Too many threads and looking for friends to go through the TTC journey

Quick question - how long after seeing EWCM for the first time do you ovulate?
If it’s straight away I’m worried because we didn’t BD last night but we did for the two days before?

k so I went worried about my cycles and came out with a referral to have a colonoscopy done 😒. Let me explain 😁.

I noticed some black tarry substance in my poop(TMI SRY😔) and my OBGYN is worried the my Endometriosis is flaring up and since it can dump blood ANYWHERE in the body, she wants to be sure it didn't go there and she wants to check for other causes of old blood being there.

So I did do a complete blood to check for pregnancy as well as my Progesterone levels(because the older we get the lower our progesterone gets). Since I'm 38 my strange cycle the past 2 and now may be due to low Progesterone. So she up'ed it from 200 to 400mg every day instead of on cd13-25.

I call tomorrow for my results and then go back Wednesday for a sonogram so that she can check to make sure I don't have any cysts(I had that when she first met me and then quickly diagnosed me with Endometriosis).

It would be nice to hear I gotta go back to check my HCG levels 🤞🏽.

@jenna30 yeah for sure. I think keeping this ttc journey a secret is difficult in many ways but it does take the pressure off. Im trying to see it as when we do conceive we'll be able to surprise our friends and family with happy news that they're not expecting.

Do you think your families may have an inkling that you're trying or thinking of trying soon?

I was chatting to my sister the other day after visiting our mutual friends new baby girl and we were discussing our cousins (we're all girls and within a similar age range) and she said I think we're all going to have babies around the same time. I was like oh do you that's interesting and she said yes well 2 of the girls want to be married 1st (and neither are engaged) and I need to meet someone 1st then our other 2 cousins aren't in any rush as they're enjoying travelling with their OH (husband and fiancé), and you're not in any rush because you've got home reno stuff happening soon so I think we'll all be later.... I was like hmm yeah true we will all be together.

I was really surprised about her observations because I thought she would guess... Apparently not. My broodiness is apparently internal and no-one noticed how the little broody monster inside was purring happily while I was cuddling my friends 4 weeks of daughter!!! 😉

Hi @jenna30 sorry for the delay in my reply. Ive not been on for a day or 2 just chilling post period...

Af arrived for me 6 days late... As I'd had a positive test the previous week I was really quite upset but my OH was great and just gave me lots of hugs while I had a bit of a sad day. I would have been 5 weeks the day af arrived which I know is early but we'd had a week of trying to not get ahead of ourselves because it was a faint positive but so totally getting ahead of ourselves (if you know what I mean).

Anyway af arrived and I'm now on CD 8 and about 13 - 15 days until ovulation. I have longer cycles at around 35days so I've got a few weeks to go yet. So just trying to relax and look after myself. How are you Jenna?

I totally get where you're coming from after your SILs announcement... Such lovely news but bitter sweet for you too. Friends of ours just announced their 2nd pregnancy and where like it happened really quickly, quicker than we thought. Both their pregnancies were conceived 1st try which is such a blessing... Its just hard not to ask why can't we be so lucky.
It's a funny head space but doesn't mean you're not happy for them.

I'm just glad this is a safe space to share all those thoughts and feelings without judgement ❤️

Oh no, down about TTC or something else? It really can, can’t it, it’s nice having people on here to talk to about it. I’ve not told anyone in real life that we are trying because I don’t want the pressure

Yeh I think it’s a good idea to DTD in a fairly large window around the flo app as it may not be exactly correct. We’ve done most days with a couple of days off so a little more than every other. It’s hard when you’re not really in the mood but know you have to - never seen sex as a chore before!

@jenna30 yeah just bd as much as you both can!! It can be very exhausting 😂
I can’t upload a pic because earlier I got so frustrated I threw them all in the bin 😂 but I will keep them from tomorrow onwards to track (again) and hopefully spot a positive 🤞

@peachypetite haha yeah to be honest, I agree the OPKs are so confusing. My Flo app is saying I’ll ovulate around Wednesday so just gonna keep going. We have been DTD every other day but I’m worried we will miss it so I want to do it every day but I also don’t want to put too much pressure on DP ☹️

@firsttime no I haven’t bothered because I’ve read quite a few people on here saying they were confusing and I don’t want to get obsessive! I’ve been having sex like a crazy woman this week 😂 meant to have ovulated this weekend according to my app.

@jenna30 are your OPKs close to peak? I think if you’re ovulating today then you’d be fine with yesterday as the sperm lives for a few days anyway?

@peachypetite how are you doing? Are you using OPKs this month? I’m so confused with mine! They are quite dark but not progressing just consistently dark!

@jenna30 I will keep you ladies updated. All our experiences can help each other in our journey to motherhood.😁

@jenna30 - I think expecting it to take longer and hoping it doesn't take longer are two conflicting emotions! I play it off a bit but I was kind of gutted to get AF last month. Don't worry about the stress too much, though: I think it's a bit of an old wives tale to stop women from doing anything fun. "Don't be upset, your womb might shrivel up and die." How else do you explain sports stars and serving military personnel getting knocked up on the job? Take the OPKs, do the deed often and keep your fingers crossed.

My last 2 cycles (the two complete cycles that were off the pill) have been 28 days and then 26 days so not exactly the same but not wildly irregular, either. I put 27 days into Ovia as my estimated cycle length, but if I did ovulate on CD11 or 12 this time, that would fit with another 26 day cycle. This seems to be following the same pattern generally, though aside from that odd extra EWCM -- I had slight AF-like cramps post-ovulation last month and have again this month. We shall see, I guess.

The holiday is fine (we are going to Italy for 6 nights): it is my desire to do marathons and multi-day endurance events that is the issue!

Update: sent a message to my OBGYN and going off of my pregnancy history and following my normal cycle of 28-29 days, I'm technically late.
I have to go in tomorrow and get a blood pregnancy test, then another one on Wednesday and then a sonogram on Thursday. I also have to take 200mg of progesterone vaginally, every 8 hrs until we figure out if I'm pregnant or not.