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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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SMEP - feel free to join! :)

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danielasummer · 03/12/2019 07:34

Hi everyone, just making this thread as it seems a few of us will be trying SMEP to TTC! Adding these lovely ladies in from another thread but I hope everyone feels free to join! All welcome :)

@Devgirl31 @fayy123 @NCON @MrsKJW19

Some stats about me:

TTC #1
27 years old, DH is 28 years old
Missed miscarriage in October 2019 at 7+2 weeks
Still in that cycle (no AF yet)
Long and irregular cycles, some anovulatory
Suspected low progesterone/hypothyroidism (I think this based on symptoms, not diagnosed yet!)

Hope we can all provide support for each other in this crazy TTC journey.

Feel free to introduce yourselves :)

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Happyhappy37 · 25/02/2020 01:26

Baby dust to all 😊

ChampooPapi · 24/02/2020 19:30

Waves @danielasummer , this life ey 😔, it's shit sometimes isn't it. It's heartbreaking to see that a fair few of the positives have not worked out, spread aceo a few threads, just so hard to see

ChampooPapi · 24/02/2020 19:27

@Shazzzzz hey lovely, how are you holding up? It is devastating and you are aloud to be devastated and really confused about it all we are here and please lean on your partner, I'm just so sorry to have seen your update. It's not fair is it

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danielasummer · 24/02/2020 18:40

@Shazzzzz bless you. Thinking of you. Please use the support of this/other groups if you need to xx

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Lnix · 24/02/2020 18:34

@Shazzzzz I'm so very sorry to hear that. No words for how hard that must be. Take your time. Hugs xx

Shazzzzz · 24/02/2020 13:58

@paintfairy @danielasummer Thank you, im ok just shocked and upset but i will be fine. im a big believer in if its meant to be it will be and i cant change my opinion now.

Hugs to you it really is one of lifes shitty paths xx

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danielasummer · 24/02/2020 13:34

@Shazzzzz I'm so so sorry to hear that, I really am. I had a little tear reading your comment. My heart goes out to you.

There are a few of us on here that have suffered miscarriages, including myself. Right now, there are no words, and it is your time to grieve, but I will just say that I've found time does help to heal.

Your head may be a little foggy with what is going on but in time your heart will tell you when you are ready to try again.

If you would like to send me a private message, I'd be happy to talk to you privately. Sending you a big hug x

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paintfairy · 24/02/2020 13:26

@Shazzzzz I'm sorry. It's fairly common, not that this helps, but fingers crossed it won't take too long for a BFP again. At least you know it can happen. I hope you are ok x

Shazzzzz · 24/02/2020 12:44

Hey everyone, unfortunately my pregnancy has ended in a MC, im now in 2 minds to keep trying or have a break 😒

paintfairy · 24/02/2020 11:05

@daniellasummer Given up with temps. Still not sleeping. Had a tiny bit of brown spotting yesterday. I usually red spot/ bleed a fair bit before AF and so I'm waiting for that to happen! If I ovulated CD11 then it would normally be happening now. But if it was CD13 then obviously it throws it out. So I've no idea! AF therefore could be due Friday or Sunday. Unhelpful. Remaining optimistic but it's getting hard now!
I'm CD23 today.

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danielasummer · 24/02/2020 10:59

@paintfairy hi, how are you getting on? How have your temps been?

Just checking in and wondering how everyone is? x

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paintfairy · 19/02/2020 22:35

@danielasummer actually- it was 3.40am.....

paintfairy · 19/02/2020 22:34

@danielasummer still crazy and still no sleep! 36.62 at 4.40am and 37.00 at 6.30am. Both with only 2 hours sleep. So your guess is as good as mine!

Interestingly I took it this afternoon because I was bored. Even though it means nothing. Was only 35.96? Would have expected higher in the day than morning, so that was a revelation. 😂

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danielasummer · 19/02/2020 20:55

Hi @paintfairy so sorry I didn't reply. How is your chart looking now and how have your temps been? x

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danielasummer · 19/02/2020 20:55

Hi @ChampooPapi I'm doing well thanks. How are you? I'm 6DPO today. No symptom spotting thus far (well.. a teeny bit - but nothing like last month) just trying to keep chilled. I even bought a new Clear Blue Ovulation kit for next cycle!

It sounds like you are covered in terms of DTD and ovulation date. Let us know what happens Sunday/Monday. You know that whatever the outcome, you have us lovely ladies on this thread. As always, keeping everything crossed that your period does not arrive.

Glad you're feeling much better just logging in every now and then. Mumsnet can be all-consuming sometimes can't it? What have you been up to during the TWW? How are you feeling? x

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ChampooPapi · 18/02/2020 12:34

@danielasummer how are you doing? I have lost track of your AF due date, but I know your cycles have been a bit all over the place. I'm due on Sunday/Monday. I havnt done any sex now for a week, just couldn't be bothered to do smep this month. Managed a couple of times before when my ovulation could have been, and did do some sexy stuff post period the previous weekend.

I know it only takes once so hopes are getting higher as each day passes, when my period shows up early I'll be glad to have you and the after miscarriage thread. I'll probably take another break for a couple of weeks then log back on for the two week wait , Im finding that's really worked for me this cycle, and has done my mental health the world of good.

paintfairy · 17/02/2020 07:30

Omg. Even more confused now. Still not sleeping. And I spotted last night? So now I'm wondering if that was ovulation? I'm which case, I'm confused. Lol. Peak OPK was wed. Temp today is slightly lower than yesterday.

paintfairy · 16/02/2020 18:19

@danielasummer True. Next month I think I'm not going to obsess over it. Just get on with DTD around the right time. Otherwise my brain goes into meltdown!

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danielasummer · 16/02/2020 18:02

@paintfairy try not to go by what it normally is. For example this month my post ov temps are so low (36.1 - 36.2) when usually they are 36.4 - 36.6. I think they can change cycle to cycle. I would say that your CM and OPK showed you did ovulate on the Wednesday but even if you did ovulate on the Friday (as may be indicated by higher temps) you have covered yourself enough with DTD x

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paintfairy · 16/02/2020 17:18

@danielasummer I think I'm too stressed to sleep! Never got more than 2 hours in one go all night. So still no accurate temp. Usually it's about 36.80 by now. It's still saying Wednesday though.

SMEP - feel free to join! :)
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danielasummer · 16/02/2020 17:01

@paintfairy how is your chart looking today? Can you post an updated photo of it?

Mine is saying I ovulated Thursday now. My sleeping has been erratic too but luckily I got at least 3 hours. x

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paintfairy · 15/02/2020 09:45

@danielasummer ff is now saying Wednesday. With my crazy temps. Got no periods of sleep last night with more than 2 hours. Annoying.

But it means smep went wrong because I only got my peak OPK Wednesday morning. Hence we didn't do it the day before because I ovulated too quickly after the surge.

Shazzzzz · 14/02/2020 21:51

@fayy123 Thank you!! I just relaxed i think that played a big part just being calm and not stressed, we did it every other day/ever day like we did before we started trying but we havent actually dtd for nearly 2 weeks now 🤣 ive enjoyed the break to be honest🤦🏽‍♀️😂

fayy123 · 14/02/2020 18:23

@Shazzzzz awwwww congratulations!!! You must be over the moon!!! Did you do anything different this month? I just bought preeseed to try this cycle, as I normally use oil as a lube! how often did you DTD? x

Shazzzzz · 14/02/2020 18:16

@danielasummer i will do, ill be following this thread for all the BFP to come 🍀

@HE88 Thank you 🤩 x