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TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

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MilsCookie · 26/12/2019 16:52

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

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SweetpeaOrMarigold · 15/01/2020 06:28

@StephyRose oh my goodness how exciting! Please show us!
I'm im the tww I think now too, difficult to know because I've not had AF since MC but OH said this morning I'm pregnant and I've been symptom spotting too, cramps and nausea like last time and a tingly nipple yesterday Grin
I'm a very senior clinical nurse in neonates. Wondering if I'm outing myself as its very niche.

StephyRose · 15/01/2020 06:22

Love finding out about your jobs ladies. I love my job but I cant be a teacher forever. The stress I feel during term times isn't worth the holidays 🤣

StephyRose · 15/01/2020 06:21

Okay ladies, I am absolutely cray cray and I just did a FRER with FMU. I'm 10DPO ... there was a very very faint line.

I don't want to get my hopes up as it is a real squinted. Last time I did my first test at 11DPO and that was a squinter too. Would I be able to see anything if it was negative?

I dont want to post a photo as its embarrassing. 😫🙈🤣

Leok83 · 14/01/2020 23:58

Seems like lots of you in the TWW, have everything crossed for you!! Not looking forward to those again..who knew 2 weeks could drag by sooo slowly and all you do is wish the time away which is terrible!!

@StephyRose I’m a vet (small animals). Love the job but not great for TTC as get so worried being around anaesthetic gas an xrays and also Locum’s are like hens teeth so even though I was signed off until Friday by hospital had to go back yesterday as no cover. Times like this would love a big corporate or government job where it’s easier to take time off!

I had first accupuncture session today, my family have been to this lady for various aches and pains and swear by her. So she’s focusing on getting me ready for ttc again, not sure what to make if it..odd lying with needles sticking out of your head ears and belly!! Have to go weekly so time will tell if it works!! Has anyone else tried it?

GoldenBauble · 14/01/2020 23:27

I have two roles in a local authority. One of them is really stressful and high pressured, the other not so much at the minute so it helps keep me sane (haha!) half of the week 😂

I do a lot of work with children and families which I do enjoy - not always such a fan of the paperwork we have to do and the tight timescales when you feel incredibly busy. There's never a dull day anyway!

didslysquiddlydoo · 14/01/2020 22:27

@MilsCookie not gonna lie, I love a bit of poo talk!! 😂

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MilsCookie · 14/01/2020 22:21

@Anny27 LOL 🤣 OMG that would be brilliant.

@StephyRose I’m a teacher too!! Primary though 😊 although I’m currently unemployed as I’ve been travelling for the autumn term! Got an interview next week though 😬 (I realise this is a bad time to TTC but we’re both so desperate and scared it might take a long time!)

@Michette eeeeek fingers crossed for you!!! Really hope we see your BFP later this week! 😃

@didslysquiddlydoo yep about 1dpo... will definitely keep you updated! Hopefully not too many more poo problems 😂 💩

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Michette · 14/01/2020 22:20

@stephyrose
I just want to get excited lol i also know 50% chance it is period normal cramps but still!!! :)

I am an accountant for a bank. My last day of work is 31/03 and i cannot wait! Then hopefully will be spending time nesting :)

Good to be a teacher though!! You get nice holidays Wink

Wish all of us a BFP 🥳

StephyRose · 14/01/2020 22:16

@Michette wishing you a BFP my lovely 💗

I've had cramps too but I keep convincing myself it's just premenstrual x

StephyRose · 14/01/2020 22:07

Hahaha @Anny27, so true.

What do we all do BTW?

I am a teacher - teach English in a secondary school 🙋🏼‍♀️ love the actual job of teaching, love the kids, dont enjoy all the marking. Just want to be as free as a bird....... 🐦 but I always have stuff to do 😫

First world problems 😋

didslysquiddlydoo · 14/01/2020 22:00

@Michette ahhhh how exciting, there's so many of us having quite a lot of symptoms! Fingers crossed for you - keep us updated, I really really hope it's a positive one for you!! Xx

didslysquiddlydoo · 14/01/2020 21:58

@Ejb86 @MilsCookie ahhh fingers crossed! 🤞🏼 I'm gonna try and hold out on testing too but I'm terrible at waiting.. I've got quite a few 13hr shifts in my tww so I'm hoping that will actually help to distract me!!!
@MilsCookie - I saw you're about 1dpo?! Eek keep us updated - I have a love / hate relationship with symptom spotting but it's addictive!! 😂

Michette · 14/01/2020 21:55

I also had the vivid dreams !!

Also i am convinced i am pregnant now.
Been having period type cramps most of the day and now laying down and feels stretchy there.
My opk is darker tonight too... out of nowhere

I will see what happens tomorrow but might be doing early test on thursday with fmu will be 10dpo

Maybe too early but i just have a feeling

DP thinks am crazy but recognized the opk is darker - closer to end of peak opk.

Ejb86 · 14/01/2020 21:51

@MilsCookie @didslysquiddlydoo I'm now in bed exhausted. Poorly toddler, returning to work and TWW are not a good combo.

I'm going to try and hold out! I knew a good 3 or 4 days before AF was due with my little boy but didn't tell hubby until the day after AF was due because I knew he wouldn't believe it

Anny27 · 14/01/2020 21:37

@milscookie that explains my toilet troubles this morning 🤣🤣🤣

I was just laughing thinking what if I worked with one of you and had no idea and I am talking to work colleagues about cervical mucus and bowel movements and how oftern I have sex 🤣🤣🤣

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MilsCookie · 14/01/2020 21:25

@didslysquiddlydoo @Ejb86 I’m excited for you both!!! When are you testing? 🤞✨👣🎇 sending lots of luck and baby dust your way!!

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MilsCookie · 14/01/2020 21:24

@GemLou88 😂😂😂 it’s also just a normal part of your cycle - doesn’t mean pregnancy but at least I think it means there was an egg there at some point in the last few days to potentially be fertilised hahaha! 🙈🤞

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didslysquiddlydoo · 14/01/2020 21:24

@Ejb86 Eeek they're some exciting symptoms?! I'm having quite a few symptoms too - heartburn, period-like cramps, crazy dreams, and one bout of metallic taste in mouth yesterday.. trying not to get hopes up though as past two months had very similar symptoms and both were chemicals. I'm gonna try hold off on testing... (who am I kidding?!!)

GemLou88 · 14/01/2020 21:15

@MilsCookie crazy to be excited over being constipated but look at us 😂 fingers crossed that’s what it is for us 🤞🏻

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MilsCookie · 14/01/2020 21:13

@GemLou88 from my obsessive 🙈extensive reading around ovulation/TTC once you have ovulated, the follicle that released the egg turns into the corpus luteum, which produces progesterone. This hormone can slow down bowel contractions which is why we feel constipated. I could definitely be reading way too much into why I struggled to go to the toilet this morning 😂 but that was my thinking behind it!! 🙈

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Ejb86 · 14/01/2020 21:09

@didslysquiddlydoo coping ok. Symptom spotting though. So far I've had crazy dreams, tiredness, bleeding gums, feeling cold, and now tender nipples. This could just be a bad latch on my son's part though as I'm still bf him. Feeding him to sleep tonight I was thinking about testing.

How is it for you?

GemLou88 · 14/01/2020 21:01

@MilsCookie is constipation a sign of ovulation? I have no idea. I don’t think I’ve ovulated this month but if I had by my op I would be 1 DPO too and constipated today. I’m hoping my OPK are wrong where I’ve had no peak x

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MilsCookie · 14/01/2020 20:10

@BS9790 I think I’ve said it on here already so sorry if I sound like a broken record! But when I was pregnant I knew something was up because I always get sore boobs as a PMS symptom around 7-10 days before AF is due. Guaranteed boob pain every month. The month I was pregnant I had ZERO boob pain. I was baffled but then thought, could I be pregnant?! And then a couple of days before I did the pregnancy test (I think around 13dpo) I got the weird metallic taste down the sides of my tongue. I also had some really WEIRD vivid dreams and couldn’t bad sleep. In one of my dreams I dreamt I was eating 💩- like seriously wtf is that all about. I woke up like 🤮🤮🤮. Also made me think I might be pg and by this point my period was late haha!! I started to get really painful boobs when I was around 6 weeks but by that point I knew I was pregnant. And pretty much the day after I took the PT I started getting nausea (CD38 so around 17dpo!)
I’m going to be looking out for similar symptoms this month! I think I am 1dpo but tbh have no actual idea as don’t know when I ovulated. I currently have a banging headache and was a bit constipated this morning (the joys) which makes me think my progesterone is on the rise and therefore I must have ov’d!

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GoldenBauble · 14/01/2020 19:22

I didn't really have any pregnancy symptoms either. At the time I thought I was really lucky but I've also wondered if it was a sign all along that something wasn't quite right. Who knows. When I did my first pregnancy test I genuinely didn't think it would be positive. I did it when I first woke up and put it on the side and forgot about it! I was symptom spotting too and honestly can't say I felt any different to what I do before my period arrives. After I had a positive test I had some mild period type cramps but that was it 🤷🏼‍♀️

BS9790 · 14/01/2020 19:19

@didslysquiddlydoo, yes I felt awful from around 5dpo. I knew well before AF was due and before tests were showing positive. Was feeling sick, really bloated and uncomfortable. I described it at the EPU as feeling really full, my stomach felt as if I was/had been tensing my muscles. After the MC I wondered if it was a sign there was sometime wrong in the pregnancy from the get go. X

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