TWW. AF DUE 30/11 ANYONE ELSE IN THE TWW

😂😂totally feel your pain! I’ve caved once already and knew even FRER would be BFN at CD23! Duh! Just want confirmation that these symptoms aren’t in my head! To make matters more interesting, tonight I’ve had a very light pink tinge to the CM. Never had this much CM at this point in a cycle, I just know my body is doing something!
Wish this were easier! Tempting to reach for the wine 🍷!

@ElizabethBennet3rd I'm gonna try my absolute hardest not to test until AF due on 1st December. It's really hard resisting, particularly when I know I have tests upstairs and my hands are itching to get hold of something to pee on - why is the 2WW turning me into an animal wanting to pee on stuff 😂

How stressful knowing you may have a long road. Though I suppose we all might! So jealous of your twins. I would love to have twins. I’m a twin myself, as are my mother and grandmother but so far myself and sister only had singletons.
Do you have any idea when you’ll test? I really hate waiting but also can’t handle the disappointment of BFN over again! We used no protection for the last 3 months and I’ve not been able to track ovulation after coming off DEPO, been all over the place! So obviously driven myself crazy thinking I could be pg any given moment!
This is the first cycle I’m certain I ovulated so I have actual dates to go on, but I know I have to wait!

@ElizabethBennet3rd this will be our 3rd also if we ever manage to get pregnant.

We started trying early in the year but only tried properly for 2 or so months and then got waylaid for a while, this is technically our first proper month trying again although we haven’t been using any protection for the last few months.
We will also have a big age gap (10 years) honestly thought we were done and all of a sudden here we are back into the TTC madness. We struggled to conceive the twins ( 4 years and 6 rounds of clomid ). Want to try just ourselves for a few months first before we go down the route of bloods and scans and all sorts

Thanks for the welcome ladies! This is all so nerve wracking I feel like it’s such a relief to read everyone’s stories and not feel alone in everything.
We are trying for my 3rd, DHs first, but my DD is 17 and DS 15 so it’s been a long time. I remember nothing! Never thought I’d be here again but something flipped and now it’s all I dream of!
Hope you all get your answers soon. This bit is so hard!
How long have you all been trying?

@nuttypea 🤣 it certainly does make the rodgering more comfortable! I bought preseed about 8 months ago, lost it! And bought fertility check this month which is basically the same thing (I think). This would hopefully be our 3rd DC but second pregnancy, have dtwins.

@ElizabethBennet3rd (love the name!) you have basically describe my symptoms for the last few days, fingers crossed it is actual pregnancy symptoms for both of us!

@ScaredFlamingo well guess who poas after telling you to step away from the tests earlier! And yes you guessed it, bfn of course, what else would you expect at 8dpo

Am thinking if this month is a no go of trying the smep next month, it surely can’t hurt.

Hey @Shuckle thanks for explaining SMEP... I may have to do a bit of investigating if this isn't my month.... gives me something to do during my 2WW so thank you!! X

welcome @ElizabethBennet3rd! I am currently 6dpo and have had very similar to you - heartburn since 2-3dpo, lost of crampy pressure, backache, and feeling a bit sick. Trying to convince myself its just a bit of a bug so I don't get my hopes up too much! I can't really help with advice other than def too early for a test and you'll only fret about squinting to see lines so try and hold off a few more days, its definitely not all over for the month for you yet!

@Snowberry4 lots of scouring the internet and forums! I'm also trying to exercise/go to the gym more, as when my BFP arrives a bit of extra strength and fitness will probably be really helpful when basically carrying around a giant watermelon for months haha. And trying to clear out some stuff/tidy up at home so that I have room for baby furniture as it's a bit messy at the moment.

As far as keeping things informal/SMEP goes - depends who you ask! My DH would tell you it's informal whereas he doesn't know how precisely i'm tracking it . I think I will give SMEP a go on the next cycle though it does sound exhausting - every other day from CD8 - ovulation day, then 3 days in a row, miss a day, then one more try. It's hardly a revolutionary concept, it's basically just lots of sex really isn't it. But lots of people on here say it worked for them, I ovulated on CD17 this month though so might start a bit later than CD8, that sounds exceptionally early x

@danielasummer it is so consuming isn't it?! I'm sure everyone on here has been told by someone " you just need to relax and stop trying... as soon as you stop trying it will happen!!" If i hear that one more time ahhh!!!!! Yes I understand stress is not good.... but when you've been actively ttc like I have for 2.5years and your struggling with infertility and don't ovulate it's not as easy as just DTD and wait and see what happens!! Clearly they are the ones who haven't ever experienced the dreaded 2WW! It is torture at the best of times isn't it?!
I start googling things.... find an answer that I'm not happy with so reword my question until I see an answer I like lol. So many websites contradict themselves and all give different info and symptom checkers etc.. iv spent several hours googling the same thing over and over and over as it just won't sink into my brain during the 2WW!!

Hi everyone - mind if I join in? I've posted elsewhere but with little response. Hoping to find some support.

I'm 7-9 DPO (days post ovulation) (I think) not certain exactly but CD23 (though, my last AF stopped after 2 days, started again then stopped after another 3. Weird!). I'm hoping someone else going through this TTC (trying to conceive) minefield will have some advice for me. I came off DEPO 6 months ago and previously no periods on that for 9 years, so I can barely remember what's considered 'normal', but I am back to a regular cycle now.

I've had some crampy pains/ heavy almost pressure-like feeling really low down in my uterus for the last week, since ovulation I think. Also lots of CM and very 'wet' feeling which is unusual for me. I have had heartburn and back ache on and off too and when that got really bad yesterday I convinced myself I was PG (pregnant) and took a FRER. BFN, obviously as it's clearly too early. What do we all think?

Any advice/support very happily received!

@mummaShu I hear you, I’m 8 dpo and really wanting to test

@Snowberry4 omg I would LOVE to know the answer to question 1! I work from home and have barely worked today, just scouring mums net and Google for hours on whether I have ovulated, if I had sex on the right days, what my EWCM and no temp rise means etc etc, I'm driving myself nuts! Also reading a fab book at the moment (not conception related) and re-reading sentences as just thinking about ovulation! Nightmare!!

2. have only been trying since Tuesday after a miscarriage in October and have had sex every day, will be BD tonight as well (need to cover all bases!)

Hey all.
Q1) How do you all keep busy during this relentless 2WW? Does anyone learn a new hobby? Go cleaning mad? Get stuck into family life and your current kids?

Q2) How has everyone felt about TTC and doing the deed on set days if tracking ovulation? Has it been pretty regimented or have you managed to keep it relaxed, informal and somewhat loving?! haha x

@Nuttypea I just buy whatever's on offer on Amazon and stock up!! I slightly prefer concieve plus as it's easier in the big tube (I disliked the individual pipette as they felt sharp after removing the tops!! compared to the preseed applicators which feels like your undergoing a medical procedure drawing up the right amount of grams haha!!
I keep hearing obout the SMEP on this forum but can't say I know much about it apart from what it stands for... ?? My consultant just said go for it every other day starting CD 11-21 and Ovulation should happen 7-10 days following my last letrazole tablet which I take cd2-cd6 so it gets put on the calender, highlighted multiple times and my husband gets a reminder text for a heads up haha!!!
We've been using preseed or concieve plus for 1.5 years maybe... certainly helps us both feel more comfortable!!! I don't think our baby will ever be one to be conceived from a random night of passion unfortunately... it's so hard when you know you have such a short window to get it right. You can light as many candles as you want to try set the mood.... but baby making and sex are very different in our house!! Especially when your both tired and really not in the mood.... it's the last thing on both our minds but you just gotta get on with it hey? If this is what we've got to go through to get our little miracle then this is what we've gotta do!
Yes this will be our first baby. How about you? X

@ChampooPapi - going to reply to you on the other thread as I'm getting confused! x

@Nuttypea yes this would be my first! All a completely new world to me. I have been feeling quite sick for a couple of days and had backache yesterday as well as thinking I can smell things stronger, but at 6dpo I think it's quite unlikely id be having genuine symptoms so soon! Trying to convince myself it's just a bit of a holiday bug, don't want to get my hopes up too much as I know I'll be really disappointed if AF comes!

@ScaredFlamingo lol, I definitely see my partner as a walking seed for me to take, use and abuse so I'm with you girl

@champooPapi @Nuttypea
I high five my boyfriend... although I did do that before we started ttc as well... this might be why he tells me off for “actually like a dude” about sex... haha!

@danielasummer hey, thanks for your response. I had a negative pregnancy test a bout 5 days post surgery. I had my d&c ok the 23rd of October so nearly a month ago. No sign of af turning up but my body is odd and I could literally go to the loo in ten minutes and it'll be here.

I'm going to wait a couple more weeks before doing a pregnancy test though as I'd rather not know of it's a chemical that them resolves itself naturally. Seeing a positive then a negative a week later is not what I need after everything last month.

Wouldn't be amazing though if we both got pregnant this month?! I think we can let ourselves get a little excited after everything we've had to go through. So are you testing next weekend? I really hope this is your month, but a late December bfp would be so great as well, going into the new year pregnant would be the dream.

All the best to you 💜

I'm in it for 1 thing, and 1 thing only so hop on!!!

@Nuttypea this is my exact thought EVERY time me and my partner have sex, I even add a kind of evil laugh at the end (heaven forbid I ever accidentally do it out loud)

@champoopapi of course not, so I’m due around 2 weeks after the negative pregnancy test which I got this Monday, but judging my my EWCM a few days ago I think it’ll be more like 11-12 days after the pregnancy test. I don’t really have a normal time as my cycles range from 30-45ish days unfortunately. I would give it 5 weeks if I were you then contact them as they might want to scan you if you haven’t got your period? Did you get a negative pregnancy test?

@danielasummer do you mind if I ask how you know when your period is now due after your miscarriage? After my d&c they said my period could come any time from 2-6 weeks afterwards. I did start to miscarry naturally the day of my 12 week scan and had the surgery a day later so I'm assuming my period is 4 weeks on from that.

But I definitely can't be certain. Did they tell you just to expect your at the normal time then?

@shuckle hahaha, I'm the same. Ran up the stairs earlier and my boobs were hurting. So I ran up a few more just to make sure! More than likely that I'm wearing a 3 year old bra, but I'm really hoping this is my month.

Will this be your first bubba? I'm also 6dpo and due AF on the 30th!

Any other 'symptoms?' fingers crossed for you xxx

@Nuttypea had to try so hard not to spit my tea all over my keyboard there haha - "made the rodgering slightly more comfortable". I know what you mean though. I've been looking up SMEP and as great as it sounds, with rave reviews, it does concern me that TTC would be more of a military exercise than an attack of passion! How do all these people just "end up" pregnant, I don't get it!

6DPO today and keep staring at my boobs in the mirror in my work bathroom, convincing myself they are bigger/weirder/veinier - peak madness has officially been reached today!

@Snowberry4 @Wackadoodle84 How long have you guys been using conceive plus/preseed for? I was 6 weeks preseed and then a whole month of conceive plus. Both did bugger all when it came to conception, but have to say they made the rodgering slightly more comfortable. Because let's be honest, sex when ttc is not exactly arousing. I'm in it for 1 thing, and 1 thing only so hop on!!!

I think the Internet gave me false hope that it would help me conceive, that and the SMEP plan. How naive!

I'm hoping I'll be one of the lucky ones that's so smashed on christmas festivities and has drunken luck!

First babies?

Fingers crossed for you both, and everyone else! Xx