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Too many threads and looking for friends to go through the TTC journey

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jenna30 · 16/12/2019 21:30

Hi guys

Not sure about anyone else but i have found that that i have tried posting on various threads and sometimes your own post gets really lost which can be slightly disheartening. I thought i would start this thread for anyone who has just started their TTC journey and together we can share our thoughts and experiences.... i do ask that (not to be mean) that this thread is only for people who have just started their TTC journey to avoid disappointment for people who are way into their journey and who may be experiencing different things. My own story is that i came of the pill in September and have yet to get my BFP. I got my first positive on Saturday just gone and now im 1dpo. Be great to hear from anyone in a similiar boat! Xx

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jenna30 · 17/12/2019 21:58

Also what BBT thermometers do you recommend? Considering this is af arrives this month 🙄. Along with smep 😂

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jenna30 · 17/12/2019 21:54

Hi girlies how is everyone doing? I know its early but is anyone symptom spotting? 😂 I'm only 2 DPO and already stressing.

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Lucy5546 · 17/12/2019 13:15

@jenna30 i think it just makes the whole thing a lot more relaxed to be honest. I would say if you know your cycle come up with your own plan. Thats what we did. DTD every other day after AF then when i seen signs of ovulation we did it every day since. People have said its too exhausting etc. But it worked for us and we love it. I didnt temp or use OPKs. Just tracked my CM and cervix. I have done this since coming off the pill so i know whats normal for me.

@peachypetite yes i have read up on folic acid an have had mixed reviews on this. A lot of people just seem to take them after they find out for a few weeks. I think i will look into it in more detail. I haven't been doing this for long so its hard to keep track ha.

peachypetite · 17/12/2019 12:43

Hi Lucy you should start taking folic acid before you’re pregnant. It’s super important.

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jenna30 · 17/12/2019 12:39

@Lucy5546 I'm not surprised your OH had no complaints 😂. Im taking the same approach if its not our month then i will definitely try the SMEP approach next month. It will be interesting too see the outcome for us all at the end of December 😃

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Lucy5546 · 17/12/2019 10:25

@jenna30 there would be no harm in giving it a go anyway. I thought it would be hard but we actually really enjoyed it. OH had no complaints anyway 😂😂 i am only 1 day in though so that could all change. If its not our month we will move on and try again.

I had tried to explain the whole fertile window to OH and he just couldnt get it. 😂 So i dont twll him when im ovulating and it just works for us. He doesnt want it to become a chore so we will see how we go.

@NCON i feel the same i have spoke about things on this that i dont speak to my best friends about ha. We haven't told anyone we are TTC so its nice to be able to talk on here.

@peachypetite i am not talking any vitamins etc. Im just going yo see how i get on over the nect few months before i dive in. Think im being a bit naive though!!

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jenna30 · 17/12/2019 09:34

@NCON hahaha love that he woke you up. Good to see that he's showing interest. Which helps the process.

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NCON · 17/12/2019 09:27

@jenna30 I also found explaining the process of ovulation to the DH helpful as he now understands why it kinda needs to be scheduled. He even woke up this morning asking if I'm ovulating 😂 had already ovulated last week so still a bit of learning to go. Great to see an interest though 😊

NCON · 17/12/2019 09:23

@Lucy5546 snap with SMEP, we followed it to the dot this month so really hoping it will lead to a BFP 🤞🏼 I thought it would be really hard but my DH was totally down for it and if it didn't work this cycle then I think we will surely try again next month 😊

It's funny going into this TTC journey I never would of thought I'd be on a forum discussing our sex life 🙈 TTC is a funny oul thing 😂

@peachypetite snap on the vitamins, I'm taking vit D and folic acid too. @mimmi91 I have thought about putting the DH on vitamins too but wasnt sure where to start. I read somewhere eating 3 Brazil nuts a day help the man so that's all he's doing now, worth a try lol 🤷 having tried SMEP this month DTD was a little more regimented but I don't think it killed the mood for us personally. Been with the DH for over 7yrs so don't think we have DTD that much in quite a while 😂 but he's as much on board with wanting to start a family so hasn't become a chore as of yet. Fingers crossed it stays that way!

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jenna30 · 17/12/2019 09:17

@Lucy5546 sounds like the process i need to try. I will give it a try next month IF my af arrives this month. It great that you are more positive going into the TWW. Wish i could say the same. 🙄. I hope you get your BFP this month. X

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jenna30 · 17/12/2019 09:10

@peachypetite i feel your pain. I was the same when i came off the pill in September and had no idea how to track ovulation especially when you aren't sure of your cycles. My cycles settled pretty soon so this month was the first month i got my first positive on my OPK test but i also think i was more proactive with it this month. I pretty much started testing a few days after my af and 2/3 times a day which proved to be successful.

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jenna30 · 17/12/2019 09:07

@mimmi91 i have been taking vitamin D and folic acid only. Though i need more vitamin d as i have just run out.

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jenna30 · 17/12/2019 09:06

Hi @mimmi91 you sound like you are very organised which is great to hear. Especially with the BBt monitoring which i heard is the most accurate reading of when ttc (even im not using this) i think doing this on top of OPK testing would stress me out even more. But its great to hear that you are doing it and it works for you. In regards to dtd yes i can say from experience it is a clinical process and all i can say is if your OH supports you then it should be okay. It still doesn't take away the clinical aspect but needs must as we all know there is such a short window to conceive in a cycle. What i did was explain the process of ovulation and the importance of dtd on certain days to my OH so he understood and he has be great with it. Though we are both beginning to get a bit tired with the process but we both understand that this is what we need to do. If you find it beginning to get so clinical maybe dtd every other day during the fertile window so that it doesn't become so onerous.

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mimmi91 · 17/12/2019 08:52

Hi all, please can I join? I also feel like newbies like me get drowned a bit in some of this forum's threads, so am hoping to be able to join one for real :)

I haven't actually started TTC just yet, this cycle will be my first! Am on day 3 of my period currently, so will begin DTD between Xmas and NY!

Came off the pill in September, and have been CM and BBT monitoring ; agree that I have never ever been so in tune with my body!! Also, how crazy is it that you have no idea/interest in what's going on when you are not thinking of TTC?! I feel like this is something all young girls should do ; or at least be taught to do!!

Fully agree with previous comment about this kind of forum being a bit daunting when you hear how long it can take for some girls to conceive. But we must be reminded this is the internet, and that usually people turn to a forum when they are worried. Am pretty sure most people who have no trouble TTC don't even think of searching for support groups...

Except me lol... because I get very easily obsessed with my projects ; and this one feels like the biggest project of my life (wayyy bigger than my wedding planning ever was), so am pre-empting a support group if/when things turn out to be difficult / frustrating.

How are you all feeling about the DTD ? I'm a bit nervous about making it a bit too clinical, and freaking my husband out a bit... I'm a massive control-freak, and I'm afraid I won't be able to make things very sexy... We don't DTD very often, as have been together for 11 years lol, so am thinking I may get a bit sick of doing it every 1-2 days HAH (don't tell my husband I said this Wink ).

What kind of vitamins are you all taking? I've been taking folic acid for a bit over 2 weeks now, and have just ordered some prenatal vitamins for me ad hubby (have read that vitamin C, E, B12, iron and calcium are very important)...

peachypetite · 17/12/2019 08:40

Hi ladies id like to join you. I’ve been off the pill for a year, my cycles are all over the place, so it’s hard to know when I’m ovulating. I came off it to give my body a break and now seriously ready to start TTC. Haven’t used OPKs yet. I’ve been taking folic acid combined with vitamin D.

Lucy5546 · 17/12/2019 08:35

@jenna30 we found it great. We DTD almost every second day anyway. It stopped it feeling like a chore and brought the spark back if you know what i mean haha. Once i had my fertile mucus we just did it every day. It helped that we had a few days away together.
To be honest i have read a few threads about it and its not for everyone but it worked for us and im feeling more confident going into the TWW

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jenna30 · 17/12/2019 08:19

@Lucy5546 not heard of SMEP but i googled as soon as you mentioned it. Looks good. How have you found it using this method? Do you recommend it?

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Lucy5546 · 17/12/2019 07:55

@AlviesMam so sorry to hear about your experience. Fingers crossed you get your BFP this month

Lucy5546 · 17/12/2019 07:54

@NCON i was like you. Didnt have a clue what i was letting myself in for. I have just been monitoring my CM and reading what feels like every thread on here ha.
My symptom spotting drove me insane last month. I convinced myself i had all the pregnancy symptoms did a test day AF was due. BFN. some tests say they can tell you are pregnant before your missed period so maybe thats what your app means?

@jenna30 i was the exact same when AF arrived too. We have tried SMEP this month. Well our own version of it. Have you heard of it? I have been so relaxed. Maybe because we have been so busy. We are away most of this month. Hense why i wont be testing till after AF is due

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jenna30 · 16/12/2019 23:38

@AlviesMam awh im sorry to hear about your experience. I hope we can support you during this journey and i hope you get a BFP this month. X

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jenna30 · 16/12/2019 23:36

@NCON I'm not too far behind you with my expected af. Im due on the 30th. Aghh I'm going to try really hard not to test early (but like you said its really hard) 🙊 and im saying this now and thats only because im only 1dpo! Ask me again in like 5 days 😂. On a serious note i will try. Dread the feeling of seeing the BFN especially when you have tested too early so hopefully if i am patient during this tww it will be all worth it. If not then I'm getting highly drunk and making up for xmas day falling during this tww.

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AlviesMam · 16/12/2019 23:31

TTC after a miscarriage and still birth this year Xmas Sad currently 5dpo! AF due Xmas day! X

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jenna30 · 16/12/2019 23:29

@Lucy5546 funny isn't it? I had the exact same thinking earlier this month and after my af arrived in late November my initial thoughts about taking the relaxed approach didn't last very long once i got my positive on my opk test on Saturday.....and here i am back to researching and googling and thread reading😂. Im glad I'm not the only one feeling like this.

@EithneBlue i agree i noticed that too massively! I understand people getting a BFP and then leaving I suppose (its their personal choice and i don't judge) but it can be difficult for people who are still TTC. If and (if) i get a BFP i hope i can still be just as supportive as i plan on being on this thread or at least offer some kind of update. But hey first i need to get the BFP (getting carried away there). Baby dust to us all.

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NCON · 16/12/2019 23:24

Thanks @Lucy5546 great to see so many of us in similar boats

@EithneBlue 😂 that made me lol. But yes you are prob right, I've read so many threads where the OP just disappears so I like to think that means they got their BFP's 😊

NCON · 16/12/2019 23:21

@jenna30 thanks 😊

Yeah I was quite clueless coming in to all of this, didn't realise the fertile window was so short and had no idea about OPK's and BBT and CM monitoring 🥴 definitely feel more in tune with my body than ever before lol

I do try not to symptom spot but at the same time if I feel anything I can't help but think 'maybe' 😂 using various apps but my Ovia app tells me to take a preg test Christmas day even though AF not due till 27-29th 🤔 no idea how that works lol

It is daunting that taking anywhere from 1-12months seems to be the norm but fingers crossed we will all get out BFP's very soon ❤️ does everyone plan on waiting till AF is late before testing? It's so tempting to test early 🙈

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