One fucking year

@BewilderedBee wow 7 months!! I suppose I'm in for a long wait then for my appointment 😒 I asked the doctor about waiting times but she just said she doesn't know and it depends on how long the list is. I'm not hopeful at all!

@Hhdxx sorry you've been trying for a while, it's so disheartening. What day did they do the blood tests? did they tell you what they tested? You should have had two, one on day 5 and one after ovulation to confirm it happened. What was abnormal in the SA? Also I lied to my doctor and added a few months to get me to the 2 year mark. I don't want to waste any more time. Ovulation on day 22 doesn't sound too bad? You'll have around a 35 dayish cycle? I think that's still normal. I know what you mean but try and think of the things you are thankful for and plan lots of things to do that can be a distraction. I book holidays, plan days out, concentrate on my pets. Little things help xxxxxxxx

@BeingATwatItsABingThing you should go to your GP but if they know the dates and you are in you’re twenties(?) be prepared for them to send you away. Hopefully that won’t happen though. All you can do is try and your GP might be lovely.

@Maisy24 Hi Maisy. We've been trying for 14 months and went to the doctors straight away at 12 months. So far, I was sent for my blood tests on the wrong day but apparently they've come back normal. Don't know how they can say this when it was on the wrong day. My husband's results have come back as abnormal and has done another SA but waiting on results now. The doctor told us that we won't be referred until we've passed the 2 year mark?!?!?!?!?!

I have been ill this month so ovulated on day 22! Ahhhhh crazy time. This is all sending me mad. I feel like I've changed as a person and genuinely don't enough life as much anymore. xxxx

No idea where I’m at right now. CD 36 when I’m normally between 28-32 days. No sign of AF but no BFP either.

@Maisy24 yes, all my bloods came back fine but we got referred and we had our first appointment in October. Our first appointment was to take all our health history and schedule other tests. Since then I've had an ultrasound, several more blood tests and my partner has done one SA, another taking place in the new year. Our next appointment is 21st Jan with a consultant to discuss our results. So it's taken approx 7 months from GP appointment to seeing a consultant! Do you have an idea on timescales?

@BewilderedBee I’m sorry AF arrived!

I totally get what you are saying, so many people around me have fell pregnant and had babies since we started our journey!

Good luck to everyone!

@BewilderedBee so sorry AF has arrived, I know the feeling of giving up, we are at similar points in the TTC journey; have you been referred yet? I went to the doctors yesterday and they are referring us. I'm so sick of the whole thing 😣

Thanks BewilderedBee. I think I will give them a ring if AF arrives. According to my AVA, she was due yesterday but nothing yet.

Not sure if it helps, I went to my GP just under a year. I came off the pill mid October but told her it was September and I went to the GP mid August. She said that by the time they do my bloods anyway, and wait for certain cycle days etc, that it will be a year so she went ahead and booked me for bloods. I was then referred. If I were you I think it's worth going early as by the time they do tests one cycle, then time is already ahead. If they insist on it being 12 months, then so be it, but there's nothing to lose!

I'm gutted - AF arrived for me today. that's 14 cycles now. I remember last year thinking I'll be likely to have a baby by Christmas, or at very least be pregnant. 14 flipping months?! Most people I know have conceived and banged out a baby in that time! 😭

On a positive note, this is the first month I haven't used a test! (Cos I've practically given up) At least I've saved a little bit of money - every cloud and all that!!

Can I have a rant please? My period started on Wednesday and that's 12 cycles. It randomly hit me that I can tell you how many times I've had sex this year because of TTC and having an app full of data. I'm fed up of having sex (and feel awful for saying that because I love my husband) and I loathe my useless body. I'm 40 next year and acutely aware the stats are against me. We'll try again this month but if I don't get a positive pregnancy test in the new year I'm having January off to take stock. We do have DD so I know I've a lot to be thankful for but I don't feel our family is complete yet

Do you reckon my doctor would see me after a year? I can’t fudge my dates because I went to him with my EMC in January so he’ll know it’s not more than a year.

@Maisy24 good for you for going, I have everything crossed for you!

Sending lots of Baby Dust!

@Maisy24 ah I’m okay thank you! I am feeling sorry for myself.

AF still isn’t here! I caved in and have ordered a test, while I don’t think it is our month I need to rule it out! I have decided to make contact with the GP - life isnt slowing down and I want to at least work out if something is wrong!

This place is such a supportive environment!

@zoomies1 ahh thanks for explaining and best of luck for the results!

@BeingATwatItsABingThing yeah I wish I did! I started today , Amazon is going to be my saviour, I cannot face the shops.

@crazychemist I know I'm the same, i am currently taking 8 tablets a day 🙈

@Maz91 welcome! I've been ttc for around 16 months so not far off you, I would have thought you'd be out on Clomid first to bring on ovulation? did you ask why they have suggested IVF straight away? Is definitely ask this and find out a bit more info. Agree with everyone around being pregnant. I feel like the whole world is pregnant except me. I actually looked around in work the other day and out of the whole floor( about 60 people) there was no one above 35 without kids. how have they all managed it 😩

@Annie20019 sorry to hear you've been ill, hope you are over the worst!

I've been doctors today and I'm being referred to the fertility clinic, I actually feel so much better now I'm on the list. I will be chilling out this weekend, and dtd as I'm cycle day 11!

Xxxxxxxx

@zoomies1 ahh thanks for explaining and best of luck for the results!

@BeingATwatItsABingThing yeah I wish I did! I started today , Amazon is going to be my saviour, I cannot face the shops.

@crazychemist I know I'm the same, i am currently taking 8 tablets a day 🙈

@Maz91 welcome! I've been ttc for around 16 months so not far off you, I would have thought you'd be out on Clomid first to bring on ovulation? did you ask why they have suggested IVF straight away? Is definitely ask this and find out a bit more info. Agree with everyone around being pregnant. I feel like the whole world is pregnant except me. I actually looked around in work the other day and out of the whole floor( about 60 people) there was no one above 35 without kids. how have they all managed it 😩

@Annie20019 sorry to hear you've been ill, hope you are over the worst!

I've been doctors today and I'm being referred to the fertility clinic, I actually feel so much better now I'm on the list. I will be chilling out this weekend, and dtd as I'm cycle day 11!

Xxxxxxxx

@FedUpofTTC so sorry to read what you've been through and your loss

@Annie20019 there’s not choice but to be resilient - otherwise I think I’d break dowb

Reading this thread guys has brought a tear to my eye, you’re all so resilient!

Sorry I have been rubbish at keeping up with this thread - I have been so ill this week 🤒

How are we all?
AF still hasn’t arrived, my friend thinks I should do a text but I can’t face the crippling disappointment!

What have you all got planned for this weekend?

@Lotus90 I actually agree with you. Particularly if you are older. I would have told a small white lie to get faster treatment but I didn't feel like I could because I had an MMC really early on and they had the dates etc. But that's why I pushed to go private for gynaecological reasons - I wasn't prepared to wait any longer!

I am just letting people know the response they will get if they are honest which is between 1 -2 years to wait if you are honest. That way, people can decide what to say to their GPs.

@Maz91 that sounds really shit. It seems extreme to go straight to IVF but perhaps the specialist will have a different view when you see them

@Maisy24, that’s hilarious about the vitamins! Conception invades the bedroom even when you’re not dtd! Some days I think I’m so full of vitamins I must rattle when I move..... DH looks so unimpressed when I hand him a pot with dinner

@FthisS, how are you finding homeschooling? I don’t think I’d ever manage it. Is there a reason why you’re doing it at the moment, or is this something you’ve been doing long term?

@zoomies1 your position on being frustrated by people who fall pregnant easily when mistreating kids seems very reasonable! To my shame, I think I’m slipping into unreasonable judgement. There’s a lady who I often see at my local Children’s centre, who I realised yesterday is probably pregnant. Was horrified by how I found myself instantly judging her - she has 3 already and they are all “boisterous” and I think she struggles to manage their behaviour. When did I become this bitter?

@Maz91 I’m sorry to hear your appointment was upsetting. Glad that you got a referral, but it must be very frustrating to not know what’s wrong. I’m surprised that they don’t try hormonal treatment first, I’d think that’d be much cheaper than IVF.

Looks like this thread was made for me lol.

Been TTC for about 18 months. Periods used to be like clockwork and as soon as we started trying...all over the place. Luckily my GP referred me onto the local hospital.

My cycles now last between 8 and 10 weeks. Day 21 blood tests (although I no longer know when day 21 is) revealed I wasn't ovulating and HSG showed no blockages in my tubes although the cycle after my HSG was bang on 28 days. After that, back to irregular and weirdly long cycles.

I had a follow up at the hospital, expecting to be put on some medication to regulate hormones/ovulation as the previous doctor had mentioned this last time. Instead, a new doctor now told me my only option was IVF. I was shocked and stunned into silence (and tears). Fortunately hubby was there to do the rest of the talking for me.

I tried asking why my cycles were so irregular and all I got was 'it's normal for cycles to be a little off here and there'. I've now been referred onto an IVF clinic which I am grateful for, but I also feel like I have received zero answers and have no idea what is going on with my lady bits.

Really getting sick and tired of not getting any answers. Also everyone around me seems to be falling pregnant...trying to mellow my bitterness because it is consuming me and becoming the focal point of my day to day life.

@zoomies1 To those who are wondering about when to go to the GP, it depends on your area. In mine, even if you are over 35, you have to have been trying for a year. If you are in your 20's, they will likely make you wait for two. Unless, you have a specific issue. Doesn't mean you shouldn't try, just don't be surprised if they say no to investigations at that point.

Following these guidelines is bad advice. Get to the GP as soon as it's clear that conception isn't happening for you and (I would never normally advocate this) - fib! If you've been trying for 8 months, say it's been a year. Don't actually wait for a year if you're already 35+. You'll have lost valuable time to identify problems when every day your fertility is in decline.

I have Maisy24. I have to start early otherwise I’d never get it all done.