TTC - first cycle - baby #1

Hi guys can I join too please? TTC For my 1st! I’m 30...and feel so ready. My first TTC cycle was last month and my AF has just finished on Monday so onto my 2nd cycle. Going to try and follow the SMEP plan which means Friday - it’s going down! Fingers crossed!!

Any tips or learnings anyone’s got from their first TTC? My tip is don’t lay there and not have a wee and clean up otherwise you will get a UTI just like I did and need antibiotics! (You all can say DUH)

I thought I'd post and see how everyone this is getting on? (Changed my name from blondeandbroody)

I think I got my BFP today!

Hi all, I’d like to join please

My OH and I are TTC our first. We’re still in cycle 1 but I’ve had 2 negatives tests and AF is due today and I think I can feel signs she’s on her way so we’re definitely out this month.

But I’m excited for cycle 2 to start today/tomorrow. I have 30 ish day cycles but they’re not exact, always fluctuate between 28 and 31 days. I’m using OPKS but I’m going to try temping this cycle with FF for the first time.

Anyone else in a similar position? My OH is wonderfully supportive but I don’t think it’s the same for guys is it? It’s ALL I can think about and he’s more “I’ll be excited when we get pregnant but until then I’m mr super chilled about it all” He’s very good tho, he’s listened while I’ve shown him all the graphs and info about conception, how it happens, fertile windows etc etc bless him But it would be great to have some other ladies in similar positions to support each other while we go through it!

It's rough, but once AF arrives there is a feeling of comfort in at least you know where you stand this cycle. I had a lovely 36 day cycle last month (had a 10-hour flight just past ovulation and a 6-hour flight just before AF was supposed to be due) which made me anxious about whether or not I could be drinking around Christmas. Once AF showed up properly it was a bit of a deep breath before looking towards the next cycle dates.

TTC lends itself SO much to overthinking. I understand much better now how hearbreaking it can be after a long period of trying. I'm in my fertile window now for cycle 2, so been BDing in the hopes of better luck this time. Also have some OPK tests to help firm up exactly when in my cycle ovulation actually happens.

So sorry about the ups and downs, @Sausage1990. Fingers crossed next cycle bring better luck for you!

Oh af just arrived ☹️ at least I know where I stand... Onwards to a new cycle & for success and sticky bean next time xx

Hi @Yorkshirelass04
It could be a slow starter due to your cold... Maybe see how it goes over the next few days. Sometimes my af is really light on day 1...

An update from me.. I had a 4 days of faint positives but yesterday (Sunday) I retested at 18dpo and it was negative ☹️ i don't really know why I tested again but I was aware the line wasn't getting any stronger.

I'm disappointed but it's the way it works sometimes... af is now 6 days late, 19dpo. BFN but still symptoms (sore boobs mostly) so it's very confusing. I'm just waiting for af to arrive now 😕

This TTC business is an awful lot of overthinking... Hope you're all OK xx

Hi everyone

So I have my period but it's a day late and very scanty. Hardly need a tampon.
I'm a bit confused - is this a coincidence?
All tests are negative.

It has been Xmas and I had a bad cold so maybe that's affected it?

Hi @Newbie1992 @Yorkshirelass04 happy new year to you both!!!
Af was due yesterday for me but she's a no show. I have had some very faint second lines over the last 2 days but also brown cm which feels like af may start but who knows.
I'm going to try to hold out to see what happens and test Friday or Saturday... But now I e seen those very faint lines I'm eager to see them get stronger 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Fingers crossed for you too Yorkshirelass04 xxxx

@Newbie1992 yeah its my first! I'm 36 and have been deliberating about whether it's worth it for a while. Decided to try and see where we get to.

Was hoping a saucy weekend in Whitby would do the trick!

@yorkshirelass04 you just never know yet :) I was out a long time ago this month unfortunately:( now in cycle 2 and have dtd a good bit more this month so hoping it will be our month 🤗🤗 is this your first ?

@Newbie1992 was just wondering thinking the same!

I'm due on Saturday and have the usual perjod symptoms so I guess it wasn't our month. First go though!

How about everyone else?

How is everyone doing on this thread , any bfp to celebrate xx :)

Hi everyone - now 7dpo and no discernable symptoms. Just cramping around last weekend and I've felt tired / like I'm coming down with a cold.

Not out of the running yet but I'm somehow doubtful. Most people get symptoms after a week?

Hi all :) lots of new names here and I am so so bad at keeping up so I'm sorry 😂😂 @zinrepus I know that feeling, in a way it's freeing at least not to be in that misery ! I'm now in my fertile window again and my heart is wrecked with anxiety, second cycle only so trying to reign it in a bit 😂x

Hi all! My Christmas gift was AF visiting after a lovely 36 day cycle. Two flights in two weeks will do it. I should get back home before AF is done and will be using OPKs once I get back sooo there's that.

It's weird. With AF returning I am both disappointed and excited to start again. With the tww, you don't have any control and can't do anything more which is weird. Now I'm back to having something to track and monitor outside of symptom spotting.

How was everyone else's Christmas?

I use Premom app and their own easy@home OPKs. For now, it works for me.
I happen to find their website. premom.com/blogs/how-to-use-ovulation-tests
There are many blogs on their website that teach me how to use OPKs. I really appreciate their effort.

Firstly merry Xmas all! Hope you are all having a wonderful time with friends or family.

@Sausage1990 I'm exactly the same. I don't know what would freak me out more, a positive or negative test!

We have also been on the fence for so long regarding having a family or not and have taken the plunge now.

I'm about 5dpo so still waiting.

@Yorkshirelass04 😊 it's good to meet someone on the same journey & have these forums to share all our overthinking.

Yeah I think this early implantation hadn't even happened yet... I'm trying hard to just not overthink. I can be quite crampy at times so I'm ignoring those but I'm keeping a little eye in the achey boobs because they're new... Also not wanting to get my hopes up.

I have a confession - it was my DH who said let's start trying this month and it panicked me a bit but it settled in my mind and thought OK it probably won't work anyway but now just 8 days after the first time we DTD, I know that I'll be upset if af shows up and or it's BFN, even tho the thought of a positive still terrifies me slightly... Am I alone in this thinking?
Xx

@Sausage1990 we are nearly identical in our journey then! Pleased to meet you.

I am possibly 3 or 4 dpo. I've been having cramps on one side and things feel a bit heavier down there but honestly it's probably just me overthinking. I normally get weird twinges all month long.

Hi @Yorkshirelass04 I'm new here too.

I'm just tracking periods and cervical mucus using an app... I think I'll get a bit obsessed if I started using opk this early into ttc. We're on cycle 1 of trying for #1 so who knows lol

Do you use an app? I use flo and I'm either 7dpo or 5dpo (I had ovulation pain 2 days after my predicted date so its more likely 5dpo).

Did anyone have symptoms this early? I've been getting more headaches and achey sore breasts which is so unusual to me... But really don't want to get my hopes up over nothing...
Xx

@stephyrose Thanks, fingers crossed then! It's only been cycle 1 with DTD once so not expecting big things. It's only 3 days since!

Hi @yorkshirelass04, I dont think so at all. The internet might tell you it does but I have so many friends 35+ who have conceived, no problem. And I have friends who are younger than me (28,29) and it has taken them 2 years + to fall pregnant.

Hi everyone,

This is my 2nd time of TTC but would be my first baby. I fell pregnant at the end of September this year but had a MMC mid November. Without dwelling too much on that as this is a positive thread and as it should be too, I started my first period on Saturday exactly 4 weeks and 1 day post surgery so I'm counting today as CD3.

Before I fell pregnant my cycles were 26 days apart on average and so will be BD like crazy from Sunday 29th onwards as I ovulated CD11 last time.

Can't help but imagine next Christmas with a tiny wee baby. Wishing you all lots of love and luck and Baby Dust ❤

Can I join? This is my first post on mumsnet!

I'm 36 and had my first unprotected sex 3 days ago during fertile window.

I am currently not tracking via any other method than period dates. Periods are a very regular 26 days apart.

Does my age make a difference?

I’ve used the clue app for years, so I know my average cycle is 28days, but it does go over the odd time so I don’t think I’ll totally get my hopes up yet lol
I used opks to try track ovulation and I think I ovulated cd13 which would make me about 17dpo. But this is my first time really paying attention to ovulation so I can’t be 100% sure. I’m cd30 today, now I know AF is due I don’t think I can stop myself poas!
Fx for you, when do you think you’ll test again?