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TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

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MilsCookie · 26/12/2019 16:52

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

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BecsterG · 18/01/2020 09:43

Blonde moment. I’ve created a new thread in the pregnancy section this time! Doh. Looking forward to seeing all of you there!! StarStar

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3798635-Catching-up-with-TTC-after-MC-thread-January-2020?watched=1

BecsterG · 18/01/2020 09:35

Whoops! I’ll create another ha as

Anny27 · 18/01/2020 09:34

@BecsterG yayy :D :D you can "report" the thread and ask to move to the pregnancy board, I have done that before xx

SweetpeaOrMarigold · 18/01/2020 09:33

Its so lovely seeing these BFPs, giving me hope.
Congratulations! Flowers

didslysquiddlydoo · 18/01/2020 09:26

@BecsterG ahhh I'm so pleased for you!! That new thread might want to go on the pregnancy section 🤞🏼

BecsterG · 18/01/2020 09:02

Screw it. I’m going to be positive for a change.

Here’s the group: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3798596-Catching-up-with-the-TTC-trying-to-conceive-after-miscarriage-thread?watched=1

Hope all our lovely ladies can join vey soon as his group has been great.

Xx

BecsterG · 18/01/2020 08:58

@Anny27 Yes my husband is really pleased thanks although we’ve agreed we will tell limited people this time until we know it’s had stuck. X

BecsterG · 18/01/2020 08:46

@Anny27 I’m happy to create one. I’ll wait until AF is due first though as don’t want to jinx it. Star

Anny27 · 18/01/2020 08:39

@BecsterG ahh amazing line on the FRER!is DH pleased?

The pregnant ladies should make a "catching up with the ttc after miscarriage thread" on the pregnancy board and hopefully the rest of us can join in soon!!!

BecsterG · 18/01/2020 08:26

@StephyRose I also had a little spotting with my son. It’s definitely not over until the fat lady sings. That’s what I say anyway.

@FIreflyGirl the test is defo positive but only a little darker than yesterday I think. Might not test for a few days now. AF due tomorrow.

@Anny27 that’s sounds really positive. Fingers crossed.

TTC after miscarriage - January 2020
FireflyGirl · 18/01/2020 08:02

Flowers @StephyRose

Have you got anything planned this weekend that might take your mind off it for a bit? It'll be a waiting game now.

How did the test go @BecsterG?

That sounds promising @MilsCookie.

I am in awe of your dedication, @ChampooPapi Shock. We've DTD 8 times in 10 days, and I thought we'd done well! Some of it has been just 'getting the job done', though.

Anny27 · 18/01/2020 08:01

@Stephyrose I had lots of AF cramps at the start of pregnancy. Really hope this is what it is for you!!

@BecsterG hope the line is darker!!

I woke up today with temp rise, fuller boobs and back pain . Sometimes I get fuller boobs with AF though so you never know 😅 I am making a not of symptoms so that if I dont catch this month, I know what's normal for next month

@ChampooPapi when will you test? 🤞

@MilsCookie yeah you may have ovulated earlier! The symptoms sound promissing. I never had the weird taste when I was pregnant but I know a lot of women do

StephyRose · 18/01/2020 07:17

@BecsterG

Hi love, hmm dunno. I feel like I know the difference between pregnancy cramps and period cramps and this feels like period.

I went to the loo for the first time this morning and my discharge was yellowy-pink so I assume AF is on its way. Just not sure my darling, but I really hope not.

Why would I get a positive if I wasnt? I know CP but I didn't think life would be that cruel. 😥

You can see I have a tendency to always assume the worst! 🤣

BecsterG · 18/01/2020 06:52

@StephyRose Ekk fingers crossed. Did you test again today? Could just be pregnancy cramps though and you’re just nervous as AF is officially due today?

I’m due tomorrow and I too don’t believe it despite the positive tests although I do feel it. AF due tomorrow for me. I’m going to take my last FRER this morning. So nervous. I guess this is the problem with testing early.

Happy Saturday?

X

StephyRose · 18/01/2020 05:58

@Cruiser1 really sorry to hear that beaut. Wishing you lots and lots of baby dust!!🌈🌈

@MilsCookie @ChampooPapi @Anny27 wishing you and everyone else in the TWW lots of luck and baby dust!! 🌈👶🏼🎉

StephyRose · 18/01/2020 05:55

Hi lovelies,

Happy Saturday to all. AF is due today and I've woken up this morning with cramps .... I'm crossing everything but despite the tests, I am not 100% I'm convinced I'm PG.

Wishing everyone happy symptoms spotting and a calm TWW ❤💗 Feel like it's not meant to be for me this month xx

MilsCookie · 17/01/2020 23:53

@Cruiser1 oh bless you 😘😘 sending you SO much luck. Same to you both too @Anny27 and @SweetpeaOrMarigold 🍀 🍀 🍀

@ChampooPapi haha thank you... I really feel like I’m just imagining all the symptoms. With the one I miscarried it was an accident so wasn’t looking out for symptoms or anything in the TWW. But I definitely remember thinking around the time my period was due that I had a weird taste in my mouth and lack of sore boobs (after ALWAYS getting sore boobs 7 days before af) so I knew something was up.

I haven’t felt anything up until today where I’ve had this awful taste, some cramping and twinges on both sides of my abdomen (at first I thought it was just my right side but then tonight I’ve been feeling it on the left! 🤔) and also very slight nausea. I want it so bad I feel like I’ve wished the symptoms there if you know what I mean! It’s so frustrating having to wait to test 😩 I’m also away with DP’s family this weekend where I know alcohol is going to be involved and don’t want to drink any just in case 😬

Lots of luck and baby dust to you all ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

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ChampooPapi · 17/01/2020 22:03

@Anny27 and @SweetpeaOrMarigold everything crossed for you both 🤞✨🌈👣

ChampooPapi · 17/01/2020 21:59

@Cruiser1 we did it twice a day often but he is away Monday morning untill Thursday so I basically spent Tuesday and Wednesdays luxuriating alone in bed with pants & pyjamas on 🙄 , usually sleep with nothing on the bottom half even when I'm alone. Mentally needed to be fully clothed in bed on those delicious solo snooze times.

He was around over new year's during that week though so had to make the most of his time off.

Waves @Ejb86, sorry to see af turned up your end. Wallowing needs to happen and Chocolate is a good start. Treat yourself over the next few days and remember you'll be in front of everyone who's in their two week wait right now who don't catch so we'll be rooting for you this time next month.

@MilsCookie I'm getting the gid for you! Trying to remain calm and sensible but I really think you've got a good chance this month and everything sounds really good, eeekk!

Cruiser1 · 17/01/2020 21:56

@MilsCookie
I’m 7/8 DPO I think. But I had lots of positive positive OPKs after the MC but I think It’s 7/8 days
My nerves are gone, I guess it’s because there’s so much pressure. If I get AF I know I’m gonna be so devastated!

After the first MC I had AF twice and on both of them it was like all the devastation of the MC hit me again 😔 I really don’t wanna feel that again!

MilsCookie · 17/01/2020 21:46

@BecsterG it’s so difficult! I feel a bit odd at the moment but feel like I’m just thinking too much into it. No idea when I ovulated. I used to think it was around CD18 in previous cycles but I’ve just looked through my notes on the Flo app and it was CD15 when I started feeling ovulation type cramps. So it could be that I’m already 8dpo! But I really have no idea. I went to brush my teeth and I still have that weird taste!! 😖

@Cruiser1 sounds promising lovely! How many dpo are you?

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Cruiser1 · 17/01/2020 21:28

Aw @Ejb86 I’m sorry 😞 eat every crumb of that chocolate you deserve it!

@ChampooPapi 😂😂🙌🏼 How? HOW?? I was sooo sick of sex after the 7th time 😥😂
@Anny27 @MilsCookie sounds really positive 👍🏼 I’m cramping on and off for 3 days now, I’m also exhausted and so small amounts of nausea! Praying it’s not all in my head

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 21:09

@MilsCookie that sounds positive if you had it last time. So hard isn’t it as you second guess everything you feel feel. X

didslysquiddlydoo · 17/01/2020 20:22

@Ejb86 awww I'm sorry AF reared it's nasty head 😞 I hope you're ok xxxx

MilsCookie · 17/01/2020 19:19

@Ejb86 a bubble bath and some chocolate. Sounds perfect!!

I have no idea where I’m at in terms of DPO because I’m not sure when I ovulated, but as it’s CD23 I’m assuming I have... but I have a very weird taste in my mouth similar to what I had last time before I got my BFP. Can’t tell if I’m imagining it though!! 😕

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