TTC after loss penguins get fit & healthy in 2020

Hi all. @tortiecat sorry you had a breakfast spillage but you post did make me smile. Hope you managed to disguise it!

@LASandOtto can you try a hairband or something to hook through the loop and around the button? Might just help hold it together today. Otherwise hopefully your top covers it??

@MrsMGE i've never used pre seed but have also heard good things about it. It seems to be mentioned a fair bit on the SMEP plan, I guess because you have to DTD a few times in a row so some lube helps. I've also heard it comes with an applicator and it works best applied with the applicator about 15-20 mins before DTD. Give it a go and report back!

I didn't manage any exercise today but have done well with food again today so i'm feeling good about that. We've just heard our consultant appointment has been moved forward to this Friday so I am very nervous now, will try not to revert to chocolate to help with the nerves.

@mrsMGE CONGRATS on your weight loss!!! 😄😄😄 very well done, and you sound much happier!

@lasandotto @mrsMGE @tortiecat yes I've used Conceive Plus last time I fell pregnant as well as this time! So it's the same as pre-seed but a different brand, with some more minerals in there to help the sperm out 😁 I think it's great - I second @lasandotto, put it in before dtd (before you go to bed). It's quite expensive but if you have to dtd 5 days in a row on request it's godsend. Also, it helps the sperm live for longer up there if you dtd a few days before!

@lasandotto so funny about the button 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Omg I am spitting my tea all over reading your posts 😂😂😂

@LASandOtto You need some Post-Dip by the sounds of it, girl! 😳

@tortiecat I am tempted, but not sure how I feel about squirting/whacking something in down there, plus what do I do, order it to work?! Do Amazon locker?! Wtf 😂😂😂

Don't even show it to DH @MrsMGE! I've used other lube in the past and just whack that stuff in before DTD and it's game on 😂😂 just try it out before you use it with DH.

In other news, I've just been to the ladies at work. Got an iffy button on my jeans. Well, it sort of pops off as I go to unbutton it and sacrifices itself down the toilet. I stood there staring at it for a good 3 mins, debating if these jeans will hold up without button by the sheer willpower of my zip, or not. Anyway, my hands are now drier than the Serengeti after 10 x hand washing and 10 x applying anti bac gel, so, the idea of lube seems quite appealing for me right now! Hahaha!

@MrsMGE I am sure I have read on here that pre-seed is the one that comes with an applicator so you can squirt it in prior to DTD?? How romantic! Will you give it a go and let us know? I've seen many "Oh I used it and fell pregnant that month" stories on here so have been tempted, I just haven't got round to ordering it myself x

@LASandOtto But I've never used a lube! 🤦🏼‍♀️ Don't even know where to start and I might end up laughing nervously and killing the mood!

@MrsMGE very romantic! I haven't but I've read on here it's worked magic for plenty of women!

I'm sure your DH won't mind a bit of a spicy Valentines gift? 😆

Ladies...has anyone used Pre-Seed before? The romantic in me is debating whether to treat DH for Valentines 👀 Opinions welcome!

@MrsMGE thanks - I will give it a go! Wispas are 4 for 90p in Tesco's atm but I have resisted so far...

@LASandOtto YES!!! 😂😂😂 That is so me

Hi Ladies!

I'll read everyone's posts properly later, just having a quick 'break at desk' with a brief Instagram check and the attached made me laugh so wanted to post it to you all! X

@tortiecat At least it has white bits then 😂 You can pull this off!

Graze chocolate orange flapjacks are delish if you're after something tasting chocolatey, but not too calorific (Wispa was my go to chocolate too!) xxx

@MrsMGE It is red with white spots. Or it was. It is now red and white spots with a dodgy looking smear over my left thigh (which is firmly hidden under a desk)

@BunnytheBlueWhale this is a Larabar: https://www.larabar.co.uk/our-products/
It did not last til the afternoon, I have just scoffed it. It wasn't bad, it tastes exactly like dates smushed together with banana and nuts, but a Wispa it is not ☹️

@tortiecat You never fail to make me laugh 😂😂😂

What colour is your dress?

Morning ladies - just quickly checking in! Sorry I've been so quiet - another mad week. I am keeping my fingers crossed for all of you who are pregnant at the moment and sending love to those who are having a difficult week (appreciate the two aren't exclusive!)

I am jumping on the FitBit bandwagon too... I've had it ages but not worn it consistently. Am going to try and get my 10,000 steps a day :)

I am travelling for work and would like you all to know that I chose some fruit and stevia-sweetened Quark for breakfast today instead of my usual pastry! All well and good except that the weight of the spoon tipped the almost empty pot into my lap and now have Quark on my dress... this would never have happened with a pastry!! Anyway I have been inspired by all the balls posts yesterday and got a Larabar for a mid-afternoon snack... I'll let you know how it is!

• thighs not things

Too many typos, sorry! 🤦🏼‍♀️

• can't be rushed, of course!

I have finally lost some weight! Wooooo!!! I feel great this week, really on it. I did two one-hour walks at lunchtime this week, third one planned for today. One dance class, two HIIT sessions, third one coming today. Apart from one small pack of crisps, no naughty stuff! I have so many different things planned with friends and family next month that I'm trying to be very, very good. It's hard work sometimes, but it's paying off!

My waist looks a lot better! Some flabby bits left, lower abdomen is a bitch, isn't it. I need to get rid of the fat from there, but otherwise, I am slowly starting to see some abs again, my bum and things are also in much better shape! I'm delighted, actually.

I read somewhere it takes 3 weeks to develop a lasting habit, this is my 3rd week and long may it continue 🌺😊

The Fitbit is also brilliant... It's arrived already and I love everything about it! How did I live without it!

Happy Hump Day, girls! Xxx

@Shefliesonherownwings I was the same as Bunny, on a number of occasions I stood at the train station en route to work and cried. Cried on trains, sometimes at my desk (luckily have my own office), in work toilets, when I saw something emotional on TV. Anything to do with babies, pg announcements, blood and AF was extremely triggering for me up until recently. Now I get that kind of anxiety or the "heavy" feeling as I would describe it, kind of like "oh, God, here we go, another bump around me" kind of feeling, but it goes away quickly. I've stopped noticing pg women around me so much, I'm getting to the point where I actually don't care that much? It's their pg and they may well have their own problems, and I have mine. But it took me 7 long months to get to this stage and I think it just happens when your mind is ready. Lots of things help, keeping healthy certainly does, but it's not one of those things that can be rushed. Xxx

Thank you ladies, you never fail to make me feel a bit better. I'm sorry others have suffered and continue to suffer anxiety, it can be so debilitating. Yes I am basically imagining DH dead in a ditch somewhere, being attacked and killed... Even if he said he was going back to a mates house I'd worry he would fall asleep and suffocate. I just can't relax on my own anymore. Before we lost Isla I was super independent, loved my own space and having time to myself. I don't recognise myself anymore. At counselling, we spoke about DH going out and he said I should always just text and ask him to come home if I feel anxious and he will so I feel a bit better.

I went to a yoga class at my gym today, first one I've been to since being pregnant. I found it quite hard but it felt good stretching all my muscles. Unfortunately at the very end when we all lay down for relaxation, the tears came. I have no idea why, I just couldn't stop it. I managed to hide it from everyone and got to the car before properly breaking down. I hate this out of control feeling and never knowing when I will get upset. Sorry to vent but it's been a hard afternoon.

In good news, I've done well with food today and still have enough WW points for some chocolate tonight. I'm going to look out for these DE balls, they do look good.

@MissSparkles81 I personally consider the monarchy to be a completely outdated concept, but it didn't stop me from enjoying the series. I loved Claire Foy and Vanessa Kirby, some really strong female performances there!

I'm sorry re your job situation, this cannot be easy and not much can be done about this if someone just suddenly drops it into the conversation. At the same time, I kind of think this should be spoken about and mentioned in conversations because in some ways, this would finally make the whole experience less scary and more human to everyone. It would be understood for what it really is, rather than avoided as one of "those uncomfortable things". But of course I get that if the pain is still raw, an unexpected mention can be triggering.

Take care and enjoy your clubbercise tonight (I'm very jealous!!) xxx

@BunnytheBlueWhale honestly its so good. Im not even a fan of the royal family but its got me hooked x

@SunStruck Yes, I know, courtesy of DH 🙌

@MissSparkles81 I loved it too, watched all three series! Good choice!