TTC 6months + please can people share some positive stories

LilMrsS

Hi! I also had a MC after conceiving in the first month of trying. It was a chemical so I feel like I couldn’t even grieve properly about it because it was ‘just’ a line on a test. I’m sorry you’ve been through a loss too.

I feel like I could have written your post. I’ve not even had a whiff of a BFP since January last year and I also have no medical conditions. Could definitely do with losing a stone as well.

Hi all, new to Mumsnet but so nice to hear good advice and experiences. I have it in my head I've left it to long for a 2nd child even though I'm 31. I fell pregnant first month trying but miscarried and it's now been 6mnths with nothing.. trying to stay healthy ( I am a lil over weight) and have no medical conditions but just getting stressed now as it was so easy first time around 9years ago!

Pffft it's so hard. Hopefully lady luck will be smiling on us soon! xx

Cycle 13 here too kell2126. Before that, we were occasionally using condoms or the pull out method. Whilst it wouldn’t have been planned, it wouldn’t have been a bad thing if I’d fallen pregnant before. We were waiting until after we were in our own house and then married because I didn’t want to be pregnant or post baby in my wedding dress. Already have a DD who is nearly 6 so stupidly thought we’d be expecting soon.

ha @Banoffeepie91and @BeingATwatIsABingThing I do too

currently on cycle 13 over here – 13 cycles of very definitely trying after 18 months of not NOT trying. I know everyone says you have to keep positive but honestly it just feels like it's never going to happen and I am so incredibly bored of the same thought processes month in, month out

I make the extra effort during my fertile window to stay in bed after with my pelvis raised to help the swimmers.

I do this at all points of the month! I think it is possibly my least attractive angle.

LittleMissV989 I was a week late last month too. Like you, I had convinced myself and even got a couple of what I now know to be be evaps on some ICs.

Hello everyone I'm also in the same position. It's the most frustrating thing isnt it. We have been trying since August and still nothing. I'm feeling it more this month as I was totally convinced I was finally pregnant. Period was late lower back pain nauseous, crying at everything etc I even did a test and I thought I saw a line. Then AF arrived with avengance on the 24th. I was a week late and that has never happened before. Literally felt like my body was messing around with me. . I'm glad I found this group its good to know I'm not alone. Let's hope we get our BFPs soon sending baby dust to all those ttc. X

It does make it harder doesn’t it, Trying2019. Hopefully 2020 is our year.

@beingatwatitsabingthing same here. Not back in work till monday. I was fine yesterday when my husband was home but today its harder. I work from home sometimes but going to avoid it from now on. I need to be around people xx

I’m keeping everything crossed this month. My issue at the moment is that I’m not at work again until Monday (teacher) so I am at home all day with no distractions. It’s all I am thinking about.

@Bunny2006 thanks ill give them a go. I dont think ill be great at temping tbh. First day today and didnt bother. Might start later on in my cycle x

I agree i think people are just quick to say it happened the first month off contraception but people who took a while maybe dont say. Im trying to keep my positive outlook today. I know others are trying more this month but we are just going to DTD when we fancy it otherwise its too much pressure on DH. Id forgotten what a normal sex life is.

@Breakfastat this is the first month ive really struggled as well. Cycle 8 (7 months trying) its because a girl from work got pregnant for the 2nd time first month trying. I was thinking it would be me going off work not her and it just hit really hard.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing same thing happened to me. Girl from work pregnant her first month trying. Absolutely gutting i cried my eyes out xx

Bunny I agree. This is cycle 11 for us (9months trying) and AF started yesterday. Iv been really really struggling this time for the first time, Up until now iv not been too worried, but now I am. Probably because we are getting close to 1 year and then seeing all the posts about people’s greatest achievements being their children is tough.

I do think some couples are not honest about how quickly it took them to conceive. Yes there are the ones who it happens for quickly but I think that those who struggle often don’t admit how long it actually took them as there is a sense of shame/taboo around it. It is being spoken about more with social media/you tube but in real life not so much and that’s what makes it difficult for us when we feel like we’re failing because we haven’t conceived quickly.

Sending you all lots of love in this difficult journey.

Yep, seen so many of my friends posting on FB their '10 year challenge' etc and lots ended the year with babies/pregnant. Very difficult for me not to feel anger/jealousy at how easy it was for them :(

I agree that it’s nice to hear the success stories. Just as my pregnant colleague went on mat leave, another colleague announced her pregnancy. Babies are all anyone can talk about at work and it kills me inside.

@Trying2019 Thanks. I use Flo and Fertility Friend. I find Flo tends to predict my ovulation a bit too early each time though.

I'm definitely going to increase efforts this month, DP works evenings though and I often fall asleep before he's back and he doesn't wake me/come to bed straight away. However I'm going to set an alarm just before he gets in so I can be awake and ready haha!

@chocolate26 Good to hear a success story! :)

I just thought I'd add that it took me and DH 12 months to get pregnant, both of us are fit and healthy and have good fertility! Sometimes these things just take a while 😊 I know how hard it is though when everywhere you look there's pregnant people and babies. I thought it would never happen for us but it did 😃 stay positive, good luck!

Trying2019

I’ve increased efforts this month. When I got my OPK+, we DTD every day for 4 days. We’re going back to EOD for another week at least.

@Bunny2006 welcome. Glad your tests came back ok. Do u use an app to track your temp im going to start this month x

@BeingATwatItsABingThing welcome. Its hard to keep positive but decided im going to chill this month. No more dwelling and putting my life on hold xx

@Banoffeepie91 we were thinking of Japan! Whereabouts are you going? It's so hard to find somewhere outside Europe that doesn't have zika!
Most of my fertile windows for the next few months I've either booked AL over or it's over a weekend or bank holiday 😂
We are getting back on the diet and exercise next week and I want to start Pilates as it will help with my back as well as stress.
Fingers crossed 2020 is our time 🤞🏼

Hi all, mind if I join in?

I came off contraception (pill followed by mini pill) 5 years ago due to side effects I developed, was meant to use barrier methods but after a few accidents were nothing happened we stopped. Would've been happy to have a baby but wasn't actively trying. In the past year or so have been more actively trying, but due to DP working nights and my very low drive wasn't DTD often.

Past 3 cycles I have been tracking BBT and DTD lot's more but nothing so far. I have had bloods (all ok) and an internal and external ultrasound, all fine. DP doesn't want to get any tests yet but is taking supplements as am I.

Fingers crossed for everyone. So many of my friends have accidental pregnancies and it is hard for me to hide my upset.

Cycle 13 for me and just trying to stay positive.