TTC baby #1 Threat #2

@notalwaysalondoner I'm only on 3rd cycle of trying, but DH and I have had a bit of a conversation about trying to not just feel like we're dtd to get me pregnant. I don't know the answer to that tbh.

Before ttc we would never dtd mid week because we're tired from work and life. That has been an adjustment...

Hi @camha, welcome! We’re a mixture here - some of us are on month 5, others earlier on in their journey. Fingers crossed for you and sorry AF showed up!

I’m on cd10 and got a negative OPK this morning, so just waiting for ovulation. DTD yesterday and two days ago and trying to keep up every other day for the whole month. I’m not going to lie tip-off, TTC for five months hasn’t been great for our sex life - the frequency has gone up but the quality not so much. I’m starting to find it all a bit mechanical but don’t want to upset DH... it just sucks doing it when you’re not really in the mood. Anyone else finding that?

Hi, can I join please? I'm 25 (soon 26) and currently TTC #1. I'm on cycle 2 of trying, I'm currently on CD27 and AF has just arrived, so now CD1 I suppose.. Gutted as I had convinced myself I was pregnant! But onwards and upwards I suppose..

I'm on cd 16. Tbh I'm anxious about not being pregnant, but also about having another chemical pregnancy.

It's hard to not let ttc take over everything. I've turned down a work opportunity in March. On that date I would either have just started my period and be feeling down, or be late and feeling anxious about it. Grrrr 😬

The unpredictability is such a pain isn't it! Perhaps as @CurbsideProphet says it's just the start of your fertile window, which has come a bit early this month? Maybe you'll ovulate in a few days time? I think DTD every other day is a good idea just in case.

I'm fairly certain AF is on the way for me 🙄 my boobs have been really tender and now I've got backache which I've had pre-AF before. That said, last month I didn't have it so who knows 🤷‍♀️😂 If I haven't come on by Friday I think I might do a test. AF is due at the weekend so figure I might as well!

I'm lucky that I get noticeable EWCM around day 12. If you don't normally notice it then I would assume that you are at least heading towards ovulating and dtd every other day to be sure. It's definitely all too mysterious!

Ok I don’t know what’s going on - I’m only CD8 and got a negative OPK this morning but noticed I was very “wet” and now have quite a lot of EWCM (which i normally barely get at ovulation time) and my cervix is very soft. God I wish my body would be more predictable! Good reason to just DTD every other day for the whole month as it is all so mysterious!

Going to buy myself the book “it starts with the egg” as a “treat”... TTC does funny things to you!

Feeling better although still tired from flu. Had a chat with DH about TTC- he’s an optimist (I love that about him) so is quite chill about the fact that we’re now onto our sixth cycle. Wish I could be as chilled but I’m going to try! Massage yesterday was lovey so feeling more relaxed.

Are feeling ok this weekend @notalwaysalondoner? I was thinking about your post that half of pregnancies are unplanned. It reminded me that 3 of DH's friends have become parents in the past year - all unexpected (they told us that). Does seem ridiculous that they can get pregnant while using various forms of contraception while we are actively ttc

@MGee123 I definitely don't know how to feel my cervix!

Go for it @CurbsideProphet 😂 time to get busy!

We're easing off DTD as we're somewhat tired of it 😂 I think AF is due next Saturday.

Glad you've had a zen day. I am off work the week after next so might book in a few treats for then.

I'm not convinced I understand the cervix stuff. Think I will just wait and see what the PG test says next week (or AF if it shows up first!)

Hope everyone is having a good weekend 🙂
I feel super zen after a little walk in the sun and a lovely massage. Judging by my CM I'm ovulating today, so DH has been warned that we're going for 4 times in 4 days 😂
We've agreed that as this is technically only our 3rd month of trying we'll try to enjoy it!

@MGee123 we normally dtd once at the weekend. It's been a bit of an effort to get in the mood on a Wednesday 🤦🏻‍♀️I think I'm ovulating now, so we could be going for 3 times in 3 days 😲😂 I can't remember then cervix rules. I'll need to google them again...

😂😂😂 far too much adulting. Your bath set up sounds 👌 @notalwaysalondoner!

We're more of a once a week DTD kind of couple so this TTC lark has been a bit of the shock to the system 😂 we've got into the swing of it but at times it does feel a bit like we're doing it for the sake of it 🙈

My boobs have really started aching today. I think I'm starting to get the hang of the cervix feeling business 😳. It still seems quite high even though my EWCM has stopped. Don't know if that's a good thing? Is it supposed to become lower again before your period?

So much adulting! I couldn’t live without my bath, I have at least two per week in the winter! It’s such a luxury - I have candles and a bath pillow and a wooden bath tray for my cup of tea or wine and my iPad so I can watch Netflix or read. Bliss!

We’re very lazy doing anything else to our flat as we plan to move as soon as we get a BFP - although starting to wonder how soon that will be...! Don’t want to increase our commute sooner than necessary though. Plus as DH says if we don’t move at least we’ll have the money to throw at IVF. Hope it doesn’t come to that though.

Right, off to book massage and acupuncture...

I feel like I need to keep busy and not feel like I'm always hanging around waiting.

In ideal dream world we would extend the kitchen and do a loft conversion, but the works wouldn't add that much value to the house and we would need to consider if we're definitely just staying.

Oh all this adulting makes me want to hide

@notalwaysalondoner I'm impressed you manage to DTD before work 😳 we're doing well if we DTD on a week night.

@CurbsideProphet that's such a good idea to get a few treats booked in. I might do the same to tide over the TWW! Great excuse for a massage 😉 I go running a lot which helps me de-stress. I've been going a lot lately!

We are also needing to renovate our bathroom and don't currently have a bath! I feel your pain with needing a long soak sometimes. We're hoping to get ours done in the summer. I quite enjoy house renovation stuff, although we're resisting the temptation to do too much to ours as we are hoping we will get it extended in 3-5 years.

Hi @dragonfly1978 👋🏻 welcome to the gang 🙂

I'm on cd 11 and already feel a bit anxious about having yet another period 🤦🏻‍♀️ I'm working hard to combat these feelings, so I've been doing a lot of yoga and having a short walk everyday. I mainly work from home (very lucky in that respect) so I've been able to keep this up for the past week which feels like a victory. I'm treating myself to a hot oil massage at the weekend and reflexology again in a fortnight.

We're also going to start the process for getting a new bathroom. I can't wait to have a bath 🙏🏻 the plug mechanism doesn't work (since we bought the house 2.5 years ago) and I'm dreaming about having a lovely relaxing bath once a month 🙂

Welcome @dragonfly1978 👋. Fingers crossed for you this cycle. Sounds like you've thrown everything at it! 🤞. When is AF due?

I haven't been doing the weird lying down after thing but might start 😂 can't hurt?! 🤷‍♀️

I had some random cramping last night and my boobs have started to get a bit full and sore. Seems a bit early compared to when that would usually start (5-7 days before AF) but with my cycles being a bit irregular I'm trying not to read too much into it.

@notalwaysalondoner I had been on the pill for years and when I came off had no periods at all for over six months so paid privately to see a consultant who said I needed to kick start everything. I had drugs to force a bleed then Clomid to make sure I ovulated. I am 40 so didn't want to wait for a period any longer!

@dragonfly1978 welcome! Happy to have you join us! If you don’t mind me asking, how did you know you needed clomid if this is your first time TTC? I’m also doing the lie down for at least 20 minutes thing - not convenient if we do it before work...!

@CurbsideProphet I am the same and even though there is no evidence, I try and stay in bed the entire night without getting up afterwards!!!!

Have just found this group and would love to join you! This is our third cycle of trying (with the help of Clomid as well) and like all of you, we are finding it tough. We have managed to dtd every day of the fertile window this month plus used pressed, had reflexology, both took vitamins / supplements etc so not sure we could have done any more! Am now in the dreaded tww and already finding it impossible only two days in! I loved reading all your stories and seeing all the BFPs, fingers crossed for the rest of us 🤞

I've started doing ridiculous things like not getting up for 15mins after dtd, even though there is no scientific proof this helps 🤦🏻‍♀️