End of November, jump on board pt 3!

Ahh @mellymoo86 that's a lovely story!! And a very exciting first christmas for you!! Isn't it funny how families can be so different?! It's so nice you're family have taken him in so easily.

My OH family isn't that bad but they are strange. My OH stays at home on Xmas eve night on his own as his family don't like our big dog (even though we look after his mums every year - including her 2 week holidays!!) And when I ring him like a big kid on Xmas morning he usually says not one has text or rang him yet! Breaks my heart but he insists on it. Last year they apparently decided like 3 days before Xmas 'not to bother with presents' that year - after I'd gone and bought them all from us before I left! Like what is the point of Christmas without presents?! It's not like they struggle with money either. One year his mum refused to delay the dinner by an hour so his brother could make it after work...even though he asked weeks in advance. He had to reheat his!

Families are bonkers....

@CiaraJ01 Oh gosh! That's a journey isn't it. It's very good you've both got that understanding (even if the OH's mum has her own opinions) 😏.

My story is a little different. My OH and I met 3 years ago through POF 😂 (plenty of fish dating site) and I thought he seems alright but I'd never marry him due to his religion so let's just have some fun 😂 Long story short it ended up going really well, introduced each other to family last year, his mum and 3 sisters never wanted to meet me as I'm a different religion so disowned him. My parents were really happy and love him. We got married a few months ago he put his flat up for rent and moved into my house and we've never been more happy. We have had no contact with his family for about 9 months now. They don't want to ever hear from us. He is alright with it (at first he wasn't) but time has helped and I think the way me and my family love and care for him he never got that from his entire lifetime with his own family. So we will all be spending our first family Xmas together and also watching our wedding video 🙈 Eek!!

Yes we've spent a few separated so we're used to it now, we met in Oz 10 years ago and our first wasnt very xmassy- then he went home before me so we separated for the second, by then we were used to it. His family arent very festive and mine are almost OTT so I never really want to stay here for it. We decided since I moved here and he gets to see his family all the time, it's only fair I go home at Xmas. So he usually comes with me every second year and stays with his mum the following. I'm sure his mum has lots to say about it 😂😂

My OH has even said when we have kids we'll probably go to ireland with them so it's great he sees it that way.

Been together 10 years, no ring, no kids, no mortgage 😂😂 Weve been a bit lazy..bit focused on travelling and then our careers. So next year we're hoping to get 2 out of 3 with a new house in the summer and hopefully a baby soon after!

What about you ?

@CiaraJ01 I'm glad to hear it's sorted now. Yeah I think he just reacted badly as soon as you said it without looking at the whole picture. That's a shame you won't be together over Christmas. Will you be together for New Years? How long have you been together? Engaged? Married?

It's kind if settled down now, whether hes realised it was uncalled for or it was more towards the xmas period. We're spending Christmas seperate this year as my brother is home from canada so I'm flying home, but his mum has broken up with her partner so he doesnt want her on her own (despite having a brother and a sister 🙄) So its partly that, plus I would likely drink alot over the Xmas break. I've explained I'll be testing before then anyway so it'll rule out drinking completely or pregnancy anyway and that's settled him down a bit.
We're not morning people either 😂🙈

@CiaraJ01 Oh dear! That didn't go as planned did it! 🙈 There was definitely no need for any outburst or criticising. Scientifically it's not proven that alcohol affects conceiving but it's something that should be stopped as precaution if both parties want to. I think to myself well if I can't stop now then how am I going to deal with 9 months.

Do you think it's stemming from somewhere else? I find with my OH sometimes arguments come from something else they have a issue with and not the actual reason we are fighting.

Rant Alert!

So @mellymoo86 I suggested Dry Jan to my OH this morning. Has turned into a full argument. I drink more than the average female - I totally get that. But since planning I've done sober Oct, only drank in the house on two occasions (one drink) and not had any wild nights out since around Summer. I'd lots of plans over xmas where I would likely over indulge in the beverages - so have cancelled two nights out.

My OH is not a big drinker at all. But has had two trips abroad with the boys since Summer where he will have. And although not much he would have maybe 2 drinks in the house every 2 or 3 nights.

He's now spent the chat criticising my weekend away just gone that I will have drank lots - and now suggesting Dry Jan as 'seriously trying' therefore I havent been serious until now.

To quote other threads abbreviations - AIBU????

@PrettyGirl5545 when is AF due?

@nt1992 no lovely. I didn't take anyyyy of the tests.
I don't think i need em this month.

@sh84 baby dust! Lol yesss my DH asks me how do u manage to poas all the time. How much ever i buy, they're gone!

POAS anonymous, love it 😂😂 I might ask my OH for some for xmas just to see his reaction!

Fingers crossed he gets his swimmers home @sh84!!

@mellymoo86 I know, it’s soul destroying, so jealous of you ladies that have sex on tap

@mellymoo86 love that “what do you want for Christmas” “I’ll have 20 FRER & 3 packs of CB OPKs please” 🤔😂 I’d be lethal if I had that many in the house, they’d be gone in a week, I’ll be needing to go to POAS anonymous

@sh84 fingers crossed for your OH getting back in time 🤞🏽

@PrettyGirl5545 I’m hoping to DTD on Sunday if OH manages to get home from work if not I know there’s no chance, going try pre seed too
@nt1992 baby dust would be great, a nice BFP just before Christmas would literally make my life
@CiaraJ01 that’s why I’m reluctant to test while he’s away & yes I’m right on it, planned within an inch of my life 😂, praying that he gets home Sunday, if not won’t be till Wednesday & I’ll know I’ve missed it

@CiaraJ01 I'm poor after getting these bloody tests! Can't even ask them as gifts for Christmas😂😂

@mellymoo86 we'll probably just DTD tonight anyway and then I'll check tomorrow. 4/6 days should hopefully be enough then!
If we're not successful then next year I might start splashing out on the CB ones 😂

@nt1992 have you tried doing a opk just to make sure?

@CiaraJ01 yeah definitely go for it. I knew for sure because I did the cb test, which stays on peak for 48 hours. After that I did it again and it was negative so I knew it was over. Plus the cheap sticks matched the cb test.

How long after ovulation should CM continue? I'm 3 DPO today according to apps and still have quite a bit of CM. Hope this isn't ovulation and I'm totally missing out!

@EightiesBaby my OH needs no reason 😂😂 It just means were a little more conscious when we've skipped a few days like this weekend...

@mellymoo86 that's what I'm thinking just cause it's a low the line is still there so we might as well right?

@CiaraJ01 I wouldn't follow the ratio thing. Just go by the colours plus use cb if you can. Mine said low all the time and I got pregnant! Lol

Turn off that should have been ...😂

Also it's only fair to dps to have sex equally throughout the cycle not just to make a baby...I can imagine that's the one most biggest the off when it's sex for resuits ...not what we want!😂

@CiaraJ01 after experience this month if I'm not pregnant I'll aim to DTD ever 2-3 days no more or less. I'm not sure about the sticks, relied on it this month but I wonder if I've just had a long cycle as I had the egg white cm a week after so who knows...letting your dp off the hook every other day keeps sperm fresh and gives it time to recharge xx

If the OPK is low - but not zero. Do people still aim to DTD ??