TTC baby #1 Threat #2

Still here ladies . . . Nothing to report. Ditched the opks this month and just Dtd on cd 13,16,17,19,21 currently cd 22 hoping to Dtd tomorrow cd23 and hoping that'll cover us. From previous opks I seem to ovulate late in my cycle so reckon I either ovulated in the past few days or today. This Saturday would have been my due date had I not had the ectopic.

Hi @Hannahb26 ah shame there's no news. We're all still here too

@Liam2018 there's always hope

Welcome @Butterflyflower1234

Hope you're feeling well @itsemily?

I'm still here too - just absolutely nothing to report 😭 boobs have been sore for about a week but AF isn't due for almost 2 weeks. Think my body isn't just playing games here 🙄

Hows everyone going? I'm currently 5dpo (although not sure I can call it that cause I only dtd 4 days before positive opk and two days after so probably missed my chance but still, you gotta have hope. Not really many symptoms just tired, occasional cramps or sharp pains and a lot of ewcm a week later which is unusual! Hows everyone else doing

Hi all, count me in as of a months time. We're getting married next month and hoping to a honeymoon baby. I had the coil removed in December and have been taking folic acid since then.

I had scar tissue removed back in April 2019 and they said I had endometriosis so I'm not sure how that'll affect TTC. I'm hoping having had the operation to remove everything then I might still be ok.

I have regular periods and know when I'm ovulating from body changes and my app. We've got ovulation date as the day we arrive back from honeymoon but we'll be busy every day anyways.

I know first month is highly unlikely so I need to prepare myself for that. I just want to try and enjoy the process as much as possible too.

Good luck everyone!!

Also what does DPO stand for please?

DH and I only met 5 years ago, so it was difficult to start any sooner. I was ready before we met 😩

Luckily none of my friends are pregnant or talking about having children. Some don't want them at all. DH is a bit older and all his friends have children / are pregnant. Now we're married and ttc he's admitted how much he really does want to be a dad. My friends who do have children had "surprises".

Even something minor like a wedding at the end of May makes me think "oh but will I feel like driving to the other end of the country if I'm nearly 12 weeks pg", when I might not be.

I also am starting to wish we’d tried sooner - I was probably ready 3-4 years ago but DH really really wasn’t. It’s been good for my career to leave it a while but it’s hard not to wonder “what if...”. I’m 30.

Plans help - I’m making some aggressive holiday plans but not actually booking them yet as they wouldn’t be pregnancy/baby suitable (eg sailing the Atlantic, trekking in Ethiopia) which helps see there is a life out there while TTC! At some point I’ll have to book though and just see what happens I guess, maybe 2-3 months before. The sailing is easier as I can drop out but holidays less so...

I have two good friends who are due in April, one of whom didn’t want kids ever until about a year ago. It’s tough knowing she’ll be a mother before me even though she so strongly didn’t want children until recently. Neither of them have explicitly told me how long it took them to conceive though, it’s easy to assume it happened instantly but people tend to keep it to themselves unless it was really fast or really difficult, so it’s hard to know what’s normal.

I think there's only us, @MGee123 and @Liam2018 on the thread now. I'll keep it going

@notalwaysalondoner AF showed herself on Monday. It's probably for the best, as it means I'm back in a normal cycle and not all confused. At least I'll know approximately when I should ovulate.

Have you looked at the"sperm meets egg" website. I might suggest it to DH if there's no BFP at the end of Feb.

The uncertainty is so awful, especially as it feels like other couples only need to look at each other to conceive uncomplicated pregnancies. I'm 34 now and I wish we had gotten married and started trying sooner, as even if I was just 4 years younger I would feel less worried. 12 months of trying will take us to my 35th birthday.

I've been getting emotional about the whole thing and trying not to show DH too much. He has been very worried about me since the chemical pregnancy and I don't want to add to that.

One thing that's keeping us going is booking annual leave from work and making plans. Every weekend we have something planned, even small things like going out to a cafe for lunch. We're going away for two nights in March. I will either have had another period the week before, or be a week late. Either way, it will do us good.

Any update @CurbsideProphet?

I’m now 6dpo and my three different apps are giving very different dates for AF - the one I’ve been using for years just to track AF so has the most data in there says 1st Feb, another one says 3rd, and another says 5th! I’ve put OPK results in all three so not sure why some of them are doing OPK +14 days and others are just sticking to my average! So no idea when to get my hopes up! I guess I’ll wait until Wednesday...

I was very grumpy with DH yesterday though which normally happens about 5-7 days before AF but I hope he was just being really annoying and it’s not period hormones! For the first time he also said he really hopes we conceive this month - the last 4 months he’s been pretty chilled but I think the waiting and uncertainty is starting to get to him too. We’ve agreed to try to wait until at least 6 months before getting worried, but every month that goes past without a BFP it’s hard to keep positive and the worries that we might be one of the unlucky couples that really struggles creep in...

AF is due by Tuesday. I don't know if I want it to start or not. Bit anxious about having the same again. Can't do anything about it now though I suppose!

@CurbsideProphet that sounds good then! When is AF due for you?

I've had a really short period this time (3 days) and am feeling better now it's finished. Back to DTD every other day 😂 I'm putting down the OPKs this month and we're just going to go with DTD regularly and try the more 'relaxed' approach. Not that I've ever been that good at relaxing...!

Isn't it just a roller-coaster. I've just worked out that we unintentionally DTD when I might have been ovulating (depending on whether I ovulated normally after the chemical pregnancy). I'm on CD 24 (based on the CP) and I don't know what's going to happen with my body over the next few days.

@Liam2018 yes from what I understand of OPKs that would be a peak!

@notalwaysalondoner I find the TWW a real rollercoaster. Fingers crossed for you. Have you got anything nice planned to take your mind of it all?

I’m now 2dpo. Annoyingly the second day of peak on my OPK DH had a really bad day at work and so we didn’t DTD. But did it day before and day after so hopefully caught it! Now into the TWW - I hate this part, it’s such a rollercoaster!

Yes it is - line is as dark or darker.

I can see those 2 lines?
I've nothing useful to say, so hopefully someone knowledgeable will be along to give a definitive answer!

Hi guys how is everyone??

Can anyone help me determine if this is definitely a positive opk?

Thank you @notalwaysalondoner 😂 that was kind of the gist I'd got but am just not that sure what I'm feeling 😂

I only started last month so perhaps with additional 'experience' it might make more sense this month!!

Ok so I’m going to get graphic @curbsideprophet and @MGee123!

Basically put your finger up as far as it will go. It should hit something where you can’t go any further, although this will be a bit curved into your vagina in the middle, not just a flat surface. So your finger can kind of feel quite far around the edge of it to the sides, as the cervix projects into the vagina. A bit like if the tip of your nose was poking into the top of your vagina - you’d be able to feel the tip but then the sides would be a bit deeper!

Over the month it will get higher during ovulation and lower towards your period. This takes time to get used to - you can try and remember how far your finger went in. I find the hard vs soft much more obvious. Away from ovulation it is hard like the end of your nose or even harder, like your chin. Near ovulation it is really soft, like your lips. If you tap your lips then your chin you’ll see the difference! Again it will take a while to learn what’s normal for you and it’s worth doing every day or you won’t tell the difference. Some people can tell if it’s open or closed but I can’t.

An additional benefit to checking your cervix is I personally find that any changes in my CM are much more obvious when i look at my fingers after checking than if I just look at loo paper or my pants (where I can’t see any difference really).

I don't even know whether I'm feeling mine or not?!

Thank you @CurbsideProphet @notalwaysalondoner - I think I might. If nothing else but to just talk it through with them! I don't have a regular doctor (barely ever go) but am going to try and see the same person from now on to build some continuity.

I'm not all that clear what I'm feeling re cervix either. Mine does feel different at times, but not exactly 'soft' or 'high'! 🤷‍♀️