TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

Glad to find this discussion!

MC on 24/12 and my scan is tomorrow to see if i need surgery or medication to clear the remaining...
Also on antibiotics for infection

I hope to be trying in Jan too. I am 30 and DO is 28 it will be our first.

Good luck

AF has finished and I'm back on tracking with FLO. I always have a 28 day cycle this time was 27 so not too worried. Just ordered some ovulation tests to help me know for accuracy. My question is, FLO says I ovulate in 9 days... I normally DTD every day until a week before AF, should I change this? Would you start tonight? lol I keep thinking I won't burn my DH out and save his swimmers for near to ovulation (yes I'm probably crazy in thinking this but this TTC malarkey is making me crazy!!) we also DTD around 11pm ...again im being crazy but should I jazz up the time's a little and change time's ?! Any advice about TTC will be helpful

Hi Ladies

Like to join the thread please.

Had a MMC with my first pregnancy end of Oct when I though I was just under 10 weeks babies measured 7weeks. Not only did we find out that we’d been expecting twins also found out that I have uterus didelphys (2 uteruses)

Had ERPC and got first period nearly 5 weeks after surgery. And have gone straight back into my normally 28 day cycle as AF has arrived again today. In one way pleased cycle has gone straight back to normal but on the other hand disappointed that it means no BFP this month,

Think once things have got straight after Christmas/New Year chaos I’ll go and see the Drs to try and understand if having 2 uteruses will cause complications as have done the norm of googling everything and get so many mixed messages.

Really hoping 2020 is going to be the year we all get our BFP and our babies to hold.

Hey ladies. I had a miscarriage at the start of November. I tried again in December and didn't fall pregnant. My LH test was low this cycle so not confident at all that we have been successful (ovulated Christmas day).

Am feeling hopeless and sad, it's hard though because I haven't been trying that long so feel guilty for feeling so low.

Reading this board has been so helpful today in managing my feelings. I wish someone had forewarned me how ttc would be such an emotional rollercoaster.

Wishing all of you ladies the absolute best of luck in 2020.

Hi @MilsCookie I don't even know why I think I'm
Not ovulating, I think I am just feeling anxious. The first period I had post mc was completely normal (28days post medical management) and this one which came bang on 28days as previous has been completely normal too. I am currently cd3 so pretty similar to you. So it seems my cycle has regulated itself.
My pregnancy that ended in mc was planned but it was our first month of trying and so I guess we didn't really 'try' at all and I was almost expecting it stupidly to happen like that again.
Are you going to use ovulation sticks this month?

Since miscarriage**

@mlax I am having my first AF since period and it is very normal. Will actually less cramps than normal which I thought was strange! But my doctor said it us normal to be lighter or heavier or normal :)

Welcome to all the new ladies! Makes me feel so much less alone but also cant believe how many of us have been through this!!

Yep I take folic acid and am trying to eat some more iron rich foods and generally be a bit healthier @MilsCookie :D my cycles are usually 27- 31 days long. Sometimes get a slightly shorter or longer one but they are mostly quite regular. Who knows what will happen now though after miscarriage

Cycle day 4 today and AF is nearly over with 🙌

Hi all. I'd like to join this thread. I had a MC back in November and came off my AF 10 days ago.. it was a natural MC so unsure of when exactly baby stopped growing but I would have been 9 weeks at the time.

Me and my partner agreed that we'd start TTC next year (this was unplanned this pregnancy, although wasn't being careful for 2 years...)

According to my flo app I'm due to be ovulating on the 1st Jan but not quite sure how accurate that will be.

Not sure if anyone else has experienced this but as my MC was natural, my first AF was normal (not heavy as I was expecting it to be) is this normal?

So sorry to hear if everyone else's losses and hope next year is our year 💗

I think you can have a period without ovulating- unfortunately!

Just a quick question, if I am getting periods does that mean I am ovulating? I have just started my second period (cd2 today) since my miscarriage( my cycle was 28 days exactly as it was before my pregnancy). I feel so sad it's started, in my head I thought I would be pregnant again, now I feel scared that maybe my first pregnancy was a one off and won't happen again, part of me knows that is irrational but hard not to get those thoughts.
Also curious to see what supplements people are taking, I have been taking royal jelly and pre conceive tablets is there anything else?

Hello,

I’ve been trying to conceive baby number two since September 2018. My husband and I got a BFP in March 2019 but miscarried at 11 weeks in May 2019. We got another BFP in September 2019 but found out it was ectopic and had baby, and my left Fallopian tube removed in October 2019.

We took a break for a couple of months but have decided to start trying again this cycle. I’m currently on cycle day 4 and I’m trying to be positive!

Fingers crossed for everyone else who is trying this month!

Would like to join...

Fell pregnant in August and that ended in a MMC and ERPC on 1st October... Just got a Bfp on boxing day, but the faintest line and not getting any darker, so can only assume a chemical now :(
Just waiting for AF to arrive and get on with trying again xx

Hi ladies,

I’d love to join you if that’s ok. I had a missed miscarriage back in August and it’s taken me until now to tentatively choose to try again. I had surgical management which was straightforward but very sad. I felt from the start that something wasn’t right but I get HG in pregnancy and was super ill so I thought I’d be ok. Cruelly, I continued to be bed bound despite the baby having stopped growing at 6 weeks. I had had an early scan saw a heartbeat measuring 6 weeks and I was sceptical because I had thought I was about 8 weeks. I had a private scan 2 weeks later and there was nothing there

I’ve had a very difficult history with pregnancy and settled on the idea that maybe I should stop trying. I lost my first daughter at 31 weeks with no eventual cause found. A year later I successfully delivered my son. It was a very traumatic pregnancy, I was constantly worried he would die too but we made it.

According to the opks I am ovulating right now. I’m a little in denial about the whole thing and I’m not sure how I’ll feel if I do fall pregnant again. Terrified I imagine. I want a sibling for my son but equally if this is not the path for me then I feel quietly accepting of that. I’ve been blessed with him and if it doesn’t happen for me then I hope I can find peace with that. Im 39 so it feels like the last
Chance.

Good luck to you all xx

No worries @AlviesMam :) you get an LH surge (the hormone that's released before an egg releases) which is picked up on the ovulation test so the test let's you know that your body is gearing up to ovulate xx

@Anny27 what makes the ovulation tests positive before an egg is released? How does it know? (Sorry for the questions just want to know how accurate they are)
Thank you xxx

@AlviesMam yep you get a positive test about 24-48 hours before you ovulate :) they are a bit different to pregnancy tests in that both lines need to be the same darkness for it to be classed as positive.

@sophied1983 sorry your cycles are so irregular now :( it's hard when you just want to be back on track! My first cycle after misgarruaged was 43ish days but hoping that they return back to the 28 day mark

@MilsCookie we are on the same cycle day then! My AF was a bit lighter this month and not as much cramps. Doctor said can either be light or heavier, it's such a minefield haha

Welcome to all the other ladies @TerribleImagination @Brodijen @honolulu1 @MrsB16 ❤

Hello all

Thank you for setting up the thread @milscookie. There are some incredibly strong women on here, with some heart breaking experiences. I'm so sorry for all of losses and really hope you are finding ways to heal 😙
I had a miscarriage in September early at 6 weeks and we've been TTC for 11 months now for our first baby. I'm 35 and partner is 38. I think like others I had convinced myself that we'd get pregnant again really quickly after the MC but it's not happened and every time af comes it's really upsetting and frustrating as feel we are putting a lot of work in; clear blue OPK's, bbt chatting (new addition this month, so not really sure about this yet), and SMEP (conceived by this method previously).

Anyway I think I've been so consumed in my own grief and frustrations that i'd not recognised until recently how difficult this is for my partner too. Whereas us women will talk about it, I don't think that they always do.

I'm a bit later on in my cycle, currently CD20 and 3dpo. Feeling really positive about 2020 for us all, and ready to leave this crappy year behind now x

Hi gals, you all sound like you are writing my story and it’s so comforting to know I’m not on my own. I had my MMC in October and had my AF six weeks later. I was so relieved to know my body was getting back to normal. I’ve been using ovulation sticks since then, I had never used them on the previous pregnancy, and got a surge a week ago. AF is due New Year’s Day or so, and I think I’ll wait till then to test. But as @ChampooPapi said, 2020 is going to be our year gals!!

Thanks @MilsCookie 😊

I got my negative pregnancy test this morning... felt sad but I wasn’t surprised and at least it’s starting fresh now. As miscarriages go, I’ve been fortunate not to need any medical management at all.

So now to DTD lots again whilst full of Christmas dinners and chocolate 😂

Already on 9 months this time and period arrived today, so that's another month gone. Think if I had regular cycles I'd find it a bit easier, but it's the fact they jump about which drives me potty. Going to make an appointment with the doctor in the New Year. My periods have totally changed since the m/c and that's unsettling too.