx

MrsMGE · 19/01/2020 10:16

Also I wonder if there is a link between the approach preventing diabetes and fertility. Women with PCOS are often put on metformin, a diabetes drug. The recent BBC research also shows links with diabetes drugs and reducing the risk of miscarriage. The NHS recommends keeping a healthy diet and losing weight to improve fertility which inevitably means reducing sugar intake. I'm just thinking out loud whether there's more to it.

@Avocuddles Have a lovely meal at the cafe ❤️ Sounds great! How are you feeling? Xxx

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BunnytheBlueWhale · 19/01/2020 10:09

@SunStruck Your DP’s and seafood day sounds lovely!

@Mumlili8 Well done! I’ve got a Tom Tom watch somewhere which I haven’t had our since we moved. I liked it because I could put music on it without having to take my phone out for a run but it tracks steps etc. I’m going to see if I can dig it out today, and the charger, and start using it again

I didn’t eat super well this week but not too badly either and I did a bit of exercise. Going for a walk now with DH and his friend who lives around the corner

Have a nice Sunday everyone ☀️

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MrsMGE · 19/01/2020 10:06

@SunStruck Thanks and glad you had a lovely day yesterday 💞

@SunStruck @Mumlili8 Well done on your fitness/exercise!!! 🙌 I'm joining Mumlili's question re Fitbit - do you reckon Fitbit is the best one out there or is there anything else out there that is good and reasonably priced? I'd like to keep track of steps and calories burnt through all activities, as you know I do HIIT, but also occasionally do the gym or swim and I'd like it to measure all calories if possible.

I had nice poached eggs with bacon medallions for brekkie, made a spicy carrot & parsnip soup for lunch and a SW pasta bake with veg for dinner. I had the same yesterday and was so full. My tummy has definitely shrunk!

Also I've noticed I'm not craving sweets at all. I had a chocolate orange Graze flapjack yesterday (delicious and only 140 cal) and I found it soooo sweet, nearly sickly. Even though it's nowhere near as chocolatey as what I used to eat if I craved chocolate (Cadbury or Lindt, obvs...). I'm pleased with this. I've concluded the one thing I absolutely cannot ever eliminate from my diet isn't chocolate. Not even alcohol or crisps. It's actually cheese! Extra mature or vintage cheddar, mmmmm 😂😂😂

I did JW HIIT the Dubai series this morning, mistakenly thinking surely it won't be a killer session considering the temperature out there...how wrong was I 😩😩😩 I barely finished it, currently dying on the sofa!!! I had to slow down on about 3 exercises as I thought my heart would jump out of my chest 🤣🤣🤣

So I'll be honest girls, I haven't lost any weight this week. I've fluctuated and eventually maintained. Bit disappointing, but thanks to My Fitness Pal I can sort of see what to eliminate (too many nuts, just too calorific). I've also only started being good on Weds after a 4 day weekend only went out walking once or twice on my lunch breaks, so I think next week will be better. I'm approaching things differently now, it's not a race or a temporary diet, but a change in my mindset to do good things for myself, so I'm not quitting on it. Although I'm stressed in work atm, I can see how much looking after myself has helped with reducing stress around we-know-what and it's great. xxx

Avocuddles · 19/01/2020 09:27

@SunStruck we're off to a vegan cafe for some brunch shortly then a walk around the park before the food shop, I'm working in London on Monday and Tuesday visiting a trade fair so I suspect this week might be the healthiest but I'll continuing trying to resist the snacks and I won't be tempted to break dry January anymore!

SunStruck · 19/01/2020 08:35

@avocuddles it was a bliss thank you 😊 what's on the agenda today food wise and exercise wise?

I managed 45min cardio before work! 💪

Avocuddles · 19/01/2020 08:30

@Mumlili8 great day, well done! I love my Fitbit though must admit I sometimes get a little obsessed with trying to 'read things' from the heart rate charts. My DH also has one so I like to use the 'challenge' feature to motivate us to both get more steps in thanks to an element of healthy competition!

@SunStruck glad you had a lovely day yesterday x

SunStruck · 19/01/2020 02:58

@mumlili8 well done! No but I use another one called myzone, it doesn't track steps but tracks all my workouts which is great 😁 I see how many calories I have burned and can 'eat back' basically 🤪

SunStruck · 19/01/2020 02:53

@MrsMGE sorry missed, trying to catch up - Congrats on the pay rise!! 🥰 New promotion, new pay rise... go on 2020 ❤️

Mumlili8 · 19/01/2020 02:22

Just thought I'd share my day with you ladies. Do any of you ladies use a fitbit. I've had one for years now and it does help to keep me motivated.

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SunStruck · 19/01/2020 01:30

God lots of spelling and grammar mistakes in last post sorry, trying to type quickly before work. They really should implement an editing function!!!

SunStruck · 19/01/2020 01:26

@bunnythebluewhale @shefliesonherownwings oh that is shocking and I'm sad to hear! I know I had to go to the maternity ward (with all the pics of the babies on the wall) when I had my d&c after miscarriage, but that's nothing compared to what you have to go through - You'd really think they would sort something else 😔

@tortiecat wohooo congrats on losing weight! I love how this thread is going ❤️ and I love your nickname, I also have two cats - My actual babies (as no Hooman babies yet) 🤣 People actually think I'm the crazy cat lady (don't blame them).

@lasandotto very nice gesture, what did you get him in the end?! 😄

@MrsMGE We also have a cleaner! Only comes once every 2 weeks for a deep clean, and I'm cleaning inbetween. So worth it! My DH also have an 'ironing man' coming to pick his shirts up, iron them and send them back here. I don't have the foggiest about ironing (also dislike it), and I never have much to iron anyway (always trying to buy clothes I don't need to iron 🤣). It's not expensive out here.
How have your healthy weekends been ladies?!

So I went for a spa day yesterday and did a facial, bliss! After that me and DH went to share a bucket of seafood and grilled corn by the sea - Bliss! All cooked, nothing raw 😉

TTC after loss penguins get fit & healthy in 2020