TTC after loss penguins get fit & healthy in 2020

@mrsmge oh la la - sounds so fancy and yummy! Even better when you don't have to cook yourself 😂

@missparkles81oh that must be so difficult 😔 good you have a day off today to recoup and look after yourself ❤️

Thank you for the messages @BunnytheBlueWhale @Avocuddles and @mrsmge ... unfortunately my office is based within a maternity unit so unable to work elsewhere. I am a childrens specialist nurse and usually clinic conversations dont every mention mc as you can imagine. Thats what took me by surprise yesterday.

Thankfully off today so went and returned a few parcels to the post office and treated myself to a subway salad for lunch. Now snuggled on the couch watching the Crown.

I don't know if anyone has watched it ... I am a bit late to the game but hooked.

Really should go and tidy up before the bf gets home then its clubbercise tonight x

Prawn risotto with courgettes, peas and carrots is waiting for me this evening 😊

@missparkles81 @MrsMGE ohhh crisps is my weakness!!! I love them! 🤤

I really need to try those deliciously Ella balls! Look great. I've made several healthy snacks like that before but this looks really good (and obviously comes highly recommended by MN!)

I am having one of my veggie days today 😃 I felt really tired this morning so skipped the gym. It's unusual for me but good to listen to my body! What's on the menu today for all you ladies?

@MissSparkles81 Don't worry, I had a small pack of crisps last night. I was still in work at half 6 and because of all the exercise and walking I was starving. Then I went to my dance class and did a workout this morning, so tbh I don't care that much! It's not about denying yourself everything for the rest of your days, but about shifting the balance to make good choices on most of the days. It's quite empowering!

Can I ask, what job are you in? I'm guessing within the NHS? Apologies if you've said before, I must have missed it or confused myself xxx

@BunnytheBlueWhale just ate them and they were delicious, thanks for the recommendation. Boots meal deals really are great value aren't they.....

Yay to baby dancing! Hoping so much that this is your month.

@MissSparkles81 what a tough situation to deal with at work, I'm sure any of us would have reacted the same way. Is there anyone you can talk to at work around how you feel? I know they're just doing their job but could you perhaps be forewarned so you can briefly pop out of the room?
On another note I love those limited edition Christmas crisps - you should eat them before they're out of date!

Morning all ... yesterday was a difficult day in work. I was in clinic in the afternoon and everything was going ok till one of the consultants asked a mum if she had lost any pregnancies and I lost it. The room started spinning and I had to walk out. Eventually I managed to compose myself and go back in and finish the appt.

When I got home I gave into temptation and scoffed almost a full bag of these. 🤪

On the train down to London for work and have been inspired by this group to make a healthy snack choice...... never had the DE balls before but looking forward to giving them a try!

@LASandOtto I made the same ones as you from FK after you've posted it (cherry, almond and cocoa) but added two tablespoons of almond butter in addition to the usual ingredients and hands down, these are the nicest balls I've ever made xxx

@Shefliesonherownwings I second what @MrsMGE says, very wise words. I was very anxious after my dad passed away (very shortly after my first MC) and I struggled on, thinking I had to regain normality. It was exhausting. On a work trip to Belfast I became so anxious about being away from home, I was bed-bound in the Hotel, being sick. It was awful. It got better over time and as some ladies know, I really found myself with mediation and yoga in the park. I still get anxiety now but I try to use the methods they teach about breathing, rationalising, giving the anxiety time.

The location of your appointment is just beyond words for me too, how can this be happening? I'm so sorry you're having to deal with everything you're dealing with AND also having to battle to get the meeting moved to a more appropriate spot. Honestly, like @MrsMGE said, are we even in 2020?!

You can self make the snack balls yourself - I made some from the fertility kitchen and they turned out lovely. Saw another recipe lately with apple, cinnamon, oats, acorn syrup and some flax seeds. Looked delicious!

X

@Shefliesonherownwings I'm sorry it hasn't been the best weekend. I very much understand your anxiety, I was picturing the worst possible scenarios in my head (such as my DH dying, my pets getting killed, someone close to me being terminally ill or in a car accident) for months after my MMC. The only thing that helped me was acupuncture and time. But much like you, I hated being alone and in fact I was even worried someone would punch and kill DH when he was out with his friends. It was awful. Don't be too hard on yourself now, it's the grief translating itself to anxiety. It will pass, I promise.

I can't even imagine you have to go to mat unit after stillbirth. It's bad enough at EPAUs when you're surrounded by happy yummy mummies to be ringing up their families to share the news everything went well when your baby is dead. But that is on another level and should never be happening. Why are we still fighting this battle in 2020 🤦🏼‍♀️

Re DE balls, yes, Boots all the way. Also Holland & Barrett have them. These days I make my own using her recipes, nearly as good (nearly!) xxx

Hi all, just catching up with the thread now. @BunnytheBlueWhale sorry you've been feeling rubbish. Perhaps because it is coming up to a year since you lost your DD you are feeling more irritable. I find I get irritable much more easily now and our DHs are the closest people to us so it gets taken out on them. Although saying that I'd be annoyed too if I'd apologised and DH was still holding a grudge and wanting to argue. Hugs.

I've had a bit of a rubbish weekend. We've still been battling to get our consultant appointment changed, trying to bring it forward and to another venue. @BunnytheBlueWhale i'm sorry you've been through the same. Surely it is common sense that anyone who has lost a baby does not want to have to go to a maternity unit for a meeting. It's so exhausting battling things we shouldn't need to worry about.

DH went out to football on Saturday morning (game was at 12:30) and then rolled in pissed at 11pm. I was annoyed because I ended up being on my own all day and evening and he'd promised to be home for dinner. I get anxious being on my own but I know he needs time out with his friends as it helps him so I didn't want to message and ask him to come home. We had a few words when he got in. He then felt rough on Sunday and we both ended up getting McDonalds and eating loads of chocolate in the evening.

Am trying to get back in the zone today and back on WW. Have booked in a couple of yoga classes at my gym this week, have my PT on Friday and am then going to a two hour restorative yoga class on Sunday with a friend so am hoping that will help with the anxiety and sleep.

Ladies these DE balls sound delish, where are you all getting them from?

I think we're absolutely fabulous.

Try the DE balls with almond butter when you get a chance, heavenly.

Haha! Isn't this the day when most people quit their NY resolutions??

Well, look at us, smashing it!!! 🔥🔥🔥 There's nothing as motivating as female friendship!

@BunnytheBlueWhale You probably will, that's true. If I'm feeling on edge, I make a trip to Debenhams and spray some nice perfume that I haven't bought (yet). Just another idea 😉 Tbh, I'd put on some nice lingerie and seduct your DH, let's be honest, men can't resist for too long 😂

@LASandOtto I bought Fitbit HR, I think it will do everything I need it to do. Plus I have very small wrists and a couple of nice watches that I still want to wear, so needed something that wouldn't look too overpowering. I got a nice beige strap as well, I can't wait for both to arrive 😊

I did HIIT this morning & an hour walk this lunchtime, very proud of myself 🙌 Homemade chicken ceasar for lunch and apart from that, I only had porridge and some fruit today 😊 I have lots of energy, surprisingly. Dance class tonight as well! xxx

Yay @MrsMGE you've got a FitBit! Which one did you go for?

@BunnytheBlueWhale I feel for you. Feeling PMT/PMS at a time when not expected to, is tough. Hormones just do things to us, it happens. I had a blazing row with OH yesterday and I'm normal a very calm person, we basically hardly ever argue as we are both not temperamental (I can be more so than OH). Have you chatted to him since then? On WhatsApp or something maybe?

How are you feeling now?