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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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SMEP - feel free to join! :)

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danielasummer · 03/12/2019 07:34

Hi everyone, just making this thread as it seems a few of us will be trying SMEP to TTC! Adding these lovely ladies in from another thread but I hope everyone feels free to join! All welcome :)

@Devgirl31 @fayy123 @NCON @MrsKJW19

Some stats about me:

TTC #1
27 years old, DH is 28 years old
Missed miscarriage in October 2019 at 7+2 weeks
Still in that cycle (no AF yet)
Long and irregular cycles, some anovulatory
Suspected low progesterone/hypothyroidism (I think this based on symptoms, not diagnosed yet!)

Hope we can all provide support for each other in this crazy TTC journey.

Feel free to introduce yourselves :)

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ChampooPapi · 24/03/2020 16:39

@danielasummer it means a lot to me you've responded and with such love and kindness. You have shown an unbelievable strength and compassion to everyone here, you are my leader, the thread starter, my life raft here who floated over on the storm of miscarriage towards me way back in October.

I will check in, I know I will start feeling very sick soon, I always do, but I will always check here, and all I can say really @danielasummer is just keep trucking and it will happen 💜

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danielasummer · 24/03/2020 16:32

@ChampooPapi OH MY GOODNESS, I can't tell you how much this has brightened up my week! Congratulations lovely!! Such fantastic news. I'm smiling ear to ear for you x I've been wondering how you are as I knew AF was due a little while back. How are you feeling? x

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ChampooPapi · 24/03/2020 16:29

My cycles were like 33 days and then irregular so the body just needed time in my case, we just have to keep the faith it sticks

ChampooPapi · 24/03/2020 16:28

@danielasummer that is the best news! I think your body is ready now, it's going to happen over the next few months, surely!

Update from me too, got my positive on Saturday, i really hope no one minds me uploading a photo, in this current climate i don't want to upset anyone any more, I mean this world has turned upside down!.

Month 5, so took my body a while to regulate itself, and caught after first proper heavy period and 28 day cycle

SMEP - feel free to join! :)
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danielasummer · 24/03/2020 14:18

A little update!!: No refined sugars (only coming from fruit and a small piece of dark chocolate twice a week), no refined carbs (bread, pasta, white rice), eating lean meats (previously vegetarian), oily fish 2x a week, organic fruit and veg (no longer though due to bloody corona!), generally eating suuuuper healthy..... and I have ovulated 4 days early this cycle!! This is bloody unheard of! So my cycle will be 35 days instead of 39-50 :) yaaaay.

How are you all doing? Has CV affected TTC for any of you? I've been advised to wait until it's all over but DH and I have decided we're not waiting. Curious to see what you all think x

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danielasummer · 24/03/2020 14:15

@Shazzzzz thank you!

First AF after miscarriage is very challenging.. a real mix of emotions. I hope it's not too long and painful for you. I know it's hard, but try to see it as a new cycle. x

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Shazzzzz · 22/03/2020 20:15

@danielasummer better late than never but Happy belated birthday 🥳

AF arrived today for me! Exactly 4 weeks and 2 days after MC 🥺 x

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danielasummer · 18/03/2020 06:35

@ChampooPapi thank you! Somewhat taken over by the ol’ cv but we’re all in the together. I didn’t ovulate unfortunately - false alarm! But I’m sure it won’t be long now. Lots of sex in the meantime as hubby is off work.

How are you doing? Not long until af if due for you, if I remember rightly? Xx

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ChampooPapi · 16/03/2020 16:26

Happy birthday @danielasummer ! Hope you've had a lovely day and are being spoilt, you deserve it 💜

Sorry I've only just responded, your a March baby too. Both my daughter are March babies and my partner

All the love and hugs to you, and all the baby dust obviously! Get dtd tonight and go for it the next week 🎉

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danielasummer · 16/03/2020 11:54

@ChampooPapi hello, how are you doing? I know I always say, try not to symptom spot but...... anything unusual going on? Really really wishing and hoping this month is your month. I'm starting to get twitchy now that we're getting into 5 month post miscarriage territory. Like why hasn't it happened yet?! Are you using the OPK strips or advanced? I got so sick of the strips, doing 3 a day, that I switched to the CB Digital Duo Hormone advanced OPKs last cycle and I really liked it. Hope there won't be a 'next cycle' for you though! I don't recall anyone else getting a BFP, I keep coming on here and checking though! Generally though, like you, trying to spend less time on here as I get so caught up in TTC that it's all I can think about. Steering clear of MN and other TTC websites has really helped. Glad you've found some peace in that too xx

So strangely, I had some watery/EWCM today but I'm only on CD19.. not due to ovulate until at least CD25! This cycle I have cut out sugar completely (no pasta or bread boooo!) and tried, where possible, to cut out gluten. I do have suspected PCOS so I wonder if this means I will ovulate earlier? What do you think?

It's my birthday today so if it means I do ovulate early... well, massive birthday bonus to me - I've wished for shorter cycles for years!! (God, even writing this is worrying me that I'm jinxing it and will be waiting for Ov for another week...)

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Littlepeas2 · 16/03/2020 08:56

Hey @ChampooPapi it was a lovely Sunday, thank you! Now ready to face the week ahead! Yes I’m going to wait until the end of March. Only thing is, my DG wasn’t well last night so I had her in bed with me so no deed was done! I’m hoping that Fridays swimmers will stick around for a few days!! Might try tonight just incase the egg is still hanging about. God this TTC is tedious isn’t it!

How are you? When are you due AF? Are you in TWW? X

ChampooPapi · 15/03/2020 11:45

Hi @Littlepeas2, hope your having a relaxing Sunday. So you'll be testing the end of March? Are you going to hold out until your late this month? I am definitely going to, I don't need to see any more negative pregnancy tests ever again!

And get doing that deed today 🌈💜

Littlepeas2 · 14/03/2020 22:46

Hey @ChampooPapi not long to wait for you now! My ovulation date is due tomorrow (well according to one app and the other says Monday!) I haven’t managed to DTD tonight as DH is out we did the last 2 nights so I’m hoping the little swimmers stick around 🤣

ChampooPapi · 14/03/2020 10:00

I can't believe we have over 800 posts now. I did a bit more of a smep approach this month and did opk's for the first time. Kept forgetting to do the dam things 😂 but something to try and pass the time for a week, won't bother next month as my sieve brain can't seem to remember to do them, especially in the morning!

I may do the no sex approach next month and just take a break of no dice in March.

Anyone else get a bfp while I was away @danielasummer?

ChampooPapi · 14/03/2020 09:55

@danielasummer hey! I've been spending pretty much zero time on mumsnet or on my phone the last ten days. Popping back to say hello to all and sending love and lashings of baby dust for December newborns.

Cd23 so one week until af is due, I better be pregnant this month or ill be very annoyed! Only 5th month since the miscarriage but I'm getting bored now of this trying to conceive 'lark'

It's pretty much the least larky thing in the entire world!

Shazzzzz · 11/03/2020 20:54

@fayy123 no i havent yet, just seeing how it goes, oooo hopefully a december baby is in the cards 😆❤️

fayy123 · 11/03/2020 20:03

@Shazzzzz awww bless you! So you haven’t had a normal period yet? I’m on CD6, just finished my period! Xx

Shazzzzz · 11/03/2020 19:48

@fayy123 im on CD 20 going off the start of red blood with my MC. i cant believe it has been 20 days!! What CD are you? Xx

fayy123 · 11/03/2020 17:16

@Shazzzzz what CD are you on now? You doing anything to track? Hope you’re okay x

@danielasummer hey how you doing? What CD you on now? Hope you’re okay x

Shazzzzz · 11/03/2020 08:05

@danielasummer it was just something i read when googling which now i think of it would probably not be possible 🤦🏽‍♀️

I just cant be bothered stressing ive got enough stress at work 😖 x

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danielasummer · 11/03/2020 07:43

Hi @Shazzzzz sorry for the late reply, I don't receive notifications when I've been mentioned for some reason. Wow that's amazing that she got pregnant the day after! I've heard of it happening in the same cycle but never the day after. Hope you're doing ok. The relaxed method seems to work for most people..just wish I could actually relax! x

Hi @HE88 glad you're doing ok and I hope you're looking after yourself. x

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HE88 · 09/03/2020 20:45

Hi @danielasummer I'm doing fine thanks. Oh I'm not really sure what cycle day I am tbh haven't actually thought about it. I'm just going to start fresh once I've had my 1st period and take it from there. Xx

Shazzzzz · 09/03/2020 10:14

@danielasummer yeah it definitely can be exhausting! But we have always done it every other day if not every day and we have been together 5 years, hopefully i will have or soon will ovulate,i read a post of someone who went for a scan and she got pregnant the day after a MC, how bizarre is that! 😱

Gives me some confidence knowing it is possible to ovulate as normal! I normally ov around CD 19 i think but i haven't tracked in 3 months so who knows 🤷🏽‍♀️

Just going off the relaxed method again tryjng not to stress😄

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danielasummer · 09/03/2020 09:09

@Shazzzzz I’m trying to limit phone time too. It can be helpful but also damaging at the same time. Digital detoxes are good.

MC are very confusing for the body. Some people ovulate straight away and some take months. If I remember rightly, you and your partner BD often do you should be covered either way, but don’t put pressure on yourself to ovulate as there is so much going on hormone-wise that it might take a while to settle.

I’m ok thank you, on CD11 so I have around 2-3 weeks until I ovulate. Spending this time trying my best to relax and look after myself because TTC can be so exhausting mentally, can’t it? X

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Shazzzzz · 09/03/2020 08:36

@danielasummer hey, im perfectly fine just keep having a few days off my phone trying to appreciate whats around me.

Im either CD 18 or 19 going off either when i started my MC or started to bleed red blood.

I cant be sure what to expect this month as dont know when i would have ovulated or if i even would have, MC are so confusing to the body! 😢

How are you and where are you in your cycle? Xx