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TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

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MilsCookie · 26/12/2019 16:52

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

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FireflyGirl · 17/01/2020 09:37

Congratulations @hannahs87

My opks are getting fainter, so I'm going to count tomorrow as 1dpo. Symptom spotting will start next Friday Grin

toomanyleggings · 17/01/2020 09:33

Lovely to see these lines @BecsterG @StephyRose. Just to offer a word of caution about digital pregnancy tests. I had three chemical pregnancies before I got pregnant with my daughter, each time I got 1-2 on a test on the day af was due and then got af a few days late. I know it's nice to see the words but getting a line that darkens is much more reliable

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 09:12

@hannahs87 I feel the same and just got my BFP. At this point I don’t believe it’s real x

hannahs87 · 17/01/2020 09:00

@BecsterG thank you, im a nervous wreck.

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 08:39

@hannahs87 congratulations that’s amazing! 👍🏻🤰🏻🌈x

hannahs87 · 17/01/2020 08:18

Congratulations all! I've tried to post the last few days but my phone is being a bit iffy. I had my BFP on Monday. Totally unexpected as didn't think I had ovulated as missed a few days using OPK sticks. I'm roughly 5+1 and nervous as hell. I'm symptom spotting like mad.

GemLou88 · 17/01/2020 07:48

All these positive tests are amazing. Congratulations ladies! No one deserves a positive test more than the people in this group. Keeping my fingers crossed for you all for a happy healthy pregnancy 🤞🏻🌈🤰🏼

StephyRose · 17/01/2020 07:36

@Anny27

Not at all love. I did an afternoon one on Wednesday and it was darker than the morning one 💗 well I got a positive opk on the 4th, so I think I could have ovulated Sunday 5th or Monday 6th ...just hoping it's late implantation.

No AF symptoms yet and due tomorrow so keeping everything crossed. 🤞🤞

Everything crossed for you my lovely and that is a great sign. I always think mid cycle cramps is a good sign because if its def not AF, it must be implantation... that's my theory anyway! 🤞💗🤣

Anny27 · 17/01/2020 07:31

@BecsterG huuuuge congratulations thatsamazing!!!!!!

@StephyRose any chance you ovulated later? P.smy tests were always darker in afternoon which seems weird....

5dpo, temp dip and having cramps so 🤞🤞implantation and not Af haha

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 07:16

@StephyRose I know fingers crossed!!!

I’ve got one digital so just trying to hold out. Would rather take it on the day I’m due or Monday as a missed period. Think I’d feel more confident about it then. X

StephyRose · 17/01/2020 07:10

@BecsterG yours looks grand 💗🎉

still darker than mine ... 😫 hope everything will be okay for my little friend. 🤞

I've ordered some for next week and it's got a digital in there :) much easier!

Happy Friday love xx

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 07:03

Oh the typos. Wish you could edit messages on here!! Smile

BecsterG · 17/01/2020 06:57

@StephyRose and @didslysquiddlydoo Yeay for the line progression. I too thought the lines would get darker stronger but I’m new to tests with lines. I’ve always used digital before. Here’s my 11DPO line.

@BS9790 I had a UTI in December although wasn’t 100% sure it wasn’t thrush and they gave me antibiotics too, once’s that we’re safe for pregnancy even though I wasn’t pregnant. Hope it passes quickly.

Happy Friday ladies. X

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StephyRose · 17/01/2020 06:49

@didslysquiddlydoo I can definitely see something!! 🤞🎉

Thank you, you are right. Just a bit worrying as although it is darker, expected it to be more vivid today.

I will be cautiously optimistic as you say. I cant test again now until Tuesday as I've run out of tests and we are going away straight from with this evening. Ordered some more to be delivered to work but I dont get my hands on them until Monday ... I will be crushed if I'm not PG as I've been excited since Wednesday. Everything crossed. 🤞🤞

When will you test again? Xx

didslysquiddlydoo · 17/01/2020 06:27

I also tested this morning - now 9dpo and 6 days before AF due 🙈

The line still v v faint, as expected, but a tiny bit more obvious than yesterday. Again, doesn't show up as well in pictures but attached a photo...

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didslysquiddlydoo · 17/01/2020 06:22

@StephyRose hey lovely, testing and getting a faint line is stressful isn't it?! I would stay cautiously optimistic at the moment - the line is clearly still there and if it's darker than Wednesday that's a positive sign! (I know people say not to rely on line progression but in my cases it always rang true). Some people never get a really strong positive... as it stands there are clearly two lines = pregnant. I really hope it sticks for you - unfortunately it's a case of waiting until after AF due and testing again 🤞🏼🤞🏼

StephyRose · 17/01/2020 05:29

Hi ladies, happy Friday!!

Tested again this morning and after your advice. The line is definitely there... just thought it would be darker by now as AF due tomorrow.

It is darker than Wednesday but still faint. No AF symptoms as yet and as I say due tomorrow touches wood . 🤞

Do you think this is okay and will just get darker in time? Could it be that I implanted late?

TTC after miscarriage - January 2020
TTC after miscarriage - January 2020
Anny27 · 16/01/2020 23:23

@MilsCookie you can use a caneston self test which tells you whether its BV or thrush :) can pick them up in boots and then theres also some treatment options there as well for when its confirmed. Its basically a tiny swab that changes colour instantly if its BV

MilsCookie · 16/01/2020 22:59

@BS9790 ouuuuuch 😖😖😖 you poor thing I HATE UTIs!! They are absolute agony!! Hope you’re ok and the antibiotics kick in soon!!

Whilst we’re discussing vaginal problems (LOVE being a woman sometimes 🙄) I actually think what I might have is BV, not thrush, because the itching has been coming and going and also yesterday there was a bit of a fishy smell 😳😳😳 I’ve never had this in my life... I’ve googled difference between BV and thrush and that’s what makes me think it’s that ☹️ Any ideas how I can treat it? Id rather not get antibiotics if poss as I feel I’ve had a LOT of those in the last year due to UTIs and post MC etc. The joys!!!!

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MilsCookie · 16/01/2020 22:50

@ChampooPapi I hear ya sister. I get bored of myself too. It’s utterly all consuming and totally draining when it’s literally all we think about!! Thank you for your lovely words although it’s really not about me. I can’t believe what an amazing support network we have found on this thread. I only thought 2 or 3 people would be joining me, it saddens me that so many of us have been through the same thing. I wish I could meet you all in real life haha!! You’re all amazingly strong women and I have to thank you all for keeping me sane 💖

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BS9790 · 16/01/2020 22:12

Wanted something take my mind off the TWW... However a UTI was not really what I had in mind Hmm
Just back from the walk in armed with antibiotics... Yay...!

FireflyGirl · 16/01/2020 21:12

@mlax I didn't test positive with DS until I was late.

ChampooPapi · 16/01/2020 20:07

@MilsCookie right back at you lovely ✨👣🌈

Just a quick virtual hug and a wave goodbye as I'm about to turn off and snooze now. My brain has been proper crazy today, just totally obsessed with thinking about babies. Non stop. I'm bored of myself now so hopefully tomorrow will be a more present day for me.

Stay strong ladies, and thank you again @MilsCookie for every effort you have made on this thread, you have done a really good thing here, something that people will find for years to come and take so much support from

MilsCookie · 16/01/2020 19:29

@mlax you’re not out till AF arrives! There just might not be enough HCG yet? Sending you lots of luck!

@Anny27 sorry you’re having a down day lovely. We all have them I’m sure. Sending you lots of hugs and luck for when you start testing!! 🍀 I would love to be on a pregnancy board with you again, let’s hope this month is our month!

@Cruiser1 this is exciting!! Sending you lots of luck! 🍀

This TWW is draaaaagging!! I’ve said to myself that I’m not gonna test till after AF is due (because I’m not actually sure if my cycle has gone back to normal yet since MC in November) and that’s not until 28th...so I won’t be testing till at least 29th!! That’s 13 whole days away 😩😩😩
I just can’t cope with the disappointment I’ll feel if it’s negative, so want to give myself the best chance of it being a bfp if that makes sense.

Thank you @TerribleImagination for setting up the new group, I’ll definitely join if no BFP this month!

Sending baby dust to you all ✨👣🌈 xxx

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BecsterG · 16/01/2020 19:20

@Anny27 I’m a serial tester so I’ll test again tomorrow. If it’s still positive I might take a clear blue digital on Saturday. Ekk. Doesn’t feel real until I get a positive in a clear blue for some reason. Really want to see the line darken tomorrow. Fingers crossed my son sleeps through like normal so I have a good long pee. Grin

Xx

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