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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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SMEP - feel free to join! :)

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danielasummer · 03/12/2019 07:34

Hi everyone, just making this thread as it seems a few of us will be trying SMEP to TTC! Adding these lovely ladies in from another thread but I hope everyone feels free to join! All welcome :)

@Devgirl31 @fayy123 @NCON @MrsKJW19

Some stats about me:

TTC #1
27 years old, DH is 28 years old
Missed miscarriage in October 2019 at 7+2 weeks
Still in that cycle (no AF yet)
Long and irregular cycles, some anovulatory
Suspected low progesterone/hypothyroidism (I think this based on symptoms, not diagnosed yet!)

Hope we can all provide support for each other in this crazy TTC journey.

Feel free to introduce yourselves :)

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Pixielou16 · 03/04/2020 19:49

Omg @danielasummer congratulations!!!! Incredible news that both you and @ChampooPapi are expecting at the same time! Keeps me hopeful 😍 So pleased for both of you!

Littlepeas2 · 03/04/2020 15:33

Oh my @danielasummer this is AMAZING! I am so genuinely happy for you. How lovely that after the heartache both you and @ChampooPapi are going on this journey together!!

@Champoopapi I hope you don’t mind me asking but did you previously have a missed miscarriage?

@danielasummer I am actually too worried about posting a photo incase I look like a crazy lady who is making things up 🤣

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danielasummer · 03/04/2020 11:52

@ChampooPapi that's a great mindset.. I'm going to adopt it too. I was so super anxious last pregnancy and I just regret not enjoying it for that short time. My plan is to keep busy, practice mindfulness and not wish away the days. Life is too short!

I'm 4 weeks today so you're 2 ahead of me. So so happy for you x can't believe we are sharing this new journey together too!

@Littlepeas2 oh my gosh I am so sorry I didn't reply to your post! Honestly this morning I didn't even think to read the posts, my hands were shaking too much. How are you doing? Like ChampooPapi, I'm starting to think you are too - a line is a line, no matter how faint. Maybe upload a photo? x

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ChampooPapi · 03/04/2020 11:32

@Littlepeas2 how are you getting on your end? I'm starting to think your pregnant as well! A faint line sounds pretty promising, Everything crossed, I didn't get a positive test until a week late with my first 💜

ChampooPapi · 03/04/2020 11:30

*healthy

ChampooPapi · 03/04/2020 11:30

@danielasummer I'm 'due' the 1st of December, but I could be a few days ahead of myself because of cycles post miscarriage being a bit dodgy. As you know!. Today is a good day for us, I know there is going to be anxiety's aplenty. But let's have today. Let it be a day of joy and love, a day of hope, shut all worries in a temporary box and feel happy 💜🌈✨

I'd say we can be very hopeful anyway, after 5 cycles post miscarriage our bodies have recovered and have decided on these pregnancies so I think we've got to assume they are health keepers.

I've stopped testing now, did about 4 in the end, I'm six weeks today xxx

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danielasummer · 03/04/2020 11:23

@ChampooPapi aw bless you, thank you SO much, I can't tell you how much your message means to me!! We have been on a journey haven't we?! So we will both (hopefully) have our 2020 babies x

When are you due? I'm 11th/12th December. I thought I had some pregnancy symptoms but didn't want to post on here and jinx it haha! I am actually insane!

Will do a CB digital next week just to extra extra confirm then I'm done I think :) Hope you're feeling ok and the sickness hasn't started! xxx

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ChampooPapi · 03/04/2020 08:00

Oh my god, not a die in December thread 😣😆🤦

Fast typing getting the better of me there. And breath...

A due in December thread!

ChampooPapi · 03/04/2020 07:59

@danielasummer oh heavens! I'm absolutely bawling here, I have tears running down my cheeks as I write this. I'm lost for words so I hope that's enough to express how happy i am for you! After all this time it's just so emotional to see your tests, are they actually real?! Is this a dream! 😉 Arhhhhhh! All the love to you from me @danielasummer 💜

This will go down in history as not only the best post I've ever seen here in the last 5 years, but also for me personally it just feels like pure magic to have been on a pregnancy thread with you, then a trying to cocieve thread, and now I pray, I hope, of everything works out for us both, we will be on a die in dece thread together....and beyond 🙏

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danielasummer · 03/04/2020 07:29

Good morning lovelies...I just wanted to share some happy news I got this morning 😊 hope you’re all keeping well and I am absolutely not leaving this board!! Can’t wait to see more BFPs!

A big thank you to everyone that has kept me going through the last few months. You have been my rocks. I won’t be telling my family or friends until 12 weeks but I just had to post on here. Fingers crossed for a sticky one x

SMEP - feel free to join! :)
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Littlepeas2 · 02/04/2020 19:05

Going by CM I think I ovulated on the 17th. The FRER I did today had THE FAINTEST line. So faint I was actually not even going to mention it but my DH has just got home from work and could spot it. But I’m wondering if they already have a line on already. Honestly it’s so faint it’s ridiculous! And going by CM Tuesday, I would think a line would be stronger now! I’m 100% not testing until Sunday now.

How are you feeling? When are you expecting AF?

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danielasummer · 02/04/2020 16:36

@Littlepeas2 ahh that must be so frustrating. Did you definitely ovulate when you thought you did? x

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Littlepeas2 · 02/04/2020 16:02

Glad you are keeping well during the crazy time @danielasummer ! I am now 3 days late but have done a FRER test this afternoon and I was a BFN. I wish AF would just hurry up so I can get on with the next cycle .

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danielasummer · 02/04/2020 07:10

@ChampooPapi yes I guess you're totally right! I've told you all more than I'd tell my best friend - not sure she'd want to hear all about my cervical mucus and sex schedule haha.

You must be so anxious - and I have no advice! (You know how bad my anxiety was!), just know that if you ever have a worry, want a rant etc, pop on here and we'll (virtually) hold your hand along the way.

When is your due date? Have you contacted your GP yet?

Really hope your back feels better soon. At least now is a good time to put your feet up and not have to worry about doing anything around the house! Every cloud and all that! :)

I'm not going to take a test until the day after AF is due. I can't bear to see a negative, I'd rather see blood on a tissue quite frankly! I was devastated last cycle when I tested a day early - I regret not waiting. I'll let you all know either way, but I don't think it's my cycle (think I'll say that every cycle anyway as I'm so scared that I'll jinx it if I say 'I think I may be pregnant') I'm a loony tune when it comes to TTC, honestly.

@Littlepeas2 how many DPO are you? When is AF due? I'm feeling fine thank you..just want to know either way now, but enjoying time at home with DH and the days are going quickly which I guess is a good thing! How about you?

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Littlepeas2 · 01/04/2020 21:16

@ChampooPapi lovely to hear from you! Sorry to hear you are having trouble with your back. I hope it eases up for you!
No sign of AF yet and you do not need to apologise!

@danielasummer no I don’t have any symptoms! I don’t even have my normal AF symptoms. I’m going to leave until Friday before I test again.how are you feeling? X

ChampooPapi · 01/04/2020 16:59

@danielasummer TAKE A TEST 🙏🤞🌈

ChampooPapi · 01/04/2020 16:58

@Littlepeas2 any sign of af? I think the bfn could still go either way but I'm guessing your fairly certain your coming on soon? I'm sorry I have you false hope, all the best to you 💜

ChampooPapi · 01/04/2020 16:56

@danielasummer we are real life friends! Whatever one can say about this forum or the threads, the ones we have been on together have been about as real as you can get. All our inner feelings laid bare, all our hopes and dissapointments. And don't even get me started on the cervical mucus!

@Littlepeas2 and @danielasummer Doing fine my end, always the worry at the back of the mind that I have a mania of some sorts and at the 12 week scan there will be no baby, or like last time it will just be a bundle of 'matter' that stopped developing beyond a certain point.

Haha. The usual stuff 😅

My sense of humor is in tact. My back on the other hand is fully gone, softening of the ligaments I think and I pulled that lower lumber area, exquisite pain sums it up! But counting all my blessings and watching the antiques roadshow with tea so could be a lot worse.

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danielasummer · 31/03/2020 15:49

@Littlepeas2 it's a strange mix for me of hope then telling myself not to be so ridiculous and of course I'm not lucky enough to be pregnant! My DH wants me to take a test (mainly so I'll just shut up I should think haha) but I'm so scared of seeing a negative, it's somehow easier to take when AF comes.

Are you going to test again tomorrow? Do you have any AF symptoms? Really praying your test wasn't strong enough to detect your HCG and that you are in fact pregnant. Let us know please xx

@ChampooPapi I've been wondering how you are too lovely. Are you feeling ok? Also when is your due date? I'm so made up for you!! xx

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Littlepeas2 · 31/03/2020 11:27

Yes I feel like that too actually. Just enjoy the feeling of thinking there’s a possibility you could be pregnant. Then if AF comes you just get on and deal with it!

No I don’t temp. I just track using CM and my app. I was due in yesterday so 15dpo but BFN this morning with first urine. I don’t feel pregnant at all. The CM I had at 10dpo didn’t come back and I don’t have any symptoms! So really just waiting for AF. All the years of not TTC she comes bang on and now we are TTC she plays me up. Typical!

Hope you are all keeping well! How are you feeling @ChampooPapi

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danielasummer · 30/03/2020 09:01

@Littlepeas2 good morning! I know better than to get my hopes up (I do it every month!) but this month I have loads of cm for some reason. I just had some now too, which was kind of stretchy and clear mixed with creamy. No clue what's going on. Probably not pregnant but nice to have a little hope sometimes.

Do you temp? Are you due today or tomorrow? How long have you been trying? x

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Littlepeas2 · 30/03/2020 08:53

Hi girls!
@danielasummer your cm sounds promising!! It’s so hard to not get your hopes up isn’t it!!
@ChampooPapi how are you?!
I’m 14dpo today so I tested with my morning err but BFN! I still have no symptoms (the cm dried up after the lot I had a few days ago!) so now I’m just waiting for AF!
@fayy123 sending you lots of luck with your smep plan next month!!

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danielasummer · 29/03/2020 21:45

Hi lovely ladies! Just finished a big family quiz on Zoom so my brain is feeling a little frazzled haha.

@ChampooPapi right, me and you would definitely be real life friends, I've been reading back on our messages and how we lift each other up! You best not ever leave this board! :) can't wait to see how you're progressing. Thank you for your luck xx I had some thick, creamy, yellow (??!) cm today (8/9DPO) and had it yesterday too (was white yesterday), not a clue what that means but I need a serious talking to. Of course I'm not pregnant (I don't think) so why am I even letting my brain run there..?! How are you feeling? Not too ill yet I hope xx

@fayy123 hi lovely, how are you doing? I know 7 months must feel like a lifetime but honestly the best advice I can give, the ONLY advice I can give to make this a little more relaxing for myself at least, is to not put a time on it. I was also advised to go on Clomid but that is to induce ovulation and I ovulate fine (as are you). So maybe when you get to 1 year (let's hope you don't) ask your OH to get a sperm sample done and go from there. Which CD are you on?

@HE88 hi, good to hear from you. Taking each day as it comes is a good plan. I'm thinking of you and sending you a handhold x you do whatever you feel is best in this trying situation x

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ChampooPapi · 29/03/2020 21:24

*together

ChampooPapi · 29/03/2020 21:24

Hey @fayy123 thank you ! Obviously everything crossed for you @Littlepeas2 and @danielasummer over the next week, one of you has surly got a bun in the oven 🙏🤞 odds are high so we can only keep positive.

@HE88 oh I'm really pleased you are trying again, I think it's the right decision and you don't have to do smep to a 't' either, you can just do it when you want really as you both on house lockdown toge so no time pressure.