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TTC - first cycle - baby #1

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Blondeandbroody · 05/12/2019 00:32

I thought I’d create a space for people like me who are in their first cycle of TTC for baby number 1! Be nice to progress and learn together!

I do rely heavily on the advice of people further along in their journeys but I also love speaking to people in the exact same boat as me who are clueless about all of this and just starting on their journey. It’s comforting to know we’re not alone and not crazy haha!

If you wanna join (please do) then maybe share your CD, DPO and AF due date (if you know it).

I am:
CD - 18
DPO - around 2 or 3 can’t be sure
AF due - 16th December

I am just off the mini pill on which I had semi regular AFs and I stopped the pill on CD 1, when my last AF started. So I can’t be sure of anything other than my CD!!

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SpimblesDimbles · 23/12/2019 11:51

@nmew - ooh fingers crossed then! are your dates definitely right or could you be out by a few?

we are! 1st month :). i am unsure how long my cycle is however as i havent tracked it for very long, so currently on CD 34. tested last saturday and was a negative but unsure if that was top early if my cycle length is out. not tested again!

Nmew · 23/12/2019 11:11

Hi @SpimblesDimbles welcome! I’m on day 2 of a late AF. Taken 2 frer tests but I’m pretty sure they’re bfn. Another day of waiting to test again! Are you ttc? xx

SpimblesDimbles · 23/12/2019 10:06

morning all :).

sorry! i am here reading along with your news but STILL need to download the app for this! :).

how is everyone? any positive news? xxx

Nmew · 19/12/2019 22:12

I hope for a quick bfp for you ladies, and if not this cycle the fingers crossed the first one after AF when coming off the pill. I’ve read some stories of bfp coming off the pill so there is always hope. So hard to tell when everyone’s body works so differently, be great if it were all just clockwork, all the guess work can become so frustrating.

My AF type cramps have gone now, 3 more days till I’m due so time will tell for us all I guess.

PeanutCat · 19/12/2019 21:14

@Blondeandbroody haha thanks! We have a small round cat that we like to nickname peanut.

Yes I think waiting until AF is probably the best idea, just want things to hurry up and get back to normal now though !Grin

Maybe if there's no sign of AF after Christmas I will take a test just to see x

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Blondeandbroody · 19/12/2019 20:58

@PeanutCat hey lovely I love your name haha!!

It's hard to say I've taken so many tests I don't even wanna say how many!!! I'm cd31 and all tests have been negative a few squinters but in the end BFN. I think you would be best off just waiting until you get a period or you have overwhelming symptoms and need to soothe your mind.

Maybe you can test now just to confirm you're not pregnant tho be great if you were!! X

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PeanutCat · 19/12/2019 19:47

Hi all,
Hope it's ok to join here. I came off the mini pill on the 6th December, I haven't had AF for about a year and a half as the mini pill made AF very irregular.

Before I went on the pill I had quite standard 28 day cycles with AF lasting around 4-5 days so I'm hoping my body adjusts back to how it was before.

Currently haven't had AF since coming off the pill and I don't think I've ovulated either but unsure on that. I've got no idea where I am on this first cycle so just seeing how things go and waiting until AF arrives.

Would like to take a test, out of curiosity more than anything but not sure when would be best ? Grin

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Blondeandbroody · 19/12/2019 19:18

I think I am starting to come to the realisation that I'm just gonna have to wait for my first proper AF after coming off the pill. I am in CD 31 and if it's not happening now it's not gonna as we haven't DTD beyond 8th December. So I should be getting positive tests by now if I caught when we DTD.

Bit gutted as I really thought I had stopped my pill at a good time and cause I had semi regular periods on the pill they'd just continue. Just kidding myself thinking it would happen quickly and my periods would go back to normal.

I am frustrated.

Just gonna forget about this cycle and wait for AF and just keep DTD without worrying and just enjoy it haha like we're supposed to!

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November44 · 19/12/2019 14:28

Hi ladies! Thought I’d join the group this is my first cycle ttc, don’t want to get my hopes up to much as its only the first month but it’s hard not the symptom spot. Im 25 but have had problem periods in the past and have always had a 34/35 day cycle and ovulate later than the usual 14 days. Just fingers crossed this will happen for us as we’d both love to have a baby, reassuring to see so many in the same boat. AF is due in 4 days absolutely no pms symptoms or sore boobs either that I usually get before AF so pretty sure I’ve missed the boat this month, fingers crossed for you ladies x

Nmew · 19/12/2019 13:13

How’s everyone today? I’m feeling some serious AF like symptoms so I’m pretty convinced I’m out, will see what the weekend brings!

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Blondeandbroody · 18/12/2019 23:17

@zinrepus I have two tests that were negative and now they're showing blue positive lines hours later. Not sure we can trust them tho!

@Newbie1992 you just have to remember that it's worth it and try and find something to keep your mind off it best you can x

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zinrepus · 18/12/2019 22:11

I had more or less resigned myself to waiting for (jetlagged late) AF. And today we're back on the roller coaster where I again have no idea what's going on. Had some queasy tummy yesterday and today. Unsure if I saw a shadow on my cheapie test this morning or if I've got wishful thinking eyes. Similarly a test from a few days ago seems to have a plus... I know they don't count but as I'm keeping stuff out of sight, I can't seem to help checking back dated tests. We'll give it a few days* and update later.

Enjoying my trip reasonably well though, so that's good! Keeping fingers crossed for folk and waiting for either good news or a glass of wine! Xmas Wink

*keep using cheapies daily and eventually try another big guns test

Newbie1992 · 18/12/2019 21:23

My period is finished now and I literally just got that little sunken feeling thinking about the dread of tww again:( literally there is nothing I wouldn't do if I knew I was going to have a baby. The fear is that it doesn't happen for everyone :( I'm nearly 27 so just hoping time is still on my side ..

Hope all well x

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Blondeandbroody · 18/12/2019 12:22

I'm due today, AF hasn't shown yet and BFN. Discourage but waiting for AF to arrive before counting myself out. X

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Nmew · 18/12/2019 11:35

The only way I track ovulation was opk and using the app Premom but I’m not convinced I did it right. Think I’ll try keeping an eye out for cm next time round.

BFN on a CB early this morning so feeling discouraged but will see if AF arrives in 4 days time.

How are all you doing?

zinrepus · 16/12/2019 20:29

Ovia was the one app telling me I was ovulating three days after my other apps... And then Flo determined I ovulated one day early about a week after the fact. Next month I'll be using OPKs for sure.

And yeah, now I've found some additional data referencing that hCG can be too low until 5 weeks into your cycle. So it looks like I'll be waiting another week (or AF) before definitely reaching for a bottle.

Nmew · 16/12/2019 17:23

@Newbie1992 this is the first cycle we are actively trying, but I’ve been off the pill over a year and we’ve not been using any other protection for about 6 months since we got married, figured it was time to start properly keeping an eye on what’s going on with my cycle. How about you?

Newbie1992 · 16/12/2019 16:11

@nmew have you been trying for long ? :)

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Blondeandbroody · 16/12/2019 12:46

I'm still getting cramps and still no sore boobs - can't tell until I get AF or BFP whether this is my new normal PMS now I'm not on the pill or not!

Frustrating! Cycle day 29 now Ovia is telling me to take a test, took IC this morning and negative so I dunno.... time will tell, which is what's frustrating!!!!

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Nmew · 16/12/2019 11:19

Tell me about it @Newbie1992 I feel like I’ve learnt more in the past few weeks than I ever did in high school lol! Sorry AF came, hopefully next time. I used the sticks and found it a little hard to read but using the Premom app helped me.

@Blondeandbroody I’ve seen times where people don’t get BFP until after AF is due even with frer, not out till AF sings!

I’m CD23 and 10dpo, due AF 22nd, took and ic with bfn (wishful thinking I’d get anything on ic this early lol) hopefully I can wait until AF is due to test again.

@zinrepus fingers crossed for you, this whole waiting game is the worst!

zinrepus · 16/12/2019 02:14

@Blondeandbroody Oh wow! Up to 19DPO without even accounting for insane ovulation. Huh. The more you know!

Had some cramping start up at a concert tonight, we'll have an answer before too long...

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Blondeandbroody · 15/12/2019 23:11

@Newbie1992 yeah that's true, everybody has such different symptoms so it's hard to truly know until you either get AF or that BFP!

I'm holding out some hope but not too much after taking FRER. I read a lot that says sometimes there's not enough of the hormones in your pee even after you're late to get a positive result on any test so a FRER negative isn't necessarily a true BFN. X (@zinrepus)

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Newbie1992 · 15/12/2019 19:30

Oh my god the amount of typos in that message !! 😖😖😖 ugh !! I'm having a funny day!!! 🙈🙈🙈

Newbie1992 · 15/12/2019 19:28

Hi all :)

I feel like I've done so much research that now o could be a doctor on the subject 🤣🤣 anyone who hasn't had af yet, there is still chance. There is no amount of symptoms or non symptoms that can mean you're not pregnant !

Unfortunately af came for me today. It was such a dad start to my day but after I called down I realised it meant I actually had my dates wrong and that next month I will do ovulation sticks to be sure so it's ok, I reckon I missed a lot of the fertile days this month based on af coming today.

Hope all well xx

zinrepus · 15/12/2019 16:28

I'm suspecting I may be out this month. Took a reliable early detection test today (13DPO) and came up negative. I'll give it another go in two days, but if I ovulate much later than predicted, I'm probably out just from a BD timing perspective.

How are all you?