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TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

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MilsCookie · 26/12/2019 16:52

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

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BecsterG · 17/01/2020 19:18

@Anny27 definitely could be as too early for AF cramps. I had cramps from about 4DPO this time.

Fingers crossed and baby dust to you. X

Anny27 · 17/01/2020 19:02

@BecsterG I am 5/6dpo (bit early for implantation but the cycle I was pregnant I think I implanted early then!

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 18:41

@Anny27 fingers crossed that’s what it is. What DPO are you? X

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 18:40

@ChampooPapi hahahahahahha your post made me laugh. I take my hat off to you. 22 time is quite something Grin. Fingers crossed it works for you.

@Ejb86 that’s so rubbish. Bet the chocolate was yummy though.

Ejb86 · 17/01/2020 17:58

@FireflyGirl, he totally is. If only he knew what my life has been like for the past 4 months!

FireflyGirl · 17/01/2020 17:56

That octopus looks a bit judgy, if you ask me Ejb86...

Ejb86 · 17/01/2020 17:39

@MilsCookie @Cruiser1 AF appears to be in full flow. Just demolished this...

TTC after miscarriage - January 2020
Anny27 · 17/01/2020 17:35

@ChampooPapi hahaha we had lots of hilarious sex 😅 and lots of "dont you dare let a drop of sperm escape" sex 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ladies I am cramping quite a lot today and had a temp dip, I am reaaaaaaly hoping its implantation but trying not to get Hope's up

SweetpeaOrMarigold · 17/01/2020 17:27

Ah the puns @Champoo 🤣

ChampooPapi · 17/01/2020 17:18

@BecsterG @MilsCookie @Anny27
it has been pretty crazy, but also completely fantastical as well. Had some great sex, so very boring sex, some mind blowing sex, some truly awful sex, some hilarious sex, and everything in-between.

January just had to be like this for us, we knew it was coming after af came after Christmas. My partners words were 'go hard or go home' (so many puns 😆).

I'm not exaggerating either, I just counted back and it's exactly twenty times including today. Bloody hell women, Im going to go the other way for February if not successful, just do it once a week and hope for the best 🤔

I guess having two other children we know exactly how much sex one has when pregnant or with a small baby (read zero for us!). So easier to get down knowing it will be in short supply once I've got a bun in the oven 😁

SweetpeaOrMarigold · 17/01/2020 17:14

We've been very busy BD too, for some reason since MC I'm very horny keen.
I presume its my body telling me to get back onto it!

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MilsCookie · 17/01/2020 16:21

Wow @ChampooPapi !! 20 times is impressive 😮 I think we’ve done it around 10 times over the last week so I’m also hoping that will have done the trick!! But with this BV I think that will have affected me this month so pretty much expecting a BFN.

@Ejb86 sorry to hear that lovely. Are your sure it’s AF if only in CD26? 😘

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Cruiser1 · 17/01/2020 16:17

Aw no 😔 @Ejb86 any chance it’s implantation bleeding? Or was it too heavy for that?
That’s Sh1tty.... 😔

Anny27 · 17/01/2020 16:10

@ChampooPapi we did it 9 times and I thought that was alot 😅😅😅😅

Good luck to you!!

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 16:05

@ChampooPapi 20 times!!! Wow don’t think we could have done that years ago before my son was born! Ha ha Fingers and toes crossed.

@mlax how frustrating. Fingers crossed something shows soon whether it be positive test or AF!

ChampooPapi · 17/01/2020 15:14

@mlax what a nightmare, it's just one of those really stressful things isn't it, no denying it. You must be feeling absolutely crazy today! I would, I mean when your period arrives it is a good sign in the fact your cycles are happening and you can look forward to the next, but no AF, no positive test either. I really feel for you, this is not a good situation , please update us, one glimmer of hope is much later ovulation so will keep the faith for you lovely 💪♀️♥️

mlax · 17/01/2020 14:50

@ChampooPapi I would be very surprised if you don't!!!!!! I've got my fingers and toes crossed for you.

I've still no sign of my AF, and taken a pregnancy test and it is negative unfortunately. Clearly my cycles haven't gone back to normal 😅

SweetpeaOrMarigold · 17/01/2020 13:30

As a serial tester I have just done my first of MANY tests over the next 2 weeks.
Honestly I've no idea what makes me do it so early. ICs arrived today so I saw it as a sign. Obviously bfn because I've probably not even implanted yet.

ChampooPapi · 17/01/2020 13:28

Cautious Congrats to all and baby dustings to everyone else waiting, wishing and hoping (me 😆)

I'm done with sex, dtd yesterday and today at cd21 and cd22, I've had sex about 20 times now so I think I'm covered! And if I don't catch it's just the way the toast falls this month 🙏

FireflyGirl · 17/01/2020 12:41

Flowers @Ejb86.

Sorry to hear that. FC next month is your month.

Ejb86 · 17/01/2020 12:28

I think I'm out. Been to the loo and had bleeding when I wiped. Had been hopeful that it might just be a little bit that came out when having a #2, but I dont think it is. This means my cycle has been 26 days. Had 28 last month so thought I'd settled back into my normal rhythm, but it appears not. Have to say, I'm gutted.

toomanyleggings · 17/01/2020 09:55

Sorry I don't want to be a negative Nancy but just wouldn't like anyone to be upset like I was
. Baby dust to all x

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 09:54

Thanks for that not what!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 09:53

@toomanyleggings thanks for what. I had no idea. 👍🏻 I will remain optimistically cautious for now.

@FireflyGirl good luck xx

hannahs87 · 17/01/2020 09:43

@firelfygirl fingers crossed for you.

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