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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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SMEP - feel free to join! :)

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danielasummer · 03/12/2019 07:34

Hi everyone, just making this thread as it seems a few of us will be trying SMEP to TTC! Adding these lovely ladies in from another thread but I hope everyone feels free to join! All welcome :)

@Devgirl31 @fayy123 @NCON @MrsKJW19

Some stats about me:

TTC #1
27 years old, DH is 28 years old
Missed miscarriage in October 2019 at 7+2 weeks
Still in that cycle (no AF yet)
Long and irregular cycles, some anovulatory
Suspected low progesterone/hypothyroidism (I think this based on symptoms, not diagnosed yet!)

Hope we can all provide support for each other in this crazy TTC journey.

Feel free to introduce yourselves :)

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Healthypositivity · 07/12/2019 18:41

Hi can I join@danielasummer. Don't really know where I belong lol
I am not TTC nor am I preventing.
Hope all is well with everyone

fayy123 · 07/12/2019 18:28

Yes I tested today as well it’s negative. I tested twice actually. And I BD last night. My app says I will be ovulating tomorrow and other app says I’ll be ovulating today but still not had a positive OPK yet. Hubby is away today and will be back tommmorrw so I have to miss a day regardless lol. Did you BD all 3 consecutive days when you conceived in August? X

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danielasummer · 07/12/2019 16:06

@fayy123 you only need to do it once for it to work! When I got pregnant in August that's how it happened for me. Have you tested again today? If not/it's negative then I'd wait until tomorrow to BD if you BD last night :)

@Diamond94 ooh do you have any egg white cervical mucus? That could also give you an indication of ovulation! As can cervix position but I've never tried that. What does your OPK say?

@ChampooPapi yes lots of sex sounds like a good plan! Keep a healthy supply at all times (what have I turned into haha?!) what do your OPKs say today?

I'm on CD2 and it's dragggingggggg but I know that next week we can begin which is exciting!

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fayy123 · 07/12/2019 12:30

what Are the chances of falling if you do it once right before you ovulate😂😂 this is so draining!

fayy123 · 07/12/2019 12:27

Similar to me! I only BD on Sunday and Monday and last night. I’m on CD12! My app says I’ll ovulate tomorrow! I still haven’t got my positive OPK. Are you using OPKS? I feel ovulation cramps tho!

ChampooPapi · 07/12/2019 10:48

Oh i'm on CD 12, but god knows when i'll ovulate so sex sex sex Grin

I find if we don't have sex when he's here every day i get paranoid during the week i've missed the chance, god this ttc is mental insanity sometimes

ChampooPapi · 07/12/2019 10:46

Started baby dancing thursday night, did friday afternoon, and going to dtd when the toddler is asleep today in a couple of hours. I will also do tomorrow as my partner is away until thursday each week so just going for every day he's here smep wise. I think loads of sex is hopefully just going to give us the best chance, he's certainly not complaining.

But then again he knows with our two other girls as soon as i'm pregnant there is zero sex for like 9 months so he knows go for it when the goings good

Diamond94 · 06/12/2019 23:13

@danielasummer im cycle day 11 today 🙈 only BD Tuesday and today so far.. my app says ill ovulate monday but this is my first month off the pill, though tmi but when i wiped earlier they're was the tiniest amount of pink staining.. strange 🤔

fayy123 · 06/12/2019 15:48

I’m on CD12 today, and I know I’ll prob get my positive today. The last time we BD was on Sunday and Monday. We managed to do 2days in a row, he was really excited as he’s been waiting for more than a week! But for some reason all odds are against us now! 😒 maybe it’s just not meant to be.

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danielasummer · 06/12/2019 15:34

@TunnocksTcake thank you. Yes, it is, but I'm trying to tell myself it just wasn't our month (although if it was, our due date would have been our first wedding anniversary - spooky!) That's great that you got a massive spike! Enjoy your rest day. So back on it tomorrow then a break? So excited for you - please keep us updated! Fingers crossed!! x

@fayy123 I'm sorry that's happening to you :( maybe withhold a little for a few nights then recommence, then your DH will be really 'ready'?! Remind me which CD you're on? x

@Diamond94 You haven't failed! Which CD are you on? Honestly I think timing's only crucial in your fertile window, so when you should be BD 3 days in a row. And thank you, thinking of today as a fresh start, you're right :) x

@LosingtheTTCplot As Tunnocks said, I would start using pre-seed when it starts to darken. That's my plan if I don't fall in the next few cycles anyway x

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TunnocksTcake · 06/12/2019 11:40

@LosingtheTTCplot I would say its probably worth it on the days its starting to darken as you wont have your natural EWCM yet so it will help keep the early guys alive for as long as poss. Estimate approx 5 days before O and start using it then maybe as thats the longest they can survive in ideal conditions.

@fayy123 Oh that sounds so hard I'm sorry. Im afraid I don't have any useful advice or experience but its probably about calming down and taking the pressure off so hopefully a nice date night will distract him? Good luck!

LosingtheTTCplot · 06/12/2019 10:30

SMEPping starts tonight for me!

Question - should I just use preseed on the 3 days straight bit or when the OPK starts to darken?

Opk is about a 0.1 at the moment so very negative! X

Diamond94 · 06/12/2019 09:10

@danielasummer hey.. well iv failed already 😂 should have BD yesterday but im a nurse and i had such a busy shift and was sleeping by 9.30.. so epic fail!
I hope you're doing ok.. just think its a fresh start xx

fayy123 · 06/12/2019 08:19

I feel like I’m out before I’ve even started :( we only BD cycle day 7&8 so far. Hubby is just not able to do it( I think it’s the pressure, even though I haven’t told him I feel like he knows) . and I know I’ll get my peak today at CD12 Which I got last month! Don’t know what to do! I really wanted it this month as well. Any advice? It’s date night tonight but I still feel like it won’t happen. I mean it happens but unable to ‘finish’ 😔😔😔😔😔 any advice guys?

TunnocksTcake · 06/12/2019 07:18

@danielasummer sorry af got you. Thanks it is a weird mix of emotions isn't it but as you say it's good to know your body is working as it should and preparing fully for the next cycle when you can really go for it. Build up your strength for the next couple of weeksxxx

I got my temp rise today, and quite a big one too! I usually gradually go up but it's been the same since I got my peak and today shot up by 0.5. Relieved to see that. Have now done our 3 days on the trot so rest day today (yay!)
Xxx

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danielasummer · 06/12/2019 06:56

@Wiggleyfingers hi! How's it going so far? X

@LosingtheTTCplot ahh I see! Gosh I ovulate very late as my cycles are super long, you must oculate loads of times in the year! Envious over here! 😃 how is SMEP going? Glad your OH is on board and make sure he gobbles down that vit C haha! X

@fayy123 how's it going? I'm on CD1 and I'm already wondering how much stamina we'll have for all the BD 🤣 x

@Diamond94 hi, welcome! Someone else has already explained but just wanted to say hi and ask how you're getting on! Must be hard with super long shifts..you can do it! X

@TunnocksTcake how are you doing? Have you had the peak yet? Fingers crossed for you!! X

@lunamoon1 hi, welcome! How's it going? Aw bless you. I normally ovulate around day 27 so it'll be a lot of BD on my end too! X

My lovely period came today which has bought a whole MIX of emotions..from bringing me back to when I bled from my miscarriage to feeling somewhat refreshed and like my body's back on track from it. So, I'm all stocked up on OPKs and will mark an X on the calendar for when we need to BD (my phone calendar, not the one on the kitchen wall for all to see 😂) fingers crossed for all of us this month. Keep us all updated! Xxxx

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lunamoon1 · 05/12/2019 13:40

Hi ladies, mind if I join? We'll be doing SMEP this month too to hopefully get that BFP🤞🏼 on CD4 and usually don't OV til CD18 or so, so I have a bit of a wait to go!
Lots of baby dust to everyone✨

LosingtheTTCplot · 05/12/2019 09:27

@Diamond94 my hubby woke up full of cold. Told him he needed vitamin c and that we have a schedule to stick to!

Thankfully we both have a 9-5 and that’s tiring.

Fingers crossed for you x

TunnocksTcake · 05/12/2019 09:24

I'm on day 3 now of the three day straight and looking forward to our break tomorrow!! Still waiting for my temp to rise after the peak 2 days ago but hopeful it will rise tomorrow, seem to remember from previous that I am a bit of a slow riser Smile

Diamond94 · 05/12/2019 05:57

@LosingtheTTCplot thank you for the reply, im CD10, we dtd 2 days ago so ill make sure we do it tonight! I work 12.5 hour shifts so it really is exhausting 😴

LosingtheTTCplot · 04/12/2019 21:59

@fayy123 I’m feeling tired thinking about it and also have a teenager in the house so have to be quiet!

Going to have to have some silent sexy time I think.

LosingtheTTCplot · 04/12/2019 21:57

@Diamond94 you have your sexy time every other day starting at CD8 until you get your positive OPK, you then have sexy time every day for 3 days straight, then a day of no sexy time, then sexy time one last time just to finish off the SMEP. You can then rest!

Diamond94 · 04/12/2019 21:29

Hi everyone
Can i ask how SMEP works?

Ttc baby no1! First month of trying ☺️

fayy123 · 04/12/2019 21:28

It’s a lot of BD!! I’m worried that we won’t be able to do it🙈 it’s really exhausting especially working! So far I’ve BD cd7,cD8, CD10 which is today and couldn’t.I hope I get my positive soon so I can just relax! Arghhh

Wiggleyfingers · 04/12/2019 21:09

Yes we are going to try, I just hope we have the stamina! Started OPKing from today so hoping to get a positive over the weekend.

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