TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

@ChampooPapi honestly, when she did tell me I genuinely said 'are you fucking joking' as it was a total shock and I wasn't expecting it so soon after. I apologised a few hours later as I was probably a bit nasty but I can't hold back.

I only have 1 test left in the house now which I'll use if I have missed my AF next week. Fingers crossed 🤞

@FireflyGirl it's hard isn't it? The consultant told me my twins would have been delivered by 34 weeks. 34 weeks is 25th Jan, my brother's birthday. My girls would have been born this month.

I'm bloody symptom spotting. In both my pregnancies I had really vivid dreams prior to taking a test. I haven't really dreamt for a long time. Last night I had 2 really vivid, clear as day dreams, ones where I woke up crying. It could be just that my brain is in overdrive after returning to work, but can't help but wonder.

Annie0425

I can't keep up with who said what, sorry, but having a safe space to say the things we can't say IRL is a great idea.

I should be 8 months pregnant, my due date for the pregnancy I miscarried is coming up next month. It's going to be incredibly hard, especially if I'm not pregnant again, and it's not fair, dammit!!!

My fertile window is due to start on Sunday. DH knows I have done a lot of research into ovulation/conception, and for a couple of months we used avoiding the fertile window as contraception, but we don't discuss it much in detail. Partly because it kills the 'magic' a bit!

@disneymummysince2010 we DTD just incase so 🤞🤞 just before I spotted some EWCM as well so even if I dont OV tomorrow, hopefully it means soon 🙌

@GoldenBauble totally I think DH thinks I am psycho constantly asking him if he thinks an LH test is positive and reminding him that we need to DTD haha. We arent big drinkers but I have been reminding him when we go out to limit the alcohol!

@ELM7 I take them twice a day around fertile week, once in morning and once early evening:)

@MilsCookie yep DTD every day sounds like a good plan! We have been doing every other day untill yesterday and now we are doing every day hopefully! Sometimes DH takes some convincing when usually it's me that takes some convincing haha!

@ChampooPapi @AlviesMam yes hopefully!!! I am genuinely really excited to see who will get their bfp this month on the thread! I am the same when someone gets their bfp it gives me so much hope and really brightens the day! Ooh glad DH will be home soon and the DTD can commence haha

@StephyRose yep it gets exhausting after a while! Every other day is usually fine for us but when it gets near ov and I want to do every day it can get a.bit much haha! Hope you managed to catch this month 🤞🤞

Hi Ladies, can I join please?
Had an MMC in Dec, found out on 10th December- I was around 10 weeks and the baby only measured 6 weeks with no heart beat. This was after we saw a perfectly growing baby and heartbeat at 6 weeks!!I opted for surgical management as I wasn’t bleeding and it was done on 18th Dec. I am absolutely devastated, the last few weeks have been very difficult. I have still not emotionally recovered completely but trying to stay positive and hoping to start TTC again soon. We have decided to wait for 1 period before trying. Got BFN last week, so hopefully period will come in the next few weeks and will start our ttc journey again!!
So sorry to hear about all your losses.
Wishing a year of BFPs and healthy pregnancies to everyone.. xx

Yes @Anny27 DTD just in case! Xx

Oh and it probably doesn't help that I've rationed his alcohol 😂 he is on board with anything that will help but he does enjoy a beer on his rest days from work and I've told him he needs to cut down as part of our healthy regime because I've read somewhere that alcohol may effect the dna in sperm and lead to miscarriage (told you too much googling!). He's on board but I keep getting a few raised eyebrows from him 😂

please tell me I'm not the only one?!

Hi all, sorry I can't keep up with this thread at the minute 🙈 having a busy week which has been a nice distraction.

@milscookie I don't discuss it at any length with my husband. He's very much in the 'ignorance is bliss' camp whereas I'm more 'knowledge is power' and have googled the life out of everything. I genuinely think I know enough about conception and miscarriage to write a book 😂 my husband thinks I'm driving myself slightly mad and it's causing me to overthink everything (which the rational part of me knows he IS right but I'm not feeling too rational at the minute!!). So now I just don't say too much to him. He regularly asks me what I'm googling now or if I'm on Mumsnet again 😂.

Good luck to you all in your fertile week or TWW 🤗

I’m also after advice on OPK. Haven’t done it before as last time I went by Flo App but thought I’d try as not sure if cycle has gone back to norm since the MC so ordered some from Amazon.

Just wondering how often a day you ladies test and what time of the day?

Surge* not surgery 🙈 basically the top two were nearly positive so wondering whether my positive might have happened during the day and now LH has reduced if inhav ovulated?

Usually I get a very defined LH peak the top two were taken this morning (before 10am) and the bottom 2 were taken this evening (after 6.30pm)

Do you think I could have got the LH peak surgery between them and perhaps not have caught it on the OPKs? I guess we will find out when j temp in the morning but just wondering whether we should DTD tonight if I have ovulated

Will reply to all the other messages when I have had a chance to read but just need some advice!

@mlax the addiction is real! I don’t even want to add up how much I’ve spent on sticks to pee on! Hopefully it’s not long until it’s the last time we all pay out to pee on a stick

@mlax I definitely think in your circumstances it really is ok, as well as healthy, to be able to say 'fuck them those bastards'. It just feels so good saying it doesn't it? 😏 You are given by me at least a TOTAL free pass because of what you have been through when it comes to the subject of a particular couple who every time you think about their pregnancy you just feel absolutely gutted. I hear you girl! And when it's family I mean really! You must have been like 'your bloody joking?!'

I feel like if one can't occasionally kind of beat someone with a virtual therapy foam bat on this thread then where can you do it 😆

On the test side of things I think just not having them in the house is the only way really, the temptation is gone so cold turkey kind of thing. Once the cycle is broken of testing early it does get easier as well because it's not part of the routine of things any more. It is dam hard though, it's another focus and feels a proactive thing to do but it can be counterproductive that's for sure.

I'm exactly the same @ChampooPapi purely because everything me and my DP do, they've copied. And it's actually my DP's brother ... so my sister in law. But it's only because it's them.

I just did a hpt with all these symptoms I'm having and shock, it was negative 😂 but I know I am too early to test if I was. I must have spent a lot of pregnancy tests and ovulation sticks in the last 2 months. I have an obsession... how do I get out of it!?

@MilsCookie may I please be your spirit animal! Your awesome basically. I too have a similar situation regards the good friend. Mine is due a month after I would have been this June. It'll be her second and I know it's an awful thing to write and even think! But I'm not happy for her, I'm just not. I think pretending to myself and you all is not good for me personally, I need this space to be honest about all those things I just couldn't dream of being honest about in my day to day. I am genuinely happy for people on here though or in the wonder context, I get this boost of hope and just pure joy when someone posts a bfp on a thread here (especially this one obviously!).

But this particular person I just need to feel really pissed off about being pregnant right now.

I will be happy for her when the babies here absolutely. But right now, very pleased I have zero social media other then mumsnet.

And @MilsCookie i wish I had your strength, you are amazing 💪💜

Please lead us wherever we go 😂🤗

@MilsCookie definitely do not discuss this with my husband to this extent. Occasionally, when I’m sad about it we have a chat and he mainly calms me down (he’s so rational compared to me!) other than that I’ve just told him we need to DTD everyday for the next week or so.
So crazy how much I now know about conception which I was totally clueless on before. Big fingerscrossed girls!

@MilsCookie I’m also coming into my fertile window now according to my app and have flashing smileys in the clearblue OPK so hopefully good signs. Are you going to be DTD every day for the fertile window to be safe? Mine according to flo app is now until 18th x

@MilsCookie @mlax
I feel your pain - so many people I know seem to be pregnant at the moment. It feels like such a kick in the teeth. Especially as I didn’t know anyone who was expecting the same time as me with when I was pregnant with my daughter. And now every single gathering seems to be teaming with pregnant friends. I’m being a bit of a recluse at the moment as a result - self preservation! So tough isn’t it. Hopefully that will be us so so soon!x

Ahh thank you @MilsCookie

Feeling really upset today. My sister in law has just sent me a photo of her 12 weeks scan 😔 I would have been 17wks + 4 days today as well.

Ahhh this process sucks x

Sorry I'm still getting used to these abbreviations, what is CM? Google won't help 🙈

@StephyRose i also had this CM after ovulation in November when i got pregnant.
Even thought to myself now that it’s over here comes the good CM