TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

@StephyRose aww I'm really sorry - as below, it seems so cruelly common following mc 😢

@Cruiser1 oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that!! What cycle are you on following mc? I waited for my first AF after miscarriage (thinking it would give me the best chance of recovery) but had two chemicals the next two months. It seems cruelly common following mc 😢

@FireflyGirl you think a pt could become positive even if it was negative 1/2 day after being late? 😕

My tests seem to be getting lighter so I think it’s probably a chemical.
How you getting on @StephyRose?

StephyRose

You'll only know if you test @mlax.

Fingers crossed for you @AlviesMam.

I am around 3 dpo and my boobs are very tender. I don't think this can be Pg symptoms, but it's very unusual.

Oh @StephyRose ☹️ I've been reading through this thread whilst not posting much as I'm so unsure what to say at the moment. I'm really feeling for you 💗 sending lots of virtual hugs your way.

I've still not had my AF, I'm now 4-5 days late and too scared to take another hpt as I know I'm not pregnant. Going by my last AF, if I was pregnant, I'd apparently be 5 weeks and 2 days but last time I was pregnant, by now I had no sore boobs and I don't still, but I took my last pregnancy test on Friday which was negative. So confused why I'm late if I'm not.

I have been suffering with anxiety and anxiety attacks since it happened, wondering if it's maybe that? But I haven't had an anxiety attack since NYD 😩 xx

No sign of AF today I'm due TOMORROW!
Got no symptoms apart from the general feeling of 'oh I think I've came on' but wiping and I haven't.... it's a total mind game :(

@TerribleImagination I've only been getting dreams this past week!

@Anny27 keep positive anything can happen. Still early days! Xxxxx

Thank you @ChampooPapi for your lovely message. I have so much work to do for school but partner is going to take me out for a meal instead ... he is a gem. Thank you 💗 xx

@toomanyleggings that actually gives me a lot of hope 💗 thank you xx

I've got a doctors appointment booked for Wednesday. I know I haven't had 3 miscarriages but I just want to talk to someone.

Not sure if I should take a break from TTC. I feel like I've lost myself in the process.

Was in lots of pain with cramps yesterday afternoon and especially the evening. Had a darker opk again yesterday lunch time.
Didn't DTD as just feel so down... Couldn't face it. Now wondering if the pains were ovulation pains... And I've missed my chance this month.
Eugh.

@StephyRose I had three chemical pregnancies one after another with no break. Then I had my daughter. Don't lose hope !

Aww @StephyRose that’s awful I’m so sorry. Any chance it’s implantation bleed? Could be a chemical though 😰
I just think I’m gonna have a chemical as well 😩 I just can’t think positively, I’m always assuming now that il lose it 😩

@StephyRose definitely go and speak to someone, they may well do serial blood levels and see what is going on

@ChampooPapi yes that brie DP has been eating will be lovely melted all over literally anything

@StephyRose really sorry to read what your going through, just keep posting, we are here for you and we need you too. Don't try and stay strong today, just let yourself go and feel it. It's ok to melt today, I'm doing it if it's any consolation, I'm am feeling unbelievably depressed about the whole process today. And I'm just going to mum'snet my way through it today and switch things up tomorrow by going out and enjoying life and health and find joy in the world and nature wherever I can.

But today is shit yes. Do think booking the doctor is a good idea @StephyRose as they'll have your results of the surgical management. I never heard anything about mine either and that was in October. Finally went to the doctor last week and they had my results, glad to know it wasn't a molar and all textbook sort of thing. Helped me get through that week anyway

@SweetpeaOrMarigold hell to the yes to those things! If I'm not pregnant I am breaking my dry January on the 1st by consuming an entire bottle of wine with the most disgusting expensive non pasterised gooey cheese I can find!

Hi @Anny27,

I did get negative tests after my period doll, you are right. I've started bleeding this morning. It's not like a normal period, its browny-red so I can only deduce it is a CP. I'm going to ring my doctors today because I haven't spoken to anyone medical since the day of my ERPC and I'm sick of second guessing and googling everything.

I looked up CP. It is down to chromosomal abnormalities .... what the fuck is wrong with my body? I feel like I wont ever be able to do this 😪😥💔

Everything crossed for you that this is your month darling. ❤🌈🎉👶🏼

@Cruiser1 dont give up hope. You've got this!! ❤❤

I've woken up this morning with zero symptoms. Cramps, boob pain and nausea all gone. No idea what that means.
Certainly if we haven't got it this month, we are going to have a lot of wine, never had the chance as I was pg over Christmas and NY and then was too sad/had my son/work /started ttc again so I will definitely deserve it.

@StephyRose did you get a clear negative on a FRER after the miscarriage? I doubt it would be residual HCG 2 months later

I hope it's a case of afternoon urine best for you! Or sadly may be a CP :( so sorry hun if that's the case

@Cruiser1 you are still a while off from AF due so still lots of time for HCG to increase. Let us know how you get on tomorrow

@AlviesMam lovely to hear from you 💗 fingers crossed for a positive test xx

8dpo today ladies literally 0 symptoms and my temps are low ish (well not pre ovulation low but a little bit lower than my usual post ovulation temps) so not looking promissing.

Still optimistic though as stranger things have happened.

@AlviesMam I had the vivid dreams too! I also had them this month though, and I got AF bang on time, as well as the same full sore boobs as before, so think I might have had a chemical the more I think about it... But yeah vivid dreams were deffo a sign for me!

@StephyRose we’re in the same boat.... I tested again this morning and the line isn’t getting darker, it’s actually a bit lighter 😞
I’m thinking it could be CP 😞

Having said that, there’s a chance it’s just that my urine wasn’t concentrated enough. At this early stage the urine really needs to be concentrated

The next couple of days will be hard

Thank you so much for your lovely message @GoldenBauble. I need to remember that I can actually get PG and I too feel quickly last time. It's just this bloody too-ing and fro-ing between 'Am I Pregnant?' 'Am I not pregnant?' And the absolute worst is getting your hopes up .... next time no testing before period due date. It just makes me a nervous wreck. Thank you again for being so kind and picking me up when I needed it. ❤❤ Baby dust to you xx

@Cruiser1 thank you to you too. ❤ I think cramps is definitely a good sign. Hope you are feeling better.

@MilsCookie thank you doll. 😘❤ xx

Did another test this morning with FMU, only had one last CB one left. You can't really see it but there is a faint positive line. Still no AF, two days late today. Think this is either a CP or a positive from Retained Products of the miscarriage... but I've had a period and ovulated since.

Just not sure what to think.

@MilsCookie good luck to you on the TWW 🤞🏼🙌🏼 xxxx

@MilsCookie I'm not going to test until I'm late as AF is usually bang on the date never late ! Xx

Also the last four days I've been having vivid dreams again which I noticed during my last pregnancy... anyone else had these before xxx

@toomanyleggings thank you, it just gets so close to the date I'm due and I get obsessed over symptoms wondering is it period or a positive 😟 got no CM this time which I always get before AF. Got CM around 8 weeks pregnant last time hmmmm x