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TTC - first cycle - baby #1

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Blondeandbroody · 05/12/2019 00:32

I thought I’d create a space for people like me who are in their first cycle of TTC for baby number 1! Be nice to progress and learn together!

I do rely heavily on the advice of people further along in their journeys but I also love speaking to people in the exact same boat as me who are clueless about all of this and just starting on their journey. It’s comforting to know we’re not alone and not crazy haha!

If you wanna join (please do) then maybe share your CD, DPO and AF due date (if you know it).

I am:
CD - 18
DPO - around 2 or 3 can’t be sure
AF due - 16th December

I am just off the mini pill on which I had semi regular AFs and I stopped the pill on CD 1, when my last AF started. So I can’t be sure of anything other than my CD!!

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alfiok · 07/12/2019 01:21

First cycle baby #1 for me!

AF due 15 Dec but my cycle length varies
CD 19
DPO 5 however I had EWCM 2 - 3 days before the ovulation date on my app. My CM then changed to white and sticky and today I felt like I was back to EWCM, so clearly I have a lot to learn about my body

OH and I decided to stop preventing pregnancy this month but weren't going to necessarily actively try but then I started to research and got sucked in real quick. I would be an older mom at 37, I was widowed young so never started a family. OH and I are getting married next year but I am anxious about my age and would be devastated if we prevented pregnancy and then missed out on our opportunity for a family. So here we go!

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Blondeandbroody · 07/12/2019 00:36

@Symptomspotter86
Hey lovely the wait is agonising isn't it.
I go through phases of being relaxed to wanting to rip my hair out!
I've read so many stories of people having a chemical pregnancy that made me really want to wait until I'm due to get AF!
However I get tempted daily to test now and I think I'm only between 3-6 DPO.
I hear it's worse to get a BFN and then your AF a few days later and general advice is to wait but it's not that easy!!
I don't really know what my cycle is so it's hard to say when anything happened or when anything's due.
Trying hard not to symptom spot either but ha it's impossible!!
I have every hope that it happens quickly for us all!

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Symptomspotter86 · 06/12/2019 22:51

Hey ladies. I am also in the same boat however 7dpo

Such a scary world as so much to read and so many stories and conflicting messages. I feel very consumed by it all already. I'm going to test on Monday but also worried it is a little too early as af due on Wednesday. I'm 33 and husband is 34 so I hope this ut doesn't take too long for us

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Blondeandbroody · 06/12/2019 22:39

@emstone hey!!

I saw a post today of somebody who had their implant out two weeks ago and they were ovulating today, so maybe not too long lovely!!

What's your plan going forward? See how it goes? Are you tracking anything? Using any apps? X

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emstone · 06/12/2019 22:01

Hi! I'd like to join please!

I only had my implant out today so it may take a while for my body to get back into it's own routine but I can live in hope haha!

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Blondeandbroody · 05/12/2019 08:57

@Newbie1992 yep 😞

yeah that's true so you can get a BFP quickly but it can take a while for your cycle to settle down too and make hard to know what your cycle is etc so I am just treating the day of my last bleed which was 18/11 as CD1 and gonna try and wait til CD 28 to test so another 10 days and maybe test on 16/12 if no AF

I was on mini pill and still had a AF pretty much every months except a few where I had nothing or one time I had two in one month haha!

Time will tell, it's hard being due your AF before Christmas because I keep thinking about all that stuff to distract myself but then remember I'll know if I get a BFP or BFN before all of that so it's hard to distract myself with Christmas and lots of things happening this month! Urgh! I HATE waiting!!

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Newbie1992 · 05/12/2019 08:53

@Blondeandbroody oh no, that sounds awful :( best to leave it well until af is due then !!

Haha your symptoms are exactly mine too, just like, abdominal pressure but it's too soon for implantation so I don't even know !! There's so so many stories out there and it's hard because literally everyone's experience is different so you don't know what to expect! I think as soon as you come off pill you are perfectly fertile again no wait period like some contraceptives?? So you never know:) :)

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Blondeandbroody · 05/12/2019 08:46

@Newbie1992 I've been having mild cramps the last 2 days and they're back again today but no other symptoms really but I'm only maximum 4dpo minimum 2dpo as I'm not sure exactly when I ovulated. So I think it's nothing certainly not getting too excited to early and as it's my first cycle off the pill too x

What about you?

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Blondeandbroody · 05/12/2019 08:44

@Newbie1992 so I think it's where an early test shows up positive but then you get your AF and negative tests x

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Newbie1992 · 05/12/2019 08:31

Oh and what's a chemical pregnancy? 😖😖

Newbie1992 · 05/12/2019 08:30

Omg yes @Blondeandbroody!! 😂😂 we will stick to it together !! I actually even thought maybe I wouldn't test until missed period but that is very ambitious 😂😂

Do you think you have any symptoms yet ? 🤗

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Blondeandbroody · 05/12/2019 08:24

Hey @Newbie1992 is it driving me mad waiting, hell yeah! Haha it's insane I had no idea how hard this was going to be! Turns out the actual making a baby stuff is easy because we can't control that bit other than DTD! It's the waiting part that's so hard!!

I have seen so many lovely ladies on here have chemical pregnancies from testing early and then feeling that heartbreak when AF comes and mine breaks for them.

We need to make a pact not to test until at LEAST the 16th December haha!

And then maybe bet who will cave first 😂

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Newbie1992 · 05/12/2019 08:05

Omg @Blondeandbroody this is exactly me too !!! Wink
AF due 16 dec
CD 20
DPO 3

My cycle isn't usually that long but this app I'm using just gather all my recent months and sprouted out this figure but I reckon AF is due a bit sooner (or maybe just trying to convince myself so I can test sooner) Grin

Have you been going mad waiting to test ? Unfortunately a side effect of DTD has left me with an awful urinary tract infection :( I so so hope it works this time but I know we have to manage our expectations!!

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