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My new boyfriend doesn't want kids..I'm 35

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Kittykitty119 · 26/11/2019 22:42

Help! I need advice.
After being in an abusive relationship I finally got out and I'm now dating the most wonderful man I've ever met. We've been dating 8 months. It's been amazing. We are both deeply in love with each other.
We went out and got drunk and I told him I would like to have a baby with him one day and now he's completely freaked out and he told me he 100% doesn't want any children. He is 38. His last girlfriend had two children (not with him) so I'm just completely baffled why he's gone AWOL just mentioning it and does this mean the end of our relationship as I'm guessing children are such a deal breaker. Heart actually feels like its breaking. Please any advice welcome.
K

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Kittykitty119 · 26/11/2019 22:49

@justforthisnow no I don't have children and I'm aware at 35 I don't have much time left

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fancytiles · 26/11/2019 22:47

Cut your losses and move on. At 35 you can still have children. I hope you find someone who wants the same thing ❤️

Dazedandconfused10 · 26/11/2019 22:47

It's a deal breaker from me, as are religion and animals. He doesn't want what you want and that's fine better to know now.

stophuggingme · 26/11/2019 22:46

What Emma wrote.
This man might not be abusive in the sense your ex was but in terms of surrendering your hopes and dreams he might well wreak even more damage.

Just get out

justforthisnow · 26/11/2019 22:46

Do you have children?
Whether yes or no, you are not ready to have children with someone after 8 months. That's far too short a time. Wtf are you thinking?

momoney1 · 26/11/2019 22:45

At least you know now. If it's a deal breaker for you then end it and find someone who does want kids. Though I'm surprised it's taken eight months to find out, especially as you're 35 and adament you want kids

DesMartinsPetCat · 26/11/2019 22:44

You want different things. That’s fine. It just means you’re not compatible.

Cut your losses and move on.

AnotherEmma · 26/11/2019 22:43

End it (obviously) and do the Freedom Programme